Tuesday, 31 July 2012
The Life Doctor: SEARCHING FOR THE ELUSIVE
The Life Doctor: SEARCHING FOR THE ELUSIVE: Most people have some sort of ideal that they would like to happen or stive for or place to visit or thing to do, even if it's just a whi...
The Life Doctor: THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE
The Life Doctor: THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE: Progress always comes with drawbacks, but then that's nothing new, building cheaper better more fuel efficient cars brings overcrowding on ...
Monday, 30 July 2012
The Life Doctor: DEEP INGRAINED BELIEFS
The Life Doctor: DEEP INGRAINED BELIEFS: Over 85% of our thoughts, feelings, actions, habits stem from our inner self that's almost etched with our stubborn concepts of life, we do...
The Life Doctor: SEPARATING OURSELVES FROM CIRCUMSTANCES
The Life Doctor: SEPARATING OURSELVES FROM CIRCUMSTANCES: We all fall victim at times to circumstances as they temporarily take over our own will and we thus become an alien to oureselves, this can...
Sunday, 29 July 2012
The Life Doctor: THE FUN AND JOY IN LIFE
The Life Doctor: THE FUN AND JOY IN LIFE: Everything in life is a matter of balance, it's also a culmination of our take on life too, which incorporates our thoughts, feelings, unde...
Saturday, 28 July 2012
The Life Doctor: WHEN THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL GOES OUT
The Life Doctor: WHEN THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL GOES OUT: What happens when your future is stymied right in front of you, when hope turns into a nothingness, when the glimmer of something on the ...
The Life Doctor: THE ENERGY AROUND US
The Life Doctor: THE ENERGY AROUND US: There is no getting away from it everything around us is of a molecular structure, we are molecular structures - human life - and we rely o...
The Life Doctor: THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE
The Life Doctor: THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE: Progress always comes with drawbacks, but then that's nothing new, building cheaper better more fuel efficient cars brings overcrowding on ...
The Life Doctor: DEEP INGRAINED BELIEFS
The Life Doctor: DEEP INGRAINED BELIEFS: Over 85% of our thoughts, feelings, actions, habits stem from our inner self that's almost etched with our stubborn concepts of life, we do...
Friday, 27 July 2012
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO YOU REALLY MATTER
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO YOU REALLY MATTER: The Life Doctor: DO YOU REALLY MATTER : Do you really matter, have you any importance in life, what do others feel about you as a person, wh...
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION: The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION : Whatever we think about love it's an essential aspect of whom we are, as a sentient race we have an ove...
The Life Doctor: DO YOU REALLY MATTER
The Life Doctor: DO YOU REALLY MATTER: Do you really matter, have you any importance in life, what do others feel about you as a person, what indeed do you feel about yourself, a...
The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION
The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION: Whatever we think about love it's an essential aspect of whom we are, as a sentient race we have an overwhelming degree of love built into ...
The Life Doctor: HEALING THE MIND
The Life Doctor: HEALING THE MIND: As pressures grow and people seem to want more magic in their lives or pills to pop to stave off reality or try and deal with it from a dis...
The Life Doctor: ADVANCED LIVING
The Life Doctor: ADVANCED LIVING: How we get on in life can at times be something of a lottery in that what we expected can suddenly just go out of the window and we are lef...
Thursday, 26 July 2012
The Life Doctor: WHEN IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE
The Life Doctor: WHEN IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE: Much of life is based upon perspectives, ideology, circumstances and situations, and that as we all know can differ radically not only fr...
The Life Doctor: AWAKEN YOUR SPIRIT WITHIN
The Life Doctor: AWAKEN YOUR SPIRIT WITHIN: Whatever your beliefs, your thoughts, etc, it changes nothing to the physical fact that you have within you a spirit that lives concurrentl...
The Life Doctor: THE WILL TO LET GO
The Life Doctor: THE WILL TO LET GO: There's a lot spoken about the "will to let go", books describe the cathartic properties of "walking away" or "letting go" or "moving on" a...
The Life Doctor: DATING SITES - AN ENTERTAINMENT IN ITSELF
The Life Doctor: DATING SITES - AN ENTERTAINMENT IN ITSELF: Even the top dating sites today and there are dozens of new versions springing up every week boast of only about 5% success rate so what ha...
Wednesday, 25 July 2012
The Life Doctor: YOU AREN'T ALONE
The Life Doctor: YOU AREN'T ALONE: There's a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely, the former is just that - you are alone, with few or no one around you, th...
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN: The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN : Do you have a destiny, a dream, an inkling of where you are to go to in life, is there something more t...
The Life Doctor: HEALING THE MIND
The Life Doctor: HEALING THE MIND: As pressures grow and people seem to want more magic in their lives or pills to pop to stave off reality or try and deal with it from a dis...
The Life Doctor: YOU AREN'T ALONE
The Life Doctor: YOU AREN'T ALONE: There's a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely, the former is just that - you are alone, with few or no one around you, th...
The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE
The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE: You have two choices in life you do or you don't, that accounts for our almost binary coding for decision making, do we or don't we, either...
The Life Doctor: THE DARK CLOUDS OVERHEAD
The Life Doctor: THE DARK CLOUDS OVERHEAD: At times in life a darkness seems to overtake us to the extent it subliminally alters our views, perceptions , feelings, outlook and degree...
Tuesday, 24 July 2012
The Life Doctor: YOU AREN'T ALONE
The Life Doctor: YOU AREN'T ALONE: There's a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely, the former is just that - you are alone, with few or no one around you, th...
The Life Doctor: THE WILL TO LET GO
The Life Doctor: THE WILL TO LET GO: There's a lot spoken about the "will to let go", books describe the cathartic properties of "walking away" or "letting go" or "moving on" a...
