NEVER EVER FOOL YOURSELF

There's more deceit and role playing within families of certain cultures and religions that actually defies the reality that they are in fact telling and living lies. They purport to be good and honest and upright citizens whereas they are anything but. They go and pray yet within their own families people don't talk about certain subjects or live "secret" lives so that they can for a brief moment be themselves and enjoy life and still comply with the "Hitler Syndrome" mentality of their two faced parents and other siblings. Such people are weak as are the societies and religions that people fear more than love, where real love, unconditional love sets people free and is the epitome of God in all His glory, not some barbaric person who likes people to suffer or feel hurt or be eternal failures. Of course to some extent every religion has it's judgemental bigoted subscribers and it's whiter than white family members who are almost living a life beyond hypocrisy and could easily be advocates of the Devil himself. Most of the worlds troubles are based upon religions and in fact terrorism is almost the sole entity of one religion only to the tune of 96%. Most of the poverty in the world has inhabitants of one religion, and the biggest failures stem from it too.

It's sometimes easy to feel that one must keep up appearances and to some extent that's also true, no one wants to be with selfish or miserable people as it never gets anywhere and positivity is the only answer to success no matter what you are talking about. If you believe in God then you must know that belief is the ONLY aspect that's going to bring you closer to Him and that it's also the foundation of truth. If you live a facade at home then your religious aspects are nothing but lies and rubbish and an insult to truth. But then it's your life and if you want to go to Hell telling and living lies then so be it, it's no one else's business but yours. However on a better and more upbeat note most people want to enjoy a life free from any facade and pretention they want to be accepted just for whom they are and what love they have within. It's certainly true that those without love deep within are not religious as they continuously judge and whinge and criticise and shun and talk with an air of self proclaimed authority that's hollow, shallow and insincere. Love is the universal aspect of man kind,  take away love and you are almost left with a robot or a drone, something / someone who just lives to live without a purpose, like religious people do. And by religious it doesn't mean those who believe in God, it's those who subscribe to man made religions that are full of flaws and like sheep to slaughter follow blindly, until they are slaughtered too (which is happening already).

Wherever you are you must be yourself, a facade is OK as long as you can keep it up, but in the end it starts to pall, it starts to get to you, it starts to restrict you, it starts to control your mind, it starts to fragment your thoughts and what you would like to do, it starts to cause internal unrest and external distrust, it starts to break your resolve and brings with it little secrets about you and your groups of friends that you keep separate, in short it just shows as a person that you really stink. It takes the edge of off life, it inhibits success, it inhibits progress, it inhibits creativity, it inhibits real friendship and love, it inhibits the self development and real happiness, in short it reduces you to a stupid nerd that can't be themselves yet at the same time can't be anyone else either as that person doesn't exist. One doesn't have to shout from the rooftops about who you are but being who you are is who you are meant to be. And for those whose parents that are so selfish and self centred then what creatures are you living with that have self pride over love and the well being of their children. Life is not always easy but self devised 'make beilieve' is being cruel beyond belief, and where did it stem from and what God subscribes to a lying two faced family?  You have within you to be who you are, so you never have to ever deny that or you are lying again to yourself and those around you.

You have within you everything you need to be happy, successful, truly great and show the natural love within. You have the opportunity to be and do what you will within the law, you don't have to take false ideals, deceit, corrupt ideologies, selfishness. You don't have to be the underdog for those who seek to inflict it because by default they are less human than they wish others to see. You don't have to be substandard to those who are wanting to commandeer your life for their sake because they are neither worthy of it nor have any worth either. You don't have to put up with religions that never ever do anything for you other than make you feel guilty or hear about how evil your God is, despite those around talking of love but never ever showing it. There's NOTHING people fear the most than the truth, it scares the pants of them, it terrifies the weak and pathetic who have nowhere to hide, and it embarrasses those who get caught out to an extent they at times literally can't get over how inhuman they were, but they had their choice and still never took it to make amends. The truth is powerful stuff, use it to your advantage and make those squirm around you, you have nothing to fear but greatness ahead of you. Those who utilise fear and manipulation fall with the biggest bang when exposed as once their facade is exposed they crumble to the rancid dust they really are. Never fear confrontation with the truth against the reality of those who are lying, always make sure others know what you are to say if it's a mighty step as that in itself is enough insurance to make even the high and mighty topple like ice in the mid day sun. You are entitled to your life you are not owned nor the property of anyone else. Your mother carried you because she loved you, if she didn't then you're best without her. Don't ever let anyone emotionally black mail you into not being yourself or getting you to be beholden to them, where love is concerned you are literally free.

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EVERY QUESTION IS A GOOD QUESTION

There's nothing worse than ignorance, it not only means that you don't know something but it has many subliminal effects such as insecurity, lack of confidence and lack of self esteem, etc. Of course it's impossible to know everything and it's also quite OK to be in situations in our lives because of work or circumstances that place us in crowds of people who are more proficient in subjects, areas or a modus operadi than we are, it's just the way it is. There's also nothing wrong with saying "I don't know" either, it's far better than moving forward with others who "do know" and you getting all upset within and trying to fob off everyone with what little you do know or worse still avoiding or evading direct answers so as to show you really don't know. Most people respond well to honesty, if you say you don't know they are more than happy to enlighten you and in fact are quite flattered at times that you have had the openness and decency to admit to them that fact and ask them what it is you don't know, even if it's just a potted version answer you are after to tie you through.

