THE AGE OF GREED AND DECEPTION

Our life, our world, our environment etc is in a constant state of flux, forever changing and often by forces outside of our control. Much of our everyday life we have some degree of ability to change the rest we must steer our own ship the best way we can to overcome and bypass the obstacles that seem to evade our radar and loom large right in front of us all of a sudden causing us to wobble a little. The good news is that we are in reality quite resilient people despite the setbacks and despite the consternation and sleepless nights we do overcome and we live to tell the story. Another day dawns and history is just that a memory of yesterday for tomorrow is where we are forever moving towards.

The commercial world is similarly going through a turmoil of its own, however in this case it's not world conditions or "Acts of God" or catastrophes these conditions are well and truly man made. Created by the deceit and greed of a 'few' in order to supply their need at the expense of others who have basically "trusted" the few to honor a commitment to uphold their hard earned funds. What banking was was a "gentleman's profession" has indeed turned out to be a triumvirate of divisive cohorts comprising of financial, legal and marketing professions scraping through the corridors of 'barely legal' in order to extract monies from gullible clients. However it doesn't stop there, American companies lead the way to greed and subterfuge followed very closely by the rest of the world. Spam, free downloads, unbundling, etc, are on the increase with no morals nor compunction for the punter caught in the middle. Where once when you bought something that was it, today what you buy is the start of a seemingly endless "ad hock" "designer version" so to make it what you really need you have to buy endless "add ons" all at a cost of raising the price for as many others as possible in the process getting a cut of your cash.

 The levels of trust and peace of mind are getting out of hand, subliminal unease is starting to percolate through society even to the point of not trusting your local authority as the well being of the community seems to be governed by a few who have stilted and narrow views and often appear to do what they want as opposed to what is expedient to all. Internet sites run "Lite" products yet boast of fabulous facilities and the moment you click on the site you are "Bombarded" with endless "Upgrade" popups, it's all a "sprat to catch a mackerel".  Yes people are entitled to make money and yes life has a cost value too, but it has gotten to the point where value and trust are secondary components, with lack of humanity that is in evidence rather than the quality of the product. There's much talk about the "experience factor" but that "Experience factor" varies from that which emanates from the seller to that which is experienced by the buyer and in many cases it's a disappointment in that what you thought you were getting now costs five times more and you not only don't want to pay the extra or possibly can't afford to but you have lost interest in it too. Result gross disappointment. Commerce isn't what it used to be - by and large, especially in companies that train operatives to try and stop you going any further with your problems or claims etc. Deceit attracts deceit.

How we go through life is largely down to ourselves, so we have to put a brave face on every day so as not to fall into a downward spiral which for some is unfortunately all too easy. Holding on to negativity isn't a solution, despite what happens We need to respect ourselves and if we don't like something then either vote differently or go elsewhere, it does work eventually as you will not be alone even if you think it's only happening to you - it's not. Societies have been toppled of recent date, companies brought to their knees, situations changed dramatically, but only you can make a difference to your standing, or not as you may think "why should I" and their lies your true value to yourself.

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THE WILL TO LET GO

There's a lot spoken about the "will to let go", books describe the cathartic properties of "walking away" or "letting go" or "moving on" and to some extent it's all true. In most cases "letting go" is in reality easier said than done, it's often very hard to "let go" even when somethings aren't doing us any good whatsoever. The saying "better the devil you know is better than the devil you don't" rings true with many people but that always pre-supposes that what they are about to leave and enter into won't be any better, it usually is or the thought of leaving in the first place or moving on wouldn't have emerged. We all need to move on, let go of certain areas of our life, we leave home, get a new job, find a partner, and so it goes on. Familiarity is to some a way of life if not a comfort, routines, traditions, etc, are all very well and good but without modification of time taking place they can turn about face and start to both repress your life and you can actually regress as you tend to be stationary whilst life overtakes you. For most people "letting go" or "moving on" is a momentos task it takes a big change of heart and often dexterity to effect what they need to do and in the process it can affect a number of people who lose their degree of importance and position in life with regards to friendship and 'best friend type' status. By the same token those that make such a forward move often need to cultivate a whole new base for their lives including friends, neighbours, colleagues, associates, attitudes, environment, thoughts, perceptions and ideologies as to a new future from a different base.

There's a big difference between being selfish and doing something for yourself, being a martyr to yourself isn't smart, it's silly and will only bring on eternal regret and possibly hardship too. It's not that we can't or don't or won't give up something to help others especially those close to us but in the bigger picture what we do has a defined action and course that directs us forward. How we go forward is thus also defined by not only our actions but our attitude and our perceptions of life too. We are the only ones who can direct ourselves in life no matter what help we have or opportunities present themselves. Living with regret isn't an option if we do something we should do so with purpose even if it's not exactly what we would like, building up a store house of regrets and excuses is for the feeble minded and those that seek beyond whom they are. To move anywhere in life we must "let go" of where we are otherwise we just won't move, the circumstances of where we are and the parameters of where we live within and the conditions in which we allow ourselves to move alter quite significantly even for those who are predominantly sedentary. If we do nothing life takes us forward by default, so it's imperative that we do something no matter what to both effect a change to our betterment and place our own purpose firmly on the map. Anything less and we start to both lose the plot and become by default drones just wandering aimlessly and then the rot sets in.

Families, friends, relationships, comfort factors, etc weigh heavily when it comes to having to move on for some, for others they see the bigger picture and know that whilst the current status quo may be good and relatively wholesome, the future won't be an extension on the "now" as fragmentation takes place either by design or default and then the "I should have done this ages ago" thoughts spring to mind. There is also that thing called "the love walk" and if life is that good where you are then the love element from both within yourself and others will allow you to move onwards unheeded because with "love" in evidence only the best is good enough and if that means moving on then so be it and no bitterness, jealousy, envy, etc, will be there to tarnish it all. We are all different and what some do to move forward is a step too far for others, there's no wrong nor right in this, it is what it is, but even the very staid get bored in life and that need not happen, although much of what becomes of them is effected by a narrow attitude that does little for anyone let alone themselves. Letting go provides a paving of the way for the future list of unknowns but from a higher more updated stance, it's here that we can excel or find ourselves and allow our various aptitudes to flourish or at least give them a chance to blossom to some degree. Letting go is not always that easy emotionally even though the aspect of going somewhere better resonates well. We have to do what we have to do, but the bottom line is whatever decision you take don't make it rest with an excuse beside it, make it a committment that way you'll feel more secure and useful within.

