GRIEF

Grief can be so debilitating that it takes a hold of life and steers you into a corner and holds you there to the extent that at times one feels that nothing will ever be the same ever again, and the truth is it won't. It's not that life won't be fun and exciting anymore nor the will to proceed won't return and life will be as it is from there onwards worthy of living and worthy of participating and communing with those around you. It's ironic however that when grief strikes and it can and does happen to almost all of us at some time in our lives those that we feel can or could offer support like family and our religion offer nothing but coldness and a wall of stone, especially where bereavement is concerned. It can be like vampires coming out of the woodwork all seeing what they can get and finding every legal excuse to get more. Where at one stage of life "love" was a supposedly unspoken entity it's now a cold war and each to his own, where the smiles reveal the fangs and frosty sliver. And whilst to some this may seem gruesome it is unfortunately for many a very real reality. That at times many fear for their own sanity and purpose and most of all "love" for themselves, that someone "out there" knows and understands and will share their real tears and not some emotional outburst like that of little children "on and off" at the flick of a selfish thought. The relations that never liked you or you were the wrong religion, but now your partner has died it all comes to roost their evilness starts to ooze out.  

How we deal with real grief is down to us, and we are all different those that cry the most are often the insipid selfish ones that want everyone to join them in what they are going through whilst those that tend to stave off such are harbouring the love of the deceased that helps even through the trauma of the aftermath. Of course and "here we go again" religions mount on the grief trip after all it gives them something to do, wearing dull dark clothes, moping around with long faces, it's as if the deceased didn't actually love you after all and you've just found out. If whoever it is that has died loved you then THE LAST thing they would wish is that you be unhappy, otherwise what's the point of it all. And sympathy is the shallow side of offering real help to the extent many offer sympathy but no help and actually get a "high" of trying to buck the other person up whereas they are acting as vampires themselves draining their captive of energy for themselves. Sympathy has an effect of boosting others up, then when you leave them they have an almighty low afterwards. Not very nice.

Age has a related value on our perceptions in life, everything revolves around what we have done, are doing and will be doing, although the variances and boundaries can be very muted and glide into each other. What age doesn't have is a monopoly on pain, especially the mental type of pain, that is possibly the most debilitating as it literally messes up your whole control system. It's so easy to become introverted when grief strikes that it can form a situation where you rarely come out of it, this happens in the Middle East as they go to town on morbidity it's a way of life as is complaining and moaning yet doing nothing to rectify it, however they don't have any exclusivity or monopoly on it. One thing that grief often brings home is the reality of who you are in life and what others mean to you, your 'family' may be those you have chosen to be around you as opposed to the biological ones who are judgemental and shallow. It brings home too where you stand in life and what all around you means with regards happiness, freedom, duties, life itself and what and how you choose to think about things in general. Grief is but a stepping stone and depending upon your belief you either move on - not forgetting the past as you can't - or dwell forever where you are and carry it as a burden. Never forget if love is involved then there is a real freedom, but a genuine freedom not a selfish freedom that you keep to yourself as if it's something exclusive because it's not.  

In times of trouble don't scorn those that you think could offer some support as for them it could also be difficult to muster up the ability to offer it, and beware of those who seemingly offer everything because they can, it's at times those that do little that think deeply and the effusive ones that are shallow. One must always feel the depth of love and the need from others which is over and above sheer words and never allow the feeling of self sorrow to overtake who you are despite the pain that one may be reliving for a while. An understanding of those that now scorn, pour oil on troubled waters, who reject, who reprimand and turn face, who show their true colours be at one with yourself, because the love that YOU had with that significant other was priceless and above their deceitful facade. Life is for living, for loving and that is the only golden rule for grief, and the only golden rule for your own self is that of love at any cost, it's never left, and what was there is still there even if slightly but temporarily tarnished, it's still there in all its glory. Don't ever turn your back on it no matter what.

