THE MATRIX (The real one)....

How many people think that the film "The Matrix" is totally science fiction, and that what has been created albeit in controlled conditions using at that time state of the art graphics and electronics to produce the desired effect, and a good effect it is too, couldn't be at all real. But suppose it was in fact real, not quite as the film presents but in part a high degree of relative truth to the effect that life is a personal reality and that personal reality can literally be controlled or manufactured via outside sources. Is this getting a little too far fetched or is there a glimpse of this possibility happening, because it can and it does exist. The only thing that gets in the way of our mind understanding is ourselves and the limitations that we put on life so as to make our reality feasible and livable and not to 'freak ourselves out'. This is what separates the developed world from the undeveloped world and why so many immigrants take so long to integrate themselves into a society that thinks on a different level. Religion being one of the biggest drawbacks and devastatingly cruel aspects that many have to contend with, not God but religion itself as God (if you believe) is already a spirit of light so far advanced that many of limited intelligence could never comprehend where they are and anything supernatural.

Syntony, Tak, Stochastic rules, the control of Sommer-wuf-Sommer, etc,  is the elevation of higher thought and the ability to enter into the mind by outside agencies constructs of a holographic nature that both change and control mind thought and indeed perception. It's here now, and whilst we sit glued in front of our television sets believing everything that's been generated by low level designers, gatekeepers, disingenuous broadcasters and reporters, divisive engineers, format creators, biased researchers etc we get fed remnants of reality which are pasted over by what is or should be happening. Many in our society are weak, the press and media are very weak they never say as it is for the new fear of political correctness which is a glitch or fault at present time, they excel at bitchiness as it's a safe haven. But all will slowly dissolve to underlay exactly how things are and those which hide currently behind the fear of others saying things as it is will find nowhere to run to, this is real power and real freedom, progress for humanity and where terrorism will be fearful of itself.

Membrane coding has a great deal to play in our earthly development again separating advanced societies and those not so advanced even within the USA and Europe there are "types" of people who are forward thinkers and lower default thinkers or those that haven't a grasp on the future as  the concept of 'today' is virtually all that exists in their mentality. The Merkabah is selective in format it differentiates between the enlightened and those not so. At present the world is run by unenlightened people, no matter what 'statesmanship' they have and that's a dying art, they too fall into abyss of political correctness, selfishness, greed and corruption, not daring to speak out and thus run concomitant problems devised by their own inability, and cause greater default problems by allowing subliminal activity to flourish. No amount of electronic resources will give them the control or ability they need because the public are fed illusory information and by default plod their own way in the backdrop of same. The Kesil of our own development is but currently wasted on science in that we still haven't reached the point that the supposedly illusive Higgs boson "God particle" will spell everything out. It won't as it's itself a constituent of an homogeneous complex in the grand order, but linear thinkers need to be proven they are wrong to change course, and that takes time.

The Hasmal factor will ultimately regain it's force, the light that science is so fond of playing with and hypothesising on "current laws of physics" will reveal astounding properties, but all laws change in circumstances beyond our narrow comprehension and open up territories that are at present way beyond thinking or even possibilities. It's this science lag that unfortunately is a constituent part of the humanoid brain in that it takes time to be understood and then it has to be 'eased out' gently to stop panic amongst the lesser developed in society. Even the Geon (the smallest known unit of gravitation) has properties that whilst may seem insignificant have effects upon structures as carriers of ability for life to exist in a physical form, as opposed to an energy form of a different level and completely different structural understanding. For most people in the West following the gossip columns is the height of their creativity, for those is third world or religious countries failure and catastrophic devastation is awaiting them ahead in life. The world will change dramatically and not without consequences, much of which is happening now. Your current reality today believe it or not is not totally your own, although largely you've allowed that to happen yourself.

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EVERY QUESTION IS A GOOD QUESTION

There's nothing worse than ignorance, it not only means that you don't know something but it has many subliminal effects such as insecurity, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem, etc. Of course it's impossible to know everything and it's also quite OK to be in situations in our lives because of work or circumstances that place us in crowds of people who are more proficient in subjects, areas or a modus operadi than we are, it's just the way it is. There's also nothing wrong with saying "I don't know" either, it's far better than moving forward with others who "do know" and you getting all upset within and trying to fob off everyone with what little you do know or worse still avoiding or evading direct answers so as to show you really don't know. Most people respond well to honesty, if you say you don't know they are more than happy to enlighten you and in fact are quite flattered at times that you have had the openness and decency to admit to them that fact and ask them what it is you don't know, even if it's just a potted version answer you are after to tie you through.

Of course perceptions, intelligence, arrogance, ego, inferiority, stupidity, etc, all play a part in our questioning, but no matter how stupid a question  may seem or ill thought out, to the person asking it it means a great deal otherwise they wouldn't have asked it. And more often than not it's not the highly technical questions that need similar answers those are not the most important ones, it's those niggly little questions that need short answers are the ones that trip us up the most. It can all be too easy to assume an air of superiority when those in your presence are lost as to what you are talking about or can't compute what you've said to what you deem is a logical conclusion, that is in effect a failing of yourself not the other party. Humility and a gross understanding of the bigger picture is what makes some people excel and others stagnate and even fragment in their own version of reality. Those who forever seek or strive at all costs over and above everyone else are those who command least respect. Those who strive because of the desire to attain more knowledge in what they do are far more human and have an ability to communicate with those all around at any level and treat everyone with respect because the alternative isn't of value.

We need as individuals to have all sorts of questions answered daily that we ponder over or cause us a degree of consternation. It's not the "meaning of life" questions - although that wouldn't go amiss, it's the things that stop us in our tracks such as why has my PC suddenly done that, or I can't access this, or which button do I press or where is 'whatever', and whilst the answer may be easy if we are also at a loss as to find where to ask or who to ask it becomes a real tough cookie and we get well and truly frustrated. Answering a question too is a skill as some haven't the ability to proficiently state clearly and precisely what it is they have been asked, leaving the recipient even more frustrated confused and at times even angry towards everything to do with it. Banks are like that in that they'll answer your query then try and bombard you with endless financial products or review your account or whatever it is and want to pass you on to the household insurance division or some other cretin that you don't even care about.

