GRIEF

Grief can be so debilitating that it takes a hold of life and steers you into a corner and holds you there to the extent that at times one feels that nothing will ever be the same ever again, and the truth is it won't. It's not that life won't be fun and exciting anymore nor the will to proceed won't return and life will be as it is from there onwards worthy of living and worthy of participating and communing with those around you. It's ironic however that when grief strikes and it can and does happen to almost all of us at some time in our lives those that we feel can or could offer support like family and our religion offer nothing but coldness and a wall of stone, especially where bereavement is concerned. It can be like vampires coming out of the woodwork all seeing what they can get and finding every legal excuse to get more. Where at one stage of life "love" was a supposedly unspoken entity it's now a cold war and each to his own, where the smiles reveal the fangs and frosty sliver. And whilst to some this may seem gruesome it is unfortunately for many a very real reality. That at times many fear for their own sanity and purpose and most of all "love" for themselves, that someone "out there" knows and understands and will share their real tears and not some emotional outburst like that of little children "on and off" at the flick of a selfish thought. The relations that never liked you or you were the wrong religion, but now your partner has died it all comes to roost their evilness starts to ooze out.  

How we deal with real grief is down to us, and we are all different those that cry the most are often the insipid selfish ones that want everyone to join them in what they are going through whilst those that tend to stave off such are harbouring the love of the deceased that helps even through the trauma of the aftermath. Of course and "here we go again" religions mount on the grief trip after all it gives them something to do, wearing dull dark clothes, moping around with long faces, it's as if the deceased didn't actually love you after all and you've just found out. If whoever it is that has died loved you then THE LAST thing they would wish is that you be unhappy, otherwise what's the point of it all. And sympathy is the shallow side of offering real help to the extent many offer sympathy but no help and actually get a "high" of trying to buck the other person up whereas they are acting as vampires themselves draining their captive of energy for themselves. Sympathy has an effect of boosting others up, then when you leave them they have an almighty low afterwards. Not very nice.

Age has a related value on our perceptions in life, everything revolves around what we have done, are doing and will be doing, although the variances and boundaries can be very muted and glide into each other. What age doesn't have is a monopoly on pain, especially the mental type of pain, that is possibly the most debilitating as it literally messes up your whole control system. It's so easy to become introverted when grief strikes that it can form a situation where you rarely come out of it, this happens in the Middle East as they go to town on morbidity it's a way of life as is complaining and moaning yet doing nothing to rectify it, however they don't have any exclusivity or monopoly on it. One thing that grief often brings home is the reality of who you are in life and what others mean to you, your 'family' may be those you have chosen to be around you as opposed to the biological ones who are judgemental and shallow. It brings home too where you stand in life and what all around you means with regards happiness, freedom, duties, life itself and what and how you choose to think about things in general. Grief is but a stepping stone and depending upon your belief you either move on - not forgetting the past as you can't - or dwell forever where you are and carry it as a burden. Never forget if love is involved then there is a real freedom, but a genuine freedom not a selfish freedom that you keep to yourself as if it's something exclusive because it's not.  

In times of trouble don't scorn those that you think could offer some support as for them it could also be difficult to muster up the ability to offer it, and beware of those who seemingly offer everything because they can, it's at times those that do little that think deeply and the effusive ones that are shallow. One must always feel the depth of love and the need from others which is over and above sheer words and never allow the feeling of self sorrow to overtake who you are despite the pain that one may be reliving for a while. An understanding of those that now scorn, pour oil on troubled waters, who reject, who reprimand and turn face, who show their true colours be at one with yourself, because the love that YOU had with that significant other was priceless and above their deceitful facade. Life is for living, for loving and that is the only golden rule for grief, and the only golden rule for your own self is that of love at any cost, it's never left, and what was there is still there even if slightly but temporarily tarnished, it's still there in all its glory. Don't ever turn your back on it no matter what.

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THE BIGGER PICTURE

We predominantly live in two worlds the microcosm of where we live and spend much of our time and rest and have our family, friends and associates see as our hub, regardless of its status, it's our base even if we travel it's still where we go when it all ends. It's a world where we have much control and personal input and it reflects our taste and abilities too, or perhaps lack of them, never the less it's expressional in that it defines us. From that base we store our belongings, personal effects, and build and contact everyone around, it is "home", however you like to define that. And then we have the great wide world, that entity that's made up of billions of other individuals and governments and a whole manner of good and not so good people, it's a hotch potch of developing worlds and struggling worlds, and democratic worlds and demonic worlds and variances in-between. It's a space in which we command a small piece of land for a limited time then it's taken over by others on their journey in life.


