BEING LATE

One of the scourges common to businesses and friendships is that of people being late. It's not only disrespectful it's bad in every way possible as it lets others down and stops the smooth flow of life itself. If a cog in a watch no matter how big or small stops then it all stops. Similarly if others place a responsibility upon you as an individual then you either uphold it or be forever viewed as one who can't / won't uphold their part of the bargain. And before those who are late perpetually start to wriggle with annoyance 'blame culture' doesn't hold water either. Yes, there are at times mitigating circumstances where even the most die hard and studious person who always arrives early arrives late one day, but the circumstances pertaining to their enforced late arrival can be counted on one hand and are usually very exceptional. We all know of people who just can't keep to time, perpetually late or last minute or whatever besets or befalls them they just have a list of ready made excuses as to why they "had to do this" or "cut it so fine" as not to allow any safe margin whatsoever so pro-occupied with themselves and their thoughts that what is around is either secondary or less important.


The crucial matter for lateness is not traffic, accidents, weather, invasions from Mars and Venues, it's not even the alarm clock not going off for those that deem they need to be there get there, those that have to be there for whatever reason place secondary importance again on the delivery of themselves as it's a chore more than responsibility.  If one is late for work phoning from the "cell phone / mobile phone" doesn't make it all right, it may show a degree of courtesy should one be able to advise of late arrival but it doesn't admonish the responsibility factor nor does it do anything else - you are late - full stop. There is always a cause for lateness over and above circumstances en-route that one cannot help, illness, bereavement, children, etc, but if children are an on-going common cause that's not acceptable as the world doesn't revolve around your problems and it needs resolution.


The causes of lateness are usually of a psychological nature even if it's perpetually cutting it all too fine and not allowing for delays en-route. Are you happy with your work, or are you happy with the destination that you have an appointment with, even if it's the dentist or a hospital appointment, or an interview or a court appearance or whatever it may be. As a member of the human race you have a responsibility not only to yourselves but those around you too, and that has nothing to do with self concocted ego, arrogance and the 'what's in it for me' attitude for if any of these latter aspects creep into your thoughts you have a problem looming large. You ARE the problem. If you don't like where you work or dread work or dislike those who are at your work it speaks volumes about you and not your work. Understandably it's not always that easy to change jobs especially at certain times where the financial climate is weak and jobs are scarce, but if you respect your income no matter what it is then you should uphold who you are otherwise by default you make yourself worthless and that has very bad connotations that will eventually ostracise you by your own volition from many aspects of life.


 Blame culture, lax attitudes, lack of self respect, negative emotions at the forefront of your mind, small mindedness, pre-occupation with yourself, lack of respect for others, lack of purpose, insularity of mind, lack of focus, lack of priorities, etc are all contributory factors as to lateness especially those who are perpetually late. Lazy environments, i.e.people you work or live within who share the same social banal culture and talk about lateness as a topic, which exists and share their lame excuses and think it's clever. Late arrival usually starts with an apology, think about it, starting anything with an apology isn't good it puts you under par before anything has started and it usually lowers concentration often resulting in a lower performance and hurried thoughts which causes mistakes and lack of concentration. In some areas the smallest of mistakes can cause death or mayhem, just because perhaps your position in life isn't so critical it gives you no leeway to take matters into your own hand. You are paid for what you do not what you don't do.

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SPIRITUAL OSMOSIS

It appears today that more and more people are calling themselves "spiritual" in the wake of "man made religions", Islam getting out of hand and so very unstable, and others not delivering the goods. We don't see any benefits from any of the Gods that these people worship in any way because the basic credential for any believer is for them to believe and they don't. They base their belief on rhetoric and parrot fashion learning and of course fear, rules and regulations that hold back as opposed to encourage. So many people of these religions are full of anger and hatred, the conduit to God is through love and love alone, and evil masking love is like a wolf in sheep's clothing, it produces unrest and more devastation and evil. It is not good enough to "praise God" when things go well and when say "it must be a lesson" when it doesn't, because that's not true and it's make believe, brought about by failure and deceitful preachers who have no more contact with God than a Camel turd. Everyone who believes has contact, those that don't believe don't, you make your choices based upon whatever you feel "floats your boat" but in the end times if you are wrong you're nothing.


We then get the "New Age mob" those that talk about "nice things" but are all screwed up and look perpetually ill. Often seen hovering around health food stores and meetings of the pathetic and lost seeking more stories and information to enhance their journey into weirdness. Lastly, there are those who call themselves "Spiritual" (whatever they think that means) because they pretend not to believe in God (but they do a bit) preferring to believe in some supreme force or energy and they call that the Universe. They often come out with "if you put goodness into the Universe it will pay you back kindly" - where on earth that came from who knows, but then it says a lot about them too. Usually their attitude is whet and ineffectual, being on the fence no opinion one way or another and it i's a cop out between no I don't believe and "just in case" I do, a foot in both camps.

Spirituality is a state of mind, not just a set thought it is an actual state, very few actually have that state to apply their life by and thus the vast majority are just wandering around with a theoretical concept as opposed to something tangible that produces benefits. It fills 'that' box when it states Belief / Religion? Of course being "Spiritual" one must know the route to take, so many see a whimsy version of "Spirituality" as being good and kind and nice and believing in the "universe, etc, all of which is not incorrect. It is like believing in "Superman" sounds good, represents good, but doesn't exist. It is harmless to have 'spiritual' thoughts but it doesn't provide a purpose of merit, in real times of woe goes nowhere fast. In order to gain a "spiritual" access to life and what else it may hold, there must be something of a sincere nature to want it to happen otherwise one will like religion go through the motions talk endlessly about it and be no better off. A bit like having an  Mp3 player that just holds the information and no more.

Life for some, religion makes a world of difference both the parrot fashion brigade who are stoic and dumb as well as the open and true who can feel the access. The power of the mind is really incredible and when one has a belief of unlimited power then the road is always open to endless possibilities without the "wow factor" interfering. Often what scientists seek to know rarely happens as they interject logic en-route which immediately stymies what they are seeking. It's strange that many atheists / agnostics get upset when talking about religion or God (any one) whereas it shouldn't be an interest, like people talking about sport to those that can't stand it. Whatever your beliefs they are yours and it is no one else's business after all if you don't' believe there is nothing to say and if you do believe it's between you and God no one else. Life is about love, God is about love, evil or the devil is about bad, so here we have a commonality at a common level. Evil and killing can't be an aspect of religion otherwise it becomes devil worship, and after all if your God or it's followers kill what is the devil supposed to do other than be pleased that he has more workers afoot?


