INVERSE ARROGANCE

It's a strange thing to say but there is actually such a thing as "Inverse Arrogance", it's an arrogance whereby one feigns vast swathes of ignorance or lack of knowledge in order to admonish responsibility or blame or anything else that could implicate the self. The usual saying is "Of course I know nothing of this" perhaps accompanied with gesticulations the waving of the hand and facial inflections stating that you have never heard or know of or about the subject in question, and whether one has or not it makes no difference it's a statement about yourself, and it's not a good one. It's so vitally important that we understand not only what we say but how we say it and the subliminal implications of how it's delivered or perhaps how we present what our knowledge or intentions are with regards how we want people to understand us. It matters not whether we do or don't know the subject in question but it does matter in the way we say we don't know or understand, because based upon a 'mini drama' or feigned ignorance can have quite lasting effects upon what others think of you. And whilst you may not be too bothered at what others think about what you've said if they have any influence either now or in the future over what they can impart upon you, invitations, goods, social entry into organisations, parties, etc, they may just want to overlook you in favour of someone else. After all your showcase has been delivered.

Sometimes the use of "Inverse Arrogance" is a lack of self confidence other times it's a real lack of knowledge and grace and humility, other times it's an arrogance to try and raise ones own prestige, yet it's far from all of those. It can even be used as a muse or a fun effect just saying as if you hadn't a clue what was being said yet deep down you are fully aware and everyone knows it, so it's said 'tongue in cheek'. However what we say in different company can in most circumstances dictate how we move forward and how we are accepted. We have to present ourselves outside of our friends and family as if we are honest and truthful, for if we feign anything else we will bit by bit let ourselves down and it's far easier to say you don't know even if appearing embarrassed than to say yes then end up looking a fool, that's even harder to get over, and you've lost both respect and trust. At times we all try to blag something, try to ride through a scenario that we know little or nothing about hoping to reach the other end unscathed so quietly trying to join in at appropriate times to look engaged, even though deep down we are far from it, almost game playing. It's usually when the bottom line doesn't really matter so our cause and engagement is more or less a matter of course, it's when what we are trying to feign is of importance and can have significant effects that things need deep attention.

Sometimes in life we have but one chance, be it in a business meeting, personal contact or interview, chance meetings with people who could be good to know for our own advancement, meetings or organised events either socially or otherwise with like minded others such as in clubs or societies. If we feel threatened not physically but emotionally because others have a greater knowledge or understanding then it's in most cases far better to be open about your status then expectations will not be higher for you and the chances of falling below same then won't emerge.  One of course can be coy about the whole thing and just listen and learn and pick up what you don't already know only letting known your degree of knowledge if challenged which is an option, but if challenged don't go into realms of apologies, just state where you are and that's it.Apologising, or stating your true knowledge must be kept to a minimum, yet so many people start waffling and excusing at this stage that they start talking endlessly or why they didn't, can't, hadn't, etc, none of which is important as it doesn't change the current situation nor facts. Speak only on a need to know or state your case and leave off, veering towards what you do know when appropriate and that way you will regain your confidence and others will see a better side of you. Everyone has been in this position even the arrogant who at times like to prey on those of lesser knowledge, don't let that happen, it's a weakness in their character not about your lack of knowledge.

Being open in company about the degree of knowledge you have or haven't go often sparks off the "warmer" side of others in that they appreciate you not knowing and are more than happy to explain, fill you in, translate meanings etc to include you in their overall conversation. People by and large like to help people. It's how you project yourself that makes the difference as to be included or excluded.

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LIVING YOUR REALITY

Often when things don't go right or as expected we get disappointed or despondent or dismayed etc, as much of the time we put a lot of energy into what we do with the hope that the outcome will serve us well in whatever way it is deemed to do. How we think about life and more to the point "our take on it" defines much of what we do and our ability to progress. The more insular we are the more we see taking steps forward as boulders standing in the way and it's a struggle to stir up the energy to do things. It's a case of the mind's willing but the body somehow is disengaged and tethered to a cossetted version of stability and staidness not wanting to venture forth without a massive safety net, and of course that attitude is not what creators nor entrepreneurs are all about. If we don't live outside of our comfort zone then our aspirations are no more than mere thoughts that will never be translated into positive actions, we are no better than armchair experts the sort you see often on television. Excuses and regurgitating past failures or avenues of empty virtue are common conversations as is linking the state of the economy and others struggles and weaving them into your own story. For those that "see" what they are doing everything is a possibility within what is broadcast and that which has made headline story. The real reality is that if you make any excuse whatsoever especially based on current situations you will never pull yourself out of the rut you so cosily live within and often then marvel at others seemingly doing well as if it's astounding. Whereas this aspect is available to yourself, it's just you undervaluing yourself and negating opportunities based on hypothetical conjecture, which is the kiss of death to positive growth.

Reality and truth as it is is at times light years away from our version of it. It's not that our version doesn't hold merit it's just that our version is a failed version full of excusable rhetoric and solutions that are predominantly pie in the sky. Sitting at home talking about the future and doing little if anything about it, or if deeds are done it's almost negligible on the scale of things indicates much of our ability or perhaps lack of it. If we have uninspiring friends / people around us then our conversations will reflect a dowdiness of life. If we have vibrant friends and those who are positive and do well then our whole thought process is subliminally filled with great potential even if at any one time we are not experiencing it, we know it's there and exists and it isn't that far away. Our level of intelligence and knowledge on a certain subject can fall on to stony and sterile ground if we don't exude whom we are, and that's akin to the "Shop Window Effect". We can wax lyrical until our hearts content but few will pick up on what we say because the plausibility and belief behind it will be too somber and dull and lack that zest that should have made it all come alive. Those that live in a dowdy world mock those that have or enjoy any exuberance with degrees of superficiality, whereas it's them who holds life back not the other way around.

It's often the case that rather shallow people do well, and those that have more depth struggle, and whilst there is a degree of truth in that it's not a smug resting place for those that find the forward route heavy going. We see often people in jobs and wonder how on earth they got them, then we see those that interviewed them and it all falls into place. Life is like that people in a company are only as good as those who select them and often the interviewers are subliminal gatekeepers with narrow personal views affecting their judgment. However the route to self governance is always wide open and it's up to the self to make it regardless, there's no one stopping you but yourself and of course your service or product. The really scary thing about our own reality is that for many it's just not compatible with the reality that many others have and there is an almost permanent discord then with the on-going reality of truth, which is yet something else. The truth is always the same but perceptions of it interwoven with how we think also produce convoluted versions of our ideas and mind workings so that unrest is an almost permanent fixture in one's life. This slightly discordant temperament in life perceptions is a major cause of problems for many in that they never quite feel easy at rest or satisfied in life, feeling that they are missing out, and to some extent they are, thus their overall mental condition isn't that good either. Enjoying the moment every day brings home everything into a place of understanding that then allows us to see all angles and all sides and be more harmonious in the way we think and feel, and more importantly the way forward.

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THE CATALYST EFFECT

Every action we take has another action contributed to it or even a number of other actions based upon the original one, we only have to look at a car accident to see how the action of a crash can decimate so many ancillary things all in a few moments, lives, property, disruption, etc. But we don't have to be morbid, taking the positive aspects of an action we have all benefited at some time or another from the effect of someone doing a good deed for us regardless of what it was. It could be they spent their whole Saturday helping us pack and relocate elsewhere, or they made that discrete phone call to a friend of theirs regarding a need we had and lo and behold it has come to life. Many is the time we help others out or vice versa just from the goodness of our hearts, because that's what people by and large do. And yes there are those that don't do anything for anyone but we don't need to bother ourselves about them, they don't register on the scale of things in life. However there's more to life than just sheer opportunity, we all need a catalyst at times to help us on our way, and catalysts are indeed out there all around us just waiting to happen. A catalyst in science is something that helps a reaction take place without altering its chemical properties, it often speeds things up dramatically thus it has a very positive use. In life we are usually quite impatient too wanting whatever it is to happen sooner rather than later. But with a human catalyst events can whirl us from where we are right now and transport us into a higher elevation often leapfrogging much of the laborious tasks en-route to getting there.

