MULTIPLE IDENTITY

Yes we all have multiple identities and no we are not psychotic or schizophrenic, every day we utilise who we are and our knowledge to appear more aptly and somewhat differently to whom we talk to. We can at anyone time be a son, brother, father, grandfather, friend, lover, husband, boyfriend / girlfriend, businessman / women, expert, novice, patient, student, amateur, professional, club member, etc, etc, the list goes on and on. For each and every occasion we draw on different areas of knowledge and thus utilise different traits about ourselves and what’s involved in putting ourselves forward and communicating effectively at a level commensurate with what we feel and deem expedient to that situation. How we talk to our friends is not the same as how we talk to our partners or parents as we hold different information and have different experiences and feelings and thus reflect and relate what makes that relationship what it is.

Within those identities we have a number of sub identities that forms our character and outlines our identity, it’s these traits that separate us from others or link us into a “type” whether we like it or not. Our attitude is paramount as to how we get on in life and if it’s good then we have greatness at our door if it stinks, then no one really wants to know who we are, and why should they. Our ability to be the person we need to be to others either limits us or enhances who we are, those that make excuses or have a chip on their shoulders usually do badly, all of which is self engineered even if they wouldn’t admit to such. Of course over and above our multiple identities we can assume an identity that is one of our own design, such as a confidence trickster or a disingenuous salesman or women, (or a politician) all of which take on a role of playing to others emotions and needs for self gain and contrived delivery of their own product or service which they hope to sell on.

The media is the ultimate in chameleon two faced-ness, where it sees everything as fair game, upholding the rights of someone until they make a mistake then tear them apart and all in a matter of a few days if that’s what it takes to make the news. Understanding life and what makes it tick is paramount to the “self” to enable it to proceed forward without the divisive thoughts of others, to see the bigger picture over and above the narrow thoughts of those who seek only self gain. The information that’s put out for us to glean at our own behest in the free society we live in by and large has little to offer other than of interest value little of that that will change or enhance our lives. We all know what we need to keep body and soul together and over and above that we can drip feed ourselves with additional material so as to not overload our minds and whatever we might be going through ourselves which may have repercussions of its own.

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THE TIPPING POINT

We all go through phases of one sort or another, or possibly a fad too, but whatever it is, we go through them, some good some not so good and some, well, we’d rather forget. When life seems to be going well even the wet cold damp days seem to shine for us as life is on our terms, we just think of pleasant thoughts and are more than charitable to those who ‘get on our nerves’ thinking that we know better even if we don’t. But the flip side of all of that, the flip side of positive emotions isn’t that wholesome nor that rosy either, it’s tainted with aspects of life that grate on us and thwart our desire to go forward. The negativity of life has no bounds and it holds neither prisoners nor keeps enemies, it does just what it wants to do and it does it in its own sweet time and has no compunction as to the depths it plunges and for how long. The human condition has long since been categorised and quantified and qualified by supposedly learned people none of which have an answer as to why some do well and do very little and others slog themselves to death and get almost if nothing at all out of life. But whatever we do whether we are scientists used to failing every day and eventually hit on something of enormous benefit for mankind, or at a more domestic level households doing their best to keep afloat regardless of circumstances, there comes a point and a time which is the tipping point, where things change. We like to think that things change for the better, but there’s no guarantee that that will be the case or that it’s an automatic assumption after a bout of negativity in all quarters.

The “tipping pint” however only comes with persistence and perseverance, and the more we show our true grit and metal the better the turnaround and the more we put ourselves out and about the chances of the tipping point happening sooner rather than later. However getting to that “tipping point” which comes at no pre-determined time also houses a lot of frustration, sleepless nights, anxiety, self doubt, life challenged and it heightens the smallest of things which would under normal circumstances be of no or trivial value. Whether we re-invent ourselves, re-discover ourselves or just hope that the life changes we are looking for will materialise at a point closer to where we are now is dealt with by shifting our attitude and not grasping on straws or making up scenarios to make things fit. Regardless of what we are going through if we don’t by and large enjoy where we are right here when the tipping point comes we will immediately find something else to take away the pleasure of a better ambiance and heightened situation. We will think that OK things have got better but I still need this n’ that n’ something else so by our own hand we will extend the doldrums in a habitual way until we eventually become moribund and lacking in total cause and kudos.