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NEW TYPE DEPRESSION (NTD)

What many people are experiencing today is rejection in particular the young, it's not that they aren't any good or what they are doing is of no value or that indeed they haven't got any ability, it's just that they have been challenged by someone and they take personally to heart what has been said, and it's usually out of context. Strangely enough it's often "quite nice people" who tend to "suffer" from this feeling more than anyone else, although it's not exclusive. If you are an "all round" nice guy then you are basically accepted (as a person) wherever you go at whatever level and you tend to interact accordingly, make assessments of the situation at hand and predominantly get some form of feedback whether it's direct or indirect as to your judgement. When you start to get negative feedback or no feedback especially in a work environment even if it's not related to the quality of your work it starts to have a negative resonance and it either sparks an immediate anger or 'bithchy' retort followed by periods of silence (which is usually churning over and over the situation in your mind).  In what I do I seek information and views from others so as to build up views and opinions different to my own, that way I get a better and more informative balance on the subject in hand. It's also a case and I firmly believe one can never know it all and there's always something to learn no matter what even if it's just going though the process yourself.

Recently I was offered a series of sessions (initially one off's) with some "respected" business advisers in "respected" organisations, (which I get offered / becomes available from time to time) and prior to meeting up I had to fill in a questionnaire about a whole series of facts and figures about me, my work, and what I wish to achieve, all of which I can do with great ease now. Never the less I make sure what I put down is pertinent, accurate and with details to my websites / publications / and achievements to date, better too much than too little, you can always press the delete button but there isn't an "add/more" button. Bearing in mind these sessions are not cheap I was eager to learn and interchange ideas, views, and receive possibly new information or concepts about what I was wishing to do,etc.  And what a let down they were. The people concerned were very nice indeed, kind, hospitable, knowledgeable, fun, bright, sharp, and yet I felt so let down, they almost appeared like robots just going through one more client as if we were travelling together on a parallel road but in different cars. I left feeling somewhat "empty" within, and what a waste of time that was. And from the many years I've been in business all over the world there seems to be this type of cold advisory platform that I can well understand how many young people think and can now suffer from (NTD) New Type Depression. I wasn't depressed as in fact I leaned why many people don't respond the way they should and it's predominantly that they are treated "as another client" and there is NO personal inter-relationship, the advisers are not only incapable of it they don't even want to go there as it's too much trouble for them. Yet this is the spark that could kindle untold excitement, positivity and great success. Bog standard information is available all over the place most of it for free but much professional information seems to be governed by cost rather than quality and real client understanding.

 I get bombarded by companies offering conferences, seminars, workshops with supposedly well known names and what they impart, but most of it is disingenuous, subterfuge, and they like whores try to solicit as much as they can from you in return for solving your problems, making you successful, opening doors, raising your marketing game, telling you all about how they make it, and so on. They are so good in fact it's wonder they haven't been nationalised by the government and made compulsory in education so that everyone on planet earth can be as successful and wealthy too. And whilst some of these seminars after being offered at a high price, reduced price, special price, personal knock down price, etc, etc, do have good information it's all down to the 'solubility factor' and not flashy marketing to the endless stream of 'wannabies' attending wanting to up their game from basement to top floor in one go, or worse still looking for those elusive tips that will generate their protege from embryo to full gown in a flash. It never happens, except for real entrepreneurs who already have that in-built kudos to do it themselves. Indeed these marketing organisations are marketing themselves nothing more. Selling a hope like "anti-wrinkle" cream, it's bought to stave off age, but it only works as long as you use it, cures aren't yet developed. If after all your efforts, and your inner deep dream has not been delved into by a "business professional" (and there isn't such a thing as a "one size fits all") don't get alarmed as all the great successes like salmon swim against the tide, aircraft take off against the wind not going with it. If that "so called" master of knowledge hasn't touched all your buttons and you feel let down and cheated, it's because you probably have been. Don't let anyone ever tell you that your dream won't work, the greatest achievers in the world were told that including one President of the USA. Of course we have to be realistic too, but passion for what you want to do will pull you through, and if it turns out that it won't happen because of certain conditions / situations you will veer automatically into an area that will work. It's your story, don't let anyone else write it!!!!

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WHEN IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE

 Much of life is based upon perspectives, ideology, circumstances and situations, and that as we all know can differ radically not only from country to country but from person to person. We often ponder and wonder why someone did this or that or what possessed the government to do this or that because the consequences of such have drastically backfired, etc. We listen to politicians on television and at times with amazement wondering if they are on drugs or perhaps need to be or even are they of this planet, it's often that groups of people change their opinions when engaged in different strata's of life. We hear architects waxing lyrically about buildings with sweeping lines and wooden facades that will age with time and blend in, yet all we see is a clinical cold object with unkempt  faded cladding that appears neglected cold isolated and without any warmth that is an ideal medium to cause repressive thoughts and a home to vandalism and graffiti. We hear local government talk of multi-culturism, yet all we see are swathes of foreigners in enclaves that are the new ghettos and where everyone else keeps away even commerce so it houses alien cultural abnormalities and inbred dysfunctionality and gross isolation and then becomes run down and violence, drugs, poverty, crime and social inability creeps in and then they wonder why it's all happened. A slum run by social services and then that's the beginning of the end if not the end already, designer built problems from lax attitudes, stupid and weak minds.

A lot of life is way beyond what we have any control over, not that we need to give up or admonish ourselves of any responsibility nor keep our opinions to ourselves. Never end up like some politically correct idiot that tries to stymie conversation as opposed to allowing free thought, if others get upset, so be it, it's for them to get over it. Often why people get upset is that the truth hurts so they never actually talk about it themselves or they are by nature inferior and seek compassion by taking sides, it never works, they all eventually die lonely. We don't have to make sense of a great deal in life for we do not have to engage with others ideals, morals, perceptions etc, as long as we keep ourselves in tow and others similarly then the sum of the greater usually wins the day, and fortunately most people adhere to a commonality of good. Logic is a good baseline in life, often people action deeds based on temporary emotions then realise afterwards how pathetic they were at the time but then it's too late. Great statesmen can "see" the difference and utilise appropriate rhetoric to put their points across most people don't have that ability, similarly many politicians don't either unfortunately. There is however a case for tempering logic with emotional tack, as logic often is cold and at times ruthless and whilst on paper it may all work well in reality the physicality of actions often flounder because the humanitarian traits are not taken into account.

We need to understand where our thoughts come from that they are accurate and not just something thrown together based upon biased news from the media or a viral video on YouTube. We need to focus aptly upon ourselves to make sure that we are OK not selfishly but accurately and that our lives are important and not the hub of some plan organised by the government or other heartless body. If it doesn't make sense then you have two options it either isn't accurate or you can't grasp what the bigger picture is all about, and it maybe that you don't understand either. The worst thing you can do however is to make an opinion up just for the sake of it because that will stick with you. If you don't know or prefer not to say then so be it, there's no one who can force you only yourself or your lack of self esteem that makes you feel a lesser person and that should never happen. You are totally entitled to be who you are, even if you are wrong, no one is right all the time ever. If you can't make sense of anything either seek "expert" help / opinion, or move on, but don't deliberate on ignorance as that will throw you into a scenario that clouds both your life and your whole integrity.

