THE AGE OF GREED AND DECEPTION

Our life, our world, our environment etc is in a constant state of flux, forever changing and often by forces outside of our control. Much of our everyday life we have some degree of ability to change the rest we must steer our own ship the best way we can to overcome and bypass the obstacles that seem to evade our radar and loom large right in front of us all of a sudden causing us to wobble a little. The good news is that we are in reality quite resilient people despite the setbacks and despite the consternation and sleepless nights we do overcome and we live to tell the story. Another day dawns and history is just that a memory of yesterday for tomorrow is where we are forever moving towards.

The commercial world is similarly going through a turmoil of its own, however in this case it's not world conditions or "Acts of God" or catastrophes these conditions are well and truly man made. Created by the deceit and greed of a 'few' in order to supply their need at the expense of others who have basically "trusted" the few to honor a commitment to uphold their hard earned funds. What banking was was a "gentleman's profession" has indeed turned out to be a triumvirate of divisive cohorts comprising of financial, legal and marketing professions scraping through the corridors of 'barely legal' in order to extract monies from gullible clients. However it doesn't stop there, American companies lead the way to greed and subterfuge followed very closely by the rest of the world. Spam, free downloads, unbundling, etc, are on the increase with no morals nor compunction for the punter caught in the middle. Where once when you bought something that was it, today what you buy is the start of a seemingly endless "ad hock" "designer version" so to make it what you really need you have to buy endless "add ons" all at a cost of raising the price for as many others as possible in the process getting a cut of your cash.

 The levels of trust and peace of mind are getting out of hand, subliminal unease is starting to percolate through society even to the point of not trusting your local authority as the well being of the community seems to be governed by a few who have stilted and narrow views and often appear to do what they want as opposed to what is expedient to all. Internet sites run "Lite" products yet boast of fabulous facilities and the moment you click on the site you are "Bombarded" with endless "Upgrade" popups, it's all a "sprat to catch a mackerel".  Yes people are entitled to make money and yes life has a cost value too, but it has gotten to the point where value and trust are secondary components, with lack of humanity that is in evidence rather than the quality of the product. There's much talk about the "experience factor" but that "Experience factor" varies from that which emanates from the seller to that which is experienced by the buyer and in many cases it's a disappointment in that what you thought you were getting now costs five times more and you not only don't want to pay the extra or possibly can't afford to but you have lost interest in it too. Result gross disappointment. Commerce isn't what it used to be - by and large, especially in companies that train operatives to try and stop you going any further with your problems or claims etc. Deceit attracts deceit.

How we go through life is largely down to ourselves, so we have to put a brave face on every day so as not to fall into a downward spiral which for some is unfortunately all too easy. Holding on to negativity isn't a solution, despite what happens We need to respect ourselves and if we don't like something then either vote differently or go elsewhere, it does work eventually as you will not be alone even if you think it's only happening to you - it's not. Societies have been toppled of recent date, companies brought to their knees, situations changed dramatically, but only you can make a difference to your standing, or not as you may think "why should I" and their lies your true value to yourself.

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
RADIO : www.liferadiointernational.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
(These blogs are read in over 120 countries, if you like what you read please re-send them to others),

 

 

SPACIALITY AND GRATEFULNESS

We all possess to a degree an understanding, usually of a subliminal nature of "spacial awareness" and also of "being grateful" and whilst both may not seem to be related to each other they most definitely are. We more often than not like to see logic at work so without too much thought we can link A and B and come to some type of conclusion within our mind as to "why" or whether or not what we have assessed is of any importance to us. But in the "bigger picture" all these little aspects of whom we are do play a part in our roles in life as well as manifest themselves in our character. These traits in turn are usually made use of by marketing companies and the like in order to either give a better product / service or tailor make their current service to entice new and keep established customers. Similar traits can be manifestly different from many different peoples from different parts of the world, and what works in one country doesn't necessarily work in another, even mentalities change at certain levels too as does the general 'nonchalance' of living. That is for example what a businessman in Africa, Japan, UK, USA, South America, India, Middle East, etc, would do in an identical situation in another country, and it can be quite different in how and why they execute what they do and watching their body language and coherence to their "temporary environment" makes. The more "gratitude" we have within us the happier and more contented we become, and it allows us thus to "see" what needs to be done as to constantly striving to make things better which is predominantly a figment of our thoughts in relation to a potential that's "off course".