The Internet is a wild card when it comes to Q and A's, even market research companies want your FREE input, it's basically free, offering a chance to win £250 or an Amazon book token, which is peanuts compared to what the real cost of such information would normally cost. Every question no matter what has a reason behind it, some are far reaching in what the consensus of opinions state others are solitary and pertinent to just that person at that time in that situation and after that it's all redundant information. Our ability to continue needs to have questions answered it's a very important aspect of our lives, as we are met every day with new events and especially if one travels around the world the quantity of questions that one needs answering is amazingly high even if previous savvy makes finding the answers relatively easy. Whatever it is in life we need to know, not the nosey stuff about others lives or celebrity transgressions that's dribble for the dribble minded, but real factual stuff that makes our pathway that much smoother, life more enjoyable and gives us a greater presence in life itself. We must never be afraid to ask a question, and if respect is in order we will get a civil answer, if we get otherwise it says more about the idiot that has answered you that the validity of your question.

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CORPORATE DISHONESTY

Corporate greed and dishonesty disguised under a number of whet and disingenuous areas is on the up and is almost reaching epidemic proportions. Where once you bought an airline ticket and arrived at the airport, checked in got on the flight and that was it. Today in many areas (depending upon your ticket and airline) you have a series of additional payments that it's akin to buying your ticket at a supermarket with dozens of add ons some almost at the last minute so that you have to purchase them otherwise the flight is invalid. (Unbundleling). It's almost extortion / daylight robbery or out and out blackmail. Similarly with websites that offer FREE DOWNLOAD but what's the big deal, Spam is free download too as are virus's. It's only when you have downloaded the information that endless pop up screens appear and that charges start to appear too or worse still those persistent screens that one can hardly shut down unless you have programmes that will effect such easily. Would you trust a company that has to rely on deceit to sell its products or put spy ware on to your hard drive in the process?

It's not too far from the self same thing with financial products also, where the opt out clauses are often longer than the contract itself, the small or hidden print running into pages with asterisks or itemised sub areas even further reducing compliance. Food manufacturers are notorious for downsizing or reducing content or even eliminating some ingredients. Where "special offers" are just that very special reduced sized product, or that supermarkets sell "economy sized" packs which are more expensive than the two smaller sizes together, which is common. Or the "value pack" is anything but. Where creative development in the kitchens have produced a specially crispy bubbly batter to coat their reduced size fish so that it looks the same, place it in larger boxes with enhanced outer pictures to give the impression that what's inside is bigger than it is, and thus the public are fooled into something that is more rather than less than it originally was. This is happening all the time. It's only the fastidious purchasers - fortunately for the manufacturer - that spots such thing.

Where bills suddenly show an increased cost or additional cost that has miraculously been added that was not warranted or previously included in the package. Then the hassle with Customer Services who seem out of it and are going to try and make you feel like it's all OK and this is now what's happening, and so the story goes on. Government legislation on the above areas is weak, it does catch up from time to time but corporate greed and deceit is as such that it's always one step ahead, like crime. Legislation is needed to protect the vast majority who have a right to know and not have to look at the weight or size of everything they buy each time they make a purchase. Where corporate greed almost puts the onus on the purchaser rather than themselves for substantially altering the contents but not saying a word.

The amount of insurances that have been sold that are basically worthless or contain clauses that are so tight that the slightest little thing negates the entire package rendering it a worthless document. The value businesses put on their clients is so thin it's having to be reiterated via PR companies in order to state their concern for their clients, yet if they were honest to start with none of that would be necessary. Life evolves, and costs go up something that no one is immune from regardless of ones self wealth, however the moral aspect as to increasing income is an art form where corporate greed and underhand deceit is concerned where banks are forever crying about their resources and finding more ways to charge more for giving less in return. Such are the 'special offers' they announce only to rescind them shortly afterwards hoping you won't notice and accept the lower and reduced terms. It's playing on human nature such are the depths to which just about all companies are plummeting and feeding on the detritus of life as a current source of potential. Professionalism it seems is in many industries a dying trade, where value is a temporary calculation and the physical and moral aspects are entities are almost something of a bygone era.

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VACANT AWARENESS

Have you noticed more and more that many people are seemingly living in a parallel world of their own, they just seem not be "with it" or aware of their immediate surroundings. Sometimes there are genuine reasons for this such as the personal stereo players that automatically reduce ones ability to be fully knowledgeable of their immediate presence, it even stops people walking in straight lines if you notice such. Ones guidance systems are reduced and the listener tends to wander around more randomly than the average person who is not hooked up to piped distractions. The mobile phone is another where people either stop dead or just lose their ability to comprehend others around them and thus become objects in a crowd where their senses and reactions are almost all linked to the calls they are making or receiving. It's even worse when people are taking calls in their car as their ability to function using indicators or even gears if manually geared are substantially reduced as is their situational understanding in relation to other cars, pedestrians and the environment too.

Many people develop the "glance syndrome" whereby they perpetually keep looking at their mobile phone to see if they have received a text or a missed call or some news update. This also substantially reduces ones ability to concentrate and thus impedes both work and personal thought, it can in some situations regarding work reduce the high level of concentration that one needs to adequately fulfil what is required of them.  Years ago people were restricted in using company phones, after all your time is paid for for your work and with the exception of the odd call for dentist / doctor that was it. Today the mobile phone can be intrusive and for some they get withdrawal symptoms so used are they to being welded to their phone for fear of missing out on events that never happen. (Just in case syndrome). It's not even uncommon today for the very young especially to text their friends with messages even if they are sat next to each other. There is nothing wrong with this as such until the phone is withdrawn then they feel stressed that their level of conversational activity is reduced, it isn't but it's a feeling that overcomes them.

There is of course another vacant form (one of many) but a common form of seeing people around you looking dazed and in fact being vacant, withdrawn into themselves, not quite 'out of it' yet verging on the edge of not quite being fully conversant with life and living on the periphery so as not to fully entering into it. It's a world of grossly cultivated self thought, almost like an "old record" that's stuck in a groove and perpetually going around and around. Many people especially the single and over thirty live perpetually in this world as they find life isn't from their perspective what it should be and thus hypothesise and concoct a life within. For others they actually get used to "flipping in" and "flipping out" of this world, some with great ease that one moment they are conversing on a mutual topic next moment they are in their own little world of endless conjecture that constantly swirls around, and at times goes to war with itself. It can be both comforting and unsettling at the same time, but one thing is for sure it's not conducive to a happy life ahead.

