YOU AREN'T ALONE

There's a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely, the former is just that - you are alone, with few or no one around you, the latter is a feeling of isolation even in the midst of friends and loved ones where your inner thoughts are cocooned in a dialogue of their own usually linked to a mind condition or a feeling that things aren't going so well. It could however be that you have "moved on" in life and those around you whilst good people don't offer anymore the support you need and the type of camaraderie you require to enjoy life. It's very easy to be judgmental here but "Feeling Alone" is a very personal thing and it's purely down to the individual as to how they perceive life. Sometimes it's the little things in life that can trip us up the most, like the little stones in our shoes, as small as they are they produce great discomfort and we have to literally stop to remove same. Even when everything appears to be going well, we can feel totally "out of it" to the extent that we go through the motions of life and robotically laugh, join in make arrangements etc, whilst at the same time our minds are literally elsewhere, and our thoughts are churning around discussing life and how we best fit in with it all and that 'elusive' goal of satisfaction and completeness or lack of it.

How we perceive life is down to us, this stays with us throughout the whole of our lives so it's vitally important that we get some semblance of understanding as to who we are, where we are and all that surrounds us. If we have a belief then we already know that God is at hand, for those that don't believe or believe in some weird evil religion then you just winge and moan and still nothing happens. The fact that when we go through an ordeal we do feel alone even if at times we come across others who have or are going through the same thing, there's always a 'let out' clause for them but never yourself, it's this 'self' that holds us back. Very few if any at all are experiencing something unique, even if it's unique to ourselves, it's our 'mind-set' and that mind set can be pivotal as to how we pull through, come through or deal with life and enjoy it all at the other end. Nothing lasts for ever be it good or bad, having said that the median in between can give a rewarding life that's fun and productive and sharing amongst fellow man. Even if we go to the doctors and receive some tablets etc, we receive tablets because somewhere there are 1000's of others needing the same remedial drug for the same problem.

There are various "chat lines" and "blogs" and suchlike that are user friendly and directed towards specific topics where people can openly under a pseudonym pour out their problems to like minded souls and receive correspondence of encouragement and help and advice, and at times this can be the best help around. Often knowing that you are not alone can be so elevating that the severity of the problem can be almost halved in a split second. Whether we have a secret fetish, secret desires or feelings which to us are "all out of the ordinary" finding that "other" person or persons can make a world of difference and if we seek we will find, although those others we seek will be hiding in the background so diligence is par for the course. We can be our biggest problem, and we are experts at making up excuses for ourselves and why it's always easier for someone else but in "my" case, it's just not possible or too difficult, and so the pathetic trail of excuses goes on and on and on, and nothing gets resolved. One main element of freeing up the self is to detach oneself literally from the public gaze in as much as you neither want nor need comments or opinions of others who know nothing of your plight even if they know you personally, there's always that little something they don't know and everyone should understand that about everyone else.  

Liberating the self is essential, it doesn't mean making public your feelings nor anything else it just means taking charge of whom you are and walking with it, without explanation to others, which at times others who can actually semi-demand to know what you have been up to and if you don't let on they get upset, so let them, boundaries always need to be respected and if their assessment of you changes then so be it, for at times if you acquiesce to their demand you not only lower your own self esteem they may just not understand and walk away anyway, you have to judge this yourself. On the other side of the fence you may be in a precarious position whereby you need friends just for emotional support but it's essential that you have the right friends and the right quantity and quality of support for if it's too much either way it can become burdensome and topple all you seek as support. Even in times of dire need when the world looms large and you feel so inconsequential you are not by yourself, there are solutions, ways out and as difficult as it is in such a state making a move is a 100% better than doing nothing. The journey of a hundred miles takes one first step, take that step for yourself in nothing else.

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HELP ME - PLEASE....

It's of no surprise that right now somewhere someone is desperate for help of some kind, it doesn't matter what it is, desperation is the same for everyone regardless of the nature or the severity of the situation. But further down the line there is a degree of desperation that just doesn't quite hit the 'critial list' yet constantly burns away deep inside of us awaiting a solution that's affecting our life. It's the constant gnawing that 'toothache' that's at the back of our mind that's throbbing away and taking the edge of our every day life, making our small choices and decisions seem larger than they should be and bringing our world into a narrower focus that eliminates or excludes what we could really be enjoying. Whether at work or at home, the feeling that there is just something that's preventing life moving to the 'fast lane' weighs heavily and many people are caught up in this scenario, many that on the outside one wouldn't realise nor see nor even anticipate that such problems exist within them as they smile and get along their daily life as if trouble free. Yet deep within the seas of rage battle against the odds and the inner vision of life is anything but that what appears on the outside.