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ADVANCED LIVING

How we get on in life can at times be something of a lottery in that what we expected can suddenly just go out of the window and we are left standing pondering about what to do next and more to the point how do we go about what to do now as our mind goes blank. We like to think we have the potential to stave off "negativity" in our lives or that perhaps we are resourceful and should events arise of a not so nice nature we can cope. Sadly for many when the Tsunami of life really does hit then it's a real shock, whether it's health, relationship, financial, work related or whatever else it can be the  mind takes a hit and the aftershock can be devastating, knocking one's self esteem and self security into a frenzy of  nothingness. However we plan our future it's a bit like flying an aircraft, we need to make course corrections en-route otherwise we will not arrive at our destination. Many people get to where they are in life by default, sometimes where they end up is not quite that accessible and it renders life more of an existence of living as opposed to a place which is harmonious and joyful and brings with it that feeling of excitement every day they get up.

Wealth has very little to do with enjoying life even if it brings with it opportunities or the availability of more options. As hard as it may appear or seem or not wanted to be understood is that our happiness is within us, what we can't achieve or our ego or desire can't access causes us untold inner mayhem that plays on our mind as an almost subliminal programme that is constantly replaying itself thus taking the edge off of life. Our success is always relative, what others appear to have as success is but a culmination of circumstances which produce a result, and just because those circumstances of the self are not of a similar proportion does not mean anything less. Our own personal ideology and take on life plays a vital part too in how we both assess life and how we thus accordingly respond to it, so we can in effect be the cause of our own downfall of short comings in life. It's at this point that many people make an assessment of themselves one which is grossly unfair or even based on a fallacious substance but never the less causes them to feel out of kilter with life and what they think they should feel like and it then starts to bring them down to a level which is purely self induced.

Our personal stability is the vital link to happiness, contentment, fulfillment, purpose, definition and that fabulous feeling that we can get that life is good regardless of circumstances and what is displayed on the news. If we don't have this and many don't then life is forever a series of ups and downs and struggles and wishes and thwarted dreams and disappointments and let downs and then we live in a cloud of consternation which makes our journey a troublesome one. Once we reach this stage others around us start to appear on predefined levels based upon where we are and that has negative values that we find difficult to come to terms with and they too see that we are not fully connected with them and thus relationships start to wane a little if at times diminish into something of a valueless entity. No on should live for the sake of it, feeling wanted and needed is part of the human condition and if we can't accommodate others in our lives then we will render our own purpose on a substandard level.                    

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OUT OF SORTS WITH LIFE

How we feel about life varies from moment to moment, sometimes we just feel "out of it" for no apparent reason, other times there are a number of issues going through our minds and at other moments we just lose focus on whom we are where we are going and that possibly life isn't offering much in the area of stimulus or excitement. Our reality is what we live in, whatever life is or isn't it's our take on it that makes us think and feel the way we do. Our reality can make our lives or lead us down a road of hard work and toil, it can cloud our judgement, our thoughts, our feelings, our clarity and our overall happiness factor. Whatever we experience we process it via our minds and take whatever course of action we deem appropriate including becoming remorse, miserable and sullen, it's self pity taking over but the bottom line is it's you who has instigated it, no one else. There is no such thing as "well you'd be like this if you had ..... " or "life has made me this way" life has done no such thing, if you want to be selfish and small minded that's a choice you have made, it's not like a virus that you can pick up. Of course mild forms of depression are a different matter, often circumstances and solutions weight heavily and we can't process it all proficiently enough so we go into a dull state of regressive thought, yet here again many induce such a state on to themselves as they actually feel it's a worthy and plausible thing to do which gains a degree of respect, where did that notion ever come from?  Some even think it's smart to say "I'm depressed", "I'm stressed" and throw in the Hollywood drama of responses and toned voice as if it heightens their credibility factor.

There is only one way to deal with life being out of sorts and that is to literally deal with it yourself by not giving in and making yourself feel bad. Everything has a lifespan, both good and bad things come to an end and circumstances change but facing up to adversity is by far the best way to keep your mind, body and soul in pristine condition and enjoy the life ride as opposed to enduring it then harbouring the memories. For those who were seeking an easy option or an answer that's far easier and there are many who perpetually seek the easy way if foolishly, you reap what you sow. For those that "get on" in life and just "do it" the rewards are great as is self confidence, understanding, compassion, drive, happiness and fortitude. If we can't keep a good council then no one else can do it for us no matter how much they want to. What goes on in our heads is ours and only ours and no manner of help, advice or strategies given by others will change how you think unless you want that to happen.

Life is what it is, it doesn't have the ability to make a choice for you or want to make it extra nice because it likes you or wants to "get back" at you because it doesn't, it's not that fragile nor thoughtful. Life is exactly what it is and that's a culmination of endless options and permutations coming together all at once all the time, hence change happens sometimes suddenly other times gradually, but change never the less happens. Life can throw into our pathway a demagogue of  choices all of which are not so savoury, similarly even the good choices have repercussions and strings to them. Our own verve and tenacity pulls us through, bestows a degree of authority, success and knowledge and it goes officially under the banner of experience. Whether we take heed of that experience and decide regardless to enjoy life is down to us, it's not a point of discussion for friends nor anyone else. The more we decide to enjoy and not be a sponge to what's around us the better life will not only become but our whole attitude and the attitude of others around us will improve and before we know it there will be an uplift from where we were to a more positive and refreshing stance in life. If we challenge the good to find credibility with the option of reverting back to bad if it doesn't pan out then you are really pathetic and need to alter your complete ideology about yourself and life. Like attracts like and negativity attracts negativity, positivity attracts positivity, your option, your choice.