Why does this happen? The average human being actually likes to help others, it not only helps someone in their quest to move forward but it's a nice feeling for the self too to have done it, and if you believe in God then it's also the correct thing to do to help others no matter what. What really hits home also is that the deed done more often than not needs nor expects any reciprocation and that's a very positive and wholesome move, quite self gratifying. It's these moves we do in life that give us a greater purpose to help others, for without these feelings we are at times lost in a world of "what's it all about" as are the many selfish and self centred people who don't do nor expect and thus get little or nothing out of life. Catalysts materialise from anywhere, their credentials don't have to be impeccable, someone of great importance has a mother, sister, brother daughter, son, best friend, etc, and the unlikeliest of contacts can have some of the most unassuming but influential conduits to gaining a degree of access that one at times finds it almost impossible to reach oneself. We hear about the six degrees of separation, that we are all linked by that mode, but rarely does it work even for avid networkers because en-route to the theory being made whole is that in practise many people are just not going to let loose or give in to any of it at all. What's theirs, (their contacts) are theirs, so it all starts to crumble in front of you and at times a degree of jealousy creeps in too, helping someone else may make them more successful than they are, and so it goes on. . And people in general are very fussy at allowing themselves to be conduits for people they don't know, trust or have an inkling that they are being used, which can be the case.

However over and above this there are conduits so close to hand that the isolation we feel at times is purely in our minds and if we don't go out and about and circulate and network then those conduits and catalysts will be forever illusive. There's no other solution, the more we stay put the less likely we are going to come into contact with what could be one of the best opportunities in our lives taking place. The idea that "if only I could just get to where I want to be" then all would be well is a fallacy and already smacks of failure. The journey has to be made in order for the credentials of understanding and knowledge to be learned. If we can't manage the knocks en-route to our goal we will certainly not be able to handle the position we seek with any great assurity and will always find problems without seemingly solutions. We too unknowingly could be a catalyst for someone else, undervaluing who or what we know in favour of us seeking and not actually being sought after. Life is full of perceptions so we should not be closed to what's out there and our role in it all, and if someone asks or we see a point at which we can help others then we should be free to do it taking into consideration what it is and who they are and separating it from being mean and just not doing it because we haven't been helped as yet by anyone. That's both a failure and selfish mentality and goes a long way to others steering clear of you when in a position to help, it's an inherent feeling they get which you give out. People that have that "needy" look are as a rule always left out of the equation, as are those who want everything for free, which is not usually a money orientated situation it's more of just being down right mean, and that by default holds them back too.

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ETHERIAL DESPONDENCY

The more we have time to ourselves the more we observe what others are doing and saying, whatever we say we give away how we are and what's on our mind and why we said it. It's not that it's important in the grand order of things that we pick up on others as our interactions are probably almost negligible and that whatever others are up to has no or little effect upon us anyway.  But what is interesting is that even the most enlightened piece of writing and positive prose often has tinges of sadness within, it's not the sadness of pity but more of something missing in their own 'bigger picture' that's causing them to feel slightly un-quenched and not as happy as they could be. It also often states that there is a need for personal love, not that people aren't loved but the desire for the intimacy of it. For the most part we read what we read, take on board the context and then move on, we don't want to play amateur psychologist or anything else as that serves no purpose and one ends up being slightly ungrounded and elliptical in thought which forever produces loose threads in any conversation and a degree of permanent instability. It also affects our ability to genuinely laugh, be fun to be with and restricts creative conversation no end.

The future of our lives resides with us, despite conditions, situations, restraints, opportunities, parameters and anything else, such as health, finance, relationships, family, work, etc, it's us that has to live our lives no one else, ever. Our mind is solely our responsibility and what emanates from it is always our thought, even if we choose to follow others or 'go with the flow' we make those decisions, so if it all goes wrong, we have to accept the blame from 'backing the wrong horse". Admonishing responsibility isn't an acceptable answer and is for brainless nerds who can't and never do take ownership, something which becomes evident in conversations very early on in whatever is said. Within every generation there are massive changes, within our present climate changes are taking place faster than ever before mainly because we can communicate faster and also the migration of different cultures and the falling apart of traditions and regimes is also having an effect. Similarly the worlds natural disasters are increasing both in frequency and enormity and this will continue more so which will have resounding complications and fierce reality checks about propping up third world countries where despite progress it's an endless game of  snakes and ladders.

Many young people feel the pangs of degrees of 'nothingness' one minute full of excitement the next full of gross despondency cancelling out their pre-thought euphoria. The instability and greediness of our financial and commercial enterprises accounts for much national and employee unrest and unhappiness. Unhappiness cannot be undone by courses or re-training, it's like whipping someone and telling them to take pain killers to help them stop feeling the pain, stop the whipping! The overwhelming and indifferent ignorance and unprofessional statements that are published by organisations smacks of ineptitude, whilst whoever makes the comments may be good at what they do, they are not good orators in tact nor diplomacy, even if they can talk until the cows come home and wax lyrical about nothing for ages, something which politicians are good at. Without genuine inner feelings of ability, not that of smart talk or motivational speaking, a real and defined product within that's transferable and transposable and doable by the self, then everything ahead is a blank canvas. And whilst for some a blank canvas is a myriad of opportunities for others it's a sea of nothingness upon which to latch on to but can't. Motivation for entrepreneurs is self evident, for those that don't inherently possess such abilities they understand what needs to be done but require a catalyst upon which to make it all come together, something that smart talk and motivational ideology never provides.

Within our teaching organisations there are students who are brilliant at what they will end up doing making real moves in their lives, but often the route to same is emotionally torturous, and even those who embark on lesser dreams and aspirations the going and thought of the future other than via stereotyped thinking is daunting too. Little is ever given to mental support and how to project oneself proficiently in trying to achieve their goals. Despondency can effectively reduce our intake and creative thoughts and reasoning to a level that's so banal we feel demoted and unstructured and then lose a presence with life, everything becomes a struggle and weighty. Our desire to do anything then is robotic, which for many is becoming the norm today, and then that word 'failure' looms large, which it shouldn't as for the majority their state of play is purely mental, regardless of any circumstantial effects that are taking place. Viewing the bigger picture always places the self in perspective, however if the company you keep is negative then it can forever be difficult to break free and enjoy the openness that will ensure success is ahead of you and not a pipe dream.

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OUR MENTAL STABILITY

If we lose the plot then absolutely nothing in life has a positive value, so our thoughts and dreams and aspirations, our possessions and our friends and family have little value as we can't assimilate them into our world of confusion. We know they exist, we know fun from not having fun yet none of it has a shape and feel that we can equate to anymore, they are just feelings with names that we know of of a past era. The present is a woolly maze of robotic deeds and the future isn't just worth thinking about as stepping from today into tomorrow is a feat of dexterity all of its own, without problems arising en-route. Yet as important as mental stability is and taking care of our minds there's very little if anything around to assist us in that respect. There's quite a bit of support at hand when it all goes wrong but little before, and prevention is far better than cure. Companies don't help when managers become bullies, when office leaders become little Hitlers and where area managers start lashing the whip to make quarter results, in all too often that whole departments muddle through from quarter to quarter with little in the way of happy personnel. And whilst company courses are fine the content rarely lasts that long  before it melds back into "old ways" and as staff leave then it fizzles out almost completely, even though personnel and managers feel smug that they were once pro-active, but you can't live on that single thought.

It's not for nothing that happy people, even in relative circumstances are better all round people as they can 'see' the bigger picture and are happy to take ownership and knuckle down when need be to help out or temporarily take over areas just to get the job done. Those that aren't happy stand aside with the attitude "I'm not paid to do that" and as such overall productivity and moral are lessened. It's the same at home where families are predominantly happy anything can be achieved, where there is a tension nothing is achieved and a whole array of minor illnesses and dyfunctionality results from the atmosphere. Children are the most vulnerable when it comes to absorbing negativity as they intrinsically know good from bad and although they themselves may be little "brats" they still feel negative vibes and see such and feel it. As we get older our ability to reason becomes more in evidence even thought at times one wonders with some if there is a brain at all. Never the less if we don't take charge of whom we are we lay ourselves open to absorbing by default aspects of life that mean something to us - and variances of opinion pertaining to those areas and subliminally that can have a marked effect upon us and steer us away from being both happy and stable. Stability can be relative it should be complete without being relative never the less stability is paramount if we are to enjoy our journey through life.

What is mental stability, a number of definitions read that it is "trying to be "normal" when normal doesn't exist"? Yet we all know and understand normal even if it has variances, we succumb to normal, we talk to others about 'normal' regarding people or situations, and we make 'normal' an understood base line that no matter who we are in any part of the world, we know 'normal'. We define experiences as fabulous based upon what normal is, we define unpleasant experiences based upon what we define as 'normal' so it's not that illusive. And when our mental stability isn't what "we" think it should be that's based upon 'normal' too and so we accurately have diagnosed that what we are experiencing isn't what it should be. "Normal" has a latitude that veers from high to low, but within that there is a parameter of comprehension that we understand all too clearly, and even when talking to strangers we can say that "that person isn't normal" and whether they like us or not they perfectly understand. So "normal" isn't illusory it's been around before definitions and screwed up psycho-wafflers tried to pigeon hole it.