Of course we must never lose sight of the fact that we are all different and some people are more easy at travelling than others, never the less characters often reflect the country from whence they came and that brings with it a degree of "spacial presence" which can be identified as to even down to literally how people sit in a row of seats and how much space they take up (given like for like). Some people are predominantly aware of others whilst some seemingly are oblivious and some to the point they 'see' little of anything else until it almost hits them in the face. And whilst this may seem - to many people - superfluous it can have a big effect on how we "like" someone or even want to do business with them, and how our product is tailor made or how it's received etc. Similarly "attitude" plays a significant part of how we encompass life and how we enjoy it, and it usually goes hand in hand with our "spacial understanding" of it. Some people appear mean not because they necessarily are but just because they don't "think" of other people in their thought process, kindnesses or being thoughtful never or rarely crosses their minds and thus they form a certain "cold etiquette" towards others perceptions and feelings, all of which has an effect, an effect which in some circumstances could well negate themselves from what they seek. Moving further on taking such characteristics further the degree of gratefulness that they have within also manifests itself on their ability to interact, be observant, be understanding, be cooperative, be responsive, be pro-active, etc, and these again define a person further.

As simple as we think things are and the ease at which we think we can pin point others traits and  aptitudes is in reality not as easy as just looking and seeing what corresponds to 'our way' and if they don't basically correspond then they are less of a person or not "our type". We actively 'select' what fits in best with ourselves that's why being positive is so important, as generally 'like attracts like'. Mentality is important too and so is the "spacial awareness" of those around us for if they veer off too much from what we see and do and like, we definitely see them as 'not acceptable' to whom we are and our plans and way of life. This can as be seen as prejudice or classed as some other kind of "ist" which there are many, but in reality it is natural to get what most suits the position in many areas such as attitude, as a bad attitude or lacking in 'spacial aptitudes' can negate excellent qualifications and the position can be rendered useless accordingly. It's how we judge our friends and it's also mixed with emotions too which either enhance or clouds our judgement. It's all so complex and yet so simple because in a flash we can usually 'see' who is good or not regardless of their ability in most cases, it's when we become too technical and apply enforced structures that life takes a turn for the worst.

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
RADIO : www.liferadiointernational.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
(These blogs are read in over 120 countries, if you like what you read please re-send them to others),

WHEN IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE

 Much of life is based upon perspectives, ideology, circumstances and situations, and that as we all know can differ radically not only from country to country but from person to person. We often ponder and wonder why someone did this or that or what possessed the government to do this or that because the consequences of such have drastically backfired, etc. We listen to politicians on television and at times with amazement wondering if they are on drugs or perhaps need to be or even are they of this planet, it's often that groups of people change their opinions when engaged in different strata's of life. We hear architects waxing lyrically about buildings with sweeping lines and wooden facades that will age with time and blend in, yet all we see is a clinical cold object with unkempt  faded cladding that appears neglected cold isolated and without any warmth that is an ideal medium to cause repressive thoughts and a home to vandalism and graffiti. We hear local government talk of multi-culturism, yet all we see are swathes of foreigners in enclaves that are the new ghettos and where everyone else keeps away even commerce so it houses alien cultural abnormalities and inbred dysfunctionality and gross isolation and then becomes run down and violence, drugs, poverty, crime and social inability creeps in and then they wonder why it's all happened. A slum run by social services and then that's the beginning of the end if not the end already, designer built problems from lax attitudes, stupid and weak minds.