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PERMANENTLY SEEKING EMPATHTY

It's a nice feeling to be understood especially if what you are recognised for is part of your personal make up, it's more than being recognised as a person - which is also very nice, but something more specific. We all have within us unique features that make us who we are, that sets us out from the rest, sometimes such features are very similar to others and sometimes they are completely way beyond the majority, which means we think on two different plains. Quite often those in the arts, sciences, strategic thinkers and those who see life differently, i.e. have a mind of their own, (not just opinions on life) fall into categories which at times alienate their thoughts from those of others. Sometimes their thoughts and concepts are so advanced that the every day pedestrian looks at them as weird or cranky or whatever it is they see themselves, often it's a negative reflection of their own lack of understanding. So called "out of the box" thinking can at times be disturbing or even frightening in that the brain cells fire together at multi-levels and come out with concepts and thoughts that exceed those of the average 'common punter'. Even many a large multi-national company falls fowl of it's own "gatekeeper mentality" and rejects exactly what they are looking for or what would greatly be beneficial to them. Different thinking is even beyond that of "Super computers" as their creativity is enhanced extrapolation very little else and at times it needs but one small lateral difference to produce drastic changes to both life itself and perceptions based upon same for the future. Many people like to think they are individuals and some get upset at the thought that others think they aren't!

Being different for some is a way of life and it can be both comfortable and exciting as well as lonely as one may come across those who understand but can't join in, which is the more common approach people find. For some there can be a craving to seek out "like minded souls" just to be able to talk to them and discuss life, the universe and points beyond, leaving mundanity way behind for a brief spell. And for some like the New Age mob who permanently seek the answers to why they can't be happy, healthy, understood and why others think they are weird, and, well - that says it all. And then there are the purely inquisitive who are seeking information but for personal enhancement more than anything else, they just like to know and feel rewarded at times by absorbing great amounts of knowledge based information and using that as a platform to move further onwards. Within the confines of understanding there are those that not only seek others of a similar ilk, they also seek validation a step which often indicates either a lack of self esteem or that they are on the right footing with their thoughts and perceptions but not quite sure, both are different and come from a different place.

We do not need validation or authorisation to be who we are although governments seem to think we do, it helps them control and understand better, but it also erodes freedom and once that is jeopardised you're finished. All today's advances come from free societies not the religiously controlled regimes nor the dictatorial countries which are often both the same. We do not need to be liked by everyone nor loved by everyone basically because we can't cope nor comprehend the statistics that make up the enormous numbers. We do however need to be liked and loved by a chosen few and if others admire us too so much the better but not essential. Our self respect, dignity, self esteem, self value and self worth should be paramount, we are entitled to it, what others think is for them we should never outsource like politicians do our own being for the sake of collecting kudos or we turn into liers as we can't be right to everyone all the time. We may be different, we may be very similar to everyone else, but who we are is us and that's is what makes us marvellous people and not 'designer driven' concepts that will ultimately drive our stability and metal health into a permanent nose dive. What our parents want us to be or anyone else regardless of their 'best intentions' can be counter productive. If there is a real love for anyone then the most you can possible ask is that they are happy regardless, anything more doesn't exist and reverts to selfishness of the self which is not about anyone else but the self.
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THE FEELING OF BEING NEEDED

Our whole stability revolves around who we are as a person and what our value is, that is what keeps us going in a relatively stable way. Loneliness accounts today for much grief, consternation and personal upset in the form that it can make us somewhat disjointed from life, which has psychological implications. Whether we have a significant other or just very good personal friends (real friends not acquaintances) matters not it's how we communicate with them and on what level. Social interaction between others is essential even for those who like to keep themselves to themselves, for being alone is not conducive to a good and rewarding life. As a sentient society we need to commune to share to enjoy and to feel as well as exchange with others aspects of life. In doing so we re-affirm important aspects even if others opinions differs it's the fact that an exchange of conversations that touch us deep down and mean something and that we respect "that" or "those" significant others makes a world of difference. Faced with just ourselves in a world that cares not is akin to an isolation that will eventually cause the mind to be introverted and implode as far as sanity and creativeness is concerned. Ironically many people of a staid and overly religious nature tend to follow in similar pathways harbouring fear, becoming judgemental, rebuking aspects of society with a purposeful and self created venom, start lacking perception, becoming introverted, and all in all become vacuous.

Whatever one's age, the need to be needed to be cared for in as much as someone significant who has an interest in you and your well being even if they can't do anything directly themselves has a massive psychological effect in the way we live. Take this facility away and an almost automatic 'longing' starts to whell up. It varies from person to person but the people who shut themselves off have defined negative points and are often cranky, moodily, intolerable, narrow, spiteful, insular, judgemental,mean, greedy, self defined, etc, to varying degrees. Many people even take on a pet to find solace in life as that pet will give 'unconditional love' something that humans won't do and religious people definitely can't do such is their outlook via their version of God, ironically God being that of unconditional love, strange why that happens. Of course there are ideals in life, get a partner and live blissfully happily ever after, unfortunately that doesn't happen, especially in today's society that when the slightest thing goes wrong it all comes crumbling down as opposed to getting it fixed and enjoying the benefits of a heightened experience in the process. Selfishness and "me" are more of the mark of society today and that puts paid to the base lines in starting something that has longevity written in to it. Many a relationship starts with soiled goods and multiple failures and a wealth of back-up excuses as to why it's never your fault and I did this and they did that and their iPad crammed with help lines on standby to console the selfish soul.

Many put a brave face on their own relationship and well being, often talking of  their 'so called' many friends and acquaintances and those in between too. It's true some people make friends easily others just don't and actually never try, just complain that they are not lucky and it doesn't happen to them, but again they are the cause of that, people still don't come knocking on your door asking if you want a relationship, you have to open it and go out. Even Internet dating sites aren't successful in that a 5% success rate if you are lucky and have to sift through the scammes, liers, cheats, lustful, desperately lonely, weirdos, and those who treat it as an 'on-line sport'. Most successful people have someone behind them who is instrumental be it their partner / friend supporting them getting on and becoming successful. A busy life can help one get on alone, but then when at some point the parameters change there is that 'elasticated effect' when one comes flying back to a nothingness of where yesterday comprised of lots of people all around and today none of them no matter how nice they are don't ring those significant bells within. Our emotional feelings are just so that little things that happen in our life can trigger off thoughts about certain people that we never thought existed or were that deep and can affect us so much.  

One should never spurn the need of another regarding companionship whatever it is for them, even if it's not your idea of such that's not important, it's to each his / her own. The love from one human being to the next is a priceless commodity even if it's your best friend that will do, that's humanity at its best also. Never be afraid of telling someone or people how much they mean to you or how nice they are or whatever complimentary thing you can say. And although some find it incredibly difficult say something just do it and don't fear the worst either. The more you compliment others the better you will feel and the easier it will become and the lighter life will be, even just smiling on a regular basis ups your game in life. There will however be the odd person and they will be odd who can't understand what a good comment is all about or a smile for no apparent reason other than that of a smile from one human being to another. Or those that view kindness or pleasantries as a case of "what do they want from me", but let not others insecurities and patheticness rub off on to you, go your way and smile, be nice and then the hurts which come with the territory will just melt away as the vast majority although they many not say it, will be warmed by your actions. You only have one chance in life, may it pleasant at least.