We become obese if we plough ourselves with food, one doesn't get fat on fresh air regardless of medical conditions and prescriptions. Similarly we can get bogged down in another reality of created ambiance that's been devised by others to promote sales, feelings, situations, atmospheres, desires, wants, needs, purposes, excitement, alluding to wholeness and acceptance, etc, and so it goes on. If we take on board that we are missing out or we need some of what's on offer to make ourselves better then we are also creating a world of self desired feelings, and when those can't be fulfilled, that's when we become unstuck.There are other mitigating factors of course families that have put you down or are lacking in self confidence and many other areas, but we usually know these areas as they are self evident in our daily lives and we thus steer our course to try and avoid conflicts or areas that we don't cope too well in, although that also doesn't mean that we may suffer from instability, quite the opposite. Knowing our weaknesses is a strength.

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THE LIGHT AND DARK CONTINUEM

Just about everyone knows the difference between good and bad it's instinctive and intuitive, the few that don't are relatively hopeless cases. For the main part deeds of an evil nature such as Islamic Terrorism are self defiant deeds based upon a purely selfishly ideological mind set and is certainly not God driven, if anything it's Devil driven as God promotes the Devil demotes. And for others who subscribes to greed, burglary, armed robbery, cyber  and banking fraud, the culprits know exactly what they are doing no matter how well they try to hide behind loopholes, logistics  debased lawyers and points of law. Criminality is what it is, as is having children to receive "state benefits" and nothing more. Divisive aspects of life don't make what's done any better or worse than the gross selfishness of those that do it, and here lies the problem, it's all done with a stilted view against society hence there are areas of our society that forever are below par and all that is connected with such is a burden to the state and everyone else. There are certain groups of people that wherever they congregate en-mass by default form a ghetto, no one else wants to go there so by their own hand they become outcasts and then wonder why they are deprived or always lagging behind. Smug attitudes of religion that don't work and ideals that no one gives a dam about lays the pavement to a life of underachieving, un-disovering, under performing, under developing, under creating, uncommunicative, always blaming others, nothing is ever right, etc. Soon the self same smugness unfolds hardship, resentment, anger, pain, suffering, and an attitude of lack of purpose because at the end of the day there's nothing to show for it just failures living off of what others produce and create.

Most "religious" groups become so bound up in their own doctrine they turn into the things they denounce, and bit by bit they too fall short of their own salvation as they can't see how devolved they have become. So bedazzled are they by their attitude that they are "so correct" that they make up elements of their own posturing with life as if it's divine inspiration whereas it's nothing of the sort. The real spiritual leaders are yourselves, as the appointed ones in today's society are weak, ineffectual, insipid, whet, slow, unresponsive, intellectually banal, indecisive and are by appearances camply clad entities that are too slow to catch cold. Their favourite topics are usually "stating the obvious". Evil and wrong doing are no strangers to religion especially where money is concerned or at times sexual proclivities, it happens because it can happen, and what the congregation don't really know would shake them to the core should they find out. Respect for anyone has to be earned, it's not something no matter who you are that is automatically bestowed.

Goodness comes from within, it's not a state whereby it's farmed out nor is it selectively proffered to those who one deems it expedient to be given to, but it must be an inherent state of mind and one without ego or arrogance nor pre conceived purpose or effect. For some goodness is almost a natural instinct, which it should be ideally for everyone. But unfortunately there are those who feel its just too difficult to be nice for without a return or reciprocation in sight can't muster the ability to carry it out. Especially towards those they don't know and that it would lower their own inept and substandard ability even though should they be nice it would elevate them straight away. Those that carry burdens of the past that have not healed or gotten over are candidates for "looking the part as Mr or Ms nice" but it's only a facade hiding almost bitchy and spiteful remarks wrapped up in chosen words and statements as if said in jest, it's nothing of the sort. We all change in life bearing the scars of the past even though not visible, yet inwardly looking like an elderly mature whale full of nicks and cuts and marks that have healed over with time yet are still there and are of no value to the future or indeed the present.

Life is a multi-coloured tapestry, if we choose to be selective then that's our prerogative, we can see only what we want to see, but that doesn't hide the fact that much more exists and others often live and dwell on what we tend to filter out, thus we get a distorted view of life and our position within it. Our emotions and love, love being the most essential element is paramount in us making progress, being stable, enjoying life, understanding what goes on around us and seeing a positive outlook in the future. Anything less than all these things is to veer on the dark side, there's no option here, if life isn't good from your own perspective then it can't be anything else no matter what you choose to call it. In earthy terms we are here for an almost minuscule amount of time, so the world at large doesn't care about you at all, how you are thought about whilst you are here is purely down to you, and how you perceive life and how others perceive you is all a mind concept, everything is what you make it regardless of circumstances and situations which are forever subject to change.

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FACING LIFE AHEAD

For many people today life ahead is an illusive unknown factor that instead of filling them with possibilities weighs heavily with a ponderable drudge that even despite optimism still throws a cold shiver down their spines. Our whole society is changing, it's moving into a new realm of its own than  more than just hard work can accomplish. It's an era that even the relatively perceptive just can't get right in their predictions. Our ability as a race of people - at least in the West - is developing technology at a pace that undermines previously accepted ways of both doing things and communications. Whilst in the third World and Islamic countries the past hangs around to continually haunt them until the inevitability of suffering and condemnation often by their own hand is their only way out of a troubled mind set and country conditions.

Of course there are always exceptions to the rule and what was good today can be alien in value tomorrow or so science keeps proving itself wrong again and again then bypassing the issues as by the nth time everything is obsolete anyway and no one believes anything or anyone anymore. But more importantly is the state of mental health especially for those in education, learning is good, but when one sees that the numbers of learned people are becoming menial workers it throws a light on to the cultural and established values that are no more. It's almost a free for all where many previously accepted teachers are now the dinosaurs of a past age nearing retirement and tut tutting to themselves, feeling thankful that they either are or will be out of the race very soon. But reality is forever with us, it never leaves and as much as we may wish to avoid or evade issues they firmly remain and take root and one way or another, if we don't acknowledge them they will uproot us and when that happens it's often detrimental.

Facing life ahead affects everyone at every stage of life, for it encompasses illness, finance, relationships, friendships, abilities, and anything else that the ageing process takes under its wing. Life for many even those of fortunate circumstances has a way of pulling the plug when one least expects it. The average person is living longer and that has many implications not only on the individual themselves but on society at large. The global community is widening and resources are always in a catch up stage as priorities are nearly always youth orientated as that's where the future lies for the elderly and in every generation as they are the ones paying taxes. Society will get tougher and the cases of lone mothers fathering endless children from a myriad of fathers will become the real parasites and outcasts of the society, where the value of such activities will be shunned by those that support a breed of child that predominantly has a pre-destined bad start because of the mothers total and utter selfishness. It's not the wealthy or comfortably off that take from society it's those at the bottom end that see everything as fair game and it's almost upheld by social services as an "I have my rights" attitude, but rights to what and at what cost to whom? It's not that "unfortunate" people should not be supported it's the strata above that that have little or few morals about anything.

Most people will make it quite well despite great changes in society and systems to old age, and their route through it all will meld their feelings towards what's best for them as opposed to ideals. But even the "what's best route" can be happy, fulfilled, enjoyable, fruitful and allow the individual to indulge in whatever it is that gives them personal pleasure regarding camaraderie and fellowship with life. Exponential shifts will be common occurrences fostered by real mood and attitude changes of the populous as well as technology. Politicians will be more transient as long term goals will be short term policies as change itself will erode perceptions and grand designs. But the human race are fighters, they are survives, they have survived this far through storms, tempests, wars, insurrections and mental Muslim extremists that rely on Western technology to conduct their dastardly deeds as they haven't the cleverness nor mentality to do it themselves living in a Godless ideology of failure and fear.

The way people will interface with each other will also bring major problems and once the mental unrest of a nation is jeopardised then anything can and will happen like a flash in the pan. Instability is not understood by politicians even though they wax lyrical about it, it's all third hand rhetoric they spew out as if in total control, whereas for many they just can't see the wood for the trees. And as for the poor third world, well in the reality stakes they are just going to get worse and worse as are the natural disasters that will accompany them. The world is in itself changing like a snake shedding its skin, the world is doing likewise 'mother earth' is casting off her tetrenial coat and exposing a less ample sufficiency of what's left. Exciting times for those of a positive disposition, times of dread for the rest, in between are the politicians - life goes on - regardless. 

