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Thursday, 14 June 2012

SHOWING YOUR EMOTIONS

We are by default sentient human beings although I think some will throw that in question, never the less it's a mark of a superior being. As a race we are marvellous people, it's only the trappings and conditions that tend to thwart our real ability to grow such as those in the third world and the dearth of religions that restrict life and cause repression as opposed to praising their God and allowing growth. They all suffer who believe in fear and restriction as can be seen by their backwardness in life and the way they have to rely on others to develop what they find incapable of doing themselves. Our emotions are one of the prominent aspects of our lives, we move throughout the whole of our life via an emotional wave, some days it's relatively calm others it's vibrant in every way. It's these which give us our feelings and in turn we feed off of these feelings and react according to how we deem it is expedient. We have within us free will and therefore we have negative emotions too such as envy, greed, jealousy, selfishness, anger, arrogance, etc, and these in turn are linked to how we feel as a person. If we are relatively secure in life then we get on quite well and cope where we have to. If we are not so secure then we readily pick up the negative emotions and feel moody, angry, jealous, etc, and start to use these emotions to our benefit - or so called benefit - to try and get our own way. It's called emotional blackmail and it's the lowest of levels one can almost stoop to. Where people feign tears in order to gain sympathy, be moody in order to try and get their own way and so on. Keep well away from such people and don't ever pamper to their debased thoughts

Many a young "thug" type of person has difficulty in showing emotion, it's almost a "sissy" thing to feel upset, angry yes, but upset or loving - forget it. This misplaced understanding results in a life of trials and tribulations and dares and a whole host of random stupidity, when deep down the onset of real love from anyone that cares is what is most needed. After all with real love - unconditional love - hurt and upset and anger don't come into the equations (back to why some religions are always killing and getting upset - evil doctrines). Governments are useless at such things as their agendas are power based and so when it comes down to emotional remedies they are also thuggish and impotent even if they pretend to understand. Of course societies and cultures play a big part in how we grow up and deal with life, some cultures are fiery and emotionally volatile whilst others are more controlled and think before they act. Some of the Eastern cultures are the worst in that they make a Hollywood drama out of anything as a means for others to help them, women there do this exceptionally well, it's all conditioning and religion and is a real far cry from living and life as it should be as it's always an Achilles heal for them. Then we get to the other extremes where manufactured effect is almost de regeur such as the real Hollywood awards where speeches almost turn your stomach over with the whet diatribe they come out with.  

People react to others emotions, we are judged by them, but it doesn't mean that someone who goes ape like has more feeling than someone who remains calm and stands their ground, it's often the latter that has more compassion and less theatrical selfishness. There is a time and a place and what the outward signs are don't always reflect the inner state. We tend to veer towards those that share our emotional position in life, it makes us feel more secure and in control and enables a more stable stance in life regardless of whatever happens. We can all cry with tears of joy or sadness a development of extreme emotion in both cases, some are more susceptible than others, and there's no detriment to ANYONE who sheds a tear, it's a natural part of yourself and something that one should never be ashamed of. However back to the "thug" scenario, the personal shame of being emotional or selectively emotional, whereas if they were real stable solid humans they would just be themselves and not live behind a facade that's unreal and designed to repress, a state of human failure. We can more often than not even with someone we don't know see through feigned emotions or those who enhance their joy or grief to effect self notice, selfishness has no limits and we can feel within those who are genuine and those who 'put it on', the emotional vampires always seeking others energy. It's good to show emotions as it's good to look good, it reflects who you are and the sincerity of who you are too. Never emulate others, don't cry at a funeral if you can't, don't laugh if you don't think it's funny, but do either if appropriate as and when it affects you, you're not on trial nor do you need approval or acceptance from anyone. Be yourself and allow the inner you to blossom.  
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Sunday, 13 May 2012

THE MIRAGE EFFECT

Have you ever seen in your dreams a better life? Improvements and had daydreams of possibly better times ahead? If you have then you account for the vast majority of the population, regardless of your trappings and circumstances. Advanced thought is always something nice to behold. In contrast reality is not only a great leveller it puts one into the correct perspective and stops all the excuses or heaven forbid moans of why things are as they are. It's good to encounter both the dreams as it allows our thoughts to take a walk on the wild side and the reality check which keeps us on the straight and narrow, or hopefully so. It's when one interlaces both that troubles start and presumptions and illusions and perceptions take over and smudge the defining lines between fact and fiction. There's a big difference between trying to better yourself or upping your game and living a fantasy. At times life throws a number of obstacles in our pathway some emotional, some financial, some health wise, some relationship / family areas, or whatever else it may happen to be career, location, redundancy, etc, it can be whatever it is to you. Even the smallest of seemingly innocuous things to one person means a great deal to another so as bystanders it's wrong to judge others on what we feel or think.

The mirage effect can be both positive or negative it's how you perceive life, and whilst it is only an affect it can have a profound difference as to how we view life ahead and how indeed we live our life. Furthermore there is the "ripple effect" too, that is whatever we do has repercussions with what's around us, be it circumstantial, friends, family, entertainment, lifestyle, anything in fact. Very little resides in life in isolation, if we attain wealth we generally use it to our advantage and enjoy what it can get us or share it with others and enjoy that pleasure too, unless you are mean. Likewise if you lose or your income or it is greatly reduced then what you can do is somewhat limited and thus you live accordingly or build up debts which has even worse consequences, even if by sheer necessity, but then it's your gamble and you bite the bullet when it all comes crashing down.

Politicians preach about mirage effects, their philosophy of how they want to effect a policy such as in the recent banking scandals by propping up the establishments that caused the problems in the first place. They predominantly failed as greed within the system syphoned off all they could for their own benefit. Many celebrities live within a mirage of life, living what doesn't quite exist, it's all very real but no depth hence the rehab / psycho clinics do a roaring trade. Mirages always look real and very inviting as they appear at a time when circumstances interface to form an illusion of what doesn't exist. The mirage circumstances definitely exist but all else is sadly an effect and no more. It's sad that many people in life perpetually follow effects and illusions in the hope that they are true and they will find what they so desperately seek, and when it appears long coming they then realise that it just maybe all 'pie in the sky' which it is and gross disappointment sets in.

No matter how gruelling it may be reality is your best friend, it will keep you grounded and allow what pleasures you either seek or enjoy to be real and fundamental to whom you are. It will keep friends as friends, it will keep you stable, it will keep you more wholesome and fuel whatever creativity you have within. It will support your life by allowing you to be honest with yourself and stop unnecessary disappointment or let down. It will in fact support all of your life and will still allow you the luxury to daydream at will without fooling yourself or get carried away and fall into an abyss of make believe that's hard to get out of. Being "at one" with yourself is all you can ask, the rest will naturally flow and reside exactly where it needs to be within and without trying to find reasons why or admonish yourself of anything around you or make excuses. It will stop what many harbour "baggage" that's neither necessary or beneficial to anything in your life, being free is allowing yourself to smile to enjoy and be happy, and when those come together the mirages just fade away from whence they came.  

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©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
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