NEVER EVER FOOL YOURSELF

There's more deceit and role playing within families of certain cultures and religions that actually defies the reality that they are in fact telling and living lies. They purport to be good and honest and upright citizens whereas they are anything but. They go and pray yet within their own families people don't talk about certain subjects or live "secret" lives so that they can for a brief moment be themselves and enjoy life and still comply with the "Hitler Syndrome" mentality of their two faced parents and other siblings. Such people are weak as are the societies and religions that people fear more than love, where real love, unconditional love sets people free and is the epitome of God in all His glory, not some barbaric person who likes people to suffer or feel hurt or be eternal failures. Of course to some extent every religion has it's judgemental bigoted subscribers and it's whiter than white family members who are almost living a life beyond hypocrisy and could easily be advocates of the Devil himself. Most of the worlds troubles are based upon religions and in fact terrorism is almost the sole entity of one religion only to the tune of 96%. Most of the poverty in the world has inhabitants of one religion, and the biggest failures stem from it too.

It's sometimes easy to feel that one must keep up appearances and to some extent that's also true, no one wants to be with selfish or miserable people as it never gets anywhere and positivity is the only answer to success no matter what you are talking about. If you believe in God then you must know that belief is the ONLY aspect that's going to bring you closer to Him and that it's also the foundation of truth. If you live a facade at home then your religious aspects are nothing but lies and rubbish and an insult to truth. But then it's your life and if you want to go to Hell telling and living lies then so be it, it's no one else's business but yours. However on a better and more upbeat note most people want to enjoy a life free from any facade and pretention they want to be accepted just for whom they are and what love they have within. It's certainly true that those without love deep within are not religious as they continuously judge and whinge and criticise and shun and talk with an air of self proclaimed authority that's hollow, shallow and insincere. Love is the universal aspect of man kind,  take away love and you are almost left with a robot or a drone, something / someone who just lives to live without a purpose, like religious people do. And by religious it doesn't mean those who believe in God, it's those who subscribe to man made religions that are full of flaws and like sheep to slaughter follow blindly, until they are slaughtered too (which is happening already).

Wherever you are you must be yourself, a facade is OK as long as you can keep it up, but in the end it starts to pall, it starts to get to you, it starts to restrict you, it starts to control your mind, it starts to fragment your thoughts and what you would like to do, it starts to cause internal unrest and external distrust, it starts to break your resolve and brings with it little secrets about you and your groups of friends that you keep separate, in short it just shows as a person that you really stink. It takes the edge of off life, it inhibits success, it inhibits progress, it inhibits creativity, it inhibits real friendship and love, it inhibits the self development and real happiness, in short it reduces you to a stupid nerd that can't be themselves yet at the same time can't be anyone else either as that person doesn't exist. One doesn't have to shout from the rooftops about who you are but being who you are is who you are meant to be. And for those whose parents that are so selfish and self centred then what creatures are you living with that have self pride over love and the well being of their children. Life is not always easy but self devised 'make beilieve' is being cruel beyond belief, and where did it stem from and what God subscribes to a lying two faced family?  You have within you to be who you are, so you never have to ever deny that or you are lying again to yourself and those around you.

You have within you everything you need to be happy, successful, truly great and show the natural love within. You have the opportunity to be and do what you will within the law, you don't have to take false ideals, deceit, corrupt ideologies, selfishness. You don't have to be the underdog for those who seek to inflict it because by default they are less human than they wish others to see. You don't have to be substandard to those who are wanting to commandeer your life for their sake because they are neither worthy of it nor have any worth either. You don't have to put up with religions that never ever do anything for you other than make you feel guilty or hear about how evil your God is, despite those around talking of love but never ever showing it. There's NOTHING people fear the most than the truth, it scares the pants of them, it terrifies the weak and pathetic who have nowhere to hide, and it embarrasses those who get caught out to an extent they at times literally can't get over how inhuman they were, but they had their choice and still never took it to make amends. The truth is powerful stuff, use it to your advantage and make those squirm around you, you have nothing to fear but greatness ahead of you. Those who utilise fear and manipulation fall with the biggest bang when exposed as once their facade is exposed they crumble to the rancid dust they really are. Never fear confrontation with the truth against the reality of those who are lying, always make sure others know what you are to say if it's a mighty step as that in itself is enough insurance to make even the high and mighty topple like ice in the mid day sun. You are entitled to your life you are not owned nor the property of anyone else. Your mother carried you because she loved you, if she didn't then you're best without her. Don't ever let anyone emotionally black mail you into not being yourself or getting you to be beholden to them, where love is concerned you are literally free.

