SHOWING YOUR EMOTIONS

We are by default sentient human beings although I think some will throw that in question, never the less it's a mark of a superior being. As a race we are marvellous people, it's only the trappings and conditions that tend to thwart our real ability to grow such as those in the third world and the dearth of religions that restrict life and cause repression as opposed to praising their God and allowing growth. They all suffer who believe in fear and restriction as can be seen by their backwardness in life and the way they have to rely on others to develop what they find incapable of doing themselves. Our emotions are one of the prominent aspects of our lives, we move throughout the whole of our life via an emotional wave, some days it's relatively calm others it's vibrant in every way. It's these which give us our feelings and in turn we feed off of these feelings and react according to how we deem it is expedient. We have within us free will and therefore we have negative emotions too such as envy, greed, jealousy, selfishness, anger, arrogance, etc, and these in turn are linked to how we feel as a person. If we are relatively secure in life then we get on quite well and cope where we have to. If we are not so secure then we readily pick up the negative emotions and feel moody, angry, jealous, etc, and start to use these emotions to our benefit - or so called benefit - to try and get our own way. It's called emotional blackmail and it's the lowest of levels one can almost stoop to. Where people feign tears in order to gain sympathy, be moody in order to try and get their own way and so on. Keep well away from such people and don't ever pamper to their debased thoughts

Many a young "thug" type of person has difficulty in showing emotion, it's almost a "sissy" thing to feel upset, angry yes, but upset or loving - forget it. This misplaced understanding results in a life of trials and tribulations and dares and a whole host of random stupidity, when deep down the onset of real love from anyone that cares is what is most needed. After all with real love - unconditional love - hurt and upset and anger don't come into the equations (back to why some religions are always killing and getting upset - evil doctrines). Governments are useless at such things as their agendas are power based and so when it comes down to emotional remedies they are also thuggish and impotent even if they pretend to understand. Of course societies and cultures play a big part in how we grow up and deal with life, some cultures are fiery and emotionally volatile whilst others are more controlled and think before they act. Some of the Eastern cultures are the worst in that they make a Hollywood drama out of anything as a means for others to help them, women there do this exceptionally well, it's all conditioning and religion and is a real far cry from living and life as it should be as it's always an Achilles heal for them. Then we get to the other extremes where manufactured effect is almost de regeur such as the real Hollywood awards where speeches almost turn your stomach over with the whet diatribe they come out with.  

People react to others emotions, we are judged by them, but it doesn't mean that someone who goes ape like has more feeling than someone who remains calm and stands their ground, it's often the latter that has more compassion and less theatrical selfishness. There is a time and a place and what the outward signs are don't always reflect the inner state. We tend to veer towards those that share our emotional position in life, it makes us feel more secure and in control and enables a more stable stance in life regardless of whatever happens. We can all cry with tears of joy or sadness a development of extreme emotion in both cases, some are more susceptible than others, and there's no detriment to ANYONE who sheds a tear, it's a natural part of yourself and something that one should never be ashamed of. However back to the "thug" scenario, the personal shame of being emotional or selectively emotional, whereas if they were real stable solid humans they would just be themselves and not live behind a facade that's unreal and designed to repress, a state of human failure. We can more often than not even with someone we don't know see through feigned emotions or those who enhance their joy or grief to effect self notice, selfishness has no limits and we can feel within those who are genuine and those who 'put it on', the emotional vampires always seeking others energy. It's good to show emotions as it's good to look good, it reflects who you are and the sincerity of who you are too. Never emulate others, don't cry at a funeral if you can't, don't laugh if you don't think it's funny, but do either if appropriate as and when it affects you, you're not on trial nor do you need approval or acceptance from anyone. Be yourself and allow the inner you to blossom.  

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THE LIFE- DEATH- RESPECT BALANCE

Firstly, how honest and sincere are you, it's a rhetorical question so no answer is needed other than the one to yourself, it not only makes a big difference to your life but those around you and ultimately how you think and feel. Whatever the answer is it matters to you only as you are the only one to live your life so if you are dishonest and insincere then others will pick up on that and over time the results will show for themselves. Our stance in life encompasses many different areas, some religious, some cultural, some endemic, and some situational, some educational and many emotional aspects plus a dearth of other minor areas that together make up whom we are. It generally works well although if we don't take ownership of our lives we can by default let any of these constituent areas rule the roost and then we get lost in the fog of stupidity and even worse bad decision and stilted negative opinions of hollow worth.

