PERMANENTLY SEEKING EMPATHTY

It's a nice feeling to be understood especially if what you are recognised for is part of your personal make up, it's more than being recognised as a person - which is also very nice, but something more specific. We all have within us unique features that make us who we are, that sets us out from the rest, sometimes such features are very similar to others and sometimes they are completely way beyond the majority, which means we think on two different plains. Quite often those in the arts, sciences, strategic thinkers and those who see life differently, i.e. have a mind of their own, (not just opinions on life) fall into categories which at times alienate their thoughts from those of others. Sometimes their thoughts and concepts are so advanced that the every day pedestrian looks at them as weird or cranky or whatever it is they see themselves, often it's a negative reflection of their own lack of understanding. So called "out of the box" thinking can at times be disturbing or even frightening in that the brain cells fire together at multi-levels and come out with concepts and thoughts that exceed those of the average 'common punter'. Even many a large multi-national company falls fowl of it's own "gatekeeper mentality" and rejects exactly what they are looking for or what would greatly be beneficial to them. Different thinking is even beyond that of "Super computers" as their creativity is enhanced extrapolation very little else and at times it needs but one small lateral difference to produce drastic changes to both life itself and perceptions based upon same for the future. Many people like to think they are individuals and some get upset at the thought that others think they aren't!

Being different for some is a way of life and it can be both comfortable and exciting as well as lonely as one may come across those who understand but can't join in, which is the more common approach people find. For some there can be a craving to seek out "like minded souls" just to be able to talk to them and discuss life, the universe and points beyond, leaving mundanity way behind for a brief spell. And for some like the New Age mob who permanently seek the answers to why they can't be happy, healthy, understood and why others think they are weird, and, well - that says it all. And then there are the purely inquisitive who are seeking information but for personal enhancement more than anything else, they just like to know and feel rewarded at times by absorbing great amounts of knowledge based information and using that as a platform to move further onwards. Within the confines of understanding there are those that not only seek others of a similar ilk, they also seek validation a step which often indicates either a lack of self esteem or that they are on the right footing with their thoughts and perceptions but not quite sure, both are different and come from a different place.

We do not need validation or authorisation to be who we are although governments seem to think we do, it helps them control and understand better, but it also erodes freedom and once that is jeopardised you're finished. All today's advances come from free societies not the religiously controlled regimes nor the dictatorial countries which are often both the same. We do not need to be liked by everyone nor loved by everyone basically because we can't cope nor comprehend the statistics that make up the enormous numbers. We do however need to be liked and loved by a chosen few and if others admire us too so much the better but not essential. Our self respect, dignity, self esteem, self value and self worth should be paramount, we are entitled to it, what others think is for them we should never outsource like politicians do our own being for the sake of collecting kudos or we turn into liers as we can't be right to everyone all the time. We may be different, we may be very similar to everyone else, but who we are is us and that's is what makes us marvellous people and not 'designer driven' concepts that will ultimately drive our stability and metal health into a permanent nose dive. What our parents want us to be or anyone else regardless of their 'best intentions' can be counter productive. If there is a real love for anyone then the most you can possible ask is that they are happy regardless, anything more doesn't exist and reverts to selfishness of the self which is not about anyone else but the self.
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THE VOYAGE WITHIN

Do you have a destiny, a dream, an inkling of where you are to go to in life, is there something more than what you have or is what you have all there is, and if so there's nothing wrong with that. Many people have a feeling deep within that they would like to do certain things which have a solid resonance with them. Possibly no others can even share that or even know of it as it's never been mentioned. The idea that one would like to over and above what is currently happening venture forth and be an explorer, a writer, a cook, a discoverer, whatever it is that has a fascination and a stimulus for that inner self. Or is it a need for an understanding of the soul to reach somewhere else and gain a higher meaning of life, because it exists whether we entertain it or not. How do we want to end up and what happens between now and then can dramatically affect both who we are and who we think we are. It's a sad enditement to ourselves to think little of life outside our confines as there is a vastness that holds such knowledge about life and why some countries do well and others always lag behind and suffer and enact deplorable states and injustice. Our concept of life changes as we get older, our lives are pushed and pulled and knuckled into shape, things change, dreams shatter, new opportunities arise, people come and go, experiences are encountered good and bad, and time ticks on regardless, and when we are gone time will still tick on.

Making the best out of life is what we have for ourselves, sometimes it goes well and sometimes despite best efforts it doesn't, either way we have to get on with it and try, and try and try for if we don't stagnation starts to take place and then decay sets in. Decay is a part of the whole recycling of life, everything goes through the process even the universe recycles itself, it's all part of the very big 'bigger picture' sometimes lasting nano-seconds sometimes thousands of years, either way everything has a life at some point. For ourselves the moment is now and that's the crucial aspect of both enjoying life and allowing others to enjoy and share that joy with us for if that doesn't happen we certainly aren't maximising our lives and reaching into the fullness of it all. Our enjoyment is an essential aspect of a sentient existence, it's what makes us think and feel not only for ourselves but others too, it's a love based concept that never dies. Where there is an absence of love there is instability and ironically religiously controlled countries have a massive lack of love as internal mayhem and instability are their trade marks.