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GETTING CONNECTED

There's a lot written about networking, 6 degrees of separation, who you know, etc, it's the "in thing" today to give everyone instant success. Just read a book, go to a network meeting, join a Business site (and they are popping up like the plague), and the rest will happen naturally. We will meet whoever it is that we need and that "Knight in Shining Armour" will say "You are just the person I've been looking for" and from there onwards it's all history. It's really that simple isn't it, that proverbial person 'out there' just waiting to meet up with us, the answer to why we can't do it alone, that conduit to greatness just a meeting away. Anyway, I must stop dreaming and come back to reality and look coldly at the real people I seem to meet at 'networking events'. No matter who we are and what we do we need people in the chain of life for without them nothing much happens. However what we seek from others, others may seek from us, and that's where in many cases the whole theory of networking no matter what guise it goes under 6 Degrees or whatever comes tumbling down. It doesn't matter what targeted audience one has it's all down to the individual and who they are as people or a person, what their hidden agenda is or what their motives are and how as an individual their characters are.

From the many networking meetings I been to all over the world I've come across the same people, mean, selfish, greedy, insincere, 'wannabies', often quite nice to talk to, but wanting to take but not give, if you can't help me I'm not going to help you, insipid and dull people, those seeking clues about how you do what you do but don't give anything of themselves, those wanting your contacts for themselves but still offer nothing of themselves and so it goes on. And I have to say I have met some fantastic nay fabulous contacts, but like mining diamonds you need to shift hundreds of tons of earth miles below the surface to even get near to the possibility of getting one. I write about the "gatekeepers" in life and those that hold back and retard others but here I must be honest and say I fall fowl of that very same thing and act as a gatekeeper myself, and this is where the 6 Degrees falls short. I do pride myself that if I can help some one I will, no reciprocation necessary, I have been helped tremendously all over the planet by people who have asked nothing of me but just wanted to help me because they could, and I like to follow that line of thought too, and do so to the best of my ability. I like to think that I am cool and level headed and have been through some dire situations been kidnapped, shot at, been on my own in deserts and jungles and still been able to smile and come through each event. But for some reason there are certain types of people at networking events that really raise my blood pressure. And yes I realise it could just be me that finds such events the way they are but it's all very real and at times not only frustrating but a wasted event, coming home with dozens of business cards I never look through ever again.

The human being is such a simple yet complex creature and those seeking are often those who are the most needy and thus formulate an agenda that overtakes their humanitarian instincts and clouds their judgement and that camaraderie of mind, body and soul. The warmth they have is on elastic and whilst openly looks and feels sincere the moment you turn your head it flies back as you are of no use to them. It's not that you can always reciprocate help to those that give you saged advice or knowledge as they may not need what you have got, but it's a matter of instant trust and feel, and if you just don't like someone for whatever reason the chances are you are not going to help them or give them your contact to your best friend or long established business contact that they need because it doesn't rest well within. One thing for sure is that if we don't give we are not going to receive, it will all eventually peter out and we will become so used to being smug that we will live in a concocted world of our own making. To be successful we need others as they need us, we can't be successful just on our own it takes others to both implement what we do and eventually buy our products or services. Our attitude is everything it is our "shop window" to successful contacts and conduits and breaking barriers and getting past the "gatekeepers", but unfortunately for many it's tainted too much about the 'self' and at that point everyone loses interest.      

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THE ENERGY AROUND US

There is no getting away from it everything around us is of a molecular structure, we are molecular structures - human life - and we rely on other molecular structures to survive in the form of food, water and air, plus a whole array of interrelated complexities that correspond to form the life we are living. The whole universe is energy of its own type, everything is vibrating at different speeds and together they form all the substances known today and possibly many we don't know of too. Just because we don't know of something it doesn't mean it doesn't exist, it's just that we haven't gotten the sophisticated ability to seek out, discover or find out that it's there or whats there has properties that so far have eluded us. As humans we too give off all sorts of energy, if we are alive then we have a body heat, we also give off signals too that we can pick up upon and not those that medical equipment reads but more down to earth person to person signals. Whatever they are they are forms of energy whether visible or invisible. We are marvellous transmitters and receivers of information, we can detect the smallest of details if we put our mind to it, and if we know someone we can really be on the ball to notice and feel changes about them.

Energy is not consigned to science it's there whether science has evaluated it or not, what is important is that we commune with life itself as that is then being at one with all that's around you and beyond, for nothing exists in isolation. Understanding who and where we are establishes a comprehension of life itself, it's good and not so good points as well as everything in between. Those that cope better with life, get on better, see and understand better than those that are running around in their own minds and not open to the endless positive possibilities that exist that life can offer on an elevated level. Just because life may not be so grand at any one moment doesn't mean that it can't / won't get better even if you possibly can't imagine how or why, because if you think that way you've shut out the possibilities of it actually happening. We can manifest much of a better quality of life just by our thought, by our mental energy, similarly we can make it not so wholesome too. Where the mind goes the body follows so it's imperative that a positive vision is forever present even if circumstance seem otherwise, circumstances are always prone to change so we should not lock ourselves to situations that are so fluid.

As a race we are energy seekers, we need to fuel ourselves with a whole array of molecular delights some make us fat, unhealthy, and some positively energise us and keep us well functioning throughout, we even seek energy to keep us warm or cool, we use energy in our portable devices and transportation, and in global communications and of course that most proficient device the bomb. Religions use energy to subvert the truth about what God is really all about, and third world and Middle Eastern countries  use arms to keep control because of greed and self fear nothing more. Everything is molecular it's just that they are arranged slightly differently to form the end product which we as humans are rather good at. We also use molecules to bamboozle ourselves to think that via advertising we need to look a certain way or have a certain product and of course it's us the punter that has control of what we do yet so many people give themselves over to the "Sponge Effect" where they brainlessly absorb what they see and create a false realty that they then can't comply with and thus cause a rift in their thinking and a discord in their overall thoughts. It's silly, even stupid but people do that and then blame everyone and anything and want tablets or booze to console themselves when they are their own worse enemy.
Our education system today hasn't come that far in that it has come on an equal par or footing with our environment, yes it's updated itself here and there but social skills, communicational skills, understanding yourself and life within this highly engineered molecular society is sadly lost and thus many leave school lacking rather than having an ability to discern in life. Where reason is given in to 'need' and commercial companies will now not stop at anything to subliminally subvert young minds to want their products by choice even if they have no value what so ever. Life doesn't hold grudges which is the good news, we can change for the better at any single moment, our past is wiped out and the future always holds promise unless you think it doesn't then it won't. Molecular structures have no past present or future they just evolve and recylce themselves into other bits and bobs and we enact a short stay with them and then that's it. The overwhelming versatility that is within our grasp is amazing, yet few use any of it to their advantage preferring to view from the side lines and watch a few make the grade and then they call them lucky. But luck is with everyone, no matter how you define it, go and create some today you'll be amazed at what it can do for yourself and the fabulous results you can achieve by using your molecular magic.   