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BEING IN THE LOOP

Everything in life is relative, and what one sees as something spectacular others see it as just what it is as it means little more than the entity of itself. If one travels frequently to all parts of the globe then travel is no big deal even if it stimulates degrees of excitement, to those that travel once or twice a year it's almost an event in itself. Those that have expensive cars see them for what they are and can afford, to others they are an entity in another dimension of driving. Those that frequent expensive restaurants on a regular basis enjoy a different experience from those that see going out to an expensive restaurant as a 'special occasion'  and so it goes on. And whilst there is no wrong nor right the emotional aspects of perception can either reduce or elevate one's thoughts on life and one's abilities to communicate effectively. Our friends and social strata and gathering account for our ability to be able to proficiently do what we do and be accepted for same with others regardless of whether they do more or less and regardless of their circumstances. Unfortunately emotions fall into the equation far too often and greed, jealousy, ego, etc, rear their ugly head and then everything goes belly up or sour.

We migrate to those who love us 'warts an all' and tend to take a wider berth with those that have opinions on what we do or have because it's dull, boring and none of their business anyway. At times because of business we have to get along with those who don't particularly like us for whatever reason but we do so because it's expedient and has a purpose and we know that showing negative feelings is a lack of self control, low life mentality and stunted thoughts so we move on. It takes all sorts to make a world, and there are those at the opposite end of the spectrum in the voluntary sector that are priceless human beings devoting their lives to what they believe for little reward in the material stakes. It's whatever floats your boat and we can't judge what is better for everyone has a place in life and a purpose even if some don't want to utilise it because of their own negative self thoughts.

Our views, creativity, direction, ideas if they are to be implemented and put to good use or at least given a hearing need to be either directed to appropriate sources that understand where we are coming from, even if they don't like what we have. Or we have to attract those around us that are 'likeminded' as that will help us in bouncing off thoughts and empathising with what we wish to put out. But it doesn't stop their because there are those who may share a commonality of thought in a certain direction and yet have a totally different perspective of life and that can not only be frustrating but hinder your own thoughts which have a higher calling than just an understanding and an interest. It's here that many areas of life fall down as personal thought over and above knowledge takes a tumble, what some see as a need others don't, what some see as potential or greatness others don't, what some see as the 'bigger picture' others don't see anything other than their own microcosm of space, and without due understanding rifts develop often beyond reproach or repair. It we are to venture into any type of thinking that frees us up from convention then we need to look at all that is around us and not just where we are at, for if we do that we will forever be hindering our own progress no matter far up the ladder we are already.

The greatness of what is available in life goes a long way to allowing our minds to expand and understand as opposed to storing potted versions of different people and different things and then using that limited knowledge as a base for further thought or decision making. Which by default eliminates much of the realness and facts that we don't have to hand. It's almost like the 'armchair expert' or TV commentary which is forever manufactured and manipulated to produce an entertaining result mixing fact and fiction. Those in "the loop" our loop of friends and acquaintances that resonate at different levels are essential to us even if there is a distance involved. Some we would talk to on a certain level others we wouldn't it varies so much but by and large it's needful for us so that we can feel more at ease with ourselves and move on and enjoy a degree of camaraderie for without that frustrations build up. Cultivate new friends who resonate with whom you are, it's not the easiest of things to do but it does pay off and potential is forever present, whereas being alone is a one way journey to nowhere.

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HELP WHERE IT IS NEEDED

There's nothing wrong with real honest help when needed, it goes a long way to assisting us in our quest and journey in life. Whether it's financial, gardening, with our IT, knowledge, experience, it matters not, when we need help we need help. Of course help can be sub-divided into what is essential and expedient and what just lightens the load or makes things a bit easier, and the difference can be quite substantial. Help commercially costs and some companies actually make their money on help or support more than the product, a bit like printers where cartridges or at least the branded ones can almost cost the same as the printer itself, all carefully worked out - a sprat to catch a mackerel. Very little in the business world is genuinely free, not that it can be after all there are costs involved but the difference between offering a service and greed is getting far less, and often the service isn't as competent as it once was.

There is the type of help too that's benevolent, that we do to help others or give assistance or offer support because we think that whatever it is is worthwhile or the person / people we support are worthy of our kind deed. Giving is actually very cathartic, not to everyone as the mean see life differently, but the vast majority of the population have strong and endearing feelings about fellow man, even if they don't like some areas of it. Giving actually produces in most people a feeling of well being and it's not always of a financial nature it can be just listening to the plight of someone as well as offering your knowledge and experience in a matter. Those that have 'cold hearts' usually have few if not any friends, and if single end up very lonely. In life everything has repercussions and an action to it that either promotes one's life of demotes it, our choices and decisions do make a difference to the quality of life we enjoy, even if it's at times not that great.

The Western world has for years supported the "third world" much of the funds have made real progress in the lives of many people, but much has be syphoned off to the bureaucratic structures of the respective countries for their own needs, such is life in such places. Where help is often given freely the feeling that it has not been used for purpose makes people feel 'used' and 'abused' where their kindness and generosity has been misplaced. This thought again follows in a service of a product via a manufacturer it's all to do with a quality threshold and why some companies fair better than others. Help is a two way structure, we give help or assistance and in turn at times we need it ourselves even if it's just down to filling our tax forms out, if we are stuck and don't know - we need help, otherwise we could literally do ourselves a disservice in the process.

Some people are generous to a fault, it's a natural trait, others are more discerning, some are even gullible and don't really help because by assisting those that are asking for help it stops them actually getting something really tangible for themselves, such as the lazy and those who just want to take seeing no other option. Then of course there are those who do nothing, their motto is 'I don't ask or take so I don't give', but then that never lasts for long for the moment they require help of great need to them they see another world out there and one which they have been sadly missing out on for so long. The base line for everyone in life is you only get out what you put in, and it may seem from the side lines that that is disproportionate, but at the end of the day you haven't seen what has been nor what is about to happen.