Two things we all have in common, one we are here alive now part of life itself, we were born into it, and the other is awaiting us in the wings it's death, the date of which we don't know.  There is an industry all about the pomp and ceremony of death created on a commercial basis and shrouded in a hell of a lot of religious clap trap that is neither accurate, true, nor God driven and has no effect whatsoever on the quality of our death or where we are going to go. On our eventual demise most people won't be going anywhere. It matters not how much you believe in whatever fabricated religion you subscribe to, if you don't have love in your heart you are not going to transcend death. Real love is not elasticated, which religious love is, love is all enveloping and doesn't come with a legal document full of conditions, nor are there mitigating circumstances, nor are there opt out clauses which religions dwell upon so as not to lose their pathetic flock. If your religion demands you do this n' that but then says if you can't because of this n' that and offer an opt out clause then it's a load of rubbish. God doesn't have exceptions, you believe or you don't, you follow or you don't. No special clothes, eating, bowing scraping etc. The litmus test is you are shipwrecked on to a dessert island with nothing more than the clothes you are in, you bury some of your colleagues, you pray on your own, you live on your own, you make the way forward the best way possible and the link between you and God is just that. It DOESN'T involve ANYONE else, ever.

Hypocrisy and emotional failure in religious matters, fear, fright, guilt, hatred, killing, etc should not enter the affray as love doesn't hold these areas at all, it can't it's as if one keeps a foot in the camp of the Devil and God just in case, it's evil to think of both in the same context. Attending a funeral of someone who you have not seen or made contact with is not respect it's an insult, life is for the living not the dead, there is nothing going to happen under the auspices of "respecting the dead", what do you think is going to happen? The self journey into feeling good for yourself utilising respect as a cover is your entitlement, albeit a pathetic one. And as a general 'moral' thought we do offer our personal thoughts as a symbol under the auspices of respect, but it doesn't alter the facts nor change anything, and if indeed we didn't respect the dead nothing is going to happen anyway. Being seen to be "respectful" in the eyes of others is shallow as if they have any input or say in our lives or those of the deceased, death is just that, our memories live within us and that's where it all is kept alive, not in showmanship and false selfishness and wailing and screaming and wearing black, it changes nothing, never has never will.

As a society we are generally respectful, it makes us feel good and secure, our morals are generally good although society today has different values than that of years ago, but that's an evolutionary thing more that being for the better or worse. Our relationship with God is purely ours not the government nor anyone else, hence the Middle East try to meld both and hence such a "bloody mess" ensues. If we believe and die alone with no ceremony or congregation weeping in abundance but have love in our hearts then our journey is still as true as ever. Of course if we are Darwinians then we are a mistake of life and have evolved to this level of sentient humanity, the difference is when they die that's your lot, you get confined to where you came from nothing. Your prescience on planet earth is just some sort of objective to live as long as you can the best you can because that's what you do, all else is fallacy, your wish on death will be granted and you will cease to have to fulfil that ideology and your bone meal will be for new growth in life's garden, nothing more. Your spiritual entity (if you believe that or not) will also cease and your transient placement will have been in vain.

As for all those religions wanting to control, use it for their own purpose, syphon off funds for themselves, peddle hatred and killing and suicide bombers and the like, then the inevitable is nigh. Most religions - that is those devised by man, will die off as they are disingenuous with love, as there are endless conditions involved. God's love is unconditional, it's a "one liner" no more. The counterfeits all fall apart in the end no matter how brainwashed and pseudo sincere they think they are. The truth is the truth, call, it what you will or decipher it your way, or give it your slant or interpret it how you think, it all smacks of human error and motive and this is where the evilness of religion floats its boat, it has to because nothing ever happens, it can't as the conduit doesn't make the connection. If something goes well you can thank God until you are blue in the face - which people do, but positive happenings happen to, atheists equally as well, miracles take the love walk to the edge, and the vast majority of people just don't make it. But there again you have the option 24/7 to go down whatever route you like. At the end of the day however, being a hypocrite doesn't score "brownie" points nor does your version of God to guarantee anything upon death, or even during your life either.     

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