DANCING WITH GHOSTS

Does your past ever come back to haunt you? You ever have bouts of regret, remorse, guilt, apprehension of the past, etc? Does life at times seem like a course in aspects of deja vu or that you have feelings that it's recurring again like it's all the same but different? Do people remind you of the past or regurgitate stories of a not so nice nature that makes you feel somewhat low in spirits? Well fret not because it happens to many people every day at some juncture in their lives. Of course we can deliberately and almost consciously make decisions that repeat the past such as the "battered wife syndrome" and other areas where reality, stability and habit all roll themselves into one to try and fulfil an inner desire. It works but the result is always failure. One thing that people don't seem to bring to their guise of where they reside is the here and now and that the past is just that. No manner of conversation or saying sorry or crying or "making good" or appeasement or atonement or resolution or whatever is dreamt up today can alter, change or undo the past. What has happened has happened.

Guilt and memories of the past are manifested within the mind, nowhere else can they live, no one else can harbour your thoughts or feelings and no one else can ever change the thought process except yourself. Guilt is none productive and serves nothing more than a selfish whim of your own or worse still of others who wish to keep the past thoughts alive for their evilness of mind, it can't be said otherwise. Past loves, bereavement, financial greatness now no more, whatever it was has left its trail on life and is now confined to the echelons of history. We live in the present and our destiny lies in tomorrow which has nothing to do with the past even if decisions made yesterday affect what we do tomorrow, we can never live yesterdays decisions good or bad again. Trying to bring "closure" to the past is silly, because closure has already been effected, it's gone, so the only thing that people seek is something of a personal nature to try and bring form to it because they often can't bring together an understanding that "that's it" but it is, it's that simple. All this "we can rest now", "we can put it behind us", "we can do whatever" is unfortunately a selfish mind set often thrown up by the press or legally driven to try and add kudos but again the reality is you can't add kudos to the ghosts of time.

The problem with many people is that they are trying to find something tangible in life to give themselves meaning, importance, substance and an ability to proceed forwards with impunity and solidity, many fail. Grasping at intangible morsels of life as if that will help but sadly when they have tasted what they desire they find it is still not filling those voids within. When their desire to be emotionally quenched does not hit the mark they then set out on any other quest to see if that will effect a solution, sadly that doesn't help either. To feel really wholesome one must understand what life is all about and the past isn't something you can dance with in the present, memories are just that no matter how dear they are. If you for once delve into areas outside of substance then your whole ability will flounder and not only will life fragment it will be a job in itself to try and feel and see happiness other than for fleeting moments. Life is here, now, that is where you have to live, anywhere else and you are fooling yourself.

Ghosts don't have substance as we know it, they are the remnants of life past. If we choose to associate with anything that isn't here or to come then we are in for a rude awakening. Good mental health is our strongest essential asset if that goes we go with it. Love is the present foundation of humanity it's where everyone lives and moves and it's where we can interact. Our happiness is present time, our love is present time our life is present time and our future is partly present time. Making things up in our mind isn't smart, we need to see potential and not contrive responsibility of atonement because if it is atoned we are still left bereft of substance. For the deceased it's all too late and it means absolutely nothing. Doing things on behalf of the deceased and still say "I did it on their behalf" is a lie and not true and it smacks of selfishness all the way through. If you can't see life for what it is never expect to be happy.

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UPPING YOUR GAME

Throughout our lives we have a series of ups and downs, sometimes what we experience is akin to free fall parachuting in that we soar to a dizzy height then drop uncontrollably somewhere that we hadn't bargained for. At times too life as we have been enjoying it comes to an abrupt end leaving us feeling somewhat empty inside and lacking in energy and mental charisma to go forward. Whatever it is we have to move on and move on under our own steam, not allowing others to take us forward by default into their world all of which is based upon their thoughts sometimes it's their thoughts that had cause the rift in the first place. Even if nothing in particular has happened to us, life never stays in the same groove so we need to progress from where we are otherwise we will again by default find that our 'cosy' environment has suddenly come to a big full stop. Our "full stop" however caused isn't fun, it not only turns our world upside down it causes many mind jolts that destabilise whom we are and our thoughts for the future. In the process of restating ourselves and placing our life back on track it can be for all of those around us to a time when they also assess themselves and their relationship with us, often having to make a concerted effort to alter it and the way in which they liaise with us.

It's always good to "up your game" to try better elevate your thoughts and feelings after all if we move on in life and take nothing of  what we have learned then it doesn't bode well for either the future or our stability or happiness. Life is "work in progress" and it's when we are "at one" with ourselves is when we can pick up on the nuances and the tell tale signs that should steer us around what is potentially looming large ahead of us. Following others isn't smart, what may seem like a good idea and worthwhile when others do something does not necessarily translate into us doing it. What emanates from within us is the only expedient step we can take. And whilst we see books on "success", rags to riches, step by step guide to becoming a billionaire, secrets of business, etc, all of which are a good read, the one thing they never ever state is that the difference between the author and the reader is "the time line".  Everything else is parallel and thus circumstances are never the same even if parameters seem identical. If all of these good reads were as they are purported to be we would have streams of wild successes whereas it's the opposite.