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THE MIRAGE EFFECT

Have you ever seen in your dreams a better life? Improvements and had daydreams of possibly better times ahead? If you have then you account for the vast majority of the population, regardless of your trappings and circumstances. Advanced thought is always something nice to behold. In contrast reality is not only a great leveller it puts one into the correct perspective and stops all the excuses or heaven forbid moans of why things are as they are. It's good to encounter both the dreams as it allows our thoughts to take a walk on the wild side and the reality check which keeps us on the straight and narrow, or hopefully so. It's when one interlaces both that troubles start and presumptions and illusions and perceptions take over and smudge the defining lines between fact and fiction. There's a big difference between trying to better yourself or upping your game and living a fantasy. At times life throws a number of obstacles in our pathway some emotional, some financial, some health wise, some relationship / family areas, or whatever else it may happen to be career, location, redundancy, etc, it can be whatever it is to you. Even the smallest of seemingly innocuous things to one person means a great deal to another so as bystanders it's wrong to judge others on what we feel or think.

The mirage effect can be both positive or negative it's how you perceive life, and whilst it is only an affect it can have a profound difference as to how we view life ahead and how indeed we live our life. Furthermore there is the "ripple effect" too, that is whatever we do has repercussions with what's around us, be it circumstantial, friends, family, entertainment, lifestyle, anything in fact. Very little resides in life in isolation, if we attain wealth we generally use it to our advantage and enjoy what it can get us or share it with others and enjoy that pleasure too, unless you are mean. Likewise if you lose or your income or it is greatly reduced then what you can do is somewhat limited and thus you live accordingly or build up debts which has even worse consequences, even if by sheer necessity, but then it's your gamble and you bite the bullet when it all comes crashing down.

Politicians preach about mirage effects, their philosophy of how they want to effect a policy such as in the recent banking scandals by propping up the establishments that caused the problems in the first place. They predominantly failed as greed within the system syphoned off all they could for their own benefit. Many celebrities live within a mirage of life, living what doesn't quite exist, it's all very real but no depth hence the rehab / psycho clinics do a roaring trade. Mirages always look real and very inviting as they appear at a time when circumstances interface to form an illusion of what doesn't exist. The mirage circumstances definitely exist but all else is sadly an effect and no more. It's sad that many people in life perpetually follow effects and illusions in the hope that they are true and they will find what they so desperately seek, and when it appears long coming they then realise that it just maybe all 'pie in the sky' which it is and gross disappointment sets in.

No matter how gruelling it may be reality is your best friend, it will keep you grounded and allow what pleasures you either seek or enjoy to be real and fundamental to whom you are. It will keep friends as friends, it will keep you stable, it will keep you more wholesome and fuel whatever creativity you have within. It will support your life by allowing you to be honest with yourself and stop unnecessary disappointment or let down. It will in fact support all of your life and will still allow you the luxury to daydream at will without fooling yourself or get carried away and fall into an abyss of make believe that's hard to get out of. Being "at one" with yourself is all you can ask, the rest will naturally flow and reside exactly where it needs to be within and without trying to find reasons why or admonish yourself of anything around you or make excuses. It will stop what many harbour "baggage" that's neither necessary or beneficial to anything in your life, being free is allowing yourself to smile to enjoy and be happy, and when those come together the mirages just fade away from whence they came.  

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FORGIVENESS

Can you or do you forgive, or are you a selective forgiver? Or do you prefer to hold on to what has happened either a deed done by yourself or others done to you so that you have some sort of pathetic validation in your life and to keep it alive justifies a self created penance that holds no virtue. Some people hold on to the past as an excuse for where they are now and thus have well rehearsed speeches to suite all audiences who are gullable enough to listen to them.  But just so that you know what the dictionary definition is below is an explanation that sums it all up, or at least the theory of it:-

Forgiveness is the renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offence, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as 'to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offence or debt'. The concept and benefits of forgiveness have been explored in religious thought, the social sciences and medicine. Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives including forgiving themselves, in terms of the person forgiven or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven. In most contexts, forgiveness is granted without any expectation of restorative justice, and without any response on the part of the offender (for example, one may forgive a person who is incommunicado or dead). In practical terms, it may be necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgement, an apology, or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe himself able to forgive.

Life is full of wrong doings and more recently a whole plethora of substandard humans who now make the phrase "taking offence" a way of life (usually politically correct nerds), whereas years ago people just got on with life and moved forward. Those who utilise the "I've been offended" scenario do so in the hope others will take notice of them as if it is a justification of some sort for how they think, well who cares. We even have those wanting restitution for things that have been done years ago by different generations in different ideological thought times as they seem to want some kind of kudos for living in the past and not seeing the future. No amount of forgiveness by anyone about the past is going to make any difference except for those who have ego problems, and if you are religious at all it definitely doesn't make any difference as the time lines take care of that. And of course if you are a Darwinian subscriber it matters not as you are a mistake anyway so what of it.

Forgiveness is at times subjective in that one person feels aggrieved about something yet those that have supposedly done whatever it is see nothing wrong. We all know right from wrong and just because masses do something like in the Middle East where forgiveness isn't in their dictionary and live in constant upheaval and oppression then we see the result of it all on a mass scale, something that's only going to get worse. Furthermore if you are one of those that likes to be seen to be open and forgiving and says "I can forgive but not forget" then you are two faced, as that is the backdoor way of saying I can't or won't forgive. Granted we can't forget either but linking those two areas together admonishes the self of any deed pertaining to forgiveness and the thoughts behind it. It has to come from the heart and not smart political rhetoric.

It's not always easy to forgive, especially if the deed was or is very personal, however in order to forgive you have to 'love yourself', and here lies the problem, many people don't especially those again in the Middle East and Asia where love is totally conditional, i.e. if you don't do as we like or we disown you or throw a tantrum or whatever disgracefully selfish act they devise. If you respect whatever God you subscribe to then you should find solace in the fact that 'forgiveness' is a key element in the scriptural doctrine, but usually people tend to omit that in favour of their own narrow selfish and egotistical emotional levels then wonder why the edge of life has been reduced to what it is.