Our journeys in life are so personal that we can't compare to others as we are all individuals and we can't either appoint fairness nor anything else. What is, is nothing more than that. We have a free hand within our own self and it's a case of reacting to life the way it is and the myriad of permutations that exist and crop up because of co-existing circumstances often arranged subconsciously by others. The culmination of events in our lives is infinitesimal, and it's up to us to change or alter what we can in order to best make a headway for ourselves, otherwise life will happen by default, and then it may be alien to what we like and want and takes us to a place which is less happy. Sometimes life can be like a roller coaster others it can be sedate and slow, either way we are the fulcrum in our existence and have to move and shift and turn to make it what it is for ourselves. The reciprocity of life is paramount, what we put out we get a return, if we put out little or nothing then that is what we will reap so we can't blame others for a poor harvest if we sow few seeds. Our attitude is part of our journey as it reflects who we are and what we are, it's our face to the world no matter who sees it. Our attitude is our shop window so if what we have to offer looks soiled then it probably is, if it's always shining regardless of circumstances then it's that warm glow that others will pick up upon. But it's all down to the self, your life, your journey, how do you want to write your script?

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TRYING TO MAKE LIFE WORK

More than ever people are trying to carve a life out for themselves based upon what isn't going as well as they perceive. Better house / flat, clothes, car, spending money, entertainment, gadgets, tv-phone-Wii-Xbox, the list is endless. And of course that base thought about the 'self 'and their relationship or getting one, and not everyone is set out to be a couple despite that they think that would make life complete for them, no it wouldn't. Stick to a "best friend" that way you won't be able to fall out because of not getting your own way or reluctantly having to frequently compromise - which you wouldn't like. It is difficult for many people to gain a better access to a life standard which they deem that they are worthy of than they have at this present moment, but often the change is an internal adjustment rather than an external acquisition, even though that would prove a nice thing. There's absolutely nothing wrong with trying to get a better stance on life after all it's there awaiting so it's not always pie in the sky, it can be real. But often the striving negates the present and if that happens to be the case then real instability of personal understanding starts to take over and what could have been good in the present is reduced to mediocre. Our mental attitude also plays a vital part in life and as to our enjoyment of it every day and not just certain aspects of it with somewhat bland times in between.

Depression, anxiety, boredom, lack of fun, lack of real camaraderie, lack of heartfelt warmth from a significant other / friends. Lack of silliness, lack of personal conversations at all levels with those you can 'talk to' and empathise with, being told off by your best friend - because you really haven't got one, sharing, etc. All these things make a significant difference to the quality of life for the individual. No matter who we are and whether we have 100's of 'so called' friends all over the globe there are those few or one that makes life just so much more enjoyable because you love them. We are all different but our basic needs are very similar, and whether we are globetrotters or sedentary that 'anchor' makes a difference. Our perspective on life and our attitude defines who we are, and those struggling already find that the going can get to an intolerable level because their base understanding in life isn't there. If focus is predominantly on 'hardship' it's difficult to opt out of that mode when faced with it, but if the subtleties of humanity are not there then real desperation and irascibility of the mind becomes more than real and develops into a place where life becomes cruel and the 'way out' seems none existent.

Despite the physicality's of what each person may or may not have life is relative and happiness isn't subject to comparisons nor is it a product of what is to come or may come along. Families can find life at times a struggle if not financially more mentally seeing their young grow into young adults and all the aggressive social problems that they face at increasingly younger ages than they did years ago. Manufacturers and advertising agencies are merciless at recruiting new recruits hoping to wean the impressionable and immature on to their products. They deny this but they are liers. Your children are to an extent a product of your parentage as indeed you are, failure often starts at home in a whole manner of areas, selfishness is almost borne in the home and is not a redeemable asset to have as it stultifies goodness and communicational skills. Whether we are going through a recession or good times it makes no difference to the happiness factor if it does it shows what a chameleon you are and your own susceptibilities to life. There are more "millionaires" made in times of recession than actually in the 'good times', and more creativity is in evidence too. If we need better there has to be a reason other than "just wanting it", if better is an accessory or an adjunct to life it will lose its ability to support our emotional needs, if it's deemed as an essential then we have to enjoy what we have now otherwise our emotional contact with it will forever thwart where we are currently living.

We create our own reality, thus we can either live and like life, even if not perfect or we can forever create an ambient struggle that we have devised and rarely try to accomplish as it's on a wish list more than a physical desire. Sadly today few people actually live their own lives according to what they want to do, it tends to be a homogeneous structure of bits from everywhere else which doesn't totally rest well within and causes an on-going instability and a feeling or unrest without cause.Trying to make like work doesn't work, you literally have to make it work then it works, trying is the journey which for most is a smart theory, making it work is a deed of sheer progress and determination, winners and losers.

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