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SOCIAL MEDIA - WHERE WE STAND?

Well, here we are on Facebook, Twitter, Bebo, Foursquare, Myspace (or is that passe?), LinkedIn, plus a myriad of other channels all designed to put us in touch with like minded people all desperate to be in touch with each other and presumably desperate to share their entire life stories too on "soap box me", or so it appears. There are many reasons why people engage in social media, often it's more for themselves to tell the world about what they think and what they have done more than to follow what others have done or think, even if it's for those on a like minded wavelength. Of course there is a the business route too, where engaging with others - networking - can have positive effects although it's usually individuals touting for business and not giving anything in return, free is a word that ranks highly in this strata of life. It's a relatively highly motivated world comprising of ego, social vampire status - all about me, and people who have an abundance of time to make the effort and feel the need to tell others in their group about aspects of their life and share it - or give constant updates - hoping that it produces a response, if it doesn't it's a bum move and its failed. There are nearly always those who will respond because it makes them feel "a part" of a circle more often than not they aren't even if they are well known to each other, it's a strange dichotomy, it's almost symbiotic in nature and quells a feeling within of need but without commitment. Social media is a need defined stucture that almost automatically hits home emotionally with those that join, at what level varies considerably but like water it soon finds its common level.

For some the social media scene is akin to a drug in that they have literally 100's of "friends" who are picked for their "looks", sexual proclivities, aspire to me factor, commonality of interests or views, similar loneliness factor, neediness factor and any other factor that arises out of 'must have' in my circle. Unless we just pose a comment here and there we start eventually to subliminally tell others about ourselves, we can't help it, we get to a stage whereby the need to spew out what we feel within via a conversational piece which gets stronger and stronger, especially if we know there are a few punters in our group who will always respond, it's nice to get the little red markers indicating a response and to see who it is. After a while many people trim their accounts, they can't remember who is who nor after a time do they care anyway, and what once first excited has lost all of its sparkle now and is just contact candy turned into tomorrows fodder. The stories of many contacst unravel in front of our very own eyes, their inner feelings and thoughts being displayed by their choice and not by our need to know. Even the most secretive of people on social media sites seem to have to give out something of their inner self as if it's a degree of validation about who they are and how they think or at least how they would like you to think, the reality between the two is often quite great and at times sad.

We are all different and there's no right nor wrong on social media, you do and say as you feel and if others do and say things you don't like there is always the "unfriend" or "delete" button at hand to eliminate them for good and in some case permanently block them from re-joining at a future date. And unless their diatribe is directional i.e. personal to you the chances are that they won't even know they have been deleted. The lightness of social media can be exemplary in that one gets to commune with people that would have otherwise never by chance entered your social strata, the opposite side however can be macabre and dull and sober and boring, where the rhetoric is forever in the same vein and reeks of an aspache sameness that eventually borders on 'delete'.If stimulation is not evident and the main thrux is small talk then it all verges on the pathetic or saying for the sake of saying which not only speaks volumes but tells more than one would possibly like to admit to.

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ORDINARY YET SO SPECIAL

We all like to think of ourselves as special or although some may say they are 'ordinary' but still a bit special at the same time. But what constitutes ordinary can vary enormously and one's perception of other people and who they are and what they do is totally relative to yourself and how you think and what you know. We reside on different strata's in life, and we reflect where we are by the content of what we say, how we say it and to whom as well as how we say what we feel. i.e. Is what we say kind or aggressive or bitchy or tongue in cheek or is it some sort of smart language that purports to be fun and outgoing yet constantly hides the past and hurt that's never really have been healed. Whatever it is, our conversations reflect whom we are and it doesn't take long for the odd word to interject and interpose within our conversational context to makes us realise what lies deep within. Of course for the major part we don't really care, you say what you say, we hear it and then move on, at the end of the day, you live within your mind and world and others live with theirs, and that's it as far as most interaction is concerned. We migrate towards those that speak on our level, not necessarily on a tonal base or a highly punctuated base either but one which resonates with base qualities that makes us feel easy and comfortable and one that we don't have to make too much of an effort to respond to.

Everyone is special to someone, and everyone is ordinary to everyone else whether you are a prime minister or whatever it is, after all if the prime minister or president died tonight life would carry on tomorrow without them, there's never a shortage of takers to fill the gap. Respect is earned it's never bestowed other than the common courtesy of respecting others rights to live a free life, unless you live in an Islamic country and then life is dictated to by ungodly failures who see repression as a strength. But special is subjective too, we can wax lyrical about a person who means so much to us yet to someone else they can't stand the sight of them, so our own perceptions and emotions are melding together to make a figure of a human special for very personal reasons, even if those reasons have very little in the way of credentials to everyone else. We see millions continually starving in Africa and deem them special in that the West predominantly supplies food and aid and medical assistance, yet we could pin point a single person around us and deem them as not special in our company because of various factors, special is a relative concept and has relative values.

We make our values in life, some people are naturally lovable whilst others one tends to shy away because of their temperament or character, it's not that such people don't love equally themselves those around them, it's just that their outer mantle isn't that 'hot' and is more often than not selfishly shrouded by their own aura of arrogance, indifference, narrow views and even have a 'chip' on their shoulder too. Often those who are not easily accessible have a temper and are relatively unstable liable to flare up when things don't go their way, they at times even dress scruffily as a feeling of defiance, even if their overall intentions are relatively good. Everyone however is unique, no one is exactly the same and even identical siblings have traits which separate themselves from the rest, it's these differences which set us apart and identify how we think and feel and how best we meld with others. If we want to be respected we need to be respectful, if we want others to treat and acknowledge us as someone of value and not just "another person" we have to give out that impression, and if we don't get it returned then we accept that and move forward. Making a statement towards "how you feel you need to be treated" over and above being abused is a lowly state of one's inner mind thoughts and reduces the chances of you ever gaining ground in life.

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MANAGING EGO

We all have dreams and aspirations and even at times wild dreams that take us to places just bordering on fantasy, none of it does us any harm and in many cases it's good to allow our minds to take a walk on the wild side and see how far it can go. After all if we continually hold back and put ourselves down by checking our "down time" thoughts we never really attain anything in life or ever see potential or possibilities. Within our thoughts we have goals, some of our goals are just potentially based ideological points where it would be nice to aim for given the right conditions and opportunities, others are very loose concepts that when all else seems to fail or becomes a bit thin we can latch on to and not struggle with degrees of nothingness which can cause great consternation and at times panic. Stability in life is a very key issue for it's instability that causes the mind to dysfunction in that it perceives more often than not views, comments, situations that give rise to negativity and 'taking things' the wrong way. We then engage in 'mind talk' and then all hell lets loose, and we either 'lose the plot' or become morose and increasingly judgmental or angry because we feel disadvantaged, even if we are not in any way so.

Ego nearly always stands out a mile, we see people on television or in the press and at times have to literally take a step back and think "did they really say that" especially in the scripted and manufactured "lifestyle" programmes which are designed to make fun of unfortunate people because it's cheap television - Zoo TV.  We have an option to watch such programmes but we don't have an option as to not engage with life, even if at times we opt to keep ourselves to ourselves. Ego is one of an attitude problem where often ego is a massive cover up for gross insecurity and at times ignorance, it can though be something of a "hard wired" issue in that the person(s) concerned have always been like that and it's never mellowed with time. That they never see any other side other than their own, and anything that doesn't come across selfishly as "me" orientated hits the "I'm not having this" button and off they go in a tirade of defending themselves when in reality very few if anyone at all gives a dam, in fact it's mostly stupid and embarrassing.

Being self assured, confident, positive, outgoing, bit of a showman, etc, is still a far cry from being an egotist, where ego has no credentials other than what's self induced for whatever reason or whatever inferior aspect they feel that they have to put right for themselves even if that person is indeed knowledgeable, it never pans out as such. We all have some ego and we all have some pride too, not the pride denoting upholding of a quality but that of having to at times take a deep breath and ask for help in an area where we would rather not have done, it can feel belittling and lowly but often it's met with a very warm and uplifting response far from what we would have expected. Again our own perceptions can at times be so far out of alignment that we do ourselves no favours and suffer needlessly because of them or allow our own ego and pride to take precedence over what is expedient. Egotists rarely acknowledge or even think they are egotists such is their constant fight with anything that doesn't go their way no matter how small it may be, peace is not an option their inner burning desire to make a comment or complaint has to be quenched. For the majority of people however managing ego is something that can be effected very easily by just applying simple thought, and of course applying 'love' thought always helps because then everything is put into perspective even deep atrocities, and how to 'make good' comes as a natural route to solving or rectifying what was wrong without the sheer anger and emptiness that ego feeds upon.