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LIFE'S TRIBULATIONS

Everyday someone somewhere is going through an ordeal of a magnitude that they would never have dreamt of, it doesn't just happen to a few but encompasses millions of people across the planet. It matters not what it is, medical, financial, relationship, poverty, tsunamis, etc, it is what it is and it taxes the self to enormous lengths. How we cope differs from person to person and how we deal with life and look upon life, after all it's part of our personal evolution and it will have a place in our lives whether we like it or not. Whether we make a shrine to it and carry it around for time to come as a topic of conversation or whether we place it in our archives as something that just happened at a certain time is down to us. And what we may think is a personal tribulation for others is relatively nothing as compared to what they have been through, endured and come out of the other side to live life yet again. Everything in life is relative and how we see life is relative to our enjoyment, how we embrace life, commune with life and share life makes a difference to our personal presence and whom we choose to have around us or possibly who chooses to be around us, hereby lies a big difference. Most people are themselves the biggest problem they will ever face how we think things through or reason with life and all its foibles comes from one solitary place, the mind. Our thoughts are unique even if they at times concur with those of others. If we choose to imitate or copy others that's a choice we have made, if it's the wrong choice we are to blame not those we followed, taking ownership is paramount to a really full enjoyment of life at every level.

Life takes no prisoners nor holds any ace cards nor warrants any favourites, whatever we do or encounter is exactly what it is. We are at the helm of our own ship and thus we have to steer it, if we don't we will end up floating randomly and where we end up is anyone's guess. We can't apportion blame nor fairness to anything as we must be in control of ourselves regardless of the circumstances which are always subject to change. Intellectual conjecture is stuff TV programmes are made of for entertainment not a key faculty for managing life. Within the pathway ahead are two crucial areas, love and associated happiness for if we are devoid of either our purpose and feeling of being wanted is lost, at which point everything loses its meaning. The God factor is significant in many lives even if the God they are worshipping doesn't exist because as it gives that "after life" understanding that makes paving the way here on earth a worthwhile cause, even if it's rough and unjust. The atheists will die and be confined to dust as forgotten and as a transient entity without any purpose and certainly no after life anyway.

Every individual is a success, failure is something that has been conjured up by the media and the narrow to apportion credentials that are not of their own volition and thus make a statement at something that is far beyond their own comprehension. Sadly many choose to see success as something tangible, yet for many getting through the life they have been delivered is more than a success it's a tribute to their own stamina and determination and strong will. Many so called successful people have gained an asset upon which they are judged but at the end of the day it all means nothing as life is an attitude which is a free spirit and definitely not linked to any religion nor commercial enterprise. Dealing with life no matter what is very personal even though some like to share it with everyone they come across, which in reality makes things worse as they then build a scenario with gravitas and that's then an entity in the mind whereas before it was just a problem to be solved.

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SECOND GUESSING LIFE

We all like to get on in life, to think we are the masters of what we want to do and where to go etc, yet how many people let themselves down by trying to foresee events and situations and read the thoughts of others only to thwart their own plans for no other reason. We have around us even in our own families grumpy people, opinionated people and we can even have friends who are like that, it all stems out of both narrow mindedness and again that area called selfishness. The area that's "all about me" and if it isn' then I'm not going to be happy and what's more I'm going to tell everyone as well. It even happens in companies too, you can't do this or that or it will upset so and so, well, let it, what divine presence are they bestowed with that others aren't? Nothing what so ever it's all been created by themselves for themselves and the only reason it's gotten this far is that everyone has allowed it to happen. Like political correctness, it doesn't exist in law it's only the pathetic that find it's a place to hide and try and gain some kudos, whereas it makes everyone look small and insular.

Schools should teach people to make their own way in life far better than they do, it's great to learn about writing, reading and maths, plus all the other life skills and knowledgeable areas, but if we are frightened to do anything it's all come to nothing in the end and produces a whole array of negative areas and psychological events that after a while subliminally affect us, sometimes to great detriment. It can affect our own self esteem and our ability to not do as well as we could do, especially at the impressionable ages. The classic scenario of this was the black migration from Chicago to New York and vice versa years ago where many black families prayed upon their own children for doing well, as if it made the children seem better and the families not as good, so the children had to leave to be free. And whilst it worked well, in as much as the children did well it's definitely not an ideal start in life having to leave home or your own town or city just to get on. Being able to fight back, metaphorically can be am amazing and liberating experience, and once and for all put those 'cloth heads' who impose a self status of grandeur (or inferiority with ego) back into the sorry state they deserve to dwell in or perhaps see the light themselves and become anew at their enlightened knowledge.

Too few people have the self ability to challenge and that applies to management in companies too to equalise the status quo and give respect back to everyone, and not allow some to reside with a self devised pomp and stature which is definitely not deserved nor has any credence or credential. It used to be that many Asian families has demarcation lines and endless duties and "things" that couldn't be said or done otherwise someone somewhere would get upset and start to perform an anger ritual of gross selfishness and endless winging, it still exists but less now. Of course if someone imposes whether it's within the family or work or even with strangers an autonomy of grandeur then it's a mixture of abject selfishness and a lack of self esteem, and it's very easy to eradicate it, because once such people are toppled they are but putty in your hand, worthless entities and shown up for what and who they are and have then absolutely nothing to substantiate themselves anymore.

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BEING BITCHY & SCEPTICAL

It seems almost de regeur today to post some bitchy remark or be super sceptical about a situation or an emotional event, it attracts people like bees to a honey pot, it attracts more bitchy and sceptical people in greater proportion than just about anything else. Each person almost racing to add their ten cents worth of personal comment to bolster what has already gone before them and with an air of personal smugness as if to say "it happened to me" - which it may well have done. But what it goes to show is that whatever happened to the person who has commented is still alive and kicking and despite their phraseology and false smiles they are a part of their own problem and want to keep it alive to see if they can get some recompense in doing so. They won't and in fact the fact that they have just commented goes to show that all is not well in their overall ideology of life nor have they gotten over past incidents (never their fault always someone else's). It's often not what we say but how we say something that outlines whom we are, if it still has twinges of acerbic thought it will very often smack of still hurting relationship problems, loneliness and life not quite the way it should be. Even if the "I've gotten over it now and I'm a better person" image is one that's put forward, plastering over cracks doesn't cure what's underneath, not that there is often anything to go over it's just a prevailing attitude.

Those that are perpetually sceptical about life and all that's in it we need to keep well away from as they are usually "emotional vampires" draining us of our energy for their own pleasure, those that are perpetually bitchy we should do likewise as that denotes someone who is untrustworthy and not quite as stable as they should be and also has a high degree of selfishness too. It doesn't denote that they are bad people and there is a vast difference between those who are naturally 'quick witted' and those that have to turn others comments and situations on their head as a statement of their own view point, which we can always do without because it's negative and negativity leads to negativity when even worse things beset and befall us. Being bitchy can be fun to listen to initially then it starts to pall as it then cross cuts through all that is good and wonderful and negates the happiness trail that everyone strives towards. The bitchy and sceptical try their best to tell you that their pathetic past is over, but reality is it still lives on, and they tell you that you have to be careful at all times and that you will find what they say will come true and all that diatribe. It's an excuse to see others hurt to make themselves feel better otherwise why would anyone suggest gloom and doom as a way of life, is there something so wrong with themselves that they actually have a degree of "hatred" within them? And who knows they could have been the instigators of their own downfall and you really don't need advice from anyone like that.

