THE FUN AND JOY IN LIFE

Everything in life is a matter of balance, it's also a culmination of our take on life too, which incorporates our thoughts, feelings, understanding and those horrible elements negative emotions that include, greed, jealousy, anger, envy, ego, arrogance, you know them all only too well. It's the latter that sets our threshold on how we enjoy life and are able we are to laugh. It's not logic unfortunately that sets the terms even though it should be to a large extent, coupled with a sprinkling of sheer and outright positivity, it's those negative thoughts that wade in and pull us down. We know when we are with friends that we can laugh at almost anything and do, the silliest thing or personal comments about others or whatever it is bodes well for lots of laughter we feel comfortable, ourselves and for a few moments life's stresses and strains fade into insignificance, where they should be. However time goes by and we are soon back on our own pathway and the laughter seems an age away even if only a matter of hours in reality. We come across, financial stresses, work related problems or loss of work, we see outside events that encompass our lives by default, they are not invited but enter anyway, and we see parameters change before our eyes which destabilises us no end.

But over and above all of these things we can laugh, we can enjoy life, we can commune and we can go forward. We are still the masters of our own destiny and if we controlled our thoughts as opposed to letting them control us we would with immediate effect elevate ourselves to a level where life would take on a new meaning and we would see elements and routes and pathways that before eluded us. It's not that all our problems would suddenly vanish but we would be in pole position to life and not a default follower that looks forlorn and withdrawn seeking only highlights to make the bits in between worthwhile. Fun and joy exist every day no matter where you are but if one is to enjoy it all there has to be that conduit to enjoyment that's common to all parties. If someone is not going to laugh at something because they think that the situation that they are in doesn't warrant it then they are forcing unhappiness on themselves. Many people have this pathetic and misplaced thought and ideology that if something is wrong or not going well they can't laugh, or at a funeral they can't smile or indeed laugh even if it's sharing good moments of the past of the deceased, this is a stupid fallacy and self created situation that has neither merit nor logic. And as to the thought "what will others think" whose life are you living yours or theirs? Never bring yourself down or make yourself drab for the sake of others there's no respect or disrespect in that at all it's third world twaddle for low minded people and failures.

The lightness of life the bit that gives us meaning and purpose is akin to being able to see more than one side of anything and that includes any humorous elements or those element within those that work with us. People who can generally laugh are more honest and trustworthy than those that can't or don't, they are more creative and strangely enough more Godly too as they see compassion, love and understanding whereas the morbid zealots see evil and malice as the first point of call. Apart from the devised advertisements where people are made to laugh to try and give credibility, smiling and laughing does give one a better opportunity to connect and be open to connection via others especially strangers who know nothing of or about you. Our "shop window" speaks volumes about us if it's bright and warm then it's attractive to most if it's dull then it attracts the few who are predominantly dull too as the rest take one glance and move onwards. Enjoying the moment is the key to life, if we seek enjoyment via something materialistic which would give us fleeting joy or a situation or happening in the future then we 'postpone happiness' confining ourselves to what we are daily living through as just 'ordinary' and as humans we are anything but, or at least most aren't. Choices abound in life and happiness is a choice (yes it is no muttering here) as is to laugh and smile, it comes from within you and nowhere else, so decide where you want to go and and what you want to be and do it. The way you do it will define where you end up. Now make your choice.    

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VICTORY IN SIGHT

From the moment we are born to the day we die we have something in mind, it doesn't matter what it is but we have something that we would either like to do, happen, have more or less of or see at some juncture. Whatever it is it can vary as time, age, situations and circumstances change as they play a vital part in how we think and vary our perceptions. What we once thought was cool and on our wish list when young leaves us absolutely cold later in life and on recollection we at times wonder how we could even want whatever it was to have happened. During our life we have many an obstacle jump in front of us that throws us into a tangential situation in that we have to change tack or course in order to accommodate our pathway forward and not be browbeaten by the events which have taken place and not stagnate. But being a human being we have already that ability to move forward and stake our claim to both success and a better life ahead, especially in the West even if it's not immediately visible we are aiming for that goal. Our individuality makes life interesting and what one person may want to achieve is of little value to the aspirations of another, there are no wrongs nor rights it's just the way it is and how it is. The common denominator in all of this is achieving and the journey towards the end result, which ironically sometimes keeps on moving and thus our cause is endless, never the less the journey can be in itself just so rewarding and rich as that is where the majority of people spend their time.

Comparisons in life are useless things unless judging a competition as the criteria we all have is different and our threshold levels and aspirations are also different too. Within our remit we have our own individualism and that has a significant part to play in our life and how we live it and how we ultimately enjoy it. The mere fact that we live every day is a success to ourselves in that we do what we have to do to keep ourselves in a relatively stable framework, even if there are those around us who abuse themselves and have no respect for their lives or those of others the important think is we do. Our goals are often subliminal in that we want to build for the future, which is not a goal we set it's an inevitable situation, how we accomplish the bit in between is based on our perceptions, aspirations and a series of fluctuating goals that sometime consume our thoughts and at other times we drop them like a ton of bricks. It's good to have goals or long term aspirations as it gives us a platform upon which to present our case and make decisions. But goals can also get in the way of free thought and opportunities and some people actually get bogged down in forever making goals which causes stress, anxiety and above all many failures as they never attain or reach their goals in the time they allotted for themselves, so we need to be understanding towards ourselves and kind too and not be robots trying to achieve the almost impossible because some book or lecturer says it's the think to do. There are NO "one size fits all" aspects of life no matter where you go.

Victory is in part an attitude of mind, it's not being decorated or to receive public admiration for what you do, that's just a version of public grandeur which means nothing whatsoever, even though some people are worthy of such decorations. The personal understanding of life and that "Victim or Victor" mentality is what makes those who silently fight and stand not giving in to circumstances rather than be the pathetic politically correct nerds who are waste of space and a bane on  society. Everything is relative where some people in Africa walk miles every day just to get water and if those in the West had to do the same thing they would be probably dead by now. Having said that one cannot equate directly such societies as the cause and result of why they are like they are differs so greatly as does the overall humanitarian thoughts behind it all. But success and victory is common to both, it's succeeding beyond the odds, not giving in, overcoming, preparing to respect yourself and not being a statistic of circumstances, it's everything to do with "I've a right to be good and great" whatever that means to yourself. It's not arrogance as it's often just quietly placed in ones mind and thus ones overall attitude is one of understanding, love, strength, compassion, humility, laughter and smiles, and not accepting from anyone what they think you should do or be because it's none of their business.

The difference between success and failure is not determined by others, it's your journey, and whilst everyone may know your name the vast majority have no idea what your journey has been and what you have had to deal with, overcome and do to be just where you are today. It's all too easy for the media to brandish what they think, but the media are cold, impersonal, divisive, greedy and always on the look out for an 'angle' to hone in themselves for what they can get out of it using you as a dispensable pawn. You are not dispensable, success is already a part of your life, the sacrifices that you have made and friendships you have helped and the efforts you have put in over and above what is required already makes you a 'saint' of modern times but without the pomp and public fanfare. Life doesn't get easier, but it can be very livable if we accept that we are successful and it's not down to someone else to tell their version to make it all right, we need to pat ourselves on our own back, smile gently at ourselves in the mirror and whisper -'you've done well', because you have and because you are worth it.

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