Being fastidious and demanding is for many a depiction of ego yet it is only someone working to higher and more exacting standards than the average punter who has no such demands in life and can't 'see' what is to be achieved. Such thought separates the doers and the followers in life for exacting standards are what many industries rely totally upon for them to work efficiently including fashion which is an industry based upon personal judgment, and how far removed from logic of any description is that, and where ego and expediency almost meld at times into one as does humility. Similarly in medical and aviation and scientific professions, exacting standards promote life rather than be cosmetic adjuncts within an industry. Presenting ourselves to anyone opens us up to how we think and feel and the first comment we make sets the pace for how we are perceived subsequent comments add to that and very soon everyone is getting acquainted with everyone else on a subliminal level as well as on a level of communicable skills and understanding how each other thinks and perceives life so to re post accordingly. Ego rarely takes into account any of this, the egotist just goes in with full force because to them they are the only ones of value in the group or meeting everyone else is incidental. Engaging brain and mouth is always a wise move, it's not difficult as they are joined together and with correct adaptation can produce wondrous results with the interception of thought in between.

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THE LAMININ FACTOR

One of the essential proteins that holds us all together is Laminin its visual structure is that of the cross,  but more importantly is what it does for us, it's a "glue" that holds us together, one of a number of base substances that keeps us from falling apart for without it the co-joining of other proteins wouldn't bond and its whom we are at a substrate level. It's there whether we know it or not, it does its job without us aiding or abetting it, if we never realised that it existed it wouldn't matter one little bit, and for the majority of people they will never ever know of the substance nor possibly anything more - ever. There are many areas of life we take for granted some through sheer ignorance and some we have an input towards yet do little about because of outright laziness, arrogance or feel that it's not that important in the grand order of things as it affects others more than ourselves so why should we bother with others, they can look after themselves we have more important things to do in life for ourselves. The effects of laminin reach further than a base glue, we need a glue in all areas of our life for if we are disjointed we end up with a mind like a jigsaw puzzle all fragmented and in bits, often to the extent that we never really see the bigger picture, and when that happens we starts to fragment ourselves.

The result of mental fragmentation leads to instability, insularity, depression, loneliness, anxiety, lack of future, lack of purpose, lack of trust, a lack of happiness, religious oppression (because we never know the truth and just follow blindly), sadness, feelings of we are not in control of our lives, we get upset easily about world events - events which we have absolutely no control over, we develop a really bad attitude problem (if you haven't already got one), we get short tempered with those around us, and so it goes on. The cohesion of life itself makes us become a defragmented entity held together at a base level by laminin but at a mental and spiritual level there's little that holds anything together at all, and there's nothing that any kind of psycho-babble will do to place the pieces back together other than allow you to part with your money.

Life is what we make it, we build every day our future, time ticks by whether we like it or not, and putting off today for tomorrow often has dire consequences. Having said that patience is a virtue as some aspects of our future we have to grow into, maturity, understanding, knowledge, presence, etc. It varies from person to person and if individuals are selfishly motivated friction and unrest  develops and also personal time agendas may not coincide, leaving overlaps which if not understood cause panic and even anger at times. Love, that base line for the whole of society allows the free flow of understanding and gratitude to work to allow us to see the 'bigger picture' and thus ground ourselves where mayhem could have arisen, it's our forever present "Spiritual laminin" it binds the good and allows the bad to be discarded keeping ourselves afloat even when turbulence is all around us. It fortifies, upholds, warms, tempers, comforts us, it substantiates us, it keeps us from fraying at the edges, it stops moodiness, it promotes healing, it affirms right from wrong, it promotes happiness and stability, in fact anything that's good our "Spiritual laminin" is there at work, and for those who are mean of spirit - it's free.

Our outward response to life should be forever positive, as that's where good things lie, the moment we start to detract from that stance is the moment that the conduit to negativity opens up, it doesn't mean we can't say what we feel or cast an opinion, but once that action has been done that's it. Labouring on negativity always creates a bigger mind entity that just keeps us away from solutions and good things naturally coming our way. The body already possesses laminin, it's there from birth, but love is for some an illusive element that they dare not engage for fear that the lack of it at any one time will be almost overbearing, which it won't, engaging with love is a permanent asset to life itself and allows us to transcend areas that we once would fear to tread otherwise. The route to being wholesome and great lies within, it's not a temporary situation when all goes well, it's far more than that, it's a feeling that resonates within all of our body and provides a haven of well being, longevity and inner peace that others can latch on to too. Anything that radiates from the heart is positive, our hearts must be love filled for if they are not then we are at the mercy always of discord, unrest and perpetual aggression against an invisible life force that we create for ourselves. With our "Spiritual laminin"  we actually become stronger as a person with a firm resolve, steadfast fortitude and an ability to negate the little hiccups in life in favour of what really matters. It's all self perpetuating, if you let it be.

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MAKING EMOTIONS YOUR BEST FRIEND

Believe it or not there is a permanent underlying excitement in life, there are options to be happy and there are options not to be happy and you are totally in charge of them both. You are in charge of your excuses, your moods, managing failure, managing loss, managing your finances, managing your health, managing your friends or lack of them, managing your relationship (s) or lack of them, in short you are in charge of you and you are in charge of your life. No one else ever can think or walk for you, from the moment you are born to the day you die it's one thing you just can't absolve yourself from and that is how you react to life and what's in it. Every excuse you come up with is something you have devised within your mind even if it's totally and utterly incorrect and wrong in every way, it is what you've devised and decided to come up with for whatever reason. How we think is thus vitally important we can make or break ourselves just by the way we think and feel. We can even induce mild depression and anxiety by creating the negative conditions within our mind and then apportioning blame to others and situations for us not being where we feel we should be. But hey, it's our mind and whilst we think and feel in such a negative way others are out there "ducking and diving" and making it all work because they have applied their minds to do so, regardless of outside help or otherwise, they have done it.

Our minds are complete as they are, and yes we can learn more every day of our lives, but for the moment we are in we have total control over how we think and ultimately how we feel. There are the big wammy's such as bereavement, financial loss, health, relationships, etc, which can knock us for six and ruffle our stability and ability to think coherently, but that lasts a relatively short time and we know already deep down what we have to do even if it takes a while to get to grips with doing it, we do it. But for every day life we are the boss, we are in control of what we say, how we say it and how we enact ourselves to every other human being on planet earth, and from any other planet too if they beam down and join in. Our circumstances (which are always subject to change) and our situation (which is always subject to change) is at the mercy of our thoughts, do we allow outside influences to steer our course or do we take charge and say "I'm not going to get upset or moody just because something not so good happened" and then smile in the face of it all eventually seeing that it all dissipates into the ether.

It's at times not easy "out there" in the wide world but to hide behind excuses makes it ten times worse as we are building a bridge that stops in the middle and the option then is to fall off the end or turn back, either way it's totally and utterly unsatisfactory. Facing reality isn't an option either, and allowing our emotions to take over as masochistic comfort is a step too far in the wrong direction for it only aides and abets us to ponder on the grossness on nothingness which brings rise to instant mind mayhem and panic. The positive emotions give us that marvellous ability to see potential, see ways out, solutions, pathways, the "Exit" sign from where we are to a better place. Positivity gives us the ability to feel better, it enhances our immune system and gives us drive and fortitude as well as courage when we need to make a bold move. It lubricates our conversation with spontaneity, warmth, freedom, creativity, it heightens the right areas and lifts the general tone making the recipient feel good about what we have said. Everything to do with taking charge of the self and only opting for positive emotions enhances every area of not only our lives but even those around us making us "see" the bigger picture and not get bogged down in the detritus of life that serves no purpose than for others selfishness.

