DO YOU REALLY MATTER

Do you really matter, have you any importance in life, what do others feel about you as a person, what indeed do you feel about yourself, and ultimately do you have any real value whatsoever. Value, worth, importance etc can be subjective and objective at the same time, but most of all it's a totally relevant perception. For what our parents mean to us or our sons and daughters or close friends, those significant others etc, mean very little if anything to anyone else. It's not that others don't understand both the moral or humanitarian aspects of those they don't know because they can feel the bonds that others have in similar situations to themselves. The human mind is incapable of incorporating thousands of others into a close loving situation, when faced with massive death it changes emotional tack and thus everything becomes a statistic of fact and names and faces blurr all together. It's at times the media get it wrong showing pictures of thousands of people suffering and starving in floods and droughts - something they love to do and indeed relish the whole morbidity of it, but it often rebounds and becomes wallpaper angst against which few can do anything against the acts of nature, or the despots in the Middle East killing their own kind in cold blood. We can be the most sensitive and emotional people on planet earth yet at the same time be completely insensitive to vast figures of human suffering even if it touches a nerve within at the dreadfulness of it all. Our global understanding is not capable of taking in the suffering of many our mind plateaus out and reason and comprehension take over as it's all processed as a statistic.

The press and television bestow leaders in industry, chiefs of global companies and at the same time heads of state at some event or another with an importance that is often of a hype that leaves the reality of the situation behind, even if what is being done or discussed is of a crucial nature. Yet the reality is, and it's a cold reality, if at a world conference every leader was killed in a terrorist attack ever single country would continue the following day as if nothing had happened, apart from the hysteria that would be drawn up in government circles and to the delight of the media. Similarly, if the CEO's and indeed the boards of the major corporations and banks were targeted in a similar fashion those companies and banks would be open for business the following day, and new blood would be introduced post haste and who knows it could be better than before.  It's always a possibility and more often than not true most new blood kick starts the complacency smugness and narrowness and corruption of the past. So what is the value of people who can be replaced over night? Because they can, there are no exceptions and no one is irreplaceable, even if in a family situation and sadly missed. We cope, we overcome, we adapt, we compromise, we make do, we create, we develop, we seek, we do far more than we give ourselves credit for, and this is where our value as individuals comes in to play. Don't ever farm off or outsource emotions to individuals for something that has no value to you other than entratainment or something to do, it doesn't mean you can't wish them well or anything else, but it can accumulate within a degree of unworthy respect which doesn't lead anywhere postive and produces false values.

There is the commercial aspect to life, no one has a higher personal value than anyone else, they are just people doing a job and hopefully well for which they are also well remunerated. Then there is the personal aspect of life mum, dad, son, daughter, brother sister, family, friend, who do what they do because of the love aspect, maybe not perfectly but they do love and this is where value comes into force. The whole human race is a love based society take love away and they are nothing more than  robots or drones living to live and that's it. And do we matter, as individuals yes we do, as a figurehead no matter how good- no, as a celebrity- no, as a head of a corporation - no, as a head of a financial institution - no, they can always be replaced even if those in power don't know of anyone else it's their ignorance not that others don't exist. As an individual you definitely do matter, there are those who would weep, be saddened, be upset, miss you dearly if you were no longer here. If those in high office died would you miss them no, would they miss you if you died - who are you, they wouldn't have a clue. And again do we matter, yes if you believe in God then you definitely do matter, if you don't believe in God then just hope that when all fails that there is someone who cares for you and that your existence wasn't futile.

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THE LIFE- DEATH- RESPECT BALANCE

Firstly, how honest and sincere are you, it's a rhetorical question so no answer is needed other than the one to yourself, it not only makes a big difference to your life but those around you and ultimately how you think and feel. Whatever the answer is it matters to you only as you are the only one to live your life so if you are dishonest and insincere then others will pick up on that and over time the results will show for themselves. Our stance in life encompasses many different areas, some religious, some cultural, some endemic, and some situational, some educational and many emotional aspects plus a dearth of other minor areas that together make up whom we are. It generally works well although if we don't take ownership of our lives we can by default let any of these constituent areas rule the roost and then we get lost in the fog of stupidity and even worse bad decision and stilted negative opinions of hollow worth.