Help is something that many people steer well clear of and even more so bottle up what they have churning around within for fear that others may judge them on what it is that's bothering them.  It's this mixed emotion of being "thought of" by others that also exacerbates the situation greatly as they then feel locked into a scenario that they don't want to discuss their predicament and feel it's either not that great as to get professional help and again that they will be judged by the professional as being weak or stupid or that they should be able to deal with whatever they are going through but still can't. It's such dilemmas that many face daily and at times problems or mind situations come thick and fast that it can at a certain moment be almost inwardly overwhelming and then sleeplessness sets in and irascibility and one gets on a short fuse and the humour levels diminish and so it all gets worse.

Mental health is one of the biggest problem areas in the West, although it's increasing in the developing world and intermediary worlds too such as those religiously controlled areas that have extremely high mental health issues because of it. If the mental health of a nation flounders then everything goes with it, the Arab Spring which will come to very little in the end will be a curse of those that didn't have the courage and strength of conviction to make a clean sweep, resulting in everyone even the victors whoever they may be suffering at their archaic deeds. It's essential that we like our computers get rid of both the unwanted files and the accumulated redundant information otherwise everything slows up and possibly crashes, as humans we can act in that very same mode, although crashing is something we must strive not to do at all costs.

Help is available in many places even if initially we assume that it isn't or we think it isn't because that way it's easier to absolve ourselves from doing anything, yet at the same time we are only putting off the day of eventuality and a high degree of happiness which we are admonishing whilst keeping our problems at the forefront of our minds. Different things effect different people and it's up to us being experts of ourselves to do something about it. It matters not what others think, if they think bad thoughts you don't need them, otherwise they should be compassionate and sympathetic. Help from whatever source one will find that you are not alone and that feeling of embarrassment and
failure and letting yourself down will immediately be eliminated and a feeling of joy, upliftment, strength and new ability will flow immediately within. Often to the effect of "why didn't I do this before" and to know that you are not alone is also so just so emancipating that ones problems are sent into check straight away and a renewed feeling of ability flows through your whole body.

Whatever your situation respect YOURSELF, forget what others whoever they are think, forget about self created stigma, forget about your own embarrassment - as if you are the only one with a problem, forget about what will the professionals think - they have problems too, forget about anything but getting your problems solved whatever they are it matters not, medical, mental, physical, financial, relationship, situational, family, work, bullying, children, stalking, the list is endless if it's causing concern then it needs to be dealt with and you to get back on track as soon as possible. Getting back into the driving seat is far preferable than to be a passenger in your own life, think hard, fast and quickly make a decision that whatever is troubling you long term, not just temporary events, isn't going to be there any longer and make a move to free yourself up to a better and more rewarding life. One thing to beware is that of selfish concern by family members or friends, who are definitely not experts in your problems and will always give stilted, biased, weighted answers towards what they think and have little regard for yourself. Independent advice is on the whole by far the best solution and one where you can be neutral in what you say and think and feel and without reciprocal emotion which is self generated. It's your life, if you can't do it for you  no one can and if you falter then those around you are of no value either as respect and communication just flies out the window.

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LIFE PROGRESS - YOUR VERSION

Everyone has their version of life and the lives of others, although in the grand order of things the lives of others isn't important outside of humanitarian aspects. What individuals do or achieve is for them to reason with, everyone else has their own pathway to walk down or trudge down as they choose. Yes it's nice to see friends and family do well, and from afar maybe so others too although without having any personal connection with them it's a very impersonal and crude transposition of the self that makes one think of such with any interest (except re-living yourself via them). The administration of the self is vitally important if we are to progress in life, although we may not and many don't have any interest in this route, but for those that have and for those that believe in God (there's something after death) it's almost an essential aspect of furthering your soul. For without furthering your soul what on earth are you believing in and what are you in effect doing at all. Atheists just come and go and have no further value. Most people like to feel wanted or needed or of interest to others especially within the family unit. Outside of this everything is almost a plus point and counts towards their personal security, it shouldn't because that's a material consideration but they do. If you were talking to someone and not paid attention to them (which is not uncommon today) other than in general most people think it rude for them not to be asked if they are well or some other well being statement or acknowledgement (the "me" factor). In communicational protocols this would be accurate, even if it's just to be polite, and being polite is always a good thing to be. But to get upset if one is not asked or acknowledged often brings in a diminished feeling or slight anger and if so - where did this all come from? What onus is there especially in general conversation or just passing the time away to seek personal details even if peripheral ones at that, there isn't, you are fine just the way you are.