In the light of day it's a "no brainer" to want to be negative even though some make their life's journey being selfish and self centered and moody, feigning negative emotions to be manipulative. But we DON'T take any notice of them DO WE, after all we are not sponges to the thoughtless and pathetic, we are entitled to a great life which doesn't include others versions of "all about me". Anything negative including old habits should be discarded, that's not to say when things go wrong we should not acknowledge them, but to tell everyone you meet about the situation, followed by updates gives the problem a gravitas that it never had before and thus it becomes an issues out of all proposition and in doing so overtakes one's normal thoughts. It's all totally small minded, selfish and stupid. Everyone has options, even those that instantly say they don't because it stops them in their tracks about making up excuses and thwarts their long time fix of telling lies or being lazy which is the bottom line. Whilst we need to always be full of compassion and understanding, allowing others to 'get away' with perpetually negative conversations doesn't do anyone ever any good.

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A BETTER LIFE

Most people will complain given the opportunity, and it's often right and proper not to allow that opportunity to arise within your own personal company, after all you are not a sponge nor a sounding block for someone else to have a winging moment for their own entertainment.  It's not that it isn't good to speak one's mind nor get something off your chest in order to lighten the mental load, but it's when it becomes habitual and constant then life really starts to drag and you become a bore to everyone around you. It's also a statement of yourself, where the mind goes the body follows and if one's mind is focused upon negativity that is by default where one seeks to tread even if it's not a direct action, it's where it leads as it's already been said and acted upon. Life has its ups and downs, one moment all seems well and another it's seeking every nook and cranny in life trying to find something that's going to lift you up to a state where there is yet again hope and a degree of inner peace and contentment. We can if we are lucky talk ourselves out of our predicament or it can be a route that's in itself quite torturous and steep and takes every ounce of inner fortitude to stop ourselves falling into that pit of oblivion whereby we need strong remedial treatment to allow ourselves to bounce back. Fortunately for most of us either way we do bounce back.

We all have a literal quality of life, that is the one we are living right now, we have a subliminal ideal, where most things that give us peace and security would all be in place and we feel it's what we would enjoy the most, and there is a virtual reality version, one which we flip into and out of depending upon prevailing circumstances, conditions and our current thoughts. It's highly unstable and it's one where many people reside thus their lives are forever unstable and full of few highs, lots of lows and perhaps extended times of seemingly 'nothingness' and importantly degrees of emptiness and shallowness and especially for single people they find it hard to make relationships a reality. It's got to be said, life is what you make it, it can't be anything else, you live your life no one else ever does nor can do, so how you think and feel is paramount as to how you make the best of how it is even if it's far from ideal. Keeping a positive attitude regardless, something that needs to be fostered and worked upon does dramatically help uplift the spirit, even if it can't be quantified or indeed qualified scientifically, happy people are always better off than the dull and sad people who bring on much of their own misery themselves. Happy people give off an air of approachability and ease that even strangers find welcoming especially when help is required. Negative, dull, mean, selfish people which is a considerable amount of the population give off an air of "warning" that others keep their distance because they are not too sure about the reception they will get if approached or if any form of contact is made.

Life whether rich or poor is a relative entity, there are no hard and fast rules as to what makes some people happy or satisfied and others quite the opposite. Where some see the horizon in life as full of potential and exciting things others see it as a dread and something to be wary of, the horizon is what it is, it's our perceptions that make us think and feel the way we do. Ego, arrogance, selfishness, greed, and in fact all the other negative emotions always have an effect of pulling us down, it thus only takes a slight knock in life for that effect to be magnified greatly and then all hell lets loose. Our dependency on drugs, alcohol, self harm, weirdness, false ideologies and the like only compound what is causing us distress, yet we are at times oblivious to the facts of life because of our egotistical attitude and the worst of all an almost total lack of love. Where love is in evidence almost everything is possible including happiness as an adjunct, it goes with the territory. Where an absence of love exists it's sheer darkness, like some of the religions of today that talk of love but deal in everything but. Love has to come from within it can't be given from the outside because it hits an almost Teflon coated wall where it just washes off, so strong is our self created world of smugness and darkness that we succumbed to a macabre existence, with its horrible consequences.

Like attracts like, groups of people live within social circles, this can have a profoundly positive effect it can similarly have a grossly adverse effect and too much of hyped existence with false perceptions and ideological flippancy and camp rhetoric is a recipe for long term disaster as age plays a part which no one sees except until it arrives. The ingredients for bread including the yeast are a synergy that work well given the right conditions, the yeast can be used time and time again. However like life move too far from the "norm" and it all goes terribly wrong as many have found out to their own dismay in aspects of their own lives. A good life can exist within the mind framework of current visions, but if we once allow a free fall situation to exist where illusions take a hold then nothing will ever be right and we will be forever prone to addictions, habits, dismay, degrees of unhappiness, bouts of depression and stretches of negative thought.

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WHAT WE MAKE OF LIFE???

Every day we are closer to whatever is to happen to us, time has a way of ending the past by default and allowing the future to begin afresh, it's only our own obstinacy that holds on to the anguish and self created barriers that literally stop us going forward. It can be seen on a grand scale every day in the Middle East where hatred and anger is almost a part of the inner feelings of the populous hence the eternal unrest and massive insecurity. But for us more humble souls, time is something we can make the best of and not see it as an obstacle that we need to be this or that by a certain date otherwise life will come to an abrupt end. Of course our created deadlines some of which are imperative are often done based upon what we deem is expedient in our lives, it gives us something to aim for even if deep down we do little about it to make it happen. The trouble with many people is that life goes by in chunks, it's only after we have been though a chunk that we realise how that chunk affected us and why it happened the way it did. There's no room for regret in life other than a cursory moment of self reflection as regrets hold no value what so ever and can spark elements of self pity which is pampering to our negative emotions, all of which never does us any good at all.

How other people live their lives from afar may seem so distant from our own even if we don't like that person or their lifestyle it's just so different from our own. It's easy to judge reported garbage in the press in today's headlines as it's cheap fodder plying stories of others to fill the voids of the voyeuristic punters  that have little in their own lives and are usually not so self assured in the process. It's important to make the best of each day no matter how minimal that may be, allowing our situation to form our current character is giving in to failure or mollycoddling our inner self for gratification that we can't find elsewhere, it's sad but this happens a lot. It's called "feeling sorry for yourself" something we have all experienced at some time or other in our lives. The worst thing ever is to have reached the age of retirement and then to reminisce about what one would have liked to have done that was within one's grasp and have never ever done anything about it. Even very successful people have such thoughts and if not put into check it can have a very adverse effect upon the rest of your life being happy and fulfilling. It's nearly always better to have 'had a go' at something and for it not to have manifested than to sit on the side lines and eternally procrastinate or intellectualise about it.

Life is to be lived, there is no option here, we don't consciously think "shall I live my life well or not" it's a bit of a "no brainer" yet many people actually accept to live a life of a substandard quality based purely on their own mind thoughts and nothing more. Excuses by the dozen as to why they can't or don't or why it's OK for others but not them, the number one boring conversation that speaks volumes about them. How we look at life and to some extent our religious thoughts - if we have such - can form our existence and our happiness factor within it. At any stage in our lives we can start anew, we can be a success at 12 years of age or 70 years of age, and of course anytime in between, we see it every day. The real problem for many is that a degree of financial success doesn't always lead to an inner happiness that's a permanent fixture, or that those who never make it but enjoy the ride can have degrees of inner fulfilment that more than compensates for the outcome. Of course there isn't a "one size fits all" and the mix n' match scenario of life is almost infinitesimal in combinations and ways it gives inner completeness or shallowness.

Our life is ours, it's not a product of what others think or do, it's not a duty to parents or family or others, if there is love in the equation then everything is solvent, there is a wide and undeniable understanding that causes a deep harmony and knowledge that's shared by everyone. Where there is a dichotomy of understanding there is a strong reason for it and if it's traditionally based or religiously based then there is no love, everything is selfishly purveyed for the self. This is really that imperative self thought - not a selfish thought - but a self thought, the thought that only you can think for yourself that gives life a meaning over and above rhetoric of a detached view point, something that others flounder upon and thus reap the negative rewards.

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THE COMMENTING GAME - IT EXPOSES THE REAL YOU!!!

Everything we say has an infliction pertaining to our thoughts and feelings, even if we copy verbatim someone else's own copy it's a decision on our behalf regardless of the content of it or the way in which it is being reported. Our comments give so much away about who we are and the way we think, in fact just listening to opinionated people is like listening to a story of what makes them tick. We see it quite often on television the way reporters report a story it quickly indicates which way they think and how they as individuals think. We read newspapers that offer a slant or bias towards our own thoughts so it's not something new or something that we don't understand about the way news and information is both gathered and reported. We know of third world countries and Islamic countries where a few censor for the many as their self appointed duty to uphold a fantasy of an ideology that has to interact with those that don't hold such views. It almost brings new meanings and highlights the word pathetic, never the less it's the dark side of life that unfortunately breeds an even darker society that creates nothing from within except emotional unrest.