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THE RELATIVITY OF A BETTER LIFE

Life is how it is, situations are as they are, parameters happen to exist, and yet it's all subject to change, life really does evolve even on a small scale, life can change in an instant from bad to worse or from poor to rich, behind the scenes in life events are happening that we know nothing of. We can leave home one day and never return, nothing is irreplaceable nor indestructible, our molecular structure the commonality of the universe and it's perpetual vibration sees to that. How we see life is exactly how it is, it can't be any other way as we create our own reality, no one else thinks in our minds nor does what we have to do, everything that emanates from us is via our thought process nothing more. The way we talk, smile, interact, laugh is definitive of whom we are, alternatively we can be dull, morose, fearful, glum etc, and that too represents what's going on inside. We live and breathe in our own skin and if we thus decide, and we do decide that life isn't good and acquiesce to those thoughts via our feelings then life will be just that. Whatever we think or feel it comes from within, not from circumstances or anything else even if they are dire, how we react thereafter is down to us. And yes when all goes wrong it is difficult to muster up positive energy but the alternative of wallowing in negative energy is just not worth thinking about either. For some "going with the flow" is all too easy a "cop out" that produces a nothingness in their lives which they then perpetually struggle with.

When we are asked how we are we either generically say "I'm fine or I'm good - thank you" for whether we are or not whoever asked us doesn't want a negative answer nor are they equipped to help us and in reality could be worse off than ourselves. Then we have the options, "could be better" or "could be worse" better than what or worse than what we we never qualify, but it's an understood statement and it's quickly dismissed. When making comparisons of ourselves we predominantly do so against those that are seemingly better off than those who are seemingly worse off, in fact we dismiss those worse off as if it's their own fault for being worse off in the first place. It often isn't and people less fortunate than ourselves can actually have better lives in every area as it's a perception and one that they live within far more comfortably. Most people religious or not like to feel they are "spiritual" but haven't a clue as to what being "spiritual" is, which matters not as if you don't know what something is even if you have a general idea, the bottom line is you don't thus live up to a weak perception of it as it doesn't bear any weight within your mind structure. Our background ideals take residence in our speech but rack up not so well in the reality of our daily living.

Our life is interjected with a whole array of stops and starts and wild thoughts and mundane moments and everything in between, it happens to everyone. Some people have very energetic lives others don't. Those that have energetic lives are always full of excitement and vigour and potential, those that don't always seek tiredness and rest as an ongoing excuse to keep alive. Basically it's the body shutting down from boredom and lack of real initiative and an attitude that's completely lax and thus fires up now and then rather than predominantly all the time. Everything in life is relative, relative to what options exist and where we are placed towards those options being realistic events. Often what we seek isn't seeking us and if we don't come to grips with that thought then we are going to end up on a losing trail. If what we seek isn't there for us then we need to create a product that's acceptable and encompasses what we have to offer, such a move then proves ones own mettle and verve.

If we look at our self as an actor on the stage of life and what we are doing no matter how technically accomplished and creative we are and it doesn't resonate with the audience, it could be that the audience isn't up to our advanced display or maybe just plain thick and stupid, then the writing is on the wall. Repositioning ourselves to target what we do best, and then when we get established change it accordingly, which is what many do works well, as then it's got gravitas and pseudo stamina. Ironically those that once turned you down will then have the confidence to like what you do, such is the fickle nature of life and the relativity of it all. Better exists all around us, we choose not to see it often as our narrow and defined views usually prefer to see better as something more grand than what it is hence so many people are permanently not as happy as they should be.   