A lot of life is way beyond what we have any control over, not that we need to give up or admonish ourselves of any responsibility nor keep our opinions to ourselves. Never end up like some politically correct idiot that tries to stymie conversation as opposed to allowing free thought, if others get upset, so be it, it's for them to get over it. Often why people get upset is that the truth hurts so they never actually talk about it themselves or they are by nature inferior and seek compassion by taking sides, it never works, they all eventually die lonely. We don't have to make sense of a great deal in life for we do not have to engage with others ideals, morals, perceptions etc, as long as we keep ourselves in tow and others similarly then the sum of the greater usually wins the day, and fortunately most people adhere to a commonality of good. Logic is a good baseline in life, often people action deeds based on temporary emotions then realise afterwards how pathetic they were at the time but then it's too late. Great statesmen can "see" the difference and utilise appropriate rhetoric to put their points across most people don't have that ability, similarly many politicians don't either unfortunately. There is however a case for tempering logic with emotional tack, as logic often is cold and at times ruthless and whilst on paper it may all work well in reality the physicality of actions often flounder because the humanitarian traits are not taken into account.

We need to understand where our thoughts come from that they are accurate and not just something thrown together based upon biased news from the media or a viral video on YouTube. We need to focus aptly upon ourselves to make sure that we are OK not selfishly but accurately and that our lives are important and not the hub of some plan organised by the government or other heartless body. If it doesn't make sense then you have two options it either isn't accurate or you can't grasp what the bigger picture is all about, and it maybe that you don't understand either. The worst thing you can do however is to make an opinion up just for the sake of it because that will stick with you. If you don't know or prefer not to say then so be it, there's no one who can force you only yourself or your lack of self esteem that makes you feel a lesser person and that should never happen. You are totally entitled to be who you are, even if you are wrong, no one is right all the time ever. If you can't make sense of anything either seek "expert" help / opinion, or move on, but don't deliberate on ignorance as that will throw you into a scenario that clouds both your life and your whole integrity.

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
RADIO : www.liferadiointernational.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
 (These blogs are read in over 120 countries, if you like what you read please re-send them to others),

GETTING CONNECTED

There's a lot written about networking, 6 degrees of separation, who you know, etc, it's the "in thing" today to give everyone instant success. Just read a book, go to a network meeting, join a Business site (and they are popping up like the plague), and the rest will happen naturally. We will meet whoever it is that we need and that "Knight in Shining Armour" will say "You are just the person I've been looking for" and from there onwards it's all history. It's really that simple isn't it, that proverbial person 'out there' just waiting to meet up with us, the answer to why we can't do it alone, that conduit to greatness just a meeting away. Anyway, I must stop dreaming and come back to reality and look coldly at the real people I seem to meet at 'networking events'. No matter who we are and what we do we need people in the chain of life for without them nothing much happens. However what we seek from others, others may seek from us, and that's where in many cases the whole theory of networking no matter what guise it goes under 6 Degrees or whatever comes tumbling down. It doesn't matter what targeted audience one has it's all down to the individual and who they are as people or a person, what their hidden agenda is or what their motives are and how as an individual their characters are.

From the many networking meetings I been to all over the world I've come across the same people, mean, selfish, greedy, insincere, 'wannabies', often quite nice to talk to, but wanting to take but not give, if you can't help me I'm not going to help you, insipid and dull people, those seeking clues about how you do what you do but don't give anything of themselves, those wanting your contacts for themselves but still offer nothing of themselves and so it goes on. And I have to say I have met some fantastic nay fabulous contacts, but like mining diamonds you need to shift hundreds of tons of earth miles below the surface to even get near to the possibility of getting one. I write about the "gatekeepers" in life and those that hold back and retard others but here I must be honest and say I fall fowl of that very same thing and act as a gatekeeper myself, and this is where the 6 Degrees falls short. I do pride myself that if I can help some one I will, no reciprocation necessary, I have been helped tremendously all over the planet by people who have asked nothing of me but just wanted to help me because they could, and I like to follow that line of thought too, and do so to the best of my ability. I like to think that I am cool and level headed and have been through some dire situations been kidnapped, shot at, been on my own in deserts and jungles and still been able to smile and come through each event. But for some reason there are certain types of people at networking events that really raise my blood pressure. And yes I realise it could just be me that finds such events the way they are but it's all very real and at times not only frustrating but a wasted event, coming home with dozens of business cards I never look through ever again.