Life is a one-way stream, it goes forward, and dragging the past with you only hinders any progress which subliminally others pick up on it to feel that 'all is not that well' despite often outward signs of smiles, but it is really the 'wolf in sheep's clothing' that one sees as the vocality doesn't match the inner self. Comments on Facebook abound with 'predominantly' women voicing off past deeds which for most they would rather keep where they are in the past and enjoy the potential of both the present and hopefully better promise of the future. Reflections of ourselves manifest in ways which if we are not careful outline who we really are, and that the facade we try to put on is but that a facade of deceit which has undercurrents of a not so savoury thought process and one which is subject to constant change and fluctuation. If one feels that relationships, loneliness, life not so hot is because of circumstances then think again, it's not. We are part of life, which part is up to you. Situations and circumstances can change in an instant but we all have full control over ourselves 24/7 and our emotions. If we choose to be bitchy and sceptical as a base then don't ever expect things to change for the better, as those you seek which yet you have to find will steer a wide berth around you. If your friends aren't so good then it's because you've chosen like minded people who also reflect your self and again like you cannot be trusted 100% as selfishness will be a number one issue in their heart.

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STABILITY

The major problems affecting people in the West are those associated with the self, that is not material problems but mental scenarios that are difficult for many to get to grips with or come to terms with.  Ironically within our own reality many material things exist on our 'want list' and that in itself creates further mental unrest as we deem materialism as almost essential to us either moving forward or becoming more 'established' or fulfilling our desire to be whatever it is we desire. It can be such a lonely and narrow pathway we create as we build up an image of how we wish to be and present ourselves to the outside world that we lose the reality of what it is that we do best and our own personality. So many people face the possibility of failure because they take the wrong trajectory or tack in life based upon what they think as opposed to what they know and an almost immediate struggle is self created and it need not be so. The dichotomy of life of how we see it and how others see us at the same time walking together to reach our goals is at times so different that if analysed we would not recognise what is taking place and who is doing what either. Such confusion is getting more common as people tend to relinquish ownership of themselves and base it upon a mixture of hypothetical ideals of others, perceptions, incorrect thoughts and following others who they have little idea as to how they made the grade and what they encountered en-route.

Everywhere one goes we are bombarded with sales, concocted ideals, perceived and created realities all drawn up by a collection of thoughts and sales pitches that are designed to pull those insecure heart strings, those excitable areas of potential and the hope of better things to come but very little chance of it ever reaching a glimmer of success as it's all hollow, shallow and grossly insincere. Time lines are the biggest failure areas that people seem to omit in their thinking, what someone did there, then, at that time, with those circumstances, with their parameters, etc, etc, doesn't exist anymore. And whilst their modus operandi is good and solid the detail surrounding it all doesn't exist anymore either, it was all in the past. Such books that purport to give one the clues or steps to success are really a biography of those that have made it and whilst logic prevails throughout the guarantee of it happening to you are minimal at best. Entrepreneurs just "do it", if you need endless motivational tools then your chances are already reduced and whilst motivation is always good it doesn't carry any backup so failure or gross disappointment or worse 'still can't work' with the new learn-ed knowledge because it doesn't quite compute in the mind leaves many frustrated and resigned to falling back on themselves.

Our stability is essential if we are to think clearly, sleep well and face the future no matter what happens. There are no magic wands out there so we have to be realistic as to where we want to go, what we have to accept (which is hard for many as they think they deserve more) and what is the potential again realistically for the future. Striving for a dream is wasting your time and boring those around you. It doesn't mean negating a goal but placing everything in a reality scenario because unless we actively embark upon something it's never ever going to happen. Stability is to do with US and no one else, we can't apportion him, her, this, that, because, they, or anything else, it's all down to us to sort out and not wait for others to change or circumstance to change to suite us, that's pathetic. Placing the onus on areas that we have no control over isn't smart, we have a lot of clout ourselves and ability to alter many things, laziness is the biggest obstacle and thus the "self" is the biggest problem we will ever have to face.
 
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BEING ADULT ABOUT LIFE

So many arguments are caused by juvenile thoughts and pure selfish feelings. The majority of relationship breakdowns are because of selfishness more than anything else oh, and of course a real lack of true love. We talk about love quite a lot there are films and TV programmes splattered all around us about love stories usually those that go wrong as hysterical drama can be interjected in to it. Happy endings rarely move an audience even if a few tears are shed towards the end. Do we know what real love is all about once the initial infatuation calms down and life starts to wash away the clouds of bliss as the odd storm brews up in the distance? Do we look differently at our partner and think they could be better or do better or that we haven't after all that much in common for the long run?  Of course these are failings in us and our ego and our attitude and our self esteem and the self itself, it's usually about our own self that we let ourselves down terribly with, not someone else, although we don't usually like to admit it. Our temperament can be up and down like a yo-yo and thus we have mood swings that reflect that up and down feeling as we tend to let everyone know for that subliminal cry for attention to try and zest things up again. It rarely works as after a while everyone knows you for who and what you are, which doesn't mean you are a bad person nor anything else, just dull and predictive. We can also be forever analytical which then removes much of what life is all about as we tend then to miss the crux of what it really all means and the nuances that can't easily be categorised.

Alternatively we can can be one of those self created morons that is politically correct, and there is no legislation pertaining to such so it's a self made stance which means you are dancing on dangerous ground as it's all based upon your perception not the reality of others. If you harbour political correctness as a means of moving forward the chances are you won't, as you'll forever be frightened to speak your mind or allow others to do the same so nothing predominantly happens. It's often a failure mentality and depicts one of lesser strength, if others get upset then let them deal with it, it's not for to you offer yourself as some self proclaimed bastion of society that no one wants and in the process holding everyone back. Understanding the bigger picture is always a good thing yet few ever do they never rise to that thought process yet then wonder why they are forever in the doldrums seeing life as an obstacle in itself and not fair and wallowing in the detritus because they can never seem to float to the surface.

