DATING SITES - AN ENTERTAINMENT IN ITSELF

Even the top dating sites today and there are dozens of new versions springing up every week boast of only about 5% success rate so what happens to the other 95% who join, who are they, what are they and what are they looking for, surprisingly it's not always a date. Dating sites are becoming more personal versions of the social media platforms such as Facebook and Twitter but with a more intimate twist, the myth that dating sites are specifically honed to producing a mate are just that, the law of averages puts all that firmly into place as does the fact that "personal chemistry" is something that can't be commercially applied to data. From the outset there's always a fascination about dating sites in that people whether coupled or single like to know or feel that "others" like or find them attractive, it's a boost to the ego, so if you have an ego that's pulsing then you are already a candidate for those who "just like to see" or "find out" for no other reason than you can. The beauty about personal dating sites is that it's there 24/7 and you can follow your "You have mail" replies from your mobile / iPad / tablet or PC whenever you like, it's always exciting to see that someone somewhere has responded even if it isn't that brilliant a response.

The trouble with most people is that they have perceptions about themselves and of course, ego, anger, skepticism, arrogance, fear, failure and degrees of down right stupidity, as well as a varying level of intelligence that take the edge of accuracy, however that very essential if not crucial thing called "common sense" needs to be in abundance. Either have it or you don't your educational levels mean nothing if you haven't got common sense. So many people get so easily flattered and taken in by the first few words of endearment that they fail to see past them and respond accordingly, from that moment on the other person knows you are  potential "game". And even if you respond with a crude and acerbic reply because that's the crude acerbic person you are it gives them a challenge to try and woo you over, and that often works too, in fact crude acerbic people are their own downfall, but there again so is arrogance and that has no base levels and the pit is bottomless.

Not having a partner or able to find one is of course a prime factor in joining a dating site, but then so is loneliness (which is perhaps the biggest reason) and there onwards finding "like minded" others at whatever level is entertaining, and game for what you can develop thereafter. You can liaise with your dating sites and "contacts", especially when you get home late, get ready for bed and in the privacy of your own home chat about whatever you like until you decide enough is enough until tomorrow.  As long as you pay your monthly fee (after all it's a commercial concern not a benevolent site for your best interest) off again you go until tomorrow. It fulfills a purpose, it passes away the time it does give a degree of emotional satisfaction even if hollow in nature and the chance to commune with 1000's of potential people is exciting. For some On Line Dating is a way of life, their whole focus shifts from being lonely to being reclusive in that they now rarely don't go out at all so fixated are they with strangers and possibly established contacts exchanging degrees of correspondence.

In the On Line world there are the liers, cheats, sex addicts, the deceitful, scammers, chasers, fetish merchants, game players, entertainers, the lost, the bewildered, psychopaths, the unstable, the neurotic, weirdos, the desperate, egotists, freaks, some nice people, and of course the lonely as well as those who are there to pray on the unsuspecting and feeble to solicit money by their hard luck stories - and it works well. All this 95% latter group of people make up who are there on the dating site presumably all having inaccurately filled in the questionnaire seeking a perfect mate. Unfortunately people aren't even honest with themselves so from day one there is a discordance with whom they are and what they seek, based predominantly on a modified ideal as opposed to an honest base and accurate self. The chasers seek to chase compliant contacts but never want to meet - this gives them the buzz, this accounts for many transactions, even those who often don't really like each other correspond because they can and it gives some degree of mutual support even though much of it is lies and empty content. It's better to have a few people "on the go" than nothing, there's nothing worse than going to your mail box" to see it empty or not signed to say "you have mail". It's a psychological thing that many in particular women need to have to feel involved, even if disappointment is the on going feeling. However after a while disappointment turns into a "game" and that game becomes for many habitual and one then turns most into an expert in answering and reading into profiles and messages which even further on takes the "Dating Game" to another level. It's almost now like "on Line Gaming" where skill in judgment takes over from sincere passion and lust is but a point scoring bonus.

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DO OR DIE

You have two choices in life you do or you don't, that accounts for our almost binary coding for decision making, do we or don't we, either way has repercussions and sometimes the 'ripple effect' takes over from such decisions, other times the backlash is minimal and fades into insignificance. Procrastinating veers on the side of NO we don't but it's a bit of a cowardly way out allowing circumstances to take control and then blaming everything and everyone that things aren't as they should be. Today our whole lives and what is around us is changing like never before, well it couldn't change before like it is now because we have never had technology developed to this extent and in ten years time what we have now will literally pale into insignificance. But what is changing and has nothing to do with technology to a large extent it is the human stance in life, and that has market repercussions. There is more corporate greed, dishonesty, subterfuge, deceit than ever before and this is across all sectors, aviation, banking, food stuffs, hardware, local authorities, you name it. And it doesn't stop there the deceit ravages politicians and on a global scale too, plus the underhanded deals and insider information and the proliferation of the rest. All this is not new to Africa and the Middle East where deceit and greed are part of the "rulers" way of life literally, why, because they can do it and get away with it, so it's almost cultural, and where life outside of this is viewed as cheap.

It won't be long now before we have real oil shortages, already there is a physical decline in output because the current massive reserves are past their peak and the development of alternative supplies of fuel are coming on stream faster than anticipated which is due to the hike in oil prices makes now alternatives competitive which not long ago there were not. Once the real dependence on oil starts to wane then the fun begins and the disruption to the Middle East and some African countries will bring home the fact that outside of this commodity which just happens to be there, it's not a technical creation of their own doing, they have absolutely nothing left to offer nor to support themselves. Public unrest world wide is the highest it has ever been and much of this has been caused by whichever party is governing not taking "real" notice of the low ebb reverberation throbbing all around them, so used are they to the old and traditional ways of governing, i.e. "what we say goes" but now finding it not happening. Unrest and mayhem will be something that is more common, not so much strikes but demonstrations pertaining to humanity and how people live and the aloof and pathetic governance of what makes people 'happy' or 'unhappy' as a nation.

Politicians talk the talk only based upon what consultants have fed them and what brief they have read, outside of that many are clueless and staid in their outlook and literally how people commune, work, mingle and access each other via the various strata's in which they live. Statesmen are nearly a thing of the past and global sparring and bickering is bland and dull and does very little for those on home turf. Giving away funds to look good on the international platform for health and education then charging your own people vastly increased tuition fees and giving reduced medical services isn't smart and goes towards the "unhappiness" of a nation greatly, lost in respect and is a part of the mayhem to follow.You wouldn't do this at home so why  do it elsewhere. Like a volcano public pressure builds up until it's released, then the politicians make out they were going to change all along and the opposition say similar stuff but all tell lies to cover their ineptitude, smugness, stupidity and ideas in a world that only they live within. Where National security whilst important has turned into an industry of the paranoid, where once proud nations are frightened of their own shadows. Our choices for a better life are ours via our votes, our actions, our deeds, our works, etc, sitting back is not a positive decision.

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