Freedom is a right of man, freedom has made the developed world what it is, not perfect by any means but then man is not perfect so we should not look down this avenue of hypothetical conjecture as it will never be. But by and large the developed world and the free world does advance whilst the rest just take the spoils either by donation or for the more more wealthy areas they buy in as they create nothing themselves, whatever the score it's a sad indictment as to their status especially as it's getting predominantly worse. But for those who live and work and play no matter where they are their personal circumstances are shaped by their environment, the laws, traditions, cultures, habits, mind sets, food, education, religion(s), and over many years general temperament. Outlooks from all countries differs because of this and everything has a cumulative effect, immigration of one culture living in another is not necessarily positive. Nor is it transportable nor conducive nor compatible, despite the politically correct morons trying to form a flat earth and make it so, it doesn't work, hence we have had massive proof of it not working over protracted periods of time. It's one thing to celebrate diversity but at the expense of a lack of unity it's a fatal move in every respect. Unfortunately it's those who have suffered from a lack of freedom that tend to abuse freedom when offered and this too causes resentment.

For our own part however, how life unfolds can be a variance that we had never anticipated, it can hold untold areas of highs and lows that we sail through at one point and battle through at another. Our own stories that are rarely told hold so much that moulds and hones us into whom we are right now and that keeps on changing. As a race we are very resilient and have overcome much in the history of mankind, evolution is being made within our own life time as everything is speeding up beyond what history has dictated or any kind of extrapolation for the future. One thing is for sure and that is whatever is happening now we have to live the best we can for the moment or we not only lose our purpose but we lose our ability and grip on life too. Mental health of any country is as important as its infrastructure, for if its stability goes then so does it.

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ICHOR CODES AND HASMAL ENERGY

The fragmentation of our society is fastening at a pace of knots not experienced and not seen before. It's ahead of the so called "wise" people as they themselves are now lost as it's beyond materialism and immediate wealth. And whilst that is still a prominent feature of our society it's becoming an element of time only in that it happens but in the longer term has no value. The underlings of our society those that think only for the moment which is increasing is causing havoc to governments on a global scale and it is not solvable via the many consultancies that are engaged by government to try and make them look as if they know what is happening and know what to do next, they don't. To many it will all be feasible and plans of action seen to be taken will be implemented but no value will emerge from it and the quest to solve what is commonly known as 'moral issues' will be of no consequence. Like the increasing failure of anti-biotics today, these problems will proliferate seemingly impervious to the methods and ideologies that will be enforced and backed up by smug rhetoric from impotent politicians. Time is escalating, it's moving at its own pace and speeding up in the process as it knows that change of a large magnitude must happen and humans and humanoid thought is pitiful to say the least. It's not that humans will be left out of the equation it's just that the evolution of masses of ill conceived life will be terminated as has happened over the past few years via tsunamis, floods, droughts and war itself, etc. It's how it is and how it will be until love is restored. The majority of these deviations and those to come will be in the loveless areas of the world although not exclusively.

Evolution has made its mark time and time again on planet earth, but now the population has through its own dexterity especially in the West caused creative thought to press ahead with it's purpose and presence over and above just it's sheer existence. This is the time continuum that is triggering an existential growth beyond what the majority have even thought about, not that it matters as everyone will be pushed forward some taking advantage and those that are of the 'today' value getting caught up in the unfortunate termination of their existence. It's not gloom and doom it's in many ways exciting and joyful as the sifting out of those that have not evolved and not contribute to life, including vacuous religious orders will be eliminated leaving a degree of purity behind. The Har-Magedon is the confutation between perceived science (or science as it is and the thought behind it) politics, the psychic and spiritual entity and the physical presence of man. The transcendence of all of this will render each area redundant however it's the transcendence that needs to account for that of man himself to comply in order to go further as understanding and a greater comprehension is necessary for it to happen, although it will by default anyway.