Our view, take, perception of life is equal to our enjoyment, how we manage our emotions is also directly linked to our happiness and how others accept us too. Selfishness or negatively perceived respect is one way to go against the grain of life and ruffle others feathers just by not thinking coherently and interjecting the 'self' into every equation. It's not that the 'self' isn't a consideration but if it's a prime function then everything else around it is less and others pick up on that and aren't too pleased to be demoted as they too are important. Some people go around with an air of superiority, which is fine it's their life even if it doesn't register well with us, others the opposite an air of inferiority, and likewise we view them similarly, and in between there are those who try the best they can to get on with and match whoever it is they are in contact with on an equal status, respect and camaraderie. It's this mutual riposting that we then make a judgement upon as to how to proceed. And then there are the more enlightened ones, those that accept whoever and whatever they come across, be nice to all and if it just doesn't gel then it's predominantly the other party that's taking exception at others not condescending to their perceived attitude. In the end those with heightened or enlightened understanding always win the day and of course don't suffer the stress and anxiety and mind talk that others do.

To day it's acceptable to be whoever you are, except in Islamic circles and they still live in a loveless dictatorial past where everyone has to conform or keep quiet and lead a secret life full of restrictions and no guarantee of life after death, even though they suffer more than most on earth and always have done. The essential element of life is love that's what has kept man going for so long and fortunately the majority think this way despite set backs and thus the race continues. Progress isn't going to a New Age group or thinking Universe (whatever that means) or calling yourself Spiritual (whatever that means also) nor reading self development books that are by their nature limiting even if informative at the same time, one must think for ones self not via another's construct. Following cultures and ways isn't the answer either all these things are for the lost and pathetic who permanently seek as opposed to residing in an inner peace that they have not cultivated for themselves. Most restless people are lonely and possibly single too so that has it's own problems and mental statutes that cause life distortions in thinking. Thinking with only yourself in mind has it's problems and repercussions that can lead to even being cranky.

When we are young progress is always ahead of us as is opportunity, as life moves on all of these things change balance and perceptions and real opportunities become less and less as does the inevitability that we get older and think differently and more to the point aren't as dexterous as we once were which also throws up its own limitations. Our journey must be of a happy nature as there are no reset buttons nor action replays and if we develop a set stance on life and carry that forward which may not be that good then whatever is left isn't going to be to our liking. We are all different and how we move forward is different but the commonality is that of being happy within all in relation to our environment. If we progress in life we are more apt to enjoy what life is for us even if not perfect, if we don't evolve we are going to be constantly against life and then ultimately against ourselves.

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THE ENERGY WITHIN

Life comes in cycles, however each cycle is quite different in that the substance of life in between the last cycle has changed considerably more so now as technology is coming on leaps and bounds even in just the space of a year. We look back and laugh at the 60's and what people wore and the technology, similarly the 70's and 80's and now it's all of a melding of retro and futuristic mixed with nostalgia and tradition all stirred together in a pot of life to produce items and experiences to hopefully elevate our lives. It's this surge of advancement that has left so many people bereft of love, understanding and potential for the future. It's this homogenising of society and within it a breakdown never experienced before of terrorism, which is predominantly Islamic, cultural breakdown, politically correct stupidity, and an unease with young people as to what life is all about causing unrest and for the less intelligent street gangs.

One can see especially on the Internet that there are springing up a whole plethora of groups / individuals / organisations / societies that are keen to put us in touch with our 'higher selves', whatever that is, maybe it's something a bit kinky like a mirror on your bedroom ceiling so you can see yourself at a higher position, who knows? Whatever it is these people have no more connection with life or any other entity or energy than yourselves, even if they have a more calmer outlook, that's self control more than any divine power or knowledge, and there's nothing new here. There is a market however for relaxation and some companies actively engage in this, most are understandably city based as it costs money but never the less it's out there. The companies that indulge in office massage techniques by outside firms are very few and far between and overall it solves nothing, it's just putting a plaster on the problem. Whilst massage can be very beneficial it doesn't solve the root cause as to why everyone has gotten so hyper in the first place. But when finance and ignorance and PR come together, ineptitude is often the resultant and shows considerably as such.

There is without a doubt considerable energy around us both natural and man made. We all know of static electricity when we get a shock from touching something or our sweaters crackle at times when we take them off. Our mobile devices receive energy in the form of radio signals to make and receive our calls as does our sat nav, tv and a whole host of other things like our auto car lock, and TV controls, we just can't get away from it. And from recent disasters we know of high levels of radiation too that whilst we can't see it have devastating consequences especially over time with regards mutating our genes etc. So we need to be selective as to what we call up and try to access with all this "higher self" and "consciousness" and "spirituality", as there are many quacks and charlatans and weirdo's out there who have lost the plot before they have even started. Many on the weird scale from 1 - 10 have already hit the 8 mark if not some beyond 10.