Monday, 23 July 2012
The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION
The Life Doctor: THE LOVE EQUATION: Whatever we think about love it's an essential aspect of whom we are, as a sentient race we have an overwhelming degree of love built into ...
The Life Doctor: SHOWING YOUR EMOTIONS
The Life Doctor: SHOWING YOUR EMOTIONS: We are by default sentient human beings although I think some will throw that in question, never the less it's a mark of a superior being. ...
The Life Doctor: ADVANCED LIVING
The Life Doctor: ADVANCED LIVING: How we get on in life can at times be something of a lottery in that what we expected can suddenly just go out of the window and we are lef...
Sunday, 22 July 2012
The Life Doctor: FORGIVENESS
The Life Doctor: FORGIVENESS: Can you or do you forgive, or are you a selective forgiver? Or do you prefer to hold on to what has happened either a deed done by yourself...
The Life Doctor: CHERRY PICKING LIFE
The Life Doctor: CHERRY PICKING LIFE: We all like to have the best in life it's almost a natural instinct we are selective when we shop and selective about the people we have in...
The Life Doctor: LIFE IN A DIFFERENT SHADE
The Life Doctor: LIFE IN A DIFFERENT SHADE: Life is a variable commodity one moment it's fabulous another we are faced with anxiety, stress, upheavals and an unknown future, where onc...
The Life Doctor: GETTING CONNECTED
The Life Doctor: GETTING CONNECTED: There's a lot written about networking, 6 degrees of separation, who you know, etc, it's the "in thing" today to give everyone instant succ...
Saturday, 21 July 2012
The Life Doctor: FAILURE
The Life Doctor: FAILURE: Failure is a word that many people shy away from, it's not nice to be classed as a failure, or to have something not go the way it should h...
The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN
The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN: Do you have a destiny, a dream, an inkling of where you are to go to in life, is there something more than what you have or is what you h...
The Life Doctor: SEARCHING FOR THE ELUSIVE
The Life Doctor: SEARCHING FOR THE ELUSIVE: Most people have some sort of ideal that they would like to happen or stive for or place to visit or thing to do, even if it's just a whi...
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES: The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES : Mind games are not nice, it has to be said, games are fun, but mind games literally destabilise us, cause us t...
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: THE HIGHER SELF
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: THE HIGHER SELF: The Life Doctor: THE HIGHER SELF : There's a lot spoken about "The Higher Self" and indeed there are endless books on the subject and a whol...
The Life Doctor: THE HIGHER SELF
The Life Doctor: THE HIGHER SELF: There's a lot spoken about "The Higher Self" and indeed there are endless books on the subject and a whole host of videos on YouTube too to...
The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN
The Life Doctor: THE VOYAGE WITHIN: Do you have a destiny, a dream, an inkling of where you are to go to in life, is there something more than what you have or is what you h...
Friday, 20 July 2012
The Life Doctor: LOST IN THE CROWD
The Life Doctor: LOST IN THE CROWD: In the very same world there is a dichotomy of individualism, there's the advanced world where you can be what or who you want, the only t...
The Life Doctor: THE ENERGY AROUND US
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The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES
The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES: Mind games are not nice, it has to be said, games are fun, but mind games literally destabilise us, cause us to think weird thoughts, do we...
Thursday, 19 July 2012
The Life Doctor: KINDNESS
The Life Doctor: KINDNESS: We all like to think that we are kind at least to some extent and quickly judge others who we see as "not so kind" but not necessarily mean...
The Life Doctor: LEAVING OLD WAYS BEHIND
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The Life Doctor: LIFE IN A DIFFERENT SHADE
The Life Doctor: LIFE IN A DIFFERENT SHADE: Life is a variable commodity one moment it's fabulous another we are faced with anxiety, stress, upheavals and an unknown future, where onc...
The Life Doctor: NEW TYPE DEPRESSION (NTD)
The Life Doctor: NEW TYPE DEPRESSION (NTD): What many people are experiencing today is rejection in particular the young, it's not that they aren't any good or what they are doing is ...
The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES
The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES: Mind games are not nice, it has to be said, games are fun, but mind games literally destabilise us, cause us to think weird thoughts, do we...
The Life Doctor: GETTING IT RIGHT
The Life Doctor: GETTING IT RIGHT: There's one thing that really does 'rattle our cage' and that's when stuff goes wrong. It's so gratifying when our plans or circumstances f...
The Life Doctor: SEARCHING FOR THE ELUSIVE
The Life Doctor: SEARCHING FOR THE ELUSIVE: Most people have some sort of ideal that they would like to happen or stive for or place to visit or thing to do, even if it's just a whi...
The Life Doctor: OUT OF SORTS WITH LIFE
The Life Doctor: OUT OF SORTS WITH LIFE: How we feel about life varies from moment to moment, sometimes we just feel "out of it" for no apparent reason, other times there are a num...
Wednesday, 18 July 2012
The Life Doctor: GETTING IT RIGHT
The Life Doctor: GETTING IT RIGHT: There's one thing that really does 'rattle our cage' and that's when stuff goes wrong. It's so gratifying when our plans or circumstances f...
The Life Doctor: GETTING IT RIGHT
The Life Doctor: GETTING IT RIGHT: There's one thing that really does 'rattle our cage' and that's when stuff goes wrong. It's so gratifying when our plans or circumstances f...
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE: The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE : The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE : You have two choices in life you do or you don't, that accounts f...