There are a lot of sad and emotionally lonely people out there and one must steer clear of them as they will like a vampire drain you of your energy for their own devises and comfort. They are skilled and apt at doing it like mosquito's biting you, you rarely feel it just the bump afterwards. It's self devised and so you should respect yourself and others by never entertaining negativity nor dwell on the past hurt or keep emotional diaries or check lists that keep being brought up. Whether forgiveness is in order or not, forgive yourself, because holding a grudge hurts you - definitely not the other person or people ever. Don't put yourself into that situation, let go, even if it takes courage to do so, and move on, you will be lighter and free and perhaps for the first time see the bigger picture. Many are actually afraid of "letting go" as they feel if they 'let go' of the years of harbouring hurt and malice that there will be a void within and are frightened as to how that may be filled and what others may perceive of them, all a total lack of self esteem. Love is the answer to overcoming harbouring negativity no matter what is it, but it's an option in that the self can override it, but do so at your peril.

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HYPERDYMENTIONAL & MAGNETOHYDRODYNAMIC FORCES

We tend to think in very narrow terms dimensionally which is understandable as we live in a relatively primitive environment even though we are quite smug at what we have attained today ourselves, whilst some areas of society are still living in the past. But all around us exists right now the area of multi-dimensional access, we can't see it or feel it, but it's there and the human mind can actually step into it, which eradicates scientists as their analytical brains exclude any involvement in such ability or indeed anyone who has a degree of lack where it comes to separating the mind from the here and now and allowing it to free flow. But enough for what may be science fiction to some, Multi-dimensional aspects of life are not new it's just science as usual catching up and themselves thinking how fabulous they are only to realise that they haven't gotten to the first rung of the ladder. If one is a Darwinian thinker then there are blocks and obstacles that will forever meet "dead ends" because life is divisive and holds very little in anything that would be termed "supernatural" which is nothing to do with TV programmes that have that name in a title.

Multi-dimensional is where space created by envelope packets of Light exist so that constant metamorphic transformations and integrations can take place. Hyperdimentional is where a specific sequence or operation occurs on a specific input corridor between sets of three dimensional space. The ability of the development of man will drastically change / evolve over time into a being and society that is way beyond the 'smart phone' society of today where such devises will look like something that Fisher Price made. But what it also does mean that earth and those in it today will be starting to see a radical planet transformation of cultures and religions associated with those that hold on to outmoded and defunct thought processes. Natural and enforced decay is in evidence and whilst some may cling on to what they believe, most beliefs are something of a hollow nature and never supports society no matter what media input or PR is attuned to it to smarten the image, it is all destined for a mass grave.  (Islam is a prime example). Those that cling on to the past will not have any chance to further a cause for the future and by their own hands will remain dimensionally stuck until there is nothing left of themselves, which is happening now.

Magnetohydrodynamics are energy forces which arise from the motion of electrically conducting media in the presence of electric and magnetic fields. Higher evolution in society is here, it's very small and for many it's of no interest as it's definitely not material based so their is no kudos in it whatsoever. Whatever our beliefs or ideologies in life some things will be enacted regardless and it's only time that will bring together a more complete understanding of planet earth and its existence. Even the 'big bang', which scientists still prevaricate about and throw in endless hypothesise has more to tell than what they know is in store. It's also possible that our own "coming together" on planet earth where a more harmonious society will live together and enjoy a better level of consciousness and no mental health conditions nor feeding on negative emotions or hyped statements drawn out for effect will be prevalent.  It's also possible too that within the Mazzaroth other societies will be going through the self same growth and evolving to an ultimate common benefit.

The next years will see both catastrophic as well as reversals of both weather and habitable conditions. Some follow a cycle dating back to hundreds of years, one thing is for sure however, whatever we do planet earth will survive, whether it's raging fires or deep ice, earth will survive. The biggest question is will man, as man is relatively a new comer and his evolution is now  really just taking shape. Remarkable happenings are to appear as well as great scientific breakthroughs evolution is now within our own visible spectrum and not just something we have read in the history books. It's a real life 'musical chairs' now and each time the music stops one chair is removed, that's what happens when those in society don't latch on they get eliminated. It's sad yet at the same time it's all very exciting as progress is forward thinking not backward thinking and those that conduct evil on the planet will be the first the suffer from the missed chair effect.

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THE MULTIPLICITY EFFECT

Decisions, decisions, decisions, should I do this or that, should I go here or there, should I stay in or go out, oh the choices of a single person, the choices that at times they have to wrestle with just to try and keep themselves occupied and do something to try and alleviate that feeling of boredom or stagnation or even reverting to laziness. Of course age plays a very influential part in what one does in life and the experience one has attained to date so those that haven't done much see everything as a feat of dexterity and those that have done a lot see it as an option. Couples see life as something different as they "should" be considering their relationship as "we" or "us" and if you don't you aren't a serious couple or there is a convenience built into the relationship over and above than supposedly common denominator love. Loveless relationships are forever growing hence they never last and when the real thing pops us it just proves that what you were going through wasn't up to much, and in fact you weren't up to much for kidding yourself that what you had was of value, it wasn't.

The Multiplicity effect is more of a status of today where original and free thought is more intermingled with ego, the self and how we appear to others. It's all interlaced with separating our minds between work which keeps us occupied and that free time we covet yet at times lavishly waste on doing nothing but thinking a lot about or worse still want others to think we are busy, occupied, having a great time, enjoying life when it's all quite the opposite. A lot of this life reposting goes on and it's not necessary as over time it literally clouds our thoughts and causes bouts of insecurity and aggravation and even sad or unhappy moments when internal reflection can't think of a solution as to how to change it all. The worst thing we can do and this is common too is to think we are smart and know more about living and life than others do, because with that statement in our thoughts we miss out terribly on companionship, even events that engage us and we lose the ability to "feel" life we just experience it from an intellectual point of view which then leaves us feeling cold and awaiting something else ahead to give us the boost we want. Many people even feel torn between wanting to be with someone for company but be on their own at the same time, and even get really phased out by making arrangements themselves preferring forever impromptu happenings as they then feel free, but sadly still empty within even if a moment has been filled.

Of course we are all different, but our feelings resonate just the same way, we have emotional needs some more than others but we still have them and if those are quashed or not fulfilled then we start to wander off course and hypothesise about everything around us which then we really start to "lose the plot". Often we have an "idea" of whom we are which is our version of whom we are and it could well be very near to that of how others perceive us, but from afar, and it's that "from afar" aspect that really makes a difference between us living with ourselves and our perception of life and us in it and those who like / love us for the bits they know, which is quite a different thing. Living a full life can be a myriad of different things to different people, just because one is exceptionally busy and gets around doesn't mean it's more fulfilling it just means one gets around and is exceptionally busy. The fulfilment aspect is very personal so everything needs to be viewed in perspective and it's all circumstantial too. Being honest with the self is paramount to one's enjoyment of life, even if at times it seems to be slow and dull, nothing is ebullient all the time, and our attitude and what's ahead of us makes a difference to our 'hope' factor as we can then plan or pre-plan where we are going to go as opposed to treading water and looking at a nothingness in front of us.