Two things we all have in common, one we are here alive now part of life itself, we were born into it, and the other is awaiting us in the wings it's death, the date of which we don't know.  There is an industry all about the pomp and ceremony of death created on a commercial basis and shrouded in a hell of a lot of religious clap trap that is neither accurate, true, nor God driven and has no effect whatsoever on the quality of our death or where we are going to go. On our eventual demise most people won't be going anywhere. It matters not how much you believe in whatever fabricated religion you subscribe to, if you don't have love in your heart you are not going to transcend death. Real love is not elasticated, which religious love is, love is all enveloping and doesn't come with a legal document full of conditions, nor are there mitigating circumstances, nor are there opt out clauses which religions dwell upon so as not to lose their pathetic flock. If your religion demands you do this n' that but then says if you can't because of this n' that and offer an opt out clause then it's a load of rubbish. God doesn't have exceptions, you believe or you don't, you follow or you don't. No special clothes, eating, bowing scraping etc. The litmus test is you are shipwrecked on to a dessert island with nothing more than the clothes you are in, you bury some of your colleagues, you pray on your own, you live on your own, you make the way forward the best way possible and the link between you and God is just that. It DOESN'T involve ANYONE else, ever.

Hypocrisy and emotional failure in religious matters, fear, fright, guilt, hatred, killing, etc should not enter the affray as love doesn't hold these areas at all, it can't it's as if one keeps a foot in the camp of the Devil and God just in case, it's evil to think of both in the same context. Attending a funeral of someone who you have not seen or made contact with is not respect it's an insult, life is for the living not the dead, there is nothing going to happen under the auspices of "respecting the dead", what do you think is going to happen? The self journey into feeling good for yourself utilising respect as a cover is your entitlement, albeit a pathetic one. And as a general 'moral' thought we do offer our personal thoughts as a symbol under the auspices of respect, but it doesn't alter the facts nor change anything, and if indeed we didn't respect the dead nothing is going to happen anyway. Being seen to be "respectful" in the eyes of others is shallow as if they have any input or say in our lives or those of the deceased, death is just that, our memories live within us and that's where it all is kept alive, not in showmanship and false selfishness and wailing and screaming and wearing black, it changes nothing, never has never will.

As a society we are generally respectful, it makes us feel good and secure, our morals are generally good although society today has different values than that of years ago, but that's an evolutionary thing more that being for the better or worse. Our relationship with God is purely ours not the government nor anyone else, hence the Middle East try to meld both and hence such a "bloody mess" ensues. If we believe and die alone with no ceremony or congregation weeping in abundance but have love in our hearts then our journey is still as true as ever. Of course if we are Darwinians then we are a mistake of life and have evolved to this level of sentient humanity, the difference is when they die that's your lot, you get confined to where you came from nothing. Your prescience on planet earth is just some sort of objective to live as long as you can the best you can because that's what you do, all else is fallacy, your wish on death will be granted and you will cease to have to fulfil that ideology and your bone meal will be for new growth in life's garden, nothing more. Your spiritual entity (if you believe that or not) will also cease and your transient placement will have been in vain.

As for all those religions wanting to control, use it for their own purpose, syphon off funds for themselves, peddle hatred and killing and suicide bombers and the like, then the inevitable is nigh. Most religions - that is those devised by man, will die off as they are disingenuous with love, as there are endless conditions involved. God's love is unconditional, it's a "one liner" no more. The counterfeits all fall apart in the end no matter how brainwashed and pseudo sincere they think they are. The truth is the truth, call, it what you will or decipher it your way, or give it your slant or interpret it how you think, it all smacks of human error and motive and this is where the evilness of religion floats its boat, it has to because nothing ever happens, it can't as the conduit doesn't make the connection. If something goes well you can thank God until you are blue in the face - which people do, but positive happenings happen to, atheists equally as well, miracles take the love walk to the edge, and the vast majority of people just don't make it. But there again you have the option 24/7 to go down whatever route you like. At the end of the day however, being a hypocrite doesn't score "brownie" points nor does your version of God to guarantee anything upon death, or even during your life either.     

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