GETTING IT RIGHT
There's one thing that really does 'rattle our cage' and that's when stuff goes wrong. It's so gratifying when our plans or circumstances fall into place it not only makes us feel good we even have a different perspective on life and the world. It's a mixture of compassion, elevation and greater understanding of all that's around us, but boy does it vanish when it all collides and goes awry. In reality it's only our mind that makes us think that way because things are as they are whatever happens the good, the bad and the indifferent, it's all processed by the self same computer - our mind. When we try to get it right it's because we have taken care and hopefully paid attention to what we are doing, so if it goes wrong we should have some idea as to how best to rectify it or pull it all together even if that is not really a very palatable idea. Overcoming disappointment is what most people tend to fall down upon, allowing the negativity of the situation to swirl around in the mind and then feeling sorry and wanting a degree of self compassion makes it even worse. The feeling that one gets in the pit of the stomach adds to the drama of it all, the mind searching for those seemingly illusive elements that we hopefully can latch upon to bring it all around again and make us feel as if nothing has happened, but it has.
It's so important to live your life with a feeling of contentment within and a feeling that you can also 'let go' when necessary too. It doesn't mean that life has to be fabulous and full of the riches that one feels that one deserves, but whatever you have and wherever you are and whatever you are going through an acceptance makes the negative values disappear. Mentally struggling takes up thought volume and in turn that narrows the space needed to process creativity, which in turn retards our thoughts, values and perspectives on life which in turn lowers our awareness and that in turn stops us enjoying the best of what's out there. It's a negative vicious circle each element feeding upon each other going round and round at the expense of our happiness, well being, health, all of which is called 'life'. It's important that whatever we do we do our best at for even at times that doesn't even go according to plan, never the less we get full marks for trying, we get nothing for doing nothing and even little more for doing things half heartedly. It's how we process our thoughts that makes a world of difference and it has amazing change properties within us when we are in alignment with ourselves and follow a purpose and direction whatever that it.
Getting it right is the number one aspect of having a correct 'Attitude', for without a correct attitude we not only don't get on well with life but are often ostracised by those around because they see us as not quite responsive or interested in anything but ourselves and our personal / internal thoughts on life and that 'woe is me' attitude then prevails. We need to respect who we are and at the same time not disrespect others which often goes 'hand in hand' , it's this dichotomy that lowers many people's resistance to moving on as they hold on to it and that's needless baggage. A hot air balloon rises when the ballast (the weights) are dropped and thus allows it to move upwards. Similarly life is very much the same in that if we are full of ballast then we will not only not move up we will stagnate and that will cause problems of its own. Moving on is the only way forward as life evolves whether we move in harmony with it or not we will subliminally be dragged along, so e need to end up where approximately we want o be and not just dumped somewhere because we didn't take any ownership of our existence.
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The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE
The Life Doctor: The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE: The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE : You have two choices in life you do or you don't, that accounts for our almost binary coding for decision makin...
The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES
The Life Doctor: MIND GAMES: Mind games are not nice, it has to be said, games are fun, but mind games literally destabilise us, cause us to think weird thoughts, do we...
The Life Doctor: LOVE VERSUS FEAR - A CHOICE
The Life Doctor: LOVE VERSUS FEAR - A CHOICE: We all have a fear of something even if it doesn't anymore 'rattle our cage' like it used to, maturity has a way of softening the blows in ...
The Life Doctor: ONE SCENE - THREE VIEWS
The Life Doctor: ONE SCENE - THREE VIEWS: What truth there is today in what we read or hear varies enormously and how the facts are defined is usually more about who is saying what ...
The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE
The Life Doctor: DO OR DIE: You have two choices in life you do or you don't, that accounts for our almost binary coding for decision making, do we or don't we, either...
Tuesday, 17 July 2012
The Life Doctor: SEPARATING OURSELVES FROM CIRCUMSTANCES
The Life Doctor: SEPARATING OURSELVES FROM CIRCUMSTANCES: We all fall victim at times to circumstances as they temporarily take over our own will and we thus become an alien to oureselves, this can...
The Life Doctor: THE WILL TO LET GO
The Life Doctor: THE WILL TO LET GO: There's a lot spoken about the "will to let go", books describe the cathartic properties of "walking away" or "letting go" or "moving on" a...
The Life Doctor: THE DARK CLOUDS OVERHEAD
The Life Doctor: THE DARK CLOUDS OVERHEAD: At times in life a darkness seems to overtake us to the extent it subliminally alters our views, perceptions , feelings, outlook and degree...
The Life Doctor: FOR THE LOVE OF IT
The Life Doctor: FOR THE LOVE OF IT: What kind of a person are you? How do you look at life and how do you deal with all the ups and downs that one goes through? Are you a pers...
Monday, 16 July 2012
The Life Doctor: FINDING THE SIGNAL IN THE NOISE
The Life Doctor: FINDING THE SIGNAL IN THE NOISE: All around us is noise of some sort, whether it's the neighbours children, traffic, aircraft flying over, loud music, etc, whatever it is t...
The Life Doctor: FOR THE LOVE OF IT
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The Life Doctor: CULTURE AND FAILURE
The Life Doctor: CULTURE AND FAILURE: It's getting more difficult all the time for people to try and relate to something tangible in their lives, it doesn't matter what it is al...
The Life Doctor: UPPING YOUR GAME
The Life Doctor: UPPING YOUR GAME: Throughout our lives we have a series of ups and downs, sometimes what we experience is akin to free fall parachuting in that we soar to a ...
UPPING YOUR GAME
Throughout our lives we have a series of ups and downs, sometimes what we experience is akin to free fall parachuting in that we soar to a dizzy height then drop uncontrollably somewhere that we hadn't bargained for. At times too life as we have been enjoying it comes to an abrupt end leaving us feeling somewhat empty inside and lacking in energy and mental charisma to go forward. Whatever it is we have to move on and move on under our own steam, not allowing others to take us forward by default into their world all of which is based upon their thoughts sometimes it's their thoughts that had cause the rift in the first place. Even if nothing in particular has happened to us, life never stays in the same groove so we need to progress from where we are otherwise we will again by default find that our 'cosy' environment has suddenly come to a big full stop. Our "full stop" however caused isn't fun, it not only turns our world upside down it causes many mind jolts that destabilise whom we are and our thoughts for the future. In the process of restating ourselves and placing our life back on track it can be for all of those around us to a time when they also assess themselves and their relationship with us, often having to make a concerted effort to alter it and the way in which they liaise with us. 