There is also a satanic energy out there and that is very real and many have succumbed to it inadvertently in the search for "higher things" whatever that is to the individual. There are also many religions that are evil based and although they talk of love and goodness do no such thing when it comes to 'walking the walk', the followers never have good things from their God but endless misery and it shows mega-time. Everyone who believes is precious about their faith not wishing to understand that if it isn't real what's left, that's only something that they can come to terms with themselves or feel that what's currently on offer doesn't work but daren't change, it's back to fear again. Fear is the antithesis of love, but believing that is something else as so many are used to thinking fear.

It's not to say that many who go on courses to find their "higher self" don't get some benefit, we can all learn at any age, although many of the people who attend these courses are 30+ and single and predominantly female, but not exclusively. Loneliness and isolation and sadness and mild depression often get confused with the thought that life holds more but it just can't be accessed so therefore it must be of a "high energy" etc, which is rubbish. It's also that elusive feeling that there are 'secrets' out there that have the answers and accessing your "higher self" or whatever it is you want to access will bring one much closer to the reality of happiness. It won't ever, even if one enjoys the experience of learning and meeting like minded fellow lost souls to exchange views and aspects of getting older more cranky and still lonely, if nothing else it passes the time. Our own energy levels are directly related to whom we are as a person, so our physical and mental health are what we make them by and large. Going "overboard" is almost as bad as doing nothing in that we get out of one encumbrance and shift to another, so in the end we end up with a slightly different but contrite perspective that gets us no further or at least see that what we have done still hasn't quelled the inner pang for that illusive 'higher self' which you have already, but if you could actually access it - then what? You haven't a clue?

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THE FOLLOWERS....

We all follow something in life or someone whether it's the news or sports or fashion or a singer or whatever it is, it could be even the local gardening club newsletter, we still have pre-programmed thoughts that steer us in that direction over and above all else. Within our lives are a whole multitude of options and avenues that are open to us every day, we often don't realise the choices that we have as subliminally we take them all in our stride and prioritise them in relation to whatever it is we have to do. It's not rocket science and it's by no means a feat of dexterity even if some people tend to be a bit forgetful or dippy. Very little of what we see today is totally genuine, it's all had that stardust / spangled effect to hopefully give it gravitas and solidity even if it's a load of old rubbish. Granted things have to sound attractive and it's only right and proper that if we pay our good hard earned money for something we want it to be better than we could make or get at home or have a purpose that makes us feel good too. We also know that in the fashion industry many garments are made overseas for a few dollars and sold for thousands because the "brand name" sells the product over and above the real value of it even if the product is well made and of high quality. The news we hear daily is so hyped and milked that the bog standard terms are all "sensationalised" to try and make it more appetising in the dearth of competitors selling the same garbage with "twists" by their resident or brought in experts, which literally has a shelf life of minutes rather than something which is profound and grounding.

To some extent we become amused, to some extent we take some notice by what we see and hear but as quickly as we take notice it changes so we almost give up as most of the topics are way beyond our ability to change or do anything about. Looking after ourselves and families we can enact change and very substantially and with real love and sincerity something that media companies have had medically removed as it blocks their free flow of diatribe. Truth in the media is also a word that stops creativity, so why use it. How we see life through all the cloudy detritus is how we are as a person and it's how we will feel within ourselves too. Whether we are upbeat or downbeat will be our take on it all, coupled of course with how our lives are being lived. If we have substantial issues then of course no matter what is out there it will all pale into insignificance. If we go on holiday without seeing the news we arrive back without actually missing it, although there are today those that can't go to the bathroom without their smart phone or ipad or whatever their devise is in case they miss something like when they return the earth will have ended. Everything has a consequence especially getting emotionally wrapped up in a scenario that has little to offer but updates on issues that you have no control over. When the "old gits" those in finance lead organisations and aged whores in the media who perpetually lock on to world key figures and group board members, such is their relationship with them (fodder for their trade) as if they are irreplaceable will come to an end, all those including world leaders are dispensable, if every group board of every bank and president / prime minister died today every organisation and country would continue, and perhaps in a better mode as there are always those to fill in such places, always, always, always, always. In fact there are probably those awaiting the death of those in charge to go for those identical places as we speak. All good news.