People who talk incessantly have a habit of not only getting on others nerves but continually outlining their stance on life which like the wind is prone to change at short notice. Words without great thought always allow our inner personal traits to surface, and from that those with a modicum of intelligence can surmise what and how they think based upon a base premise within. For the large part it matters not because in reality very few people have any bearing or substance when it comes to our own lives, in fact if over 98% of people who you had ever seen on television or heard of even those around you died, life would still carry on as before. Yes there would be hiccups but the queues of those waiting to take over are already bursting at the seams and could possibly do better jobs than the aged die hards that stay in  jobs because they can.

The very eloquent and knowledgeable are always very precise and distinct with their answers whether they wax lyrical with colourful descriptions or are almost in a monochrome mode, it's their delivery that makes them who they are and the tonal quality is usually quite upbeat regardless of the severity of the content being spoken. Those that can hold such eloquence and timbre are real pros when it comes to enunciation and linguistic content, unlike the 'motivational speakers' who try to raise the tempo artificially to get a response but once that dies down so does everything else. We all have points of view about aspects of life, so it's not difficult to spot those that don't share our views, just the odd word here and there, the stance of a statement, the voice control and tarnation all show exactly where we stand even if said in  jest, it still plays out and we still pick it up. Similarly we can pick up quite often when people are being disingenuious with the truth or plain straight forward lying, as that too doesn't resound well and that provides discordant inner feeling within us.

With friends we don't care if they get stuff wrong we love them / like them because of whom they are deep down, that's what friendship is all about seeing the best of those that mean something to us for whatever reason. We know their points of view and even if it clashes with ours it makes no difference as we turn off the receptors that otherwise would have made us spring into action and start to get us adgitated, often we just laugh at the difference in their and our differing points of view. Many the time is that silence speaks louder than words themselves, there's nothing worse anyway than superflous conversation and banal thoughts being uttered just for the sake of it. Sticking to the point eliminates the preipheral feelings that we can display about a subject and keeping the essence of the conversation to the minimum unless otherly requested or needed tends to keep one in pole position as to giving further comment if needed than having spurted it all out at the begining.

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RESISTANCE ISN'T FUTILE

How many people give up or get despondent because someone else has decided that "they" don't like what we do or "they" don't think it's a good idea or it makes 'them' anxious or whatever the negative emotion is that is thrown out. That those who grow up in "negatively charged" families are disadvantaged from the word 'go' although there is absolutely nothing to stop that mental stance changing and them being very successful which happens a lot. The whole ethos in life is to make good, otherwise we don't have any ability to be a person with purpose, we just exist within the cosmos of our own thoughts and ideologies and ideals. Many of which will never see the drawing board let alone become tangible aspects of life. To do whatever we do has to have a degree of our inner self almost welded to it, we have to be almost inseparable and impervious to the rough weather and the decay of time in order to maintain our desired goal. The journey can at times be lonely, it can harbour storms never imaginable and it can be plagued with gremlins that we never knew existed, but when our own protegee of thought is at stake we do whatever we have to do to nurture it through these obstacles and take each and every one as an example of learning even if the curve is at times vertical.

Breaking barriers, forging ahead can be an isolating experience when one almost becomes a Medusa like creature with eyes and ears scanning every area around trying to find synergy and form, looking for those little idiosyncratic nuances that others would past by but which to the self are the vital steps in making it all work. Many seek high ground only deeming that such an area has value but one only has to look at almost any street to see the relatively new styled coffee houses springing up selling predominantly cups of coffee, nothing glamorous in that yet it's very satisfying and sustaining and engaging. Life in a similar vein is what you make it, it's not what other people deem is good and proper - even if they are correct in their surmise and assumptions, it's all down to the individual as they have to live within their own mind remit and nowhere else. If what we feel we do has no kudos then we won't do it well and the fall off of that will be complacency and lacklustre and disenchantment and disappointment and an overall feeling of lowness.

Trying to please other people by agreeing with them serves no purpose other than lowers your own self abilities, even though it happens a lot in corporate structures, but with those around you there is really no excuse. Everyone is entitled to be wrong and everyone is entitled to an opinion, not voicing an opinion however is at times the best way out. Physically voicing an opinion actually opens one up to - by default telling everyone about whom you are and often about areas that it would not be wise to do so as it compromises your own thought processes and future stance. Going against the grain to many physically frightens them as they have been so used to "going with the flow" and be responsive to "others general opinions" that eventually they lose any free thinking ability and any inner zest to enhance life for themselves or others. Of course there is a fine line between 'going for it' because it's expedient to do so and being 'selfish', but that line has a barrier of distinction and a purpose and ultimate end with it not based upon self, even if it's a business venture or a breakthrough in some area of life.

The worst type of person is the "politically correct" moron, someone who interjects the free flow of conversation with an overwhelming attitude about the general populous with the self thought that they are bastions of society, whereas they are the dregs of growth and inhibitors of freedom. If people don't break barriers, push the envelope, rebel against staid and pathetic traditions that have no current value, overrule old religious doctrines that are upheld by parasites and demonically minded preachers then nothing would ever go forward. Our whole history is littered with success stories amid the horrors of reaching such goals by individuals and groups challenging the dull and mediocre in life, the incumbent "flat earthists" who seek only not to change because of the fear or fear itself. Breaking the mould does gain respect even if it's looked at from afar with a tinge of unease, that unease is only the inner self that sees what others are doing and the self has opted out for an easy route of "follow my leader".

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DETACHED ELEVATION

The commonality of many people is that they literally get too engrossed into those around them or what happens around them. It's not that dedication or devotion or seriousness pertaining to same is not an admiral thing, it's often the minutiae that many tend to pick up upon have associated resonations within themselves that cloud their vision and subsequently their thoughts. We all have different views on the same subject even if we ultimately concur on the emotion and feeling towards it and have the same degree of comprehension too. What often happens is that subliminally we analyse the situations we are in placing ourselves and the other person(s) in a perspective of our own vision then deduce scenarios from that, it often has no bearing whatsoever other than a melding of our perceptions and feelings, which is not always that savoury nor accurate. In fact it's usually extremely biased towards how we want to feel and therefore we become self judgmental again throwing into the scenario a host of options and permutations which one shouldn't have even ventured to think about. It's difficult not to do that especially if you have a virile mind and it's concerning relationships but it can be levied towards anything that one has strong feelings about, even work etc.

Like everything in life we need always to see the "bigger picture" and our emotions can at times preclude us from doing just that as they play heavily within distorting and clouding not only our vision but playing havoc with our feelings too, often sending us into bouts of internal unrest and nervousness and thoughts which are often sensually induced and not really destined for us in the end. The more creative we are the more painful at times certain decisions can be although conversely we can be happiest with the smallest of things which have little value, it's a true heart felt emotion that relies on nothing else but human kindness or raw nature. Our personal sensitivity has a lot to do with how we interact with life, those with a high sensitivity threshold predominantly want a 'resolution' to most things before they can move on otherwise there is a personal moratoriun about what has just transpired, and then perhaps a few reenactment's after that as if 'aftershocks' are resounding. Those at the opposite end of the spectrum have less of a truck with life, what's happened has happened, next, and they see no purpose in munching it over in their minds regardless of what the situation has caused or otherwise. In between are those who often procrastinate depending upon the emotional aspect of what they feel like and what they feel for the other parties regardless of what the other parties feel about them, it's predominantly an assumption and one that often leads them into a place of needless consternation.

Most areas of life need to be viewed with a degree of detachment, it doesn't alter the quality of thought nor deed or deeds to subsequently be effected, but it does give the onlooker a degree of insularity from the disenchantment of others thoughts based obviously on how they think and not how you think, even if the end view is almost identical. Detached elevation / detached compassion / detached understanding allows one to be in a place of maneuverability away from extraneous thoughts and feelings so that the self doesn't by default get bogged down in the overall energy that can have negative consequences and opens one up to ongoing thoughts of a not so pleasant nature. i.e. our negative emotions kick in and then they tend to reduce our ability to reason. Many professions such as in law, finance, politics, etc are cold and insincere, where questions are always black and white and shades and hues have no place except for the enacted drama of the presentations and this can almost reach 'B' movie status and its associated dubious quality.