Selfishness is a pre-cursor to many problems in life, loneliness, lack of relationships and commitment, mental instability, distrust, unhappiness, warped thoughts, self denial, fear of spending too much time with others - no matter how close they may be. Zealously enhanced distance relationships via email, Facebook, Twitter or other social media platform, quirkiness, fragmented life, etc, it's all to do with an almost pivotless sense of me, me and of course me. We have options and choices so we take the route that we think is applicable to us, rightly or wrongly who knows. Nothing is without consequences good or not so good, and in the overall view it matters not to others as it's our own personal life and we migrate towards those that share our view and personality even if it is from afar and see only small chunks we empathise with. Actually living in close proximity with our distant contacts could lead to everything we like about someone come toppling down in an instant such is our cultivated relationship that even if deeply motivated and concurrent on many topics is never the less fragile in context.

Understanding ourselves and not trying to think another way over the reality of whom we are makes for a greater understanding and a degree of increased happiness as we know why things are as they are and not ponder upon such variables then wonder why, again brushing over on the reality side of events. Our "love walk" should see us through, for where our "love walk" is evident so is that little voice telling us what is right or not so, and yes we do have "override" we can latch on to, but override is just that and it's tantamount to to lying to ourselves, which is the last thing we should do. We can hypothesise until the day we die yet it won't change the truth even if we don't really want to believe there is one. We can try and be another Peter Pan and pretend that we are not getting older and that life in the main is for others, but it isn't, we are part of getting old and life does zoom by even if our Dorian Grey attitude temporarily makes us feel better. At some stage everything comes home to roost and at some stage we look upon life and not see what we have done but where are we now, for that is where we live and breath.

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THE RELATIVITY OF A BETTER LIFE

Life is how it is, situations are as they are, parameters happen to exist, and yet it's all subject to change, life really does evolve even on a small scale, life can change in an instant from bad to worse or from poor to rich, behind the scenes in life events are happening that we know nothing of. We can leave home one day and never return, nothing is irreplaceable nor indestructible, our molecular structure the commonality of the universe and it's perpetual vibration sees to that. How we see life is exactly how it is, it can't be any other way as we create our own reality, no one else thinks in our minds nor does what we have to do, everything that emanates from us is via our thought process nothing more. The way we talk, smile, interact, laugh is definitive of whom we are, alternatively we can be dull, morose, fearful, glum etc, and that too represents what's going on inside. We live and breathe in our own skin and if we thus decide, and we do decide that life isn't good and acquiesce to those thoughts via our feelings then life will be just that. Whatever we think or feel it comes from within, not from circumstances or anything else even if they are dire, how we react thereafter is down to us. And yes when all goes wrong it is difficult to muster up positive energy but the alternative of wallowing in negative energy is just not worth thinking about either. For some "going with the flow" is all too easy a "cop out" that produces a nothingness in their lives which they then perpetually struggle with.

When we are asked how we are we either generically say "I'm fine or I'm good - thank you" for whether we are or not whoever asked us doesn't want a negative answer nor are they equipped to help us and in reality could be worse off than ourselves. Then we have the options, "could be better" or "could be worse" better than what or worse than what we we never qualify, but it's an understood statement and it's quickly dismissed. When making comparisons of ourselves we predominantly do so against those that are seemingly better off than those who are seemingly worse off, in fact we dismiss those worse off as if it's their own fault for being worse off in the first place. It often isn't and people less fortunate than ourselves can actually have better lives in every area as it's a perception and one that they live within far more comfortably. Most people religious or not like to feel they are "spiritual" but haven't a clue as to what being "spiritual" is, which matters not as if you don't know what something is even if you have a general idea, the bottom line is you don't thus live up to a weak perception of it as it doesn't bear any weight within your mind structure. Our background ideals take residence in our speech but rack up not so well in the reality of our daily living.

Our life is interjected with a whole array of stops and starts and wild thoughts and mundane moments and everything in between, it happens to everyone. Some people have very energetic lives others don't. Those that have energetic lives are always full of excitement and vigour and potential, those that don't always seek tiredness and rest as an ongoing excuse to keep alive. Basically it's the body shutting down from boredom and lack of real initiative and an attitude that's completely lax and thus fires up now and then rather than predominantly all the time. Everything in life is relative, relative to what options exist and where we are placed towards those options being realistic events. Often what we seek isn't seeking us and if we don't come to grips with that thought then we are going to end up on a losing trail. If what we seek isn't there for us then we need to create a product that's acceptable and encompasses what we have to offer, such a move then proves ones own mettle and verve.

If we look at our self as an actor on the stage of life and what we are doing no matter how technically accomplished and creative we are and it doesn't resonate with the audience, it could be that the audience isn't up to our advanced display or maybe just plain thick and stupid, then the writing is on the wall. Repositioning ourselves to target what we do best, and then when we get established change it accordingly, which is what many do works well, as then it's got gravitas and pseudo stamina. Ironically those that once turned you down will then have the confidence to like what you do, such is the fickle nature of life and the relativity of it all. Better exists all around us, we choose not to see it often as our narrow and defined views usually prefer to see better as something more grand than what it is hence so many people are permanently not as happy as they should be.   

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SPIRITUALITY - IN A NUTSHELL

It's strange what people say about "spirituality" they have their own potted views and thoughts on it yet very few indeed know what it's all about. If you ask someone straight off, "What's Spirituality"? 99% of replies would start with "errrr" instantly trawling their minds for an explanation or something smart to say. And even after some time don't come up with a succinct answer it's usually some kind of waffle even if they get the gist of it right. It's really not however that important that one knows what "spirituality" is all about as it's not going to further your cause in life, but at the same time if one is going to use the word to describe some aspect of life you feel has a degree of importance then one should at least know what it really does infer and that one is on the right lines. The following is a relatively comprehensive dictionary explanation of "Spirituality".

"Spirituality can refer to an ultimate or immaterial reality an inner path enabling a person to discover
the essence of their being; or the “deepest values and meanings by which people live Spiritual practices, including meditation, prayer and contemplation, are intended to develop an individuals inner life; such practices often lead to an experience of connectedness with a larger reality, yielding a more comprehensive self; with other individuals or the human community; with nature or the cosmos; or with the divine realm. Spirituality is often experienced as a source of inspiration or orientation in life. It can encompass belief in immaterial realities or experiences of the immanent or transcendent nature of the world".