It's always good to "up your game" to try better elevate your thoughts and feelings after all if we move on in life and take nothing of what we have learned then it doesn't bode well for either the future or our stability or happiness. Life is "work in progress" and it's when we are "at one" with ourselves is when we can pick up on the nuances and the tell tale signs that should steer us around what is potentially looming large ahead of us. Following others isn't smart, what may seem like a good idea and worthwhile when others do something does not necessarily translate into us doing it. What emanates from within us is the only expedient step we can take. And whilst we see books on "success", rags to riches, step by step guide to becoming a billionaire, secrets of business, etc, all of which are a good read, the one thing they never ever state is that the difference between the author and the reader is "the time line". Everything else is parallel and thus circumstances are never the same even if parameters seem identical. If all of these good reads were as they are purported to be we would have streams of wild successes whereas it's the opposite.
Upping our game at any stage is good even if it initially means cutting back or pruning what we have to secure a better base upon which to grow again. Life isn't linear and the "time line" always, always, always introduces aspects of 'now' which makes the theory of much of what we do, see, enact, read invalid even if the modus operandi is the same. It's like following a recipe, if you cook on a cold day or a hot day it can affect the cooking time, yet the recipe gives you the exact minutes. Variances in life can make a world of difference to the result and many people are successful because they hit a "right" moment which excels what they are doing, whilst others who do the very same thing hit a lull and the opposite happens. Many a multi-national company launches a product which bombs out, only to re-launch it six months later and to takes off. Small businesses often don't have that latitude and the first failure leaves them with a massive debt that often they hardly recover from, but it doesn't mean that their product / service wasn't of excellent merit. 
We can however "up our game" at our level, just what we do, say, our presentation, string of friends, etc, all makes a difference to the end result. We have to 'walk the walk' and not just theorise about it, which often happens when you read a book, you get excited and fired up by new ideas and thoughts, yet a week later you are still where you were before even if more knowledgeable. Translation and "time lines" often thwart most people leaving them a little despondent, it shouldn't as diligence has a way of overcoming the temporary set backs and negative periods when little seems to happen. We do control our own mind sets and as such should "bolster our thoughts ourself" by doing so we learn so much about what is around us as opposed to blending into what's around us which takes away our control and numbs our creativity. We evolve, so upping our game steers our course and stops us by default moving in a direction that we hadn't planned. In life there is much to have, over and above those areas of what we would like, but if we only adhere to "what we would like" we miss out on the possibilities and permutations that we hadn't even thought of or been privy to know. Allow the bigger picture to enter into your life and see what a vast difference it can make. For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
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Friday, 13 July 2012
CULTURE AND FAILURE
It's getting more difficult all the time for people to try and relate to something tangible in their lives, it doesn't matter what it is all but without this relationship it's difficult to live an enjoyable life. The number of so called "lost" people is increasing, people who no matter what they do just can't seem to find a niche or position to get themselves into a state of 'happiness'. On the other side of the fence are those who in theory anyway have that niche and it's often their their culture, unfortunately it's a second hand culture and one that's been handed own by parents or grand parents and no longer exists where they currently reside. Whoever you are, wherever you come from one thing is perfectly clear, your culture is where you are right here right now. No matter what your roots or past history if you are born in London or New York or wherever then that is where your culture starts not some idealistic stuff that your parents want you to know about. There is nothing wrong with knowing where your ancestry came from nor any details of that, but you have never experienced it at all and this "in my culture we do this" is not only rubbish it's unpatriotic as to the country in which you live and by default you actually isolate yourself in the process. Don't ever be dragged into someone else's reality no matter how it is. It's similar to the overzealous expectation of children by the parents who say "I only want the best for them" but take no account of what their children want.
We are all different, some people have in their past a string of destinations in which they lived, that too is part of their culture, where you live is the default base even if it's concurrent with others around you so be it. We need to be at the top of our game no one else's so it's imperative that we are comfortable and have no pressures to conform to abstract areas of life regardless of how nice they may be. Cultures are seen in today's world as an adjunct to identity but only by those who are in the culture loop, for everyone else it doesn't matter, and for all intense and purposes in life it doesn't matter either. Rituals of the past have a habit of causing consternation, dismay, unrest, disharmony, and also family conflicts which is the last thing that should happen, particularly endemic in Asian societies, where status overtakes real family love. It's when selfish parents place their priorities for themselves over the lives of others. Culture often goes hand in hand with "Duty", duty as such can actually cause misplaced loyalties and go against the law or be morally incorrect, especially when enacted in a new or different environment.