Great leaders and performers can switch quite often from a personal mode to an automatic mode whereby they immediately detach themselves from the situation yet are in full knowledge and understanding of what is going on. It's this comprehensive elevation that gives them an overall lead in setting right what they need to do next without the emotional fuss and flummery that others drag along with them then mull over afterwards. It can at times to those around seem an impersonal thing to suddenly look onwardly detached and devoid of great emotion, but most people think erroneously that getting upset is the correct thing to do in times of trouble because they know no better. That it's respectful to get into a fury or show anger as a right, all of which is rubbish and pure showmanship  never ever solves anything other than playing to an audience which is by it's very nature is shallow and insincere and usually of an historical game handed down to generations. Our inner feelings can be our biggest assets around, but like uranium you can harness it to benefit all by making electricity or make a bomb and blow everyone up, it's a pure choice based upon one's own ideology and perception. Being detached at times does give one pure thought not tarnished by others, it thus allows the self to identity what's expedient and then as and when incorporate it into what's right at that time to hold council with others.

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POSTRAL HYPERCOSIS

Ever felt that you are treading water, that life could be far better and that that thought is not just a wishful thinking whim, it's a very real concept that somewhere along the line there's something missing. Ever felt that your abilities could be best utilised elsewhere even though what you do now is possibly quite enlightening? Depending upon our outlook and importantly our inner stability is how we view life, if we have good and possibly creative thoughts and our life is generally good throughout then we give off good ideas as a general opinion. If we are predominantly entrepreneurial then we may put into place a scenario whereby we make our ideas work, it's not that difficult in that our ability to do so is part and parcel within us. And then there are those alien sheep who have a whole range of possibilities and potentials who swan around on planet earth holding on to dreams of often great magnitude but can never or seldom see any way of getting them out and developed.

There is today a great unease with many people that they are not fulfilling their lives adequately, their is something missing a piece of the jigsaw is lost and that is giving rise to an internal discomfort. It's not that for these people life can't be happy or that that they don't enjoy life but there is that little bit of grit like that stone in your shoe that is their constantly rearing its head when life becomes becalmed. The condition of our mental health is vital in that if it is out of sync with life or how we feel life is to be (which could be way off line with reality) then we are forever going to feel that life is elsewhere and we are just making the best of it no matter how good it could possibly be. The feeling of unrest has no bearing on circumstances or our situation it's a deeper involvement with the self, our abilities, whom we are as a person and an unclenched inner self that needs something more than what it's getting right now. Purpose has a great part to play in our own definition, no matter what we feel we need understanding and that needs a greater space in which to work.

Our personal environment which includes where we live, those around us including friends and family, our work place, what we do, and anything else has for anyone creatively speaking an influence upon them. For those that wish to plod on in life it can be almost a Utopian existence, why would anyone want more. But we are governed by our inner feelings which are pre-programmed to some degree, how we elaborate on that is down to us. The $64 ooo question is what do we do to give ourselves that "quench" factor that would almost instantly gives rise to a feeling of 'wellbeing' and 'betterness' and satisfaction, that feeling that induces an almost constant smile as opposed to those pincer like features of those walking around perpetually deep in self thought and are at times 'out of it' as far as instant thought is concerned. Single people, over 30 are more prone to these feelings than most, although it's not an exclusive situation. How our inner thoughts are assimilated makes a world of difference and it's this assimilation that many can't get to grips with.

Life is holistic in that it's never ever just "one thing" that needs to change even if there is "one thing" that predominantly is a cause, if that "one thing" was rectified over night, it would change much but it would not solve a problem or it would introduce others, our narrowness or short sighted vision in respect to ourselves can leave us in a permanent state of "just one more thing" syndrome. The human species is love based, often that's never ever part of any equation even if it includes wanting a relationship, the relationship is often just a cold thought and love is something that's assumed? Giving of the self is another aspect of life that many today tend to view with an accountants eye, itemising what you did, they did, she did, he did and then make decisions based upon those credentials rather than those from the heart and whatever imbalance occurs is irrelevant as long as you uphold what you need to do from a good place others will have to live with what they do, not you. Those that think they are generous are usually not and those that say nothing are usually kinder in heart, and those that shy away from everything to do with giving whether of themselves or financially just stew in their own juice permanently hoping but selfishly wishing it will never happen because it would break their selfish lifestyle which is more important to them than anything.

There are of course solutions to becoming more inwardly "quenched" there are self thoughts as to why these feeling emanate and these  can be modified without major difficulties by one's own ideals and thus place a new horizon encompassing everything one wants into it and still enjoy a better feeling than the present. There are many ways to make what's to come more rewarding and understanding and make it easier to cope with the present on any level. There are very personal things one can do almost in an instant as to not going down the "age related" routes to making life get more defined, narrow and selfish as time goes by. There are many solutions out there, just because one doesn't know doesn't mean they don't exist. And those who have excuses scribbled at the side of them all, heaven help you.

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GETTING UPSET AND OFFENDED

Are we getting weaker as a race or is it that we have arrived at a state whereby we are so insecure that we have become pathetic people, because it appears that everywhere you go someone somewhere is getting offended and upset about what someone else has said. And the very sad thing is in most cases is that neither party know each other so it's not personal it's just a general comment made, and in a free speech society (excluding the useless politically correct morons) that's what people do, make free speeches. There are of course some religious parties that make life a crusade of whinging and moaning and complaining and only have to show that they are at the bottom of the human league and God had forsaken them years ago. But why is it that people get upset so easily, and why is it that people get offended? If someone is fat and they are called at being fat then there is no offence made, it's a truism, like it or not that's the way it is, telling it in a different way isn't going to change the fact. One can't go around masking away the truth as if it didn't exist as that is definitely not a way forward. Nor can one command others to speak in more subtle or softer tomes as that smacks of a whole range of unsavoury aspects of control and narrowness. The saying 'the truth hurts' isn't true, the truth will set you free, free from the burdens of having to make things up and living in a cocooned world of self thought, even if that self thought is wrong. The trouble with most people is that they think that their comments are valid, and whilst indeed they may be to an extent one can't speak for everyone as personal circumstances, thoughts, feelings, ideologies come into the structure of reasoning as does being ignorant, stupid, selfish, arrogant, biased, and all the rest.

The more one is in control of one's life and has a reasonably good definition of their own self esteem, then what does it matter what others say, after all what some people say including politicians is nothing more than tomorrows cheap newspaper fodder for recycling. If one has to dwell on negative or subjective comments that don't fall into alignment with self thought then it's usually a reflection of your own state of mind and life as you live it, which says a lot about you specifically as a person. Unless there is something specific to say on a specific topic, making statements for the sake of it opens the self to everything seeking the darker side of you which usually results in people thinking that one is unstable, which often has a grain of truth to it. However "out of the box" people are often ridiculed until proven totally correct by the less knowledgeable and dull. The quality of a statement no matter what the content is speaks volumes about how it's delivered and by whom and for what reason. In fact everything we say is a reflection of ourselves, we are our "shop window" whether it's business or pleasure and it's not so much as to what we wear because circumstances dictate different apparel it's how we wear it all that again tells just so much about us and how we outwardly think for ourselves. What and how we say distinctively tells others if we are tough cookies or wimps, it's our delivery and stance that subliminally throws it all in place and finds that comfort exclamation within our contextual reporting.

The more we make of others content the more we literally allow ourselves to be subliminally manipulated by others thoughts and feelings, the vast majority of whom are of no value themselves. The occasions that words do strike a discordant and derogatory note are very few and far between. Riding over and above others is by a long shot better than entering the affray because we feel somewhat slighted by our own inferiority and insecurity. It's often what others do and say in relation to "blase" remarks that people look for and if nothing happens in retaliation then it's more often than not "game over". Like playing tennis - catch the ball walk off - game over". The moment one hits the ball back (retorting) the game starts. It's a celebrity game for anyone, "wanting to defend their reputation", the bottom line is a) what reputation and b) who cares. Similarly no matter who you are and what you are anyone can say something trying as the press do to start an action they can latch on to, hoping that it will develop by default. The very "best" people in life allow almost without exception stories to ride and die from lack of their own ammunition and rhetorical fuel.

Dignity and humility and strength of character are becoming almost rarities in society, with so many onlookers judging from afar or being back seat drivers in a car with no steering wheel. Self created ideologies, religious undertones learned off by heart with no understanding, plus all the other "sheep type" learning gives rise to banal and stoic opinion that leads nowhere and going nowhere are those that severely criticize then wonder why things never happen for the better in their lives. When one has purpose and phlegm and self understanding it literally throws up the microcosm of others and where they live in a very tightly controlled narrow existence that has no bearing on anything let alone their own lives.

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