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LIFE - THE WAY IT ISN'T

We have ideas about life and what we would like to do or be, we may even have our own companies and be proficient at having done so for 20 years or more, or even perhaps just started. Whatever it is we do what we have to do is what is expedient for the time and place, we can't afford the luxury of just sitting back and admiring the view and endlessly contemplating what is before us and how it matches our chosen ideals. Life has variable paths and often we have to go through a series of failures in order to find what it is that works and what it is that we can do proficiently and professionally as opposed to just "having a go" and in the process mess up other people's lives and plans, which happens. Those that do mess up others plans tend to have repercussions somewhere down the line if a degree of reconciliation is not entertained, as one would have then otherwise accumulated 'baggage' en-route even if we brushed that aside in our mind. Nothing in life goes unchecked or left to rest without a degree of understanding put towards it, just because others don't know doesn't mean it doesn't exist nor have a merit and an energy that still lies their untapped.

The future is what it is, we can plan all we like but we have to be eternally ready for what may happen and opportunities that may arise sometimes astoundingly so, life can play good cards and it's not all gloom and doom ahead, in fact if that is how one views life then the chances are that is what you will attract. Whilst we are individuals we are also part of the bigger picture and many smaller pictures at that. We live in a world, live in a town or city, live in a smaller community, and then we have an extended family, personal family and close friends or acquaintances. We have a work environment and we can possibly have a work community that extends overseas too if we travel, sports or recreational friends, etc, so our montage in life can be very colourful and depict many sides of our character and show various attributes and hues and shapes. It's sometimes interesting to note that all these pictures depicting ourselves in various aspects of life and our situations are not always linked other than via ourselves. It's more than likely that many people know us only for that side of us they see and nothing more so they have a view about us which many not be incorrect but is possibly incomplete. A prime example are bigamists who lead totally separate lives and many do it successfully for many many years, as do con men and other unscrupulous people. They can all be the most loving to their respective families yet ruthless, dishonest and corrupt within the rest of their lives and the businesses they do.

Life is not linear, it starts out that way for most people then life takes over and plays its part, a myriad of factors come into play such as health, wealth, people, situations, opportunities, the self, conditions, circumstances and so it goes on. The key to all of this is how we deal with it all, there is no other route nor situation that can effectively process life other than via our own attitude towards it. We can make or break ourselves via a good or bad attitude. We live in our minds, nowhere else, the past is there, the present is being written and lived there and the future is awaiting to happen there, how we join all of that together makes us whom we are, it gives us life, reality and we then mix it with love (or not), compassion, understanding, knowledge, feelings - emotions, process it all, in a quick flash, and then that's our attitude coming into play. We are both judged on our attitude and responses to whom we are are often based upon same, and if there is any degree of doubt or unease then we have disadvantaged ourselves before we have had time to present our credentials. This happens many times a day by everyone to every other person and those dreaded "gatekeepers" in life too. We pick up negative vibes from friends and relatives very quickly even without them often saying or doing anything, we are sensitive to change and at times minuscule changes at that.

Accepting change and not developing an arrogant or ignorant King Kanut attitude makes a real difference to our journey ahead, as often the "letting go" process is not only cathartic it's healing and gives a spacial quality to life and a freer thought process. "Letting go" actually helps good and better things enter life often with surprising promise and excitement as it contains nothing of the past that's being held on to and what really doesn't exist. The mental anchors that we can have hold us back purely from the fear aspect and fear is what evil religions breed into their congregations and the unenlightened feed on through ignorance. Whatever you believe or think this journey you are on - life - is a once only event, respect yourself and others, add the love walk to it and be strong, with that behind you all manner of possibilities exist and if you did but look are awaiting for you. The special offers and free goods that the stores have on offer won't come to you, you have to interact to receive them, even if on-line, life is no different. Make the journey worthwhile.

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