The human being is such a simple yet complex creature and those seeking are often those who are the most needy and thus formulate an agenda that overtakes their humanitarian instincts and clouds their judgement and that camaraderie of mind, body and soul. The warmth they have is on elastic and whilst openly looks and feels sincere the moment you turn your head it flies back as you are of no use to them. It's not that you can always reciprocate help to those that give you saged advice or knowledge as they may not need what you have got, but it's a matter of instant trust and feel, and if you just don't like someone for whatever reason the chances are you are not going to help them or give them your contact to your best friend or long established business contact that they need because it doesn't rest well within. One thing for sure is that if we don't give we are not going to receive, it will all eventually peter out and we will become so used to being smug that we will live in a concocted world of our own making. To be successful we need others as they need us, we can't be successful just on our own it takes others to both implement what we do and eventually buy our products or services. Our attitude is everything it is our "shop window" to successful contacts and conduits and breaking barriers and getting past the "gatekeepers", but unfortunately for many it's tainted too much about the 'self' and at that point everyone loses interest.      

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
RADIO : www.liferadiointernational.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
 (These blogs are read in over 120 countries, if you like what you read please re-send them to others),

HATE AND PERFECTION

More than ever today the young are put under pressure to conform, all the hollow talk of allowing them to being individuals is rubbish as once they start to differ from the 'norm' they are soon reprimanded because the "parents" or "social class" feels threatened and frightened and have doubts themselves, not to mention are at times totally ignorant about the whole scenario. Parents can be the best thing for any young person or they can be the worse thing ever and cause their children untold stress anxiety and a repressive early life especially the very religiously evil parents that want their children to do what they want and not how they develop naturally themselves. The dichotomy and plurality of many areas within the authoritarian confines of life speak from safe havens expressing individuality yet at the same time want everyone to be the same because you can't control individuality so that side of the the conversation is purely smart talk, the reality of individuality does scares them to bits. Individuality is about to a large extent going against the grain, it's how progress is made, it's how we break through barriers, it's what separates the 'men from the boys' it is what spear heads evolution as opposed to the fuddy duddies who believe they are the stalwarts of society yet are are pure gatekeepers and repressors by default.

From many an "internal" perspective it's always alright for "others" to be different to be "individually creative" but for those in your family or around that self same trait is defined as "weird" or "being confrontational" or "what's matter with them" such is the narrowness of many. It's ignorance and in many cases families that lack education and outward intelligence that fear the most and thus often ridicule those brighter than themselves. It tends to be these areas and educationally lacking that are the stalwarts of racism, sexism, religious zealots, etc, often it's those in the supposedly antagonised groups themselves that can cause more of a problem via their own attitude than those outside observing, as most people just don't care, get on with your life, let me live mine. And of course the old favourite 'attitude' rears its head, bad attitudes ALWAYS create dissent no matter who or what you are.

Hatred and jealousy, ego, arrogance, etc, stem predominantly from those who reside in areas of negativity, it's not that others don't possess such traits but they have other options too like getting a life and not just watching others have one. Everything we do or say is a manifestation of whom we are, we have to be "aware" of whom we are and how society is in order to proficiently go forward. If we have either an "attitude" problem or a bad perception of what life is like we will be that person by default that has little or no self esteem, and many people who have problems with various social groups are usually bad communicators in every way. Not only can they not communicate efficiently, i.e. say clearly what they want in a manner that others find acceptable, but the use of words and bad language automatically puts others off and puts then on a course of uneasiness, and that's failure by default. Bad communication is usually a family trait, not always but often, so if the child has no real drive within they follow suite and pick up all the bad habits, attitudes, feelings, underdog feelings, which is a shame for many only need a small spark of encouragement to excel in areas they had never dreamt off or more to the point dare not dream of.

