TOUCHING A NERVE

Even the most hardy types have somewhere deep within themselves a "touchy spot" where they don't like to venture too far or discuss whatever it is. It's not that it brings us down or into a perplexed state it's just that it tends to have a short cut towards making us feel slightly uneasy and maybe recalls something of our past or attributes that we would rather dismiss than dwell upon. But it is these areas within and those of others that can be our 'best friend' when it comes to debate or to finding the truth within others as such areas of 'sensitivity' manifest themselves in the answers or questions we putt out. We can see almost daily politicians being "economical" with the truth, skimming over areas, lightly defining others, delving into stuff which is safe fodder, highlighting topics yet to be put into practise, all to make political rhetoric that's slightly disingenuous not necessarily a pack of lies but avoiding the real 'nitty gritty'. The media is exactly the same, highlighting negative potential as if whatever has happened could be a new plague or vast devastation whereas it's all nothing of the sort. It's playing with our emotions it's a skill but it's also the fact of someone weak and not able to speak stuff as it were.

Everything today has a 'touch of spin' to it, the banks have of recent date been the biggest corporate deceivers causing global unrest and harm to millions of people by their underhanded deals, where pure greed has overtaken the pawns of the population in their own personal desire for more, leaving many in the wake bereft of a living and and financial support or income. Where much of health care is financially based where if you have a credit card 'we'll save your life' if not, next. Within every household there are skeletons and areas where we just don't touch or talk about, it's inevitable as a race we make mistakes some silly, some stupid, some out of ignorance and some out of desperation, life is full of such things. Touching a nerve is part of whom we are as a race of people our own sensitivities lies ahead of us not in the past, if we are ashamed or embarrassed or unnerved about incidents or situations we shouldn't be, it's easier said than done, but our whole life is literally ahead of us and we are not predominantly what we were , we are a product of now.

Honesty that rare commodity even in religious circles is often so biased and convoluted that what is said actually becomes a stance of personal conjecture rather than what it should be as an open and factual statement not some laundered speak which is why many people lose credibility. Credibility gaps are at an all time low as conversations seem to be "designer driven" which often eliminates both honesty and sincerity and few have the guts, charisma, metal, verve and ability to say what they think, which doesn't mean being rude either. Communicating with others is more than an art it's a necessity and if we are to enjoy the fullness of life both within our families and friends and not harbour ill feeling, resentment, fear, bottled up or pen up emotions then we should get it out in the open and have done with it. Of course that basic of basics love should be firmly in place for that can withstand everything it's when we apportion our version - conditional love - that it all starts to fall apart, then we wonder why, STOP WONDERING you've just created the base for negativity yourself. And if you really think something shouldn't be said then don't say it, but be at peace with that thought and let it lie dormant, not as a perpetual mind thought that keeps churning within.

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KINDNESS

We all like to think that we are kind at least to some extent and quickly judge others who we see as "not so kind" but not necessarily mean either. Meanness falls into a category all of its own as it has both deep inner meanings and thoughts as well as exterior repercussions.

The dictionary definition of kindness is :-
"Kindness is the act or the state of being kind, being marked by good and charitable behaviour, pleasant disposition, and concern for others. It is known as a virtue, and recognised as a value in many cultures and religions."
And it further states as an addendum :-
Analysts warn that 'real kindness changes people in the doing of it, often in unpredictable ways. Real kindness is an exchange with essentially unpredictable consequences'.

Kindness is good in every area even if it's not received as such that's not important and if we get upset because what we thought was an act of kindness on our part and it was almost thrown back in our face, then it's still an act of kindness and we should be uplifted accordingly. If we expect a fanfare of gratitude than it says even more about us than the ungrateful who didn't acknowledge the deed of kindness, even though it's nice and the humanitarian aspects of receipt of acknowledgement are always nice to receive. At times we can do kind deeds that have far reaching positive consequences yet know nothing about what our deed has done to many people in their plight of one sort or another.

Most people who are kind have certain traits within, it's not being philanthropic as that's something that is done because it can be done but on a different scale and has different values even if the deed of philanthropy is awesome, as it can be. Many elderly people with wealth often find that they need to "at last" do something meaningful with their accumulated finances and thankfully it is usually put to very good use. But there is a difference as philanthropists can also be mean and not very kind as their inner ideal has been to both view and account for their deeds and often feel the need to see in others in such a light of worthiness based upon their perceptions and feelings. People tend to be predominantly "kind" as people although there are those who just have the odd kind thought or deed now and again but it's usually based on something contrived with them being in the loop or that they know they are going to get very positive and effusive feedback which ups their ego and self esteem etc.

Kind people are usually less judgemental, less abrasive, more understanding, have a better global vision about the bigger picture, are more humble, creative, less stressed and far more stable than those who are not kind, they tend to have more friends - real friends, have more opportunities avail themselves, see more potential and can actually have better health too. Whereas less kind people even business moguls are more dedicated to themselves at whatever cost, and forever put themselves in the "me, me, me," seat in life, even when it comes to giving it has to have a self kudos in their worthiness stakes. Of course kindness isn't financial in many cases it's a giving of your time, knowledge, experience, ability, just listening to those in distress, doing a deed, being thoughtful, helping someone, etc etc, it's the deed of thought and ability over and above self value, which at times goes against cold logic. It's putting yourself out without the "why should I" which many harbour and perpetually find themselves unhappy. There are consequences for the selfless things we do in life and the selfish things we do in life.

Kindness forms an easier pathway in life, people help kind people more than those who show no personal give or movement. And contrary to general thinking kindness is a strength as to not being taken advantage of whereas those staunch bastions of the self get caught out by greed and possibilities of getting something for nothing or free, which is usually a con. Companies are judged upon kindness what is perceived that they do as a value for clients as opposed to pay, pay, pay, service where greed is God and eventually the service is overtaken by competitors because of the absence of the value / kindness factor leaves clients feeling used. We attract around us people who reflect ourselves, so if the majority of our 'real' friends are greedy or mean then we are of that make up too, there are always exceptions but by and large our comfort factors are what makes us decide what's what often over logic unless vast amounts of finance are involved then circumstances play a part, but it still doesn't rest easy with us. Kindness is a choice, like everything we do and say, so it says a lot about us that kindness is inherent or it isn't. Kindness has positve benefits selfishness has negative attributes, you will know yourself which ones you mostly attract.

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