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BEING BITCHY & SCEPTICAL

It seems almost de regeur today to post some bitchy remark or be super sceptical about a situation or an emotional event, it attracts people like bees to a honey pot, it attracts more bitchy and sceptical people in greater proportion than just about anything else. Each person almost racing to add their ten cents worth of personal comment to bolster what has already gone before them and with an air of personal smugness as if to say "it happened to me" - which it may well have done. But what it goes to show is that whatever happened to the person who has commented is still alive and kicking and despite their phraseology and false smiles they are a part of their own problem and want to keep it alive to see if they can get some recompense in doing so. They won't and in fact the fact that they have just commented goes to show that all is not well in their overall ideology of life nor have they gotten over past incidents (never their fault always someone else's). It's often not what we say but how we say something that outlines whom we are, if it still has twinges of acerbic thought it will very often smack of still hurting relationship problems, loneliness and life not quite the way it should be. Even if the "I've gotten over it now and I'm a better person" image is one that's put forward, plastering over cracks doesn't cure what's underneath, not that there is often anything to go over it's just a prevailing attitude.

Those that are perpetually sceptical about life and all that's in it we need to keep well away from as they are usually "emotional vampires" draining us of our energy for their own pleasure, those that are perpetually bitchy we should do likewise as that denotes someone who is untrustworthy and not quite as stable as they should be and also has a high degree of selfishness too. It doesn't denote that they are bad people and there is a vast difference between those who are naturally 'quick witted' and those that have to turn others comments and situations on their head as a statement of their own view point, which we can always do without because it's negative and negativity leads to negativity when even worse things beset and befall us. Being bitchy can be fun to listen to initially then it starts to pall as it then cross cuts through all that is good and wonderful and negates the happiness trail that everyone strives towards. The bitchy and sceptical try their best to tell you that their pathetic past is over, but reality is it still lives on, and they tell you that you have to be careful at all times and that you will find what they say will come true and all that diatribe. It's an excuse to see others hurt to make themselves feel better otherwise why would anyone suggest gloom and doom as a way of life, is there something so wrong with themselves that they actually have a degree of "hatred" within them? And who knows they could have been the instigators of their own downfall and you really don't need advice from anyone like that.

Life is a one-way stream, it goes forward, and dragging the past with you only hinders any progress which subliminally others pick up on it to feel that 'all is not that well' despite often outward signs of smiles, but it is really the 'wolf in sheep's clothing' that one sees as the vocality doesn't match the inner self. Comments on Facebook abound with 'predominantly' women voicing off past deeds which for most they would rather keep where they are in the past and enjoy the potential of both the present and hopefully better promise of the future. Reflections of ourselves manifest in ways which if we are not careful outline who we really are, and that the facade we try to put on is but that a facade of deceit which has undercurrents of a not so savoury thought process and one which is subject to constant change and fluctuation. If one feels that relationships, loneliness, life not so hot is because of circumstances then think again, it's not. We are part of life, which part is up to you. Situations and circumstances can change in an instant but we all have full control over ourselves 24/7 and our emotions. If we choose to be bitchy and sceptical as a base then don't ever expect things to change for the better, as those you seek which yet you have to find will steer a wide berth around you. If your friends aren't so good then it's because you've chosen like minded people who also reflect your self and again like you cannot be trusted 100% as selfishness will be a number one issue in their heart.

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NEUTRALIZATION AND NULLIFICATION OF THE SOUL

The higher human energy that is radiating around us today is not that of harmony or greater substance, it's one that has an almost retrograde self enhanced degree of negativity that's permeating people and religions as they increasingly become impotent and fearful about life and hold no answers towards technology, biology and science itself. The quality of the so called learned spiritual yet -antiquated leaders is of the lowest calibre to date as they cannot understand man's consciousness and his purpose. (other than reciting scriptural content - which is not good enough - anyone can do that). Furthermore basing the Universe on scriptural writings and how we all came into existence and where we are aiming for is way beyond their feeble and increasingly dull mind sets. All the self created pomp, ritual, bureaucracy and pseudo importance they have created over the years has been towards themselves and not that of a higher understanding. Their inner divisiveness to promote themselves and those therein has both eluded, deluded and veered them off the course of truth, and yes the truth still exists - somewhere. At the end of times all these people will be of no value and those that follow will not be the "saved" ones, like all herders in life slaughter is the inevitable doom. The populous of the Middle East are herders mainly via indoctrination, never the less doom and slaughter are now part of the inevitable unless radical change is made, which sadly is highly unlikely. Although the Middle East will not be alone in this, there are many who are self smug in that they believe a different ending based purely on ignorance and their version of it all. But life can change in a flash and whilst many enjoy a pseudo enjoyable time now they really cannot perceive anything other for tomorrow.