Perfection doesn't exist but that's not important as most wouldn't recognise it anyway, the 75% rule exists for most where anything above makes a disproportionate difference to the value of the product and greatly increases the cost too. Society gets on well with less than perfection and to some extent substandard and even  shoddy, it finds its levels and we find ours. Costs don''t necessarily define a product as a "designer" dress can cost literally a few pounds or dollars to make yet be sold for thousands, again it finds its market. It's what we do with our lives that gives it value and unfortunately some people are not brought up with any personal value otherwise they would be better than they are in every respect. Our society teaches less of values in education today so that even technically brilliant people become introverted zombies because they live two lives. That of an intellectual (and they can be the biggest nerds on the planet full of idealistic theory and no substance) and then a life of trying to enjoy both whom they are and all that can enhance it, and neither at times works to any advantage.

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
RADIO : www.liferadiointernational.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
  (These blogs are read in over 120 countries, if you like what you read please re-send them to others)

HAVING AN AFFAIR

The last time I wrote something on the topic "Affairs" I had the highest number of blog hits ever and still it's getting read and still I get correspondence from it. The many years I've been travelling around the world in my professional capacity I have been got at / approached / boldly faced / cornered / set up / asked out to dinner /enticed to pool parties / weekend homes / enticed into situations or just a corner where people have to tell me about the affair they have had or the "fling" that they have had. It weights so heavily that they go to great lengths to want to tell all and at times it's all on for them to stop them telling me the whole gory details, and yes some actually have DVD's of the whole thing too. It was almost a "Father Confessor" role by default which one shudders at. And with modern technology imagination is left uncompromised it's there in all its glory, although it's something I don't need to see to be conversant with what's just happened or indeed still going on. The trails on mobile devises are the foods Divorce Lawyers or newspapers feed upon.  Many people are quite reticent about discussing their story and details but feel that for their sake they just must tell someone otherwise it's too much to bear to live with for the rest of their lives. The bottom line is that over 90% of people who have had an affair have deeply regretted it, and still years after have within them guilt that they either can't shift or just frightened that they will blurt out something pertaining to it and ruin what they have got. I still have thoughts to this day from certain prominent people that "I wish they hadn't told me that", but they did such is their desire to 'cleanse' themselves of the endless thoughts about it all.

There are cultures and ethnic groups that are known for having affairs but then it tells on their culture that it never actually gets very far because of it. Society has "moral values" and regardless of what ones personal opinions are on that subject, it generally makes a great deal of difference when it comes to family life, trust, respect, education, perception by other people and the future generations that have little self esteem as there was none or little in the home life. When that breaks down crime rises in all areas. The biggest trust bond that people ever make as a rule is that when they have a committed relationship, not the one where you just shack up together because you like each other, the sex is great and it's convenient - for a while. It's the committed relationship whereby you love your partner so much you want to spend the rest of your life with him / her regardless of your job or current circumstances. Anything less always leads to less hence many people in the media are born failures where relationships are concerned.

Most affairs start because they can, we are always going to meet someone somewhere at some point in some situation in our lives that's going to raise a sparkle and renew who we were or bring out what was either dormant or possibly thought lost. The heart starts to beat like no tomorrow and the adrenalin and everything else just elevates the whole sensual system in the body including the mind that ones outlook is taken beyond the present to something more palatable even if it's all transient and ends up quite the opposite. Affairs are not just the confines of sluts, lonely people of a certain age or loose morals, they can happen to anyone anytime, even the most sedate person has feelings and at times our whole mind structure is in need of 'something' to enhance from what is to what should be as the self seems almost oblivious of how to affect such a change. Affairs are deceitful there's no getting away from it, it's often not pre-meditated nor is it engineered other than locating a base for the liaison and at times it's not even the sexual conclusion that's the bit that causes the excitement it's actually meeting someone in an almost clandestine way and being able to communicate and importantly laugh which is just so therapeutic. Most affairs start when laughter is no longer an aspect of life, it doesn't mean that love has flown out of the window but real laughter and a sharing of each other has become robotic and that's when those inner stirrings start to rise often subliminally. However you may be the actual cause yourself of your own affair and as to why this situation has arisen so don't jump to conclusions and immediately blame your partner.