Whilst the above may resonate with many people the bottom line with it all is that they "think" spirituality but literally do nothing whatsoever to be spiritual, it just sounds good to mention and an applaudable state to be in. People even talk in soft "spiritual tones" talking about the Universe and Mother Earth and psychic enchantments, they wax lyrical about incantations and a whole load of stuff of past mystical cultures which were so good they've all vanished, and yet these self same so called 'spiritual' people always seem ill and lost in life, never really connecting with anything and are often lonely. It's almost as if many have turned to a "spiritual" route (whatever that is) as a last resort to find a missing piece or fill that eternal void within the pit of their stomach. Whilst there are endless books written on religion, the only books written on "spirituality" and "laws of spirituality" and anything else in the genre are written by current day authors and delving into their past doesn't really bring up the true goods of credibility. And if being on a "spiritual" pathway was that good why aren't millions flocking in sincerity to join and make the world a better place because they aren't. The trouble with "spirituality" is that it's anything you want it to be, it's a great cop out for most people to have the "best of both worlds" do as you want yet when needed spout the rhetoric of the next best thing to God. It's all sad and debased and pathetic really, in fact the irony is that most so called "spiritual" people need more help with their own life stability than those that don't go anywhere near it. People who tend to wax lyrical about "spiritual" stuff are often not the most stable, creative nor fun to be with and many lack any degree of humour, all the stuff than one needs to commune ably with others and life.

Mental health is the biggest problem within the Western World, fortunately it's not the clinical variety but that which has been brought about by the self, it's self inflicted, and the plethora of coaches and psycho-babblers apart from enjoying a good living are really not much better themselves, in fact many are seeking therapy also which is evident from the way they talk and their facial or tonal expressions - (is nothing scared)! We get fat if we over eat, (no one gets fat on fresh air - no excuses), if we feed our minds detritus we get the residual rubbish that's subliminally left, and then we start to be part of the rubbish we have had as a constant diet. Like cholesterol if not treated or dietary controlled it builds up on our arteries, similarly mental rubbish also builds up until at some point we tend to lose the plot, often it's almost too late when that realisation takes place. But back to "spirituality" (it's all linked) if we feign being spiritual because we think it's good, we fool ourselves and indeed let ourselves down. The biggest value we can ever have that keeps us under the best control against everything is "love" for that's the largest common bond on planet earth - and I've been around this planet dozens of times and seen dozens and dozens of cultures and it works in every one. Without love we become drones, with love we become humans, there is a big difference and that's life itself, be a part of it and not dwell on being an alien in your own world (even if you think it sounds good and gives you an instant self created credential).

There are "spiritual" groups all over the place and predominantly filled by single people (usually 30+) or "older couples" all with time on their hands and all seeking "words of wisdom" as if there are "gurus" who hold the key to life and will impart such to them and then "all will be well". There are gurus but not at these meetings, and "no" all will not be well, you have to put something into the equation too, which you are not at the moment hence your own plight. Even more ironic is the "spiritual cloud" which people almost always hide behind and that's the fact that they are unhappy, unfulfilled and need purpose, and their erroneous belief that in wading down the spiritual route it will give them all that is missing in an instant, again it just goes to show how wrong one can be or misinformed. One "becomes" spiritual in the way of thought and conduct, then by default one is automatically enrolled in to the "spiritual pathway". Like everything in life there is an "entrance fee" whatever that is, it's not financial at all it's a deep inner credential and honest and sincere thought with dedication, not the fastidious dedication that leads to dull boring people and fanatics but an overall concept of understanding. Communing with others and life is a good start, if some others don't get on with you fine, just do your bit and it will take shape.

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THE POSITIVE YOU....

With negativity being peddled all around by the media and the fickle in heart, why is it that some people are always buoyant and bubbly whilst others are always dull and seek to find excuses and failures in society. The bottom line is that what we say think and emanates from within our mind, nowhere else, it's something of our own creation, it's a product of our thought process and it's our copyright. Whether we choose to repeat or reiterate others statements, follow the crowd, swear and be angry, be violent, be deceitful, be moody, be dishonest, and a whole host of other things it's ourselves who chooses all these stances no one else. We have a veritable choice of ways and ideals that we can call upon to steer our ship in life, how we view life is the destination that we will choose to make the journey towards. The predominantly negative will forever have obstacles ahead of them, bouts of frequent lowness and perhaps mild depression. The negative will see life from a pure stance of "I don't know" and thus never see the ways out or the outlets or the opportunities that abound. The more one dwells on negativity the more one will flounder in life. The negative only see negativity and latch on to it, they view those that aren't negative as "fortunate" and thus absolve themselves of being lazy, thoughtless, selfish (and selfishness here plays a big part - most negative people by default are selfish).

The positively minded people see everything, the good, the bad and the indifferent and can see within all of those areas where people are in themselves, which is why they keep positive. They don't apportion blame nor do they seek to oust those who do well nor dwell in the company of the negatively minded, as there's no point, they have nothing to offer, in fact negative people are often emotional vampires sucking the energy of those that are positive. Positively minded people generally have better health, a better social life, a better outlook and acceptance in life, make less excuses as to why things are because they know there's a solution within as to rectifying that thought, and in all are always open to suggestions, ideas, new ways, and increasing their lot.  The negative on the other hand are full of excuses, full of "poor old me" and "it's not fair" and "I've tried everything" which is a mind that's stuck in a groove that forever rotates around itself.

Positive people make decisions, sometimes wrong ones but they make decisions, the negative people procrastinate and make up scenarios that only exist within their mind and become fearful. Negative people can't believe in God even if they purport to do so as God should give you the strength and purpose to be positive. In  all negativity is the evilness of your own creation as it doesn't come from anywhere else. And if one has to reiterate the words "how can you be positive when all around is bad" or something similar then you have stated your case and are acting upon a life of substandard thought and are almost useless to yourself, completely lacking in self esteem and self respect. There should be Government Health warnings saying "CAUTION- NEGATIVE PEOPLE CAN SERIOUSLY DAMAGE YOUR WELLBEING".  We don't have to accept what others say that doesn't resonate with us, and similarly if any of our family or work colleagues are negatively inclined we can opt out from as much contact as we can only interfacing as and when required. Fuelling negativity isn't smart as it does no one any good.

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THE LIFE- DEATH- RESPECT BALANCE

Firstly, how honest and sincere are you, it's a rhetorical question so no answer is needed other than the one to yourself, it not only makes a big difference to your life but those around you and ultimately how you think and feel. Whatever the answer is it matters to you only as you are the only one to live your life so if you are dishonest and insincere then others will pick up on that and over time the results will show for themselves. Our stance in life encompasses many different areas, some religious, some cultural, some endemic, and some situational, some educational and many emotional aspects plus a dearth of other minor areas that together make up whom we are. It generally works well although if we don't take ownership of our lives we can by default let any of these constituent areas rule the roost and then we get lost in the fog of stupidity and even worse bad decision and stilted negative opinions of hollow worth.