Who and what we follow does have a bearing upon our perceptions regardless of what we think or not, so it's important that we keep an even opinion based upon truth and reality and not veer off into some strange world of concocted mystery. There are increasing cases of young people and some not so young completely hooked into cyber worlds where game playing has almost taken over their lives, their trade mark being pasty faces and anaemic looks which dampens down their own free thought. It eradicates their ability to communicate on a face to face basis being hidden behind a screen looking like a screwed up garbage bag. Even the language of today is sloven and hinders those who can't or don't know the difference between making a coherent conversation without repeating words like, 'man' or 'like' as if to punctuate it further still. Also our own ego and arrogance can quell what good points we have to an extent that whatever it is we have to offer no one wants it.

We need to follow our heart firstly and foremostly, we then can follow whatever it is we like or deem is pertinent to our lives thereafter. It's one thing to get worked up about your favourite football team or designer, it's another to become obsessive which some people do. Of course in life there are always followers and leaders, but when it comes to one's own life one should always lead as you are the expert in what you know about yourself, no on else does even if they know you well. The moment you give up any kind of leadership / decision about yourself fragmentation starts and bit by bit the gap between being happy and feeling out on a limb starts to take place until it's all too late. In making decisions for yourself you make mistakes, nobody on planet earth has not made a mistake including all the well known leaders, so it's no detriment to yourself if you do, just pick up the pieces and keep walking like everyone else. At least when you are ahead of your game leading all be it at times in a fog it allows you to put into place "you" and not a version of you that someone else has made up.

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THE FUN FACTOR

Fun, happiness, joy, laughter, love, grace, humility, presence, future, worth while, friendship, humility, excitement, purpose, and so it goes on, all buzz words which help our lives go forward with a richness and a feeling of whom we are and everyone else around us. It helps put into place life as it is and not how it's spewed out and manufactured by the press and media to sell more copy, they can't help it, it's almost a drug habit they can't kick. But it's important that we get on and laugh and definitely NOT harbour negativity at ANY cost whatsoever. Negativity creates doubt and definitely stifles creativity at every level. It produces depression and is the start of so many self created illnesses. Negative thoughts place out of perspective life as it is so that we get caught up in a whirlwind of extraneous thoughts and feelings none of which do us any good nor produce positive results or outcome. Everything looms large and eventually just gets us down and then we revert back to the negative spiral again. But for those who are already saying to themselves "but it's easy to say but try doing it" or words to that effect, that's just where you are letting yourselves down and smugly allowing self manipulation by placing excuses (possibly as you always have done) ahead of yourself so as not to make any changes and feel somehow more worthy of joining others in the lake of negativity.

There's no doubt about it that being positive and fun makes a world of difference to ones life, regardless of any current situation or circumstances that one may be facing or going through. Negative people tend to feel that there is a worthiness and purpose to be negative and always harp on about negative states or the state of the country or world or finance and thus tend to listen to negative people more often and commune with them on a mutual pity level, which is not only pathetic but identifies them as people of low calibre and who plod through life as opposed to walking firmly. Like attracts like and therefore there is usually a dichotomy of people who have fun positive friends  or dull dismal friends who may or may not laugh but it's all so short lived.

With negative people there's always a caveat as to why they can't or shouldn't or won't or it's them (whoever them are) or they won't allow it (whoever they are too), and so it goes on, it's exasperating conversation and soon becomes so pedestrian that one wants to give up on them. In everything we do there must be an element of fun and satisfaction, there must be an onward purpose and a payback to life otherwise there just ends up a bottleneck of work which is a one way stream and that causes untold problems. Fun makes life go forward even for those who "fight for a cause" there is still an element of fun and fit for purpose otherwise the will to proceed will be forever daunting and at times depressing. A bright and clear mind always finds a way out, there's always potential, there's always hope and real hope not just a bystanders version of it nodding but do nothing, and furthermore those who are bright and fun always get by far more help from others, as they can see that light of potential and with gratitude within. Negative people have little of either and tend to hop from one trough to the next and then when one obstacle is over the next looms large and they reflect that, something others definitely don't want to be associated with it.

Fun people are those who wear fun on both the inside as well as the outside and aren't "two faced", so many people appear fun but it's just a mask that they act out to hide and overcome the facade that they adeptly wear as a guise. The guise only fools themselves even if others are initially taken in as they have to live within their skin, no one else can ever do that. Being "at one" with yourself allows greatness and goodness to permeate through ever poor so that there are no contrived responses or play acting events to try and uphold what isn't you. When everything is naturally fun and wholesome it just works, sometimes not the way one wanted it to, but it still works and often for the better.

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