We all know the consequences of what an affair can do even if we have never entertained that aspect of life ourselves. Some get over it, some never get over it and some just go on endlessly like headless chickens wandering aimlessly thinking about that 'other' person out there who is better than the current one. Completely selfishly orientated and never able to give of them selves, always holding back for something better which never materialises. But in our world of "all about me" there is no such thing as "they / he / she made me do it", you did it via your own thought process, and there is no back up to justify it whatsoever (if you don't like the relationship get out of it). There are no counsellors, coaches, shrinks or whatever that will properly justify your action to make you feel better. Whatever you have done you have done on your own, the first touch, the first kiss the first moment of sex it was you who did it no one else did it on your behalf. Unless you make a habit of gross infidelity - and some do - then if you don't face up to it you will forever reap the rearing of unsavoury after effects by always being on your guard and it will show when you are nervous or with other people. Your life is in your hands, your partner failures are your judgement not theirs, if you have endless failures YOU are the common denominator in every one no one else. Always looking for something better will guarantee that you'll always be on the edge in life and as soon as the shine starts to dull, that will be your Achilles heal.
(Part 2 to follow - soon)....

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
RADIO : www.liferadiointernational.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
(These blogs are read in over 120 countries, if you like what you read please re-send them to others)

BEING BITCHY & SCEPTICAL

It seems almost de regeur today to post some bitchy remark or be super sceptical about a situation or an emotional event, it attracts people like bees to a honey pot, it attracts more bitchy and sceptical people in greater proportion than just about anything else. Each person almost racing to add their ten cents worth of personal comment to bolster what has already gone before them and with an air of personal smugness as if to say "it happened to me" - which it may well have done. But what it goes to show is that whatever happened to the person who has commented is still alive and kicking and despite their phraseology and false smiles they are a part of their own problem and want to keep it alive to see if they can get some recompense in doing so. They won't and in fact the fact that they have just commented goes to show that all is not well in their overall ideology of life nor have they gotten over past incidents (never their fault always someone else's). It's often not what we say but how we say something that outlines whom we are, if it still has twinges of acerbic thought it will very often smack of still hurting relationship problems, loneliness and life not quite the way it should be. Even if the "I've gotten over it now and I'm a better person" image is one that's put forward, plastering over cracks doesn't cure what's underneath, not that there is often anything to go over it's just a prevailing attitude.

Those that are perpetually sceptical about life and all that's in it we need to keep well away from as they are usually "emotional vampires" draining us of our energy for their own pleasure, those that are perpetually bitchy we should do likewise as that denotes someone who is untrustworthy and not quite as stable as they should be and also has a high degree of selfishness too. It doesn't denote that they are bad people and there is a vast difference between those who are naturally 'quick witted' and those that have to turn others comments and situations on their head as a statement of their own view point, which we can always do without because it's negative and negativity leads to negativity when even worse things beset and befall us. Being bitchy can be fun to listen to initially then it starts to pall as it then cross cuts through all that is good and wonderful and negates the happiness trail that everyone strives towards. The bitchy and sceptical try their best to tell you that their pathetic past is over, but reality is it still lives on, and they tell you that you have to be careful at all times and that you will find what they say will come true and all that diatribe. It's an excuse to see others hurt to make themselves feel better otherwise why would anyone suggest gloom and doom as a way of life, is there something so wrong with themselves that they actually have a degree of "hatred" within them? And who knows they could have been the instigators of their own downfall and you really don't need advice from anyone like that.