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HELP WHERE IT IS NEEDED

There's nothing wrong with real honest help when needed, it goes a long way to assisting us in our quest and journey in life. Whether it's financial, gardening, with our IT, knowledge, experience, it matters not, when we need help we need help. Of course help can be sub-divided into what is essential and expedient and what just lightens the load or makes things a bit easier, and the difference can be quite substantial. Help commercially costs and some companies actually make their money on help or support more than the product, a bit like printers where cartridges or at least the branded ones can almost cost the same as the printer itself, all carefully worked out - a sprat to catch a mackerel. Very little in the business world is genuinely free, not that it can be after all there are costs involved but the difference between offering a service and greed is getting far less, and often the service isn't as competent as it once was.

There is the type of help too that's benevolent, that we do to help others or give assistance or offer support because we think that whatever it is is worthwhile or the person / people we support are worthy of our kind deed. Giving is actually very cathartic, not to everyone as the mean see life differently, but the vast majority of the population have strong and endearing feelings about fellow man, even if they don't like some areas of it. Giving actually produces in most people a feeling of well being and it's not always of a financial nature it can be just listening to the plight of someone as well as offering your knowledge and experience in a matter. Those that have 'cold hearts' usually have few if not any friends, and if single end up very lonely. In life everything has repercussions and an action to it that either promotes one's life of demotes it, our choices and decisions do make a difference to the quality of life we enjoy, even if it's at times not that great.

The Western world has for years supported the "third world" much of the funds have made real progress in the lives of many people, but much has be syphoned off to the bureaucratic structures of the respective countries for their own needs, such is life in such places. Where help is often given freely the feeling that it has not been used for purpose makes people feel 'used' and 'abused' where their kindness and generosity has been misplaced. This thought again follows in a service of a product via a manufacturer it's all to do with a quality threshold and why some companies fair better than others. Help is a two way structure, we give help or assistance and in turn at times we need it ourselves even if it's just down to filling our tax forms out, if we are stuck and don't know - we need help, otherwise we could literally do ourselves a disservice in the process.

Some people are generous to a fault, it's a natural trait, others are more discerning, some are even gullible and don't really help because by assisting those that are asking for help it stops them actually getting something really tangible for themselves, such as the lazy and those who just want to take seeing no other option. Then of course there are those who do nothing, their motto is 'I don't ask or take so I don't give', but then that never lasts for long for the moment they require help of great need to them they see another world out there and one which they have been sadly missing out on for so long. The base line for everyone in life is you only get out what you put in, and it may seem from the side lines that that is disproportionate, but at the end of the day you haven't seen what has been nor what is about to happen.

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THE WEREWOLF EXPERIENCE

Doesn't it appear today that nothing is exactly what it seems, that adverts selling things tell you how cheap they are then the small print ties you into subscription in order to be able to take advantage of such things. Telecoms companies are like that, disingenuous, greedy and deceitful. Cable companies woo you into what they have to offer yet to really enjoy it you have to almost pay a third or more to get what reaches the satisfactory level of comfort and possible usage. Every commercial company is at it, advertise cheap fares yet unless you can book 20 years in advance and take the first morning trip and come home on the last you are no better off at all. It's all small print and exclusions and omissions and not valid and exceptions and whatever else marketing can find to rip you off and try and call premium packaging to make you believe it's all worth while. Food manufacturers show large pictures of food on boxes and increase the size of their packaging to make you believe you are getting more whereas it's often less so that more profit can be made via the fickle punter. It's becoming dog eat dog in the world markets with the banking system still ploughing their way through customers bank accounts to gain more money for doing less, charging for premium account fees and offering products that are worthless and hardly usable. And all the watch dogs and regulators come up with is the same dull boring hype that means they are spineless and wimpish, fearful and cowardly, despite what they will tell you what they have done to date.

A Werewolf is a wolf but with human thought, it's deceptive and evil. No one likes to get less than they thought or to have bought an airline ticked to find at check-in they have to pay a whole shopping list of fees to move onwards. Whatever we pay for whether it's something cheap and silly or prestigious and expensive we do it for a reason and expect those behind the object or service of our desire to be honest and upright with what they are offering, it has to be "fit for use" and that doesn't include last minute essential costly upgrades nor anything more. We don't want hyped or disingenuous facades that have been processed by immoral people in marketing or those in PR who lie to distort what they have been hired for to make the bad news sound more palatable. It all comes out in the end, and whilst people are at times unfairly judged by their personal deeds as opposed to what fabulous things they did professionally, coming clean at least gains one respect, something that's almost unheard of today.

Having said all of that how do we as individuals fair up in the 'fair up' stakes? Are we whiter than white, blemish free, no faults, exemplary bastions of society, honest to a fault, etc. Because it makes a real difference as to how we move forward and how we both enjoy life and how life treats us. Of course we are humanoid and therefore we do have faults built in already, however we also have self restraint, morality, thoughtfulness, compassion, truth, understanding, love, humanitarian instincts for fellow man, etc, and fortunately most people abide by and large by these facets, not all some professions veer towards others dark areas in their versions of truth, as do some if not most religions. If we are not satisfied we must complain, not as a matter of course or to see what we can possibly 'get out of it' but genuinely and say why and say that you think you have either been "oversold" or "deceived" or what was on offer is beyond what is given, which is common with banks and airlines. (The advertising is ahead of the product). You can make a difference, you have no allegiance to any company despite the fact that thy run customer/consumer programmes, you are a number on a database with statistics no more than that. Human interface between such is rare although it does exist in some companies still. It's all about how you respect yourself, don't go around being aggrieved by being let down, state your case, then move on, it really does work, especially if you contact the media about shoddy service / products.

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KINDNESS

We all like to think that we are kind at least to some extent and quickly judge others who we see as "not so kind" but not necessarily mean either. Meanness falls into a category all of its own as it has both deep inner meanings and thoughts as well as exterior repercussions.