Life's harmony is all around, we choose to see what we want to see, and where some are oblivious of their surroundings and situations others are absorbing beauty and the vibes of what to them makes life worth living. Some cultures are "cultured" and educated into what is available whereas others are so wrapped up in themselves and taboos that they are predominantly insular and forever being subject to unhappiness and negative events that they attract. For every individual being yourself isn't a "smug statement", that is saying it and then worrying about not being able to carry it out, it's a harmony of the self that allows you to walk amongst the many and not be affected, few have this ability of oversight and feeling. Whatever it is many people can greatly improve their lives by letting go of the self constraints they at times wrestle with in order to try and keep their perceived status, sad because you lose yourself to conjecture and then nothing that remains is that good anymore.

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EVERY QUESTION IS A GOOD QUESTION

There's nothing worse than ignorance, it not only means that you don't know something but it has many subliminal effects such as insecurity, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem, etc. Of course it's impossible to know everything and it's also quite OK to be in situations in our lives because of work or circumstances that place us in crowds of people who are more proficient in subjects, areas or a modus operadi than we are, it's just the way it is. There's also nothing wrong with saying "I don't know" either, it's far better than moving forward with others who "do know" and you getting all upset within and trying to fob off everyone with what little you do know or worse still avoiding or evading direct answers so as to show you really don't know. Most people respond well to honesty, if you say you don't know they are more than happy to enlighten you and in fact are quite flattered at times that you have had the openness and decency to admit to them that fact and ask them what it is you don't know, even if it's just a potted version answer you are after to tie you through.

Of course perceptions, intelligence, arrogance, ego, inferiority, stupidity, etc, all play a part in our questioning, but no matter how stupid a question  may seem or ill thought out, to the person asking it it means a great deal otherwise they wouldn't have asked it. And more often than not it's not the highly technical questions that need similar answers those are not the most important ones, it's those niggly little questions that need short answers are the ones that trip us up the most. It can all be too easy to assume an air of superiority when those in your presence are lost as to what you are talking about or can't compute what you've said to what you deem is a logical conclusion, that is in effect a failing of yourself not the other party. Humility and a gross understanding of the bigger picture is what makes some people excel and others stagnate and even fragment in their own version of reality. Those who forever seek or strive at all costs over and above everyone else are those who command least respect. Those who strive because of the desire to attain more knowledge in what they do are far more human and have an ability to communicate with those all around at any level and treat everyone with respect because the alternative isn't of value.

We need as individuals to have all sorts of questions answered daily that we ponder over or cause us a degree of consternation. It's not the "meaning of life" questions - although that wouldn't go amiss, it's the things that stop us in our tracks such as why has my PC suddenly done that, or I can't access this, or which button do I press or where is 'whatever', and whilst the answer may be easy if we are also at a loss as to find where to ask or who to ask it becomes a real tough cookie and we get well and truly frustrated. Answering a question too is a skill as some haven't the ability to proficiently state clearly and precisely what it is they have been asked, leaving the recipient even more frustrated confused and at times even angry towards everything to do with it. Banks are like that in that they'll answer your query then try and bombard you with endless financial products or review your account or whatever it is and want to pass you on to the household insurance division or some other cretin that you don't even care about.

The Internet is a wild card when it comes to Q and A's, even market research companies want your FREE input, it's basically free, offering a chance to win £250 or an Amazon book token, which is peanuts compared to what the real cost of such information would normally cost. Every question no matter what has a reason behind it, some are far reaching in what the consensus of opinions state others are solitary and pertinent to just that person at that time in that situation and after that it's all redundant information. Our ability to continue needs to have questions answered it's a very important aspect of our lives, as we are met every day with new events and especially if one travels around the world the quantity of questions that one needs answering is amazingly high even if previous savvy makes finding the answers relatively easy. Whatever it is in life we need to know, not the nosey stuff about others lives or celebrity transgressions that's dribble for the dribble minded, but real factual stuff that makes our pathway that much smoother, life more enjoyable and gives us a greater presence in life itself. We must never be afraid to ask a question, and if respect is in order we will get a civil answer, if we get otherwise it says more about the idiot that has answered you that the validity of your question.

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THE RELATIVITY OF A BETTER LIFE

Life is how it is, situations are as they are, parameters happen to exist, and yet it's all subject to change, life really does evolve even on a small scale, life can change in an instant from bad to worse or from poor to rich, behind the scenes in life events are happening that we know nothing of. We can leave home one day and never return, nothing is irreplaceable nor indestructible, our molecular structure the commonality of the universe and it's perpetual vibration sees to that. How we see life is exactly how it is, it can't be any other way as we create our own reality, no one else thinks in our minds nor does what we have to do, everything that emanates from us is via our thought process nothing more. The way we talk, smile, interact, laugh is definitive of whom we are, alternatively we can be dull, morose, fearful, glum etc, and that too represents what's going on inside. We live and breathe in our own skin and if we thus decide, and we do decide that life isn't good and acquiesce to those thoughts via our feelings then life will be just that. Whatever we think or feel it comes from within, not from circumstances or anything else even if they are dire, how we react thereafter is down to us. And yes when all goes wrong it is difficult to muster up positive energy but the alternative of wallowing in negative energy is just not worth thinking about either. For some "going with the flow" is all too easy a "cop out" that produces a nothingness in their lives which they then perpetually struggle with.

When we are asked how we are we either generically say "I'm fine or I'm good - thank you" for whether we are or not whoever asked us doesn't want a negative answer nor are they equipped to help us and in reality could be worse off than ourselves. Then we have the options, "could be better" or "could be worse" better than what or worse than what we we never qualify, but it's an understood statement and it's quickly dismissed. When making comparisons of ourselves we predominantly do so against those that are seemingly better off than those who are seemingly worse off, in fact we dismiss those worse off as if it's their own fault for being worse off in the first place. It often isn't and people less fortunate than ourselves can actually have better lives in every area as it's a perception and one that they live within far more comfortably. Most people religious or not like to feel they are "spiritual" but haven't a clue as to what being "spiritual" is, which matters not as if you don't know what something is even if you have a general idea, the bottom line is you don't thus live up to a weak perception of it as it doesn't bear any weight within your mind structure. Our background ideals take residence in our speech but rack up not so well in the reality of our daily living.