Life is a one-way stream, it goes forward, and dragging the past with you only hinders any progress which subliminally others pick up on it to feel that 'all is not that well' despite often outward signs of smiles, but it is really the 'wolf in sheep's clothing' that one sees as the vocality doesn't match the inner self. Comments on Facebook abound with 'predominantly' women voicing off past deeds which for most they would rather keep where they are in the past and enjoy the potential of both the present and hopefully better promise of the future. Reflections of ourselves manifest in ways which if we are not careful outline who we really are, and that the facade we try to put on is but that a facade of deceit which has undercurrents of a not so savoury thought process and one which is subject to constant change and fluctuation. If one feels that relationships, loneliness, life not so hot is because of circumstances then think again, it's not. We are part of life, which part is up to you. Situations and circumstances can change in an instant but we all have full control over ourselves 24/7 and our emotions. If we choose to be bitchy and sceptical as a base then don't ever expect things to change for the better, as those you seek which yet you have to find will steer a wide berth around you. If your friends aren't so good then it's because you've chosen like minded people who also reflect your self and again like you cannot be trusted 100% as selfishness will be a number one issue in their heart.

For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
FREE "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012

OVERCOME - IT'S ALL POSSIBLE

There is many an obstacle that comes our way in life, even when things are going swimmingly well, sometimes out of the blue we get caught up in something that jarrs or is discordant. Whether it's financial, medical, plans getting thwarted or others not complying with what we want it happens and no one is immune from it. How we view life is the difference between success and failure, how we deal with it all and internally digest it makes the difference between struggling and having a negative view point and overcoming it all and enjoying life regardless. There are two camps of thought, those that make excuses as a point of conjecture and stand by negativity as if it's a statement and thus get drawn into it and react accordingly making a meal out of it. And then there are those that accept what has happened even if reluctantly but get on with what is important in their life, placing it and what they do above the problems and not letting the problem take over, which makes a drastic difference to everything around them including their attitude to life and their perception.

It's not rocket science to realise that the positive mined souls see life for what it is and therefore see the good and great even if the dull and not so good creeps in, they also see opportunities which lie there awaiting discovery. Whilst the negative only see what they have created and thus perpetually miss out and get most of the time shunted into a siding in life from where they moan and groan and gloat at others seemingly doing better and start to concoct the "it's not fair" attitude which of course they have also created. Creating your own reality is what we do, there are facts and figures that surround us that we have either no or little control over, especially global circumstances in all areas, but what we have full control over is ourselves at all times. If we abdicate this responsibility of taking ownership of life then we are at the mercy of 'anything goes' and life will literally drag us where it's going which may not be where we want to go - and usually isn't.  

Being idealistic in life has its consequencies as it's usually mixed up with how we would like life to be and if the two are not concordent we can see life as a bit of a failure, which it isn't or we could see life as something that we have to wrestle with and that can be a mental feat of dexterity and can get us down big time. Being realistic is the better option, it's not being blunt and a matter of fact, what it does do is to allow us to move more freely and creativily and positively and have less upsets as there are no false pararameters nor areas that are hollow and full of void making scenarios. We are all "overcomers", as a race we have endured centuries over and above everything else and triumphed, created, devised, discovered, etc, and made mostly a life better than its ever been, even though we tend to grumble some endlessly and others when they feel the need to express what they feel helpless about.

Good things do come in more abundance to good people, good people like helping good people, nobody likes helping the helpless (by choice - not the unfortunate) and nobody likes helping the bad and unruley and badmouthed people as they see nothing in their future so prefer to help those that will excell with just a little help, no matter what it is. Everyone has the ability to overcome, to make the grade, the raise their bar, to elevate their life, in fact to higher whatever it is for themselves. Comparing isn't a wise move, to each his or her own, whatever your level of proficiency and comfort zone, provided you stretch and break free then life will accept the fact that you have overcome elements of life and the more you push the more it will return the rewards of your endeavours.

For more www.thelifedoctor.info
Free "E" Book : www.the-alchemy-of-life.com
©John Rushton / The Life Alchemist 2012