The dictionary definition of kindness is :-
"Kindness is the act or the state of being kind, being marked by good and charitable behaviour, pleasant disposition, and concern for others. It is known as a virtue, and recognised as a value in many cultures and religions."
And it further states as an addendum :-
Analysts warn that 'real kindness changes people in the doing of it, often in unpredictable ways. Real kindness is an exchange with essentially unpredictable consequences'.

Kindness is good in every area even if it's not received as such that's not important and if we get upset because what we thought was an act of kindness on our part and it was almost thrown back in our face, then it's still an act of kindness and we should be uplifted accordingly. If we expect a fanfare of gratitude than it says even more about us than the ungrateful who didn't acknowledge the deed of kindness, even though it's nice and the humanitarian aspects of receipt of acknowledgement are always nice to receive. At times we can do kind deeds that have far reaching positive consequences yet know nothing about what our deed has done to many people in their plight of one sort or another.

Most people who are kind have certain traits within, it's not being philanthropic as that's something that is done because it can be done but on a different scale and has different values even if the deed of philanthropy is awesome, as it can be. Many elderly people with wealth often find that they need to "at last" do something meaningful with their accumulated finances and thankfully it is usually put to very good use. But there is a difference as philanthropists can also be mean and not very kind as their inner ideal has been to both view and account for their deeds and often feel the need to see in others in such a light of worthiness based upon their perceptions and feelings. People tend to be predominantly "kind" as people although there are those who just have the odd kind thought or deed now and again but it's usually based on something contrived with them being in the loop or that they know they are going to get very positive and effusive feedback which ups their ego and self esteem etc.

Kind people are usually less judgemental, less abrasive, more understanding, have a better global vision about the bigger picture, are more humble, creative, less stressed and far more stable than those who are not kind, they tend to have more friends - real friends, have more opportunities avail themselves, see more potential and can actually have better health too. Whereas less kind people even business moguls are more dedicated to themselves at whatever cost, and forever put themselves in the "me, me, me," seat in life, even when it comes to giving it has to have a self kudos in their worthiness stakes. Of course kindness isn't financial in many cases it's a giving of your time, knowledge, experience, ability, just listening to those in distress, doing a deed, being thoughtful, helping someone, etc etc, it's the deed of thought and ability over and above self value, which at times goes against cold logic. It's putting yourself out without the "why should I" which many harbour and perpetually find themselves unhappy. There are consequences for the selfless things we do in life and the selfish things we do in life.

Kindness forms an easier pathway in life, people help kind people more than those who show no personal give or movement. And contrary to general thinking kindness is a strength as to not being taken advantage of whereas those staunch bastions of the self get caught out by greed and possibilities of getting something for nothing or free, which is usually a con. Companies are judged upon kindness what is perceived that they do as a value for clients as opposed to pay, pay, pay, service where greed is God and eventually the service is overtaken by competitors because of the absence of the value / kindness factor leaves clients feeling used. We attract around us people who reflect ourselves, so if the majority of our 'real' friends are greedy or mean then we are of that make up too, there are always exceptions but by and large our comfort factors are what makes us decide what's what often over logic unless vast amounts of finance are involved then circumstances play a part, but it still doesn't rest easy with us. Kindness is a choice, like everything we do and say, so it says a lot about us that kindness is inherent or it isn't. Kindness has positve benefits selfishness has negative attributes, you will know yourself which ones you mostly attract.

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FIGHTING IN THE MIND

Many people today are finding that it's becoming more difficult living in their own skin than actually living as a person in the society in which they reside. Our lives are speeding up and more and more people are seemingly swimming with the tide regardless of where it's flowing to. There seems a section of society that is almost out of touch with life and are robtically just living in the 'designer' lead forum listening to hyped disingenuous news, following worthless people, and cocooned in an aura of diatribe themselves, almost having abdicated self thought for that of the mass group thinking policy. It's true that life and the world is increasing in terms of evolutionary growth, where for many years it just trundled along at an almost sedentary pace, whereas now it's heating up the pot and we are as a race on planet earth trying to find a more comfortable position.

Global warming, emission controls, disingenuous trading in carbon, and governmental regulations will not affect planet earth as it will survive no matter what we do, after all it's been through worse times and come out shining. We as a race have only just been here a short while and are getting a little concerned about our well being, well not everyone, but most. Our minds are capable of much more than we allow them yet at the same time some areas of society rarely use their minds at all, and repressive countries have so indoctrinated their populous with "religious diatribe" that they are incapable of becoming stable both as a race of people and a country which houses such people, which is evident today. If our mental situation is flawed then there is little hope for society at large, tablets and shrinks aren't the answer to self control, they are the fall out default situation for the many that lose the plot not through medical conditions but a lack of their own self governance and ability.

Schools and educational establishments rarely teach anything pertaining to common sense, manners, communicational skills and wherever there is a smidgen of "political correctness" there is a definite fall in progress and an increase in instability. Fickle children taught by fickle teachers who have a list of "can't do can't say" more than "can do" and "can say" is but repressing children who find common sense is an area almost missing in their lives. And where mass immigration from illiterate or backward societies has in reality held back what once was an almost overwhelming increase in knowledge. Where celebrating diversity has eliminated a 'oneness' and people are feeling almost fragmented and disjointed and separated rather than feeling part of a unity, such are the pathetic brainless and narrow psychopaths that have illusion of life known only unto themselves and know nothing of life local or global yet dictate it to be taught on to others.

But even with those of an older nature and in their late 20's or 30's and indeed older their is a dearth of mental froughntness that they find life hard to comprehend and get to grips with. Where real free thinkers and those that have free thought are almost left out in the cold as the "zombies" that are left absorb the flotsam and jetsam of fabricated life and then wonder why everything is so difficult. Governments are adding to the national unhappiness factor as opposed to rectifying it because they too are of the populous zombie mentality and designer personal greed. Everyone wants to be smart, to make a difference but only if they are part of the picture themselves and receive appropriate kudos for it, such is their conditional philanthropic mentality. Governments are weak, they dare not throw down any gauntlets and so they reside forever in a cloud of PR Rhetoric and nothing more. The European Government are corrupt and have syphoned off £4bn in funds for their own enjoyment which they cannot account for and some sanction chauffeurs for their pets at the public expense.

Where the legal system in the UK was once a shining example of fair play, it's now just "play"  and is so out of touch and unfair and incredibly grossly expensive and slow which is how they like it as it's milking the system for the system itself. Where illegal immigrants get more money than pensioners, where victims are viewed as the cause for the aggressor who gets rights and better treatment. And where rights are given to those who take the rights of the everyday citizen away, if you go against society your rights should be automatically removed. Where many overseas countries don't even have a decent legal system, it's there just for show and for their own government to use at their discretion to lock up whom they like just because someone says something against them.