The Eshyouhod is ahead of us, it's part of the longevity of development of planet earth, for many natural demise is as far as their thought will ever take them, for others surviving each day is a success story in itself, and for others the future and where they place themselves is partly a conundrum of uncertainty, pre-existing DNA knowledge deep set within, and that which is totally unknown to be revealed at some date in the future. Meanwhile our progress is where we see ourselves over and above the limits of emotions and peripherating on the spirituality of real growth that will heighten our minds and thoughts. Our intuitive senses will be a natural part of ourselves as opposed to occasional times that we feel when things go wrong. Growth of the human form in now rapidly changing, we are still in control of our bodies and can either accept or negate what we feel. Some have not that option as their own enlightenment is virtually at a nil level whereas others 'see' even if not sure something that they are aware of all around them. Conjecture and mental riposting isn't an option for where spirituality is concerned it's a 'oneness' that comes into force a unity of thought no matter how different, a feeling of greater understanding even with regards events yet to take place. That feeling of "I know" even if it's the first time it's come to mind.  We set our course and our future, it's still in our control even if the end destination has already been set, the pathway is ours to choose as of today, but tomorrow it may be a different story, readiness to understand will be the key element to guide us through.

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EVERY QUESTION IS A GOOD QUESTION

There's nothing worse than ignorance, it not only means that you don't know something but it has many subliminal effects such as insecurity, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem, etc. Of course it's impossible to know everything and it's also quite OK to be in situations in our lives because of work or circumstances that place us in crowds of people who are more proficient in subjects, areas or a modus operadi than we are, it's just the way it is. There's also nothing wrong with saying "I don't know" either, it's far better than moving forward with others who "do know" and you getting all upset within and trying to fob off everyone with what little you do know or worse still avoiding or evading direct answers so as to show you really don't know. Most people respond well to honesty, if you say you don't know they are more than happy to enlighten you and in fact are quite flattered at times that you have had the openness and decency to admit to them that fact and ask them what it is you don't know, even if it's just a potted version answer you are after to tie you through.

Of course perceptions, intelligence, arrogance, ego, inferiority, stupidity, etc, all play a part in our questioning, but no matter how stupid a question  may seem or ill thought out, to the person asking it it means a great deal otherwise they wouldn't have asked it. And more often than not it's not the highly technical questions that need similar answers those are not the most important ones, it's those niggly little questions that need short answers are the ones that trip us up the most. It can all be too easy to assume an air of superiority when those in your presence are lost as to what you are talking about or can't compute what you've said to what you deem is a logical conclusion, that is in effect a failing of yourself not the other party. Humility and a gross understanding of the bigger picture is what makes some people excel and others stagnate and even fragment in their own version of reality. Those who forever seek or strive at all costs over and above everyone else are those who command least respect. Those who strive because of the desire to attain more knowledge in what they do are far more human and have an ability to communicate with those all around at any level and treat everyone with respect because the alternative isn't of value.

We need as individuals to have all sorts of questions answered daily that we ponder over or cause us a degree of consternation. It's not the "meaning of life" questions - although that wouldn't go amiss, it's the things that stop us in our tracks such as why has my PC suddenly done that, or I can't access this, or which button do I press or where is 'whatever', and whilst the answer may be easy if we are also at a loss as to find where to ask or who to ask it becomes a real tough cookie and we get well and truly frustrated. Answering a question too is a skill as some haven't the ability to proficiently state clearly and precisely what it is they have been asked, leaving the recipient even more frustrated confused and at times even angry towards everything to do with it. Banks are like that in that they'll answer your query then try and bombard you with endless financial products or review your account or whatever it is and want to pass you on to the household insurance division or some other cretin that you don't even care about.

The Internet is a wild card when it comes to Q and A's, even market research companies want your FREE input, it's basically free, offering a chance to win £250 or an Amazon book token, which is peanuts compared to what the real cost of such information would normally cost. Every question no matter what has a reason behind it, some are far reaching in what the consensus of opinions state others are solitary and pertinent to just that person at that time in that situation and after that it's all redundant information. Our ability to continue needs to have questions answered it's a very important aspect of our lives, as we are met every day with new events and especially if one travels around the world the quantity of questions that one needs answering is amazingly high even if previous savvy makes finding the answers relatively easy. Whatever it is in life we need to know, not the nosey stuff about others lives or celebrity transgressions that's dribble for the dribble minded, but real factual stuff that makes our pathway that much smoother, life more enjoyable and gives us a greater presence in life itself. We must never be afraid to ask a question, and if respect is in order we will get a civil answer, if we get otherwise it says more about the idiot that has answered you that the validity of your question.

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