Upping our game at any stage is good even if it initially means cutting back or pruning what we have to secure a better base upon which to grow again. Life isn't linear and the "time line" always, always, always introduces aspects of 'now' which makes the theory of much of what we do, see, enact, read invalid even if the modus operandi is the same. It's like following a recipe, if you cook on a cold day or a hot day it can affect the cooking time, yet the recipe gives you the exact minutes. Variances in life can make a world of difference to the result and many people are successful because they hit a "right" moment which excels what they are doing, whilst others who do the very same thing hit a lull and the opposite happens.  Many a multi-national company launches a product which bombs out, only to re-launch it six months later and to takes off. Small businesses often don't have that latitude and the first failure leaves them with a massive debt that often they hardly recover from, but it doesn't mean that their product / service wasn't of excellent merit.

We can however "up our game" at our level, just what we do, say, our presentation, string of friends, etc, all makes a difference to the end result. We have to 'walk the walk' and not just theorise about it, which often happens when you read a book, you get excited and fired up by new ideas and thoughts, yet a week later you are still where you were before even if more knowledgeable. Translation and "time lines" often thwart most people leaving them a little despondent, it shouldn't as diligence has a way of overcoming the temporary set backs and negative periods when little seems to happen. We do control our own mind sets and as such should "bolster our thoughts ourself" by doing so we learn so much about what is around us as opposed to blending into what's around us which takes away our control and numbs our creativity. We evolve, so upping our game steers our course and stops us by default moving in a direction that we hadn't planned. In life there is much to have, over and above those areas of what we would like, but if we only adhere to "what we would like" we miss out on the possibilities and permutations that we hadn't even thought of or been privy to know. Allow the bigger picture to enter into your life and see what a vast difference it can make.

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MOVING ON

Our lives comprise of a series of defined areas where we ourselves strive or aim to get to, many of them we succeed, and some are areas where life does its own thing and we end up as recipients of circumstances and weird situations at times also. It happens to everyone and there are no favourites nor prisoners taken in the process. We are as individuals entities of our own making, that is our minds are ours from day one until the day we die, and once we reach our teens we are basically 'on our own' as far as how we think via our individuality and where our perceptions of life are concerned. We can be well educated and stupid or we can be far less educated and very wise, neither wisdom nor stupidity are linked to education we need a modicum of each to go forward. Many is the time that creativity is born out of little education but the wisdom has allowed others to take over and uphold what the originator lacks, everything in its place. You can also end up as very well educated and become a television expert that talks a load of rubbish and gets it all wrong as what they think or surmise is basically based upon here say. The fluidity of life today especially with social networking and viral growth has almost eliminated extrapolations and the unexpected is now the expected.

Whether we like it or not we move on, life evolves and we get taken with it lock stock and barrel it's only when we decide to do something of our own volition that we can define more succinctly a future for ourselves and where we would like to be placed, even if it's a constant striving of modifications en-route. There is but one guarantee in life and that's death and here lies a whole load of conjecture as to the after life or the 'that's your lot' theory, options are always open. But whilst we are alive we need to do the best we can and that takes a great deal of personal dexterity in order to at least respect whom we are as individuals and be selective who we allow into our lives on our journey. Our sentient capability gives us feelings and a a purpose to keep going even if some don't exactly know why or possibly care, but it takes all sorts to make a world. Our progress encompasses many hurdles and also many joys too which we must never ever overlook by dwelling upon what wasn't that exciting as it will quell our focus and stymie our ability to proficiently enjoy tomorrow and the day after.
 
Countries move onwards but not neccessarily to better things, business move on and close down, areas move on and get demolished, and moving on doesn't automatically denote better, although in most cases the striving force is for better even if the end product is the opposite. Moving on at times is more of a metamorphasis in that what one moves on to bears no resemblance to the past or what was originally envisaged, it's therefor impertaive that one has an open mind to allow drastic yet far better changes take place than to hold on to the past and wollow in the detritus of redundant life being regurgitated for the sake of it. It's sometimers leaving our comfort zone that is the achiles heal and we dare not make those needed moves so life literally grates as it fights with potential and throws up an unstable present that has little if nothing to offer. Life can be good or it can be resilient and keep us firmly placed to where we are, we have the ability to change even if a little, and don't forget it takes a small pin to burst a big balloon. Similarly any small changes we make can have positive changes that we can enjoy ahead of us.

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