We see when we go on holiday or on television travelogues about wonderfully colourful displays of people and their cultures why they do what they do, yet it has nothing to do with the 'now' nor can others be dragged into the scenario. Wrong signals, wrong messages, wrong understanding, wrong everything can ensue if cultures are not kept to the self as something of a choice and not as a duty, etc. Our need to go forward needs some real background substance otherwise we find we are somewhat 'light' as to establishing ourselves. Although many people move to other countries and settle down right away without any troubles what so ever and get on well. The culture of where you are may be alien and it also maybe that you have previously lived in an advanced society that has not been wrapped up or consigned to the dogma of an earlier age, never the less the cultural understanding does have a part to play in your overall perceptions of life and with a better perspective help you overcome or play the games to get what you want. For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
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©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
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Monday, 9 July 2012
SPACIALITY AND GRATEFULNESS
We all possess to a degree an understanding, usually of a subliminal nature of "spacial awareness" and also of "being grateful" and whilst both may not seem to be related to each other they most definitely are. We more often than not like to see logic at work so without too much thought we can link A and B and come to some type of conclusion within our mind as to "why" or whether or not what we have assessed is of any importance to us. But in the "bigger picture" all these little aspects of whom we are do play a part in our roles in life as well as manifest themselves in our character. These traits in turn are usually made use of by marketing companies and the like in order to either give a better product / service or tailor make their current service to entice new and keep established customers. Similar traits can be manifestly different from many different peoples from different parts of the world, and what works in one country doesn't necessarily work in another, even mentalities change at certain levels too as does the general 'nonchalance' of living. That is for example what a businessman in Africa, Japan, UK, USA, South America, India, Middle East, etc, would do in an identical situation in another country, and it can be quite different in how and why they execute what they do and watching their body language and coherence to their "temporary environment" makes. The more "gratitude" we have within us the happier and more contented we become, and it allows us thus to "see" what needs to be done as to constantly striving to make things better which is predominantly a figment of our thoughts in relation to a potential that's "off course".
Of course we must never lose sight of the fact that we are all different and some people are more easy at travelling than others, never the less characters often reflect the country from whence they came and that brings with it a degree of "spacial presence" which can be identified as to even down to literally how people sit in a row of seats and how much space they take up (given like for like). Some people are predominantly aware of others whilst some seemingly are oblivious and some to the point they 'see' little of anything else until it almost hits them in the face. And whilst this may seem - to many people - superfluous it can have a big effect on how we "like" someone or even want to do business with them, and how our product is tailor made or how it's received etc. Similarly "attitude" plays a significant part of how we encompass life and how we enjoy it, and it usually goes hand in hand with our "spacial understanding" of it. Some people appear mean not because they necessarily are but just because they don't "think" of other people in their thought process, kindnesses or being thoughtful never or rarely crosses their minds and thus they form a certain "cold etiquette" towards others perceptions and feelings, all of which has an effect, an effect which in some circumstances could well negate themselves from what they seek. Moving further on taking such characteristics further the degree of gratefulness that they have within also manifests itself on their ability to interact, be observant, be understanding, be cooperative, be responsive, be pro-active, etc, and these again define a person further.
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As simple as we think things are and the ease at which we think we can pin point others traits and aptitudes is in reality not as easy as just looking and seeing what corresponds to 'our way' and if they don't basically correspond then they are less of a person or not "our type". We actively 'select' what fits in best with ourselves that's why being positive is so important, as generally 'like attracts like'. Mentality is important too and so is the "spacial awareness" of those around us for if they veer off too much from what we see and do and like, we definitely see them as 'not acceptable' to whom we are and our plans and way of life. This can as be seen as prejudice or classed as some other kind of "ist" which there are many, but in reality it is natural to get what most suits the position in many areas such as attitude, as a bad attitude or lacking in 'spacial aptitudes' can negate excellent qualifications and the position can be rendered useless accordingly. It's how we judge our friends and it's also mixed with emotions too which either enhance or clouds our judgement. It's all so complex and yet so simple because in a flash we can usually 'see' who is good or not regardless of their ability in most cases, it's when we become too technical and apply enforced structures that life takes a turn for the worst. For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
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©John Rushton / The Life Doctor 2012
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Sunday, 8 July 2012
LOVE VERSUS FEAR - A CHOICE
We all have a fear of something even if it doesn't anymore 'rattle our cage' like it used to, maturity has a way of softening the blows in life to a large extent. Fear can present itself in many ways sometimes one can just have a fear of living in a certain country which is oppressive or in a somewhat 'narrow' household or sect, it can in fact be anything that's too restrictive. No one has the right to control another an if you allow your religion to control you - you are finished as has already been born out in those religiously controlled countries of today where everything takes a backward step in life and progress is a dirty word. Of course when you control you have little if no love within you at all, and where there is a void of love deceit, corruption, greed, devastation, stagnation, poverty, unhappiness and ultimately failure is but the sum total of what their worth is. Fear can be psychological, spiders. open places, the darkness, and whatever it is that manifests itself within you. It can be the fear of failure or being inadequate, it can be the fear of something new that for many is a hell in the making, whilst others see it as an endless area of opportunity, fear is but a mind construct..jpg)
The love walk, that is a way of life that sees the good in everything whilst not negating the bad, it doesn't offend nor take offence, it isn't judgemental, although still free to form an opinion, it doesn't want to cause harm to score points, and it doesn't want to mentally belittle nor put people down to make the self feel good. It similarly doesn't follow celebrities nor others of a hollow disposition whilst it sees the possible qualities they have within them as human beings and the unfortunate failings which the press seem to revel in too. The love walk promotes health, happiness and a direction free from others ideas who may wish to impart on you for their good either by deed or in a financial way for their gain. It promotes a freedom that frightens dictators and unleashes the bonds that cause subservience and the ties that many self impose for lack of direction and personal respect. It's a strength that needs no others nor excuses nor lies or subterfuge which those in imperious positions need to survive. It cuts through corporate deceit, it shuns media lies, it breaks those who impart self importance as a false means of covering up their own failings, and it drives a hard bargain towards those that deploy unfairness to gain ground for self greed. The penalty for loss of love is by its own volition is death by and suffering for the many. 