Two things we all have in common, one we are here alive now part of life itself, we were born into it, and the other is awaiting us in the wings it's death, the date of which we don't know.  There is an industry all about the pomp and ceremony of death created on a commercial basis and shrouded in a hell of a lot of religious clap trap that is neither accurate, true, nor God driven and has no effect whatsoever on the quality of our death or where we are going to go. On our eventual demise most people won't be going anywhere. It matters not how much you believe in whatever fabricated religion you subscribe to, if you don't have love in your heart you are not going to transcend death. Real love is not elasticated, which religious love is, love is all enveloping and doesn't come with a legal document full of conditions, nor are there mitigating circumstances, nor are there opt out clauses which religions dwell upon so as not to lose their pathetic flock. If your religion demands you do this n' that but then says if you can't because of this n' that and offer an opt out clause then it's a load of rubbish. God doesn't have exceptions, you believe or you don't, you follow or you don't. No special clothes, eating, bowing scraping etc. The litmus test is you are shipwrecked on to a dessert island with nothing more than the clothes you are in, you bury some of your colleagues, you pray on your own, you live on your own, you make the way forward the best way possible and the link between you and God is just that. It DOESN'T involve ANYONE else, ever.

Hypocrisy and emotional failure in religious matters, fear, fright, guilt, hatred, killing, etc should not enter the affray as love doesn't hold these areas at all, it can't it's as if one keeps a foot in the camp of the Devil and God just in case, it's evil to think of both in the same context. Attending a funeral of someone who you have not seen or made contact with is not respect it's an insult, life is for the living not the dead, there is nothing going to happen under the auspices of "respecting the dead", what do you think is going to happen? The self journey into feeling good for yourself utilising respect as a cover is your entitlement, albeit a pathetic one. And as a general 'moral' thought we do offer our personal thoughts as a symbol under the auspices of respect, but it doesn't alter the facts nor change anything, and if indeed we didn't respect the dead nothing is going to happen anyway. Being seen to be "respectful" in the eyes of others is shallow as if they have any input or say in our lives or those of the deceased, death is just that, our memories live within us and that's where it all is kept alive, not in showmanship and false selfishness and wailing and screaming and wearing black, it changes nothing, never has never will.

As a society we are generally respectful, it makes us feel good and secure, our morals are generally good although society today has different values than that of years ago, but that's an evolutionary thing more that being for the better or worse. Our relationship with God is purely ours not the government nor anyone else, hence the Middle East try to meld both and hence such a "bloody mess" ensues. If we believe and die alone with no ceremony or congregation weeping in abundance but have love in our hearts then our journey is still as true as ever. Of course if we are Darwinians then we are a mistake of life and have evolved to this level of sentient humanity, the difference is when they die that's your lot, you get confined to where you came from nothing. Your prescience on planet earth is just some sort of objective to live as long as you can the best you can because that's what you do, all else is fallacy, your wish on death will be granted and you will cease to have to fulfil that ideology and your bone meal will be for new growth in life's garden, nothing more. Your spiritual entity (if you believe that or not) will also cease and your transient placement will have been in vain.

As for all those religions wanting to control, use it for their own purpose, syphon off funds for themselves, peddle hatred and killing and suicide bombers and the like, then the inevitable is nigh. Most religions - that is those devised by man, will die off as they are disingenuous with love, as there are endless conditions involved. God's love is unconditional, it's a "one liner" no more. The counterfeits all fall apart in the end no matter how brainwashed and pseudo sincere they think they are. The truth is the truth, call, it what you will or decipher it your way, or give it your slant or interpret it how you think, it all smacks of human error and motive and this is where the evilness of religion floats its boat, it has to because nothing ever happens, it can't as the conduit doesn't make the connection. If something goes well you can thank God until you are blue in the face - which people do, but positive happenings happen to, atheists equally as well, miracles take the love walk to the edge, and the vast majority of people just don't make it. But there again you have the option 24/7 to go down whatever route you like. At the end of the day however, being a hypocrite doesn't score "brownie" points nor does your version of God to guarantee anything upon death, or even during your life either.     

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LONELINESS, SOBRIETY AND INNER PEACE

There is almost in epidemic proportions today a degree of loneliness which is sweeping through the lives of many people and it's causing them a great deal of concern and consternation as they can't either fathom or understand why it is they are feeling the way they do. Similarly many people are feeling isolated or are having problems with regards meaningful personal relationships, they have possibly many friends or more accurately acquaintances but the depth of how they interact it tersely, usually at a distance like we interact with many on Facebook from afar. We can discuss quite deep and quite meaningful topics on both Facebook and Twitter yet it all means nothing as it's for many an outlet of hollow proportions and empty feelings, empathy is probably as far as we get to that proverbial 'hug', but it's seldom more as everyone has a life of their own and it's not something distance nor a public display of feelings renders itself as sincere even if it is possible meant as such.

Loneliness falls predominantly into three categories, those who are housebound or locationally isolated, although many aren't lonely as they have good people around them, those that self isolate themselves via selfish motives and excuses - which accounts for the majority, and those who have relatively good and busy lives and yet feel literally lonely - where those around them and life just doesn't quench that inner feeling. Loneliness from the outset may not seem as debilitating as many an illness or condition that some have, yet from loneliness can stem illness itself, paranoia, delusions, narrow thoughts, isolation, reclusiveness, lost love, lost hope, lost peace, lost humanitarian instincts, lost communicational skills, gross selfishness - which is a big problem, and getting into a rut so deep and entrenched that it's almost impossible to get out of.

Our inner peace is a great aspect of our life, it's nothing to do with our desire to get on or create or our ambition, it's all about us and how we feel, it's that personal. It has nothing to do with getting the latest gadget or designer clothes those desires actually fill us with a degree of inferiority as we feel we need them to enhance our 'self' whereas we don't, even if they prove useful or attractive. So many people let themselves down to their own emotions and then wonder why things aren't as they would really want. Not only does letting ourselves down eventually show, we become deceptive to others and ourselves as our desire consumes much of our thoughts and our will to do things often creates our failure as we then overlook aspect of work or life based upon our greed for an end result, which is often never as anticipated as it's negatively constructed.

Inner peace for the fickle and ignorant isn't worth much, why waste your time on inner peace when there are material things to do to take our mind off of life. Inner peace to the lonely doesn't happen they make sure of that, being precious, conceited and selfishness puts paid to ever finding what would really make them happy. Inner peace to those that one "would think" should be far from lacking in that department is an idealistic view of what you are as a person and where your real priorities lie and neither co-join. Our attitude very much determines who we are and how we walk through life, none of this stupid "self help" or pathetic "finding happiness" when it's not lost. Where failure really makes it's name a house hold entity is when everyone goes out looking for something that they carry around with them, thinking that solutions and answers are with other people. Of course other people don't possess what you have already within you so can't help even if the solitary experience is uplifting, it doesn't last. It's like having a glass or two of scotch and all seems well, but then tomorrow it's all worn off and nothing has changed.