Mental health is linked to faith in society. Africa is totally corrupt the Middle East is totally corrupt and mentally unstable, Asia is emerging yet it has its corrupt "Nouveaux riches" governments. Pakistan is a hell hole and Godless society full of deceit and negativity and lovelessness as is Afghanistan and its poncy leader, and even in the USA where greed is now God at all costs as is paranoia about security. And Europe where many of the populous of the Eastern European states are littering the Western European jails. And failed European countries are where they are because of incompetent governments as opposed to conditional situations. There is no area of the world immune from it's own deceit and divisive ploys including China, Russia and South America too, where all is carried out by the few and endured by the many. Keeping ones mental solace is a prime function as that is what at the very end is going to keep one afloat and actually live through it all and come out shining, smiling and impervious the those who take it all in, panic and suffer.       

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THE MULTIPLICITY EFFECT

Decisions, decisions, decisions, should I do this or that, should I go here or there, should I stay in or go out, oh the choices of a single person, the choices that at times they have to wrestle with just to try and keep themselves occupied and do something to try and alleviate that feeling of boredom or stagnation or even reverting to laziness. Of course age plays a very influential part in what one does in life and the experience one has attained to date so those that haven't done much see everything as a feat of dexterity and those that have done a lot see it as an option. Couples see life as something different as they "should" be considering their relationship as "we" or "us" and if you don't you aren't a serious couple or there is a convenience built into the relationship over and above than supposedly common denominator love. Loveless relationships are forever growing hence they never last and when the real thing pops us it just proves that what you were going through wasn't up to much, and in fact you weren't up to much for kidding yourself that what you had was of value, it wasn't.

The Multiplicity effect is more of a status of today where original and free thought is more intermingled with ego, the self and how we appear to others. It's all interlaced with separating our minds between work which keeps us occupied and that free time we covet yet at times lavishly waste on doing nothing but thinking a lot about or worse still want others to think we are busy, occupied, having a great time, enjoying life when it's all quite the opposite. A lot of this life reposting goes on and it's not necessary as over time it literally clouds our thoughts and causes bouts of insecurity and aggravation and even sad or unhappy moments when internal reflection can't think of a solution as to how to change it all. The worst thing we can do and this is common too is to think we are smart and know more about living and life than others do, because with that statement in our thoughts we miss out terribly on companionship, even events that engage us and we lose the ability to "feel" life we just experience it from an intellectual point of view which then leaves us feeling cold and awaiting something else ahead to give us the boost we want. Many people even feel torn between wanting to be with someone for company but be on their own at the same time, and even get really phased out by making arrangements themselves preferring forever impromptu happenings as they then feel free, but sadly still empty within even if a moment has been filled.

Of course we are all different, but our feelings resonate just the same way, we have emotional needs some more than others but we still have them and if those are quashed or not fulfilled then we start to wander off course and hypothesise about everything around us which then we really start to "lose the plot". Often we have an "idea" of whom we are which is our version of whom we are and it could well be very near to that of how others perceive us, but from afar, and it's that "from afar" aspect that really makes a difference between us living with ourselves and our perception of life and us in it and those who like / love us for the bits they know, which is quite a different thing. Living a full life can be a myriad of different things to different people, just because one is exceptionally busy and gets around doesn't mean it's more fulfilling it just means one gets around and is exceptionally busy. The fulfilment aspect is very personal so everything needs to be viewed in perspective and it's all circumstantial too. Being honest with the self is paramount to one's enjoyment of life, even if at times it seems to be slow and dull, nothing is ebullient all the time, and our attitude and what's ahead of us makes a difference to our 'hope' factor as we can then plan or pre-plan where we are going to go as opposed to treading water and looking at a nothingness in front of us.

Life's harmony is all around, we choose to see what we want to see, and where some are oblivious of their surroundings and situations others are absorbing beauty and the vibes of what to them makes life worth living. Some cultures are "cultured" and educated into what is available whereas others are so wrapped up in themselves and taboos that they are predominantly insular and forever being subject to unhappiness and negative events that they attract. For every individual being yourself isn't a "smug statement", that is saying it and then worrying about not being able to carry it out, it's a harmony of the self that allows you to walk amongst the many and not be affected, few have this ability of oversight and feeling. Whatever it is many people can greatly improve their lives by letting go of the self constraints they at times wrestle with in order to try and keep their perceived status, sad because you lose yourself to conjecture and then nothing that remains is that good anymore.

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OUR SECRET BARRIERS

Many people never ever reach their full potential because of perceived thoughts, ideas and perceptions of other people. Logically it's all very pathetic as to why one should even remotely want to take up the thoughts of someone else especially those who have no connection or dependence upon you or you on them. Whether it's family, friends, colleagues, so called "smart people" who always get a version out on something that has glaring holes in their take on it but can never see them themselves. Or just perhaps it's even worse and the bottom of the pit in life is a version by the media itself, that's a 'no brainer' and if one has to resort to that as a reference then it's already goodbye to original and unbiased thought. One thing that no one else on planet earth can ever do is walk in your pathway nor think nor feel what is going in your mind even if they at times come close to it. So whatever they have as an idea which could well be accurate the nuances that make you and them different could make a world of difference to the final execution, delivery and success of what ever it is that you need to accomplish.

We are all different as people, we can have a brilliant mind yet be timid and fragile as a person or we can be the opposite and be as thick as two short planks but have guts and an overt determination to do whatever we feel, whether it's successful or not is another matter. What does make a difference to us going forward are factors that are crucial to the outcome of our desire and the result of same. Stability, love and clarity, for without these our inner equilibrium is forever flitting from one thing to another like bees collecting pollen from the flowers, and as we get older the esoteric nature we have become accustomed to starts to drag us down and then crankiness often takes a hold. Creative people are usually on the edge already but life circumstances whilst being enjoyed to the full in early life takes its toll later on.

Our barriers are just that, they can be numerous in variety or they can be few yet very stubborn to the fact that they hold us up time and time again sometimes overtly and sometimes directly within as we start to fear aspects of what we are doing and allow our minds to free fall into an abyss which cause untold consternation. Intelligence has no bearing upon common sense, and often people get sucked up into both an ideology of where and whom they are at a time in their lives, it gives them a purpose, sometimes blinkered yet they think they see through it - they don't - they see what they want to see, and everyone around them sees it but themselves. The difference between self esteem and arrogance can be minimal even though they come from different places, if not correctly honed and monitored the 'self' will allow either to be misconstrued and thus negate what the outcome should have been.