None of us are perfect, we have downfalls, we come into situations that hinder our way forward, we too come across as recipients of unfairness and greed by others, and we get temporarily thwarted by the 'gatekeepers' in life, those again who take it on themselves to select of which very few have any credentials as to seeing the bigger picture. Positive people have a love walk, genuine positive people that is, not the so called "happy people" who put on a facade like the New Age or many Coaches who talk the talk but have yet to find the walk and who are if you listen carefully still finding themselves. The strength we need to soldier on against at times a back drop of contrived negativity and a world created by evil religions and those that seek greed as a God of their following crumbles with love as a base. We too overcome the negativity that so many absorb like a sponge until they become actually saturated with "stuff" that is not of their making and that's the time they themselves become ill both physically and mentally. Mental health and a feeling of helplessness for many in the West is a recurring condition, for those in the Middle East it's an endless torment that will not be resolved for many years to come. You have a choice as to where your love walk goes, only you can make love an aspect of your life regardless of circumstances and conditions, it is a choice. For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
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Friday, 6 July 2012
FOR THE LOVE OF IT
What kind of a person are you? How do you look at life and how do you deal with all the ups and downs that one goes through? Are you a person that enjoys the good times but is a mess when it all goes 'belly up'? Are you a sociable and friendly type of person, someone who is approachable and leaves their own thoughts and feelings aside when others "grate on you" and start talking to you? Are you that affable soul that looks cheerful even when racing away with a hundred different things that need to be done? Can you see the 'bigger picture' predominantly in life as opposed to residing in a narrow microcosm of the narrow mindedness and stilted views? Are you an "all round" "Mr.Nice Guy" or are you touchy, snooty, stupid, selfish, picky, opinionated, not very knowledgeable about food or drink and selective to a high degree, stick to staid views, judgemental, etc, because if you are you will not be alone? Are you outgoing, gregarious, adventurous, or are you moody, insular, choosy, and not knowingly boring, even though you think you are the opposite - but if you are you are not alone? Do you have a good general knowledge of what's going on in the world or predominantly only know which celebrities are sleeping with whom and are in rehab because if that's your lot you are not alone? Do you just go through life or do you make a life, do you bring richness into your life or do you wait for richness whatever that is to enter via someone else- because if you do you are not alone? Do you walk your pathway in life or do you follow everyone else marvelling at what they have done but not much to show of the self, because if you do you are not alone? Do you think you are loving and compassionate and warm and kind and generous and follow that through outside of the family to others - because if you think that then you are not alone? Do you think that you are intelligent, aware, knowledgeable, worldly, understanding, have social graces, etiquette, (whether you have or not or aspire to have) because if you do you are not alone.
What do you do for love in your life outside of your family, or does it just stop there? Do you even consider love to be an important or intricate part of your life or does it never cross your mind or just think that you are a loving sort of person and that's it? Do you feel that you are compassionate and because of that you are cool with that "smug" feeling that you have that trait so it's all all right? Are you open minded or like to think you are if asked yet deep down you are quite rigid in your thoughts and selective perceptions? Do you think you should be better than you are or further on in life? Has your life a purpose or do you just live it and have private thoughts as to where it should or might go? Are your aspirations wholesome or idealistically based upon what you would like to see as opposed to those based upon everyone not just your ideals or whims? What makes you happy, and where does your thought train reside when it comes to possession of material effects and acquisitions? Are you self confident yet not smug nor arrogant and do you ever get intimidated by those who seemingly have more than you or do you like to show off with the few bits that you have already to appease that inner self as to satisfaction and establishment of whom you are? Do you lead or follow, and if so are you happy with either or do you prefer to call yourself entrepreneurial as it sounds good, feels good and encompasses areas that you don't like to think about individually?
The love walk in life is all about us, no one else, the more love we have the lighter life is and the greater understanding we have for everything and the less emotionally involved we get with trivia or problems that are way beyond our control. We also more frequently see the "bigger picture" and don't take offence ever if we are called names or shouted at or whatever it may be, as it says more about the other person / others than ourselves. When things are not so hot knowing that it will get better enables us not to automatically take a ride on the "miserable" coach until it does, we are fine just now - regardless.The more we interact with elements, media, stories about what is not of our concern, the more we allow the "Sponge Effect" to take shape, i.e. we keep subliminally absorbing information that we don't or can't use until we become over full then start to weaken our resolve, we become saturated with trivia at the expense of real concern and love about the things we have authority and control over. For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
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Thursday, 5 July 2012
THE DARK CLOUDS OVERHEAD
At times in life a darkness seems to overtake us to the extent it subliminally alters our views, perceptions , feelings, outlook and degrees of positivity that we once thought was a strength that we had within. It's only a feeling regardless of the reality of circumstances and not those of perceived circumstances, and although it all may appear very real our thoughts pertaining to our feelings are created within our minds. When we take off on a plane we often go through cloud, rain, snow, etc, only to find a few minutes into the flight all has changed and there is bright sun or if at night clear views of the stars and moon. Life is exactly like that, the clouds that tend to darken our lives are but temporary and we need to understand that troubles never last forever neither does the happiness that we enjoy although it doesn't mean that the happiness will not return to something much better. It's just that everything in life has a "shelf life" and we need to work to that premise. Knowing that we have the impetus to work for those moments when it all changes which could be as short as a few days or as long as a few months, never the less in between awaiting these breaks in the cloud we have to enjoy life and not endure it. We are the masters of our own body and mind and thus we have to do the best to respect that and not concede nor acquiesce to circumstances that are subject to change at a minutes notice.