Of course perceptions, intelligence, arrogance, ego, inferiority, stupidity, etc, all play a part in our questioning, but no matter how stupid a question  may seem or ill thought out, to the person asking it it means a great deal otherwise they wouldn't have asked it. And more often than not it's not the highly technical questions that need similar answers those are not the most important ones, it's those niggly little questions that need short answers are the ones that trip us up the most. It can all be too easy to assume an air of superiority when those in your presence are lost as to what you are talking about or can't compute what you've said to what you deem is a logical conclusion, that is in effect a failing of yourself not the other party. Humility and a gross understanding of the bigger picture is what makes some people excel and others stagnate and even fragment in their own version of reality. Those who forever seek or strive at all costs over and above everyone else are those who command least respect. Those who strive because of the desire to attain more knowledge in what they do are far more human and have an ability to communicate with those all around at any level and treat everyone with respect because the alternative isn't of value.

We need as individuals to have all sorts of questions answered daily that we ponder over or cause us a degree of consternation. It's not the "meaning of life" questions - although that wouldn't go amiss, it's the things that stop us in our tracks such as why has my PC suddenly done that, or I can't access this, or which button do I press or where is 'whatever', and whilst the answer may be easy if we are also at a loss as to find where to ask or who to ask it becomes a real tough cookie and we get well and truly frustrated. Answering a question too is a skill as some haven't the ability to proficiently state clearly and precisely what it is they have been asked, leaving the recipient even more frustrated confused and at times even angry towards everything to do with it. Banks are like that in that they'll answer your query then try and bombard you with endless financial products or review your account or whatever it is and want to pass you on to the household insurance division or some other cretin that you don't even care about.

The Internet is a wild card when it comes to Q and A's, even market research companies want your FREE input, it's basically free, offering a chance to win £250 or an Amazon book token, which is peanuts compared to what the real cost of such information would normally cost. Every question no matter what has a reason behind it, some are far reaching in what the consensus of opinions state others are solitary and pertinent to just that person at that time in that situation and after that it's all redundant information. Our ability to continue needs to have questions answered it's a very important aspect of our lives, as we are met every day with new events and especially if one travels around the world the quantity of questions that one needs answering is amazingly high even if previous savvy makes finding the answers relatively easy. Whatever it is in life we need to know, not the nosey stuff about others lives or celebrity transgressions that's dribble for the dribble minded, but real factual stuff that makes our pathway that much smoother, life more enjoyable and gives us a greater presence in life itself. We must never be afraid to ask a question, and if respect is in order we will get a civil answer, if we get otherwise it says more about the idiot that has answered you that the validity of your question.

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YOUR BIGGEST PROBLEM

The biggest problem you'll ever have to face is yourself, it's you that will have to deal with whatever besets and befalls you. It's you that will have to cope, pick up the pieces, come to terms with, move, shake, rattle, roll and whatever else lies ahead of you. It's you who will have to come to terms with whatever financial situation you have to face, whatever health problems you or those around you will have to face and any other problems that arise whether you are directly involved or not, how you react it is solely down to you. End of story. No matter how much weeping and sobbing and wailing and any other selfishly devised outbursts you start to do it will not effect one single bit what has happened and will only ward off the time you have in front of you to live a great life in spite of it all. Forget selfish traditions and group family moanings they solve nothing, it's all self indulgent and mean, and if someone has died then it makes it worse for if they loved you then they certainly wouldn't want you to be unhappy after they have left (unless they were selfish too). Yet at times the traditional drama that people go through is not a sign of respect nor anything else. Respect is for the living, not after the event when it's all too late. Showmanship at times of bereavement i.e. to make it seem you respect the dead by looking dead yourself is beyond being pathetic and takes the limelight of the bereaved so what does it make you or where does it place you as a selfish moron of the highest order.

Of course drama is part of some cultures as it telling lies and being deceitful, sad to say but it's true. Most of yesterday's cultures and traditions other than the enactment of certain colourful routines are retrograde and hold back and cause scorn, heartache, misery and effort just for the sake of it as none of it serves a purpose anymore. Today's society isn't any longer compatible with much of the past, like old computer software it doesn't work anymore, although there are many that go to great lengths to try and make traditions work for fear that if they don't they will lose something about themselves, and this eternal "my culture" aspect, which no one cares about but the self. The basic elements of humanity are love, truth, compassion and understanding which is across the board no matter where one resides or where one emanates from.

What we do in life and what happens to us can vary enormously, one day everything is going swimmingly well another it is completely the opposite, how we go about our daily life is down to us whether we choose to tell lies or be dishonest or deceitful is again a matter of choice, no excuses. We can apportion blame which there is a "blame culture" today, whether we get away with it or not doesn't hide the fact that it's us that's made the statement and that doesn't negate the truth. The more we do in anyone direction is how we tend to steer ourselves and subliminally once we engage on a certain route unless we put ourselves in check then we have embarked on a course that will or will not enhance our future. Our future life is facing challenges today that we had never dreamed of or thought would happen and areas of the past start to rear their ugly head, regrets and remorse are far too late, the present is what it is. That's not to say one can't alter ahead what could be in store - should we play our cards right - but what has been dictated by the past is what it is. We always feel that by a certain time we could be this or that and often that's the case but sometimes not quite as we anticipated and not always on our terms or not what we thought it would be like. Everything we do in life has to be processed by the self, how we react or come to terms with it is solely down to us.

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