Our life is interjected with a whole array of stops and starts and wild thoughts and mundane moments and everything in between, it happens to everyone. Some people have very energetic lives others don't. Those that have energetic lives are always full of excitement and vigour and potential, those that don't always seek tiredness and rest as an ongoing excuse to keep alive. Basically it's the body shutting down from boredom and lack of real initiative and an attitude that's completely lax and thus fires up now and then rather than predominantly all the time. Everything in life is relative, relative to what options exist and where we are placed towards those options being realistic events. Often what we seek isn't seeking us and if we don't come to grips with that thought then we are going to end up on a losing trail. If what we seek isn't there for us then we need to create a product that's acceptable and encompasses what we have to offer, such a move then proves ones own mettle and verve.

If we look at our self as an actor on the stage of life and what we are doing no matter how technically accomplished and creative we are and it doesn't resonate with the audience, it could be that the audience isn't up to our advanced display or maybe just plain thick and stupid, then the writing is on the wall. Repositioning ourselves to target what we do best, and then when we get established change it accordingly, which is what many do works well, as then it's got gravitas and pseudo stamina. Ironically those that once turned you down will then have the confidence to like what you do, such is the fickle nature of life and the relativity of it all. Better exists all around us, we choose not to see it often as our narrow and defined views usually prefer to see better as something more grand than what it is hence so many people are permanently not as happy as they should be.   

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SPIRITUALITY - IN A NUTSHELL

It's strange what people say about "spirituality" they have their own potted views and thoughts on it yet very few indeed know what it's all about. If you ask someone straight off, "What's Spirituality"? 99% of replies would start with "errrr" instantly trawling their minds for an explanation or something smart to say. And even after some time don't come up with a succinct answer it's usually some kind of waffle even if they get the gist of it right. It's really not however that important that one knows what "spirituality" is all about as it's not going to further your cause in life, but at the same time if one is going to use the word to describe some aspect of life you feel has a degree of importance then one should at least know what it really does infer and that one is on the right lines. The following is a relatively comprehensive dictionary explanation of "Spirituality".

"Spirituality can refer to an ultimate or immaterial reality an inner path enabling a person to discover
the essence of their being; or the “deepest values and meanings by which people live Spiritual practices, including meditation, prayer and contemplation, are intended to develop an individuals inner life; such practices often lead to an experience of connectedness with a larger reality, yielding a more comprehensive self; with other individuals or the human community; with nature or the cosmos; or with the divine realm. Spirituality is often experienced as a source of inspiration or orientation in life. It can encompass belief in immaterial realities or experiences of the immanent or transcendent nature of the world".

Whilst the above may resonate with many people the bottom line with it all is that they "think" spirituality but literally do nothing whatsoever to be spiritual, it just sounds good to mention and an applaudable state to be in. People even talk in soft "spiritual tones" talking about the Universe and Mother Earth and psychic enchantments, they wax lyrical about incantations and a whole load of stuff of past mystical cultures which were so good they've all vanished, and yet these self same so called 'spiritual' people always seem ill and lost in life, never really connecting with anything and are often lonely. It's almost as if many have turned to a "spiritual" route (whatever that is) as a last resort to find a missing piece or fill that eternal void within the pit of their stomach. Whilst there are endless books written on religion, the only books written on "spirituality" and "laws of spirituality" and anything else in the genre are written by current day authors and delving into their past doesn't really bring up the true goods of credibility. And if being on a "spiritual" pathway was that good why aren't millions flocking in sincerity to join and make the world a better place because they aren't. The trouble with "spirituality" is that it's anything you want it to be, it's a great cop out for most people to have the "best of both worlds" do as you want yet when needed spout the rhetoric of the next best thing to God. It's all sad and debased and pathetic really, in fact the irony is that most so called "spiritual" people need more help with their own life stability than those that don't go anywhere near it. People who tend to wax lyrical about "spiritual" stuff are often not the most stable, creative nor fun to be with and many lack any degree of humour, all the stuff than one needs to commune ably with others and life.

Mental health is the biggest problem within the Western World, fortunately it's not the clinical variety but that which has been brought about by the self, it's self inflicted, and the plethora of coaches and psycho-babblers apart from enjoying a good living are really not much better themselves, in fact many are seeking therapy also which is evident from the way they talk and their facial or tonal expressions - (is nothing scared)! We get fat if we over eat, (no one gets fat on fresh air - no excuses), if we feed our minds detritus we get the residual rubbish that's subliminally left, and then we start to be part of the rubbish we have had as a constant diet. Like cholesterol if not treated or dietary controlled it builds up on our arteries, similarly mental rubbish also builds up until at some point we tend to lose the plot, often it's almost too late when that realisation takes place. But back to "spirituality" (it's all linked) if we feign being spiritual because we think it's good, we fool ourselves and indeed let ourselves down. The biggest value we can ever have that keeps us under the best control against everything is "love" for that's the largest common bond on planet earth - and I've been around this planet dozens of times and seen dozens and dozens of cultures and it works in every one. Without love we become drones, with love we become humans, there is a big difference and that's life itself, be a part of it and not dwell on being an alien in your own world (even if you think it sounds good and gives you an instant self created credential).

There are "spiritual" groups all over the place and predominantly filled by single people (usually 30+) or "older couples" all with time on their hands and all seeking "words of wisdom" as if there are "gurus" who hold the key to life and will impart such to them and then "all will be well". There are gurus but not at these meetings, and "no" all will not be well, you have to put something into the equation too, which you are not at the moment hence your own plight. Even more ironic is the "spiritual cloud" which people almost always hide behind and that's the fact that they are unhappy, unfulfilled and need purpose, and their erroneous belief that in wading down the spiritual route it will give them all that is missing in an instant, again it just goes to show how wrong one can be or misinformed. One "becomes" spiritual in the way of thought and conduct, then by default one is automatically enrolled in to the "spiritual pathway". Like everything in life there is an "entrance fee" whatever that is, it's not financial at all it's a deep inner credential and honest and sincere thought with dedication, not the fastidious dedication that leads to dull boring people and fanatics but an overall concept of understanding. Communing with others and life is a good start, if some others don't get on with you fine, just do your bit and it will take shape.

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John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012