We need every day of our lives to start it on a positive note regardless of the dexterity that we may need to just psych ourselves up for if we dwell on what's happening as opposed to ourselves and getting out of it then we will become the problem and not the solution. We are all different and react in different ways and even have different backgrounds and views on identical problems etc, but what is common to all are the self same feelings of lowness and that is the key problem itself, for where lowness exists so does the 'get out' solution too. We need to surround ourselves no matter who we are or where we are with positive people - no exceptions, they are the ones who are going to radiate the positive energy that you are going to fuel recovery upon and in turn reverse feed back energy to those around you too. Dark Clouds happen to anyone, sometimes they are very dark indeed and can render the self moribund and cast doubt as to any hope or indeed chance as to a way out, but clouds are but temporary and our efforts no matter what they are will force though that little glimmer of light that we all pick up on in an instant. The verve that the average human being possesses is astounding, however our mind which processes all of our body movements and thoughts needs to be updated like our computer software in order to maximise our potential and utilise full power not some sort of diluted strategy that leads nowhere.
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Tuesday, 3 July 2012
THE WILL TO LET GO
There's a lot spoken about the "will to let go", books describe the cathartic properties of "walking away" or "letting go" or "moving on" and to some extent it's all true. In most cases "letting go" is in reality easier said than done, it's often very hard to "let go" even when somethings aren't doing us any good whatsoever. The saying "better the devil you know is better than the devil you don't" rings true with many people but that always pre-supposes that what they are about to leave and enter into won't be any better, it usually is or the thought of leaving in the first place or moving on wouldn't have emerged. We all need to move on, let go of certain areas of our life, we leave home, get a new job, find a partner, and so it goes on. Familiarity is to some a way of life if not a comfort, routines, traditions, etc, are all very well and good but without modification of time taking place they can turn about face and start to both repress your life and you can actually regress as you tend to be stationary whilst life overtakes you. For most people "letting go" or "moving on" is a momentos task it takes a big change of heart and often dexterity to effect what they need to do and in the process it can affect a number of people who lose their degree of importance and position in life with regards to friendship and 'best friend type' status. By the same token those that make such a forward move often need to cultivate a whole new base for their lives including friends, neighbours, colleagues, associates, attitudes, environment, thoughts, perceptions and ideologies as to a new future from a different base.
There's a big difference between being selfish and doing something for yourself, being a martyr to yourself isn't smart, it's silly and will only bring on eternal regret and possibly hardship too. It's not that we can't or don't or won't give up something to help others especially those close to us but in the bigger picture what we do has a defined action and course that directs us forward. How we go forward is thus also defined by not only our actions but our attitude and our perceptions of life too. We are the only ones who can direct ourselves in life no matter what help we have or opportunities present themselves. Living with regret isn't an option if we do something we should do so with purpose even if it's not exactly what we would like, building up a store house of regrets and excuses is for the feeble minded and those that seek beyond whom they are. To move anywhere in life we must "let go" of where we are otherwise we just won't move, the circumstances of where we are and the parameters of where we live within and the conditions in which we allow ourselves to move alter quite significantly even for those who are predominantly sedentary. If we do nothing life takes us forward by default, so it's imperative that we do something no matter what to both effect a change to our betterment and place our own purpose firmly on the map. Anything less and we start to both lose the plot and become by default drones just wandering aimlessly and then the rot sets in. 
Families, friends, relationships, comfort factors, etc weigh heavily when it comes to having to move on for some, for others they see the bigger picture and know that whilst the current status quo may be good and relatively wholesome, the future won't be an extension on the "now" as fragmentation takes place either by design or default and then the "I should have done this ages ago" thoughts spring to mind. There is also that thing called "the love walk" and if life is that good where you are then the love element from both within yourself and others will allow you to move onwards unheeded because with "love" in evidence only the best is good enough and if that means moving on then so be it and no bitterness, jealousy, envy, etc, will be there to tarnish it all. We are all different and what some do to move forward is a step too far for others, there's no wrong nor right in this, it is what it is, but even the very staid get bored in life and that need not happen, although much of what becomes of them is effected by a narrow attitude that does little for anyone let alone themselves. Letting go provides a paving of the way for the future list of unknowns but from a higher more updated stance, it's here that we can excel or find ourselves and allow our various aptitudes to flourish or at least give them a chance to blossom to some degree. Letting go is not always that easy emotionally even though the aspect of going somewhere better resonates well. We have to do what we have to do, but the bottom line is whatever decision you take don't make it rest with an excuse beside it, make it a committment that way you'll feel more secure and useful within. For more : www.thelifedoctor.info
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Monday, 2 July 2012
FINDING THE SIGNAL IN THE NOISE
All around us is noise of some sort, whether it's the neighbours children, traffic, aircraft flying over, loud music, etc, whatever it is there whether we hear it or not. On the other side of the audible spectrum there resides another dimension in sound one that has defined purpose as well as other random sounds too, but for ourselves this organised noise is what makes life for us what it is today. It's the invisible signal noise of radio, television, internet, our mobile phones, our remote control units, sat nav, and the rest it's all there on designated frequencies doing what its supposed to do. In between that the ambient noise or white noise exists, it's the stuff that we can hear and something we either love or not, country dwellers experience different ambient noises from those living in the cities and by further definition those living near railways and airports experience variants within all of that, etc. The world in which we live we is bombarded by advertising all promising the thought of something better, success, keys to this n' that, instant point scoring, increase your rating, get your business more aware, nay for a small fee the secrets of the universe will uncovered by - whoever, it's all there if we choose to look, and if we don't choose to look they are there to tell us anyway. We are a brilliant and boastful and deceitful society mixing a little of this, a little of that and with a bit of strategic marketing until it all comes together as "today's flavour" an elixir that everyone just 'has' to buy, all very California. Which is not to say it doesn't work, but what it doesn't bring into its algorithms are the times lines and numerous coefficients that actually stop it being a run away success, as most products" have like pre-packed food a shelf life after which it doesn't go off as such but becomes superseded by an updated model, by another creator, definitely very California.