There are those in life that are only too willing to comment upon anything and everything with a logic so strong in their own mind that life at times is literally black and white, and they fail to understand why others can't see it that way. Such though which is often highly developed is a massive failure as it allows a disconnection with the emotions of society and personalities within it, mainly because emotions are treated as a logical feelings and not as personal effusive emotions pertinent to individuals, this has relationship conflicts too and spurns the 'happiness factor'. Whatever others think or feel is for them, what your views are are for you, rightly or otherwise, the word respect has an immediacy here and it's the art of getting along with others and ultimately ones ability to communicate with others at all levels.

Education and ability have strong points where determination comes into the fore, although not exclusively. Family backgrounds and culture also and at times sadly to a negative degree lowers ones abilities as do "religious" biases which are for the main the "kiss of death" as they are constructs of man and nothing to do with God. One only has to look at the predominant countries and their religions to see what the difference makes and their genuine contribution to society and the world, even though it's all far from perfect. Free societies grow, constrained societies and those that are historically corrupt remain in turmoil and usually with an underlying anger which is a self frustration about themselves and allows continued failure to be a prevalent feature.

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CORPORATE DISHONESTY

Corporate greed and dishonesty disguised under a number of whet and disingenuous areas is on the up and is almost reaching epidemic proportions. Where once you bought an airline ticket and arrived at the airport, checked in got on the flight and that was it. Today in many areas (depending upon your ticket and airline) you have a series of additional payments that it's akin to buying your ticket at a supermarket with dozens of add ons some almost at the last minute so that you have to purchase them otherwise the flight is invalid. (Unbundleling). It's almost extortion / daylight robbery or out and out blackmail. Similarly with websites that offer FREE DOWNLOAD but what's the big deal, Spam is free download too as are virus's. It's only when you have downloaded the information that endless pop up screens appear and that charges start to appear too or worse still those persistent screens that one can hardly shut down unless you have programmes that will effect such easily. Would you trust a company that has to rely on deceit to sell its products or put spy ware on to your hard drive in the process?

It's not too far from the self same thing with financial products also, where the opt out clauses are often longer than the contract itself, the small or hidden print running into pages with asterisks or itemised sub areas even further reducing compliance. Food manufacturers are notorious for downsizing or reducing content or even eliminating some ingredients. Where "special offers" are just that very special reduced sized product, or that supermarkets sell "economy sized" packs which are more expensive than the two smaller sizes together, which is common. Or the "value pack" is anything but. Where creative development in the kitchens have produced a specially crispy bubbly batter to coat their reduced size fish so that it looks the same, place it in larger boxes with enhanced outer pictures to give the impression that what's inside is bigger than it is, and thus the public are fooled into something that is more rather than less than it originally was. This is happening all the time. It's only the fastidious purchasers - fortunately for the manufacturer - that spots such thing.

Where bills suddenly show an increased cost or additional cost that has miraculously been added that was not warranted or previously included in the package. Then the hassle with Customer Services who seem out of it and are going to try and make you feel like it's all OK and this is now what's happening, and so the story goes on. Government legislation on the above areas is weak, it does catch up from time to time but corporate greed and deceit is as such that it's always one step ahead, like crime. Legislation is needed to protect the vast majority who have a right to know and not have to look at the weight or size of everything they buy each time they make a purchase. Where corporate greed almost puts the onus on the purchaser rather than themselves for substantially altering the contents but not saying a word.

The amount of insurances that have been sold that are basically worthless or contain clauses that are so tight that the slightest little thing negates the entire package rendering it a worthless document. The value businesses put on their clients is so thin it's having to be reiterated via PR companies in order to state their concern for their clients, yet if they were honest to start with none of that would be necessary. Life evolves, and costs go up something that no one is immune from regardless of ones self wealth, however the moral aspect as to increasing income is an art form where corporate greed and underhand deceit is concerned where banks are forever crying about their resources and finding more ways to charge more for giving less in return. Such are the 'special offers' they announce only to rescind them shortly afterwards hoping you won't notice and accept the lower and reduced terms. It's playing on human nature such are the depths to which just about all companies are plummeting and feeding on the detritus of life as a current source of potential. Professionalism it seems is in many industries a dying trade, where value is a temporary calculation and the physical and moral aspects are entities are almost something of a bygone era.

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SECOND GUESSING LIFE

We all like to get on in life, to think we are the masters of what we want to do and where to go etc, yet how many people let themselves down by trying to foresee events and situations and read the thoughts of others only to thwart their own plans for no other reason. We have around us even in our own families grumpy people, opinionated people and we can even have friends who are like that, it all stems out of both narrow mindedness and again that area called selfishness. The area that's "all about me" and if it isn' then I'm not going to be happy and what's more I'm going to tell everyone as well. It even happens in companies too, you can't do this or that or it will upset so and so, well, let it, what divine presence are they bestowed with that others aren't? Nothing what so ever it's all been created by themselves for themselves and the only reason it's gotten this far is that everyone has allowed it to happen. Like political correctness, it doesn't exist in law it's only the pathetic that find it's a place to hide and try and gain some kudos, whereas it makes everyone look small and insular.

Schools should teach people to make their own way in life far better than they do, it's great to learn about writing, reading and maths, plus all the other life skills and knowledgeable areas, but if we are frightened to do anything it's all come to nothing in the end and produces a whole array of negative areas and psychological events that after a while subliminally affect us, sometimes to great detriment. It can affect our own self esteem and our ability to not do as well as we could do, especially at the impressionable ages. The classic scenario of this was the black migration from Chicago to New York and vice versa years ago where many black families prayed upon their own children for doing well, as if it made the children seem better and the families not as good, so the children had to leave to be free. And whilst it worked well, in as much as the children did well it's definitely not an ideal start in life having to leave home or your own town or city just to get on. Being able to fight back, metaphorically can be am amazing and liberating experience, and once and for all put those 'cloth heads' who impose a self status of grandeur (or inferiority with ego) back into the sorry state they deserve to dwell in or perhaps see the light themselves and become anew at their enlightened knowledge.

Too few people have the self ability to challenge and that applies to management in companies too to equalise the status quo and give respect back to everyone, and not allow some to reside with a self devised pomp and stature which is definitely not deserved nor has any credence or credential. It used to be that many Asian families has demarcation lines and endless duties and "things" that couldn't be said or done otherwise someone somewhere would get upset and start to perform an anger ritual of gross selfishness and endless winging, it still exists but less now. Of course if someone imposes whether it's within the family or work or even with strangers an autonomy of grandeur then it's a mixture of abject selfishness and a lack of self esteem, and it's very easy to eradicate it, because once such people are toppled they are but putty in your hand, worthless entities and shown up for what and who they are and have then absolutely nothing to substantiate themselves anymore.