Loneliness makes one precious and introverted in thinking, tiredness is also an aspect that lonely people get used to and forever feel they need their sleep, which is usually a cop out to being bored and a lack of stimulating thought, although it could in some manifest as insomnia. Communing with life is essential but like everything in life it's quality not quantity, and not going to mix with other lonely people to exchange the same views on the same subjects as if exchanging notes knowing that it will lead to nought in the end. Love is a big aspect with lonely people, they often feel the need for it yet are fearful of it taking a hold of them for some reason and that it might just change their solitary and calculated lifestyle where they lose control to an additional input, which would never do. The Catch-22 which often exists in their lives is one which they get used to and the option of not making a commitment is one which is usually taken in preference, even if invitations are accepted for events or holidays, it's still the lone wolf trying to acquiesce to the herding instinct and never quite comes off.

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OVERCOME - IT'S ALL POSSIBLE

There is many an obstacle that comes our way in life, even when things are going swimmingly well, sometimes out of the blue we get caught up in something that jarrs or is discordant. Whether it's financial, medical, plans getting thwarted or others not complying with what we want it happens and no one is immune from it. How we view life is the difference between success and failure, how we deal with it all and internally digest it makes the difference between struggling and having a negative view point and overcoming it all and enjoying life regardless. There are two camps of thought, those that make excuses as a point of conjecture and stand by negativity as if it's a statement and thus get drawn into it and react accordingly making a meal out of it. And then there are those that accept what has happened even if reluctantly but get on with what is important in their life, placing it and what they do above the problems and not letting the problem take over, which makes a drastic difference to everything around them including their attitude to life and their perception.

It's not rocket science to realise that the positive mined souls see life for what it is and therefore see the good and great even if the dull and not so good creeps in, they also see opportunities which lie there awaiting discovery. Whilst the negative only see what they have created and thus perpetually miss out and get most of the time shunted into a siding in life from where they moan and groan and gloat at others seemingly doing better and start to concoct the "it's not fair" attitude which of course they have also created. Creating your own reality is what we do, there are facts and figures that surround us that we have either no or little control over, especially global circumstances in all areas, but what we have full control over is ourselves at all times. If we abdicate this responsibility of taking ownership of life then we are at the mercy of 'anything goes' and life will literally drag us where it's going which may not be where we want to go - and usually isn't.  

Being idealistic in life has its consequencies as it's usually mixed up with how we would like life to be and if the two are not concordent we can see life as a bit of a failure, which it isn't or we could see life as something that we have to wrestle with and that can be a mental feat of dexterity and can get us down big time. Being realistic is the better option, it's not being blunt and a matter of fact, what it does do is to allow us to move more freely and creativily and positively and have less upsets as there are no false pararameters nor areas that are hollow and full of void making scenarios. We are all "overcomers", as a race we have endured centuries over and above everything else and triumphed, created, devised, discovered, etc, and made mostly a life better than its ever been, even though we tend to grumble some endlessly and others when they feel the need to express what they feel helpless about.

Good things do come in more abundance to good people, good people like helping good people, nobody likes helping the helpless (by choice - not the unfortunate) and nobody likes helping the bad and unruley and badmouthed people as they see nothing in their future so prefer to help those that will excell with just a little help, no matter what it is. Everyone has the ability to overcome, to make the grade, the raise their bar, to elevate their life, in fact to higher whatever it is for themselves. Comparing isn't a wise move, to each his or her own, whatever your level of proficiency and comfort zone, provided you stretch and break free then life will accept the fact that you have overcome elements of life and the more you push the more it will return the rewards of your endeavours.

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WHO OR WHAT'S THE PROBLEM

So you're getting upset that something isn't going well, you get let down, the news on television is always bad,  the government seem to be living in a world of their own, your life could be so much better, things in the home need to be done, and of course the list goes on. In short it's all nothing new, it is in fact called life, life is just what it is and it's not going to change for you nor anyone else. Stuff happens, no one is immune from it, stuff creeps up upon us just when we least expect it and wham there we are with a potential problem looming large out of the blue, usually something we never thought of or even considered, but now whatever it is it's very real. No matter where we are in the world, no matter what others are facing whether it's more or less, it doesn't make us any better off nor does it makes us feel better. Our problems and how we feel are real to us only, no one else even if they sympathise or empathise with us, it's still ours lock, stock and barrel.

One thing we must all accept like it or not is that the biggest problem we are ever likely to face is ourselves, as we are often part of the problem and the solution even if what has transpired came from something outside of our control. As long as it affects us then we are a part of the solution and if we are not careful we can embroil ourselves into being part of the problem too. Depending upon the severity of the problem and the time frame in which it exists or needs to be addressed makes also a big difference as to how we cope. Stretching it out and making excuses and pondering over it only tends to exacerbate the situation and give more protracted mental grief and consternation, which has negative default consequences. Some naturally cope better than others and just get on with life, others can be the opposite and almost be "air heads" seeing life from a weird trajectory and incorporating stuff into it which is self fabricated although this is usually an expression of their own little world within and how they see life, often not that well.

Developing the habit of telling others about your problems other than your partner or friend is sheer folly as it automatically gives the problem gravitas and once that comes into play then the problem leaves its problem state and becomes an entity in which you update and enhance and do whatever you do to it making it a feat of dexterity in trying to solve it. The worst thing one can do is to involve the self into the problem, even if you are the sole owner of it, never allow your thoughts to entwine within the problem's fabric otherwise you too will be a problem within a problem and not the one who solves it then walks away back into main stream life. Feeling comfortable with the self is so important for if we don't then we are actually going to not only start arguing with ourselves but dread aspects of life both good or bad materialising and we won't feel comfortable in making any decisions whatsoever.

Problems come in all shapes and sizes and how we deal with them literally depends upon our circumstances coupled with how we feel about life ourselves and quite often our financial situation. The higher up the ratio level of positivity the better we manage our lives, the lower down the scale the enormity of the problems often take on a different mantle even if the substance remains the same. It's crucial that we never allow ourselves to fall back into an abyss of "woe is me" or feign some cheap Hollywood drama as that will most definitely set the level and trend for things to come. It's one thing to get something off your chest it's another to make a full show of it, big difference with an amazingly different result and lifestyle plus point at being happier once again.

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©John Rushton / The Life Alchemist 2012