Religion is an industry, it's far far away from God, and the growing ideological farce of science believing in itself when it still knows very little will result in history proclaiming figures of note of today to be as popular a King Kanut and the butt of jokes to come. Flat earthists still exist and the arrogance of piecing together random knowledge and formulating a hypothesis as QED is folly of the first order. There are brilliant yet unknown scientists that are conducting advanced experiments (for our time line that is) and then those scientists who ponder on the commercial exploiting what little they really do know over the ignorance of many, yet in reality they are at a level where they themselves are not sure which end to place the tablet or the suppository. However in the bigger picture where free thought and unlimited perception exists it means nothing except for the struggling enthusiasts clambering as they do for eternal knowledge which is available only at a higher level and thus will forever elude them.  The nullification and neutralisation of the soul is more and more in evidence as the "quacks" and "new age" weirdos spring up and capture those who are lost, bewildered, foolhardy and aimless, who seek meaning and purpose yet predominantly all will die with that self same thought at the end of their days. It's a gloomy outlook for many, but for some it's as it should be where the springtime of life is yet to enter into them and elevate who they are to a level of consciousness that for many is only what they have read in a book and will never physically experience.

Fanaticism is on the increase, this is in direct response to how life is and that where there is no hope nor purpose those who have lost every ounce of humanity seek going for their goal as the only option available. Where companies are without humanity too both within and without, radical changes will take place as will the way people see others and countries will either isolate themselves to their detriment and feed off of their fear whilst others co-join and grow but not at the expense of homogeneous melding. The entities in the world look for "harmony" but not of the peaceful kind, but one where if all is the same then it's easier to control, nothing more. Control is the key element today, yet in that process unrest will be fuelled and disharmony will be the fall out that will wreck havoc and cause dismay and civil unrest and an overall decrease in "happiness" which will have dire consequences.Natural world events will be on the increase and these will tax heavily the recipient countries but those third world countries which can't even cope now and never will, such is their future. This will lead to disproportionate funding and selective granting of aid as Western domestic markets will struggle themselves leaving less and less for those who live in poverty, corruption and where their God never ever helps them nor will there ever be help. The world will yet fragment but on a more compliant system on "needs must" rather than mutual co-operation and where companies will have to re-introduce a service and not a greed defined front end front, of which American companies lead the way in negative divisiveness by often deceitful means of add on target wealth and value for themselves leaving more frustrated customers and clients.

The self help market, the tablets to calm our nerves, the increase in disruption by various groups of people, self abuse, fragmentation, there isn't one stable Islamic country on planet earth, it doesn't just happen without purpose. It's man being ignorant, arrogant and short term minded, the lack of real statesmen and company leaders who are not in it purely for themselves doesn't exist, we have come of age, a threshold and turning point that will see drastic changes, slowly at first and almost unnoticeable until one day it hits home with a sobering reality, like a terrorist plot out of the blue. For many it's all beyond belief, but it was only a matter of tens of years ago mobile phones with TV capability was science fiction to the unbelievers whose mental agility is sadly below zero and still resides there. It was also only a little before that that mechanical toys were an amazing product and it's all now consigned to history.

People need to believe in people, if this belief is gone then they are gone also, they need to feel loved and wanted and purposeful for without those feelings there isn't a plot worthy of following and furthermore mental health starts to break down, which has disastrous consequences. Like it or not believing in God (real belief) is for many their saving grace as it helps them through what man himself can't. For Darwinians everything is a mistake so they are the result of evolution, a glorified mistake or event, so no losses when they die and revert back to the cosmic dust from whence they emanated. For many reasons this year 2012 is "the" year that all the mystical religious and even scriptural texts have pointed to as the change, it's definitely and truly now the "Year of Aquarius", time will tell. But what is firmly on the agenda is that changes like we have never experienced will be happening and then it will be a very salutary experience looking at yourself in the mirror and defining who you really are. Maybe not tomorrow morning, but like the first grey hair you spot in the mirror, the rest follow with increasing veracity.

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