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OVERCOME - IT'S ALL POSSIBLE

There is many an obstacle that comes our way in life, even when things are going swimmingly well, sometimes out of the blue we get caught up in something that jarrs or is discordant. Whether it's financial, medical, plans getting thwarted or others not complying with what we want it happens and no one is immune from it. How we view life is the difference between success and failure, how we deal with it all and internally digest it makes the difference between struggling and having a negative view point and overcoming it all and enjoying life regardless. There are two camps of thought, those that make excuses as a point of conjecture and stand by negativity as if it's a statement and thus get drawn into it and react accordingly making a meal out of it. And then there are those that accept what has happened even if reluctantly but get on with what is important in their life, placing it and what they do above the problems and not letting the problem take over, which makes a drastic difference to everything around them including their attitude to life and their perception.

It's not rocket science to realise that the positive mined souls see life for what it is and therefore see the good and great even if the dull and not so good creeps in, they also see opportunities which lie there awaiting discovery. Whilst the negative only see what they have created and thus perpetually miss out and get most of the time shunted into a siding in life from where they moan and groan and gloat at others seemingly doing better and start to concoct the "it's not fair" attitude which of course they have also created. Creating your own reality is what we do, there are facts and figures that surround us that we have either no or little control over, especially global circumstances in all areas, but what we have full control over is ourselves at all times. If we abdicate this responsibility of taking ownership of life then we are at the mercy of 'anything goes' and life will literally drag us where it's going which may not be where we want to go - and usually isn't.  

Being idealistic in life has its consequencies as it's usually mixed up with how we would like life to be and if the two are not concordent we can see life as a bit of a failure, which it isn't or we could see life as something that we have to wrestle with and that can be a mental feat of dexterity and can get us down big time. Being realistic is the better option, it's not being blunt and a matter of fact, what it does do is to allow us to move more freely and creativily and positively and have less upsets as there are no false pararameters nor areas that are hollow and full of void making scenarios. We are all "overcomers", as a race we have endured centuries over and above everything else and triumphed, created, devised, discovered, etc, and made mostly a life better than its ever been, even though we tend to grumble some endlessly and others when they feel the need to express what they feel helpless about.

Good things do come in more abundance to good people, good people like helping good people, nobody likes helping the helpless (by choice - not the unfortunate) and nobody likes helping the bad and unruley and badmouthed people as they see nothing in their future so prefer to help those that will excell with just a little help, no matter what it is. Everyone has the ability to overcome, to make the grade, the raise their bar, to elevate their life, in fact to higher whatever it is for themselves. Comparing isn't a wise move, to each his or her own, whatever your level of proficiency and comfort zone, provided you stretch and break free then life will accept the fact that you have overcome elements of life and the more you push the more it will return the rewards of your endeavours.

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©John Rushton / The Life Alchemist 2012

WHEN IT REALLY DOESN'T MATTER

The saying 'a little learning is a dangerous thing' can be for some almost fatal. Biologically we have almost identical systems but literally how it's wired and how it performs can vary enormously. Like identical computers what we load it with is akin to what we want out of it and how we are to use it. Those that have a quest for knowledge are more aptly devised to process efficiently all the intake of information they receive. Those of a lesser state of development which happens to be the majority of people take in bouts of knowledge and don't efficiently process it, nor do they have the capacity to see the "bigger picture" and thus go off on a tangent of their own making and then wonder why life isn't what it should be or it isn't fair. The media delve into others lives, people's state of affairs, often really dull and boring stuff and it's picked up usually by dull and boring people as they have little else to do in their introverted thought processes.  None of the information having any bearing upon whoever reads it and thus is immaterial to their lives. No one is indispensable, if the Heads of State in  all Europe and the USA died over night, life would still carry on the following day, they would be history within a week as the new incumbents would be the flavour of the day and being live have more to offer than a corpse who has no further use. Respect for the dead is something that doesn't exist, it means nothing, no matter what you felt of them either personally or with regards their imprint on humanity, which few have, it's just a mind thought, admiration can live on respecting the dead is hollow.

The number one person in your life is you, it has to be you, you have to be the centre of your universe and not some alien atom floating around the nucleus of another being or life. It's not being selfish nor self centred, if you can't do something for yourself then no one else can either. Once you are "at one" with yourself then you have the perfect ability to do whatever you want and help others you deem are significant in your life. Your whole "love walk" the co-existing element in humanity thrives on you being able and secure in whom you are, for without either you dither and procrastinate and have little to offer anyone as ones existence become a trudging concept that overrules all the fun, the enjoyment, the grace, the enhancement and creativity that is out there awaiting you. The global state of mental health that Western countries are facing is all bound in others being too nosey into others lives, it's not a healthy caring scenario, it's almost of voyeuristic proportions and linked to the self, which is a self poison which doesn't rest well and produces negativity, stress, anxiety and daub. However, we have choices in what we do and say, whom we look up to and who we possibly despise like despots and the Islamic suicide bombers, who seem to be forever growing such is their religious instability.

To clear the mind of extraneous garbage one must have a self focus and subliminally have a list of importance placed upon each, not a cheap second hand thrill but a real purpose for what one deems are relevant to life for if this is not in evidence then much of the self thought is superfluous and without merit and over burdensome to what one thinks and feels about. Our attitude is paramount to how we live our lives and enjoy life, if we are overruled by negative emotions such as ego, anger, greed, pride, arrogance, etc, then whatever is ahead of us will always be second best no matter what it is. We will not see clearly because of the self created fog thus we cocoon ourselves in a diatribe of high pent up negativity and stress and badness. Where the love walk doesn't exist our minds focus on what others have negating what we can do to improve our lot. Where love meets consciousness on a higher level the resultant is all seeing and all knowing to a degree that one is more secure and easily ready to understand what was previously not understandable, it's a freeing of the mind and soul without any negative feedback nor inner acquiescing to any other state that may be circling around us. 

If we only held on to what is important, whatever that is to each and every one of us how much lighter life would be. Reciting the bad news spewed out by the television and radio does nothing to promote ourselves especially when over 95% of it is beyond our control or ability to change. Being informed is one thing, harbouring such thoughts as a means of trying to be 'smart' or up to date in conversation speaks of a low mentality and one which will suffer the penalty of negativity. Negativity in any guise forms an automatic lowness which eventually permeates every fibre of our system, it has to as if we feed ourselves garbage it has to go somewhere. Good thoughts always uplift, it's no option because goodness is by definition uplifting and where such upliftment occurs so does a calmer and more sedate and understanding mind. If you've tried being a know all stop it and reside on a need to know basis, allow what can't be changed or you have no control over to be as they are or stories about others who you will never meet or see or have any connection with float on by. They are not number one, you are.

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