There is a purpose and a success trail for all of us, and whilst latching on to others formulas and strategies which may coincide or assist us with what we are doing we can if not careful get bogged down in areas which are not conducive nor creative to what we are doing, even if in themselves they are fabulous. There is a degree of uniqueness about each and every one of us whether we allow this to shine or keep it behind locked doors is down to us. Our uniqueness is very real, we can hear the voice of our partner or friend over and above all others if close by, and if we really try we can hear other information too that many just allow to pass by. Similarly if we seek a trajectory in life or a way forward it must be something that resonates well even if initially we are the only ones to see it, which is often the case. Within the "white noise" there is "our pathway" our own unique signal that no amount of promotion or advertising will help secure or bring around success, if what we are aiming for doesn't have that resounding feeling and resonance then it will just be something that's smart or good but goes no further, and how many times have we all seen that, and indeed perhaps with our own projects not proceeding as wished.
In the space arena stations are all over the world listening for those feint sounds that will indicate a potential, we can hear noises in our car when it goes wrong, and indeed surveillance systems listen for those extraordinary sounds over and above the backdrop of commonplace to decipher and deceminate tell tale areas that give knowledge and advantage. Out there waiting to help us all become rich and famous are those who for a fee will 'tell all' their systems, (or rather unlock a bit at a time costing each step of the way) unleashing designer understanding, knowledge, methodology, schemes, etc, which will enable us to reach where we think we need to be or if greedy desire. For many their desire is possibly a step too far even if what they do is commendable, it's a bit like driving a normal car 'off road' whereas a 4x4 would have been the best option. It's these nuances and differences that sometimes just can't take in or accommodate differences that even experts don't see or want to see for fear themselves of losing a sale. If what we do is inherent then we would 'see' the little things that are likely to accelerate where we need to go, or have some catalytic action and within that 'white noise' we would both see and feel that pathway which others would completely miss out or be oblivious of.
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Sunday, 1 July 2012
DATING SITES - AN ENTERTAINMENT IN ITSELF
Even the top dating sites today and there are dozens of new versions springing up every week boast of only about 5% success rate so what happens to the other 95% who join, who are they, what are they and what are they looking for, surprisingly it's not always a date. Dating sites are becoming more personal versions of the social media platforms such as Facebook and Twitter but with a more intimate twist, the myth that dating sites are specifically honed to producing a mate are just that, the law of averages puts all that firmly into place as does the fact that "personal chemistry" is something that can't be commercially applied to data. From the outset there's always a fascination about dating sites in that people whether coupled or single like to know or feel that "others" like or find them attractive, it's a boost to the ego, so if you have an ego that's pulsing then you are already a candidate for those who "just like to see" or "find out" for no other reason than you can. The beauty about personal dating sites is that it's there 24/7 and you can follow your "You have mail" replies from your mobile / iPad / tablet or PC whenever you like, it's always exciting to see that someone somewhere has responded even if it isn't that brilliant a response.
The trouble with most people is that they have perceptions about themselves and of course, ego, anger, skepticism, arrogance, fear, failure and degrees of down right stupidity, as well as a varying level of intelligence that take the edge of accuracy, however that very essential if not crucial thing called "common sense" needs to be in abundance. Either have it or you don't your educational levels mean nothing if you haven't got common sense. So many people get so easily flattered and taken in by the first few words of endearment that they fail to see past them and respond accordingly, from that moment on the other person knows you are potential "game". And even if you respond with a crude and acerbic reply because that's the crude acerbic person you are it gives them a challenge to try and woo you over, and that often works too, in fact crude acerbic people are their own downfall, but there again so is arrogance and that has no base levels and the pit is bottomless.
Not having a partner or able to find one is of course a prime factor in joining a dating site, but then so is loneliness (which is perhaps the biggest reason) and there onwards finding "like minded" others at whatever level is entertaining, and game for what you can develop thereafter. You can liaise with your dating sites and "contacts", especially when you get home late, get ready for bed and in the privacy of your own home chat about whatever you like until you decide enough is enough until tomorrow. As long as you pay your monthly fee (after all it's a commercial concern not a benevolent site for your best interest) off again you go until tomorrow. It fulfills a purpose, it passes away the time it does give a degree of emotional satisfaction even if hollow in nature and the chance to commune with 1000's of potential people is exciting. For some On Line Dating is a way of life, their whole focus shifts from being lonely to being reclusive in that they now rarely don't go out at all so fixated are they with strangers and possibly established contacts exchanging degrees of correspondence. 
In the On Line world there are the liers, cheats, sex addicts, the deceitful, scammers, chasers, fetish merchants, game players, entertainers, the lost, the bewildered, psychopaths, the unstable, the neurotic, weirdos, the desperate, egotists, freaks, some nice people, and of course the lonely as well as those who are there to pray on the unsuspecting and feeble to solicit money by their hard luck stories - and it works well. All this 95% latter group of people make up who are there on the dating site presumably all having inaccurately filled in the questionnaire seeking a perfect mate. Unfortunately people aren't even honest with themselves so from day one there is a discordance with whom they are and what they seek, based predominantly on a modified ideal as opposed to an honest base and accurate self. The chasers seek to chase compliant contacts but never want to meet - this gives them the buzz, this accounts for many transactions, even those who often don't really like each other correspond because they can and it gives some degree of mutual support even though much of it is lies and empty content. It's better to have a few people "on the go" than nothing, there's nothing worse than going to your mail box" to see it empty or not signed to say "you have mail". It's a psychological thing that many in particular women need to have to feel involved, even if disappointment is the on going feeling. However after a while disappointment turns into a "game" and that game becomes for many habitual and one then turns most into an expert in answering and reading into profiles and messages which even further on takes the "Dating Game" to another level. It's almost now like "on Line Gaming" where skill in judgment takes over from sincere passion and lust is but a point scoring bonus. 
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