We can with many things in life affect the chances we have or the odds we have of improving our lot, if we do nothing then we open up the opportunity for random acts to take place and our chances of anything good happening are reduced to practically nothing. Alternatively we can enhance our chances and bring that ‘tipping point’ somewhat nearer to our wishes by enacting and communing with life in all manner of ways, but by being active we at least are a part of life and not part of an audience waiting for the show to start. Of course what we get when the tipping point takes place may not be exactly what we are looking for but never the less being positive in mind we can often surf that wave of opportunity as opposed to watching it hit the shore empty and then realising we’ve missed the boat too.

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WHERE DOES LOVE LIVE

Life is a journey, not the “New Age” variety of “well it happens for a reason” or any of that mindless rubbish although some of our actions do cause events to happen for definite reasons, but the “bigger picture” is that life is fluid even for the most dull and solitary person. Life is constantly evolving, evolution takes into account both birth and death all at the same time, it fosters decay and growth all at the same time, and it favours no one whatsoever, it cares not about whether we live or die or suffer, life is what it is, it’s a platform upon which we have to make our own way. The stupidity and regressive and almost evil ways of some religions cause untold hardship and devastation to millions of people whereas it should help, promote and enhance their life to allow happiness, joy and love to flourish, over and above the cheap rhetoric of empty and hollow statements. Reality is a great leveller of truth in that it sees the lies and self devised facades that man creates to try and ‘hold’ everything together, it never ever works. Looking at life where the west despite its faults progresses whereas the rest of the world still struggles to forever catch up and still harbours a massive dichotomy of those that have education and millions of peasants that live around the corner who haven’t a clue about life and just survive. But life isn’t fair, it never has been nor will it ever be so, there is nothing written in life anywhere that says it is fair, fairness and morality are man made concepts and then only implemented by the few, again predominantly the Western nations, but that’s even getting out of hand whereby the “I have my rights” brigade, the moronic politically correct imbeciles have almost legalised criminality in the process.

So within all this “Where Does Love Live”? Why is it that some people are fraught with endless distress and mental discomfort almost all their lives and others seemingly have a better ‘lot’ and understanding. Why is it that Eastern Europeans, South Asians and South Americans and West Africans have the biggest incidents of selling their children or allowing them into prostitution more than anywhere else? (And one of the greatest love bonds is between mother and child). That some religions still look down on women and treat then as almost worthless creatures, which still happens to millions of women, despite those that have broken free of that structure. It’s very easy to talk about love when one is fed and watered and has nice clothes and MP3 and Blu-ray players, and iPhones loaded with the latest music, and meets ones friends in Starbucks, or go out for a nice meal with friends and enjoys the freedom of the society they live in. Cultures are often the biggest culprits and bane on today’s growing society, wrapped in historical failures and ideologies that modernity has no truck with nor is it compatible. For people to relate to culture as an “identity” of the past is like having to go down to the river for water when you have pure running water in your own home, it’s Stoic and narrow mindedness. Identity is where you are now, not of the past, you weren’t part of the past, ever, even if your history emanates from it, you are here now, you past starts from your yesterday not that of old folk tales and a world which was different in every respect. Cultures are mind concepts, everyone who holds on to the past certainly wants today’s modern drugs to cure them, yesterdays isn’t any good. So where does love live in all this, it does, but it’s thwarted by the stupidity of narrowness and a loss as to who you are as a person. People even fight over cultures and worse still religious cultures too that have no other meaning than what has been self created, and are nothing to do with God. People clinging on to culture as if it provides substance for them, it provides nothing but ideological content, and whilst their is nothing wrong with understanding the past and even celebrating the colourful rituals of the past of enjoyment and pseudo purpose at the end of the day it’s today that feeds you, clothes you, provides you with modern medicine, houses you, and all the rest, not a mind concept that’s a legend and not a reality.

Within all this where does love lie, what does it mean, and can we do without it. The first thing is that a humanoid based society is definitely love based even if there are those who choose to override it, and many do, never the less its ingrained deep within, it’s an intrinsic part of us, it’s what has kept by and large society the world over together despite the ego’s of despots, evil negative religions, ideologies, and gross ignorance of uneducated people, which accounts for many. Without love people fragment, become mentally unstable, stop thinking logically and start the roads to terrorism, without love we have no purpose, no future, nothing to look forward to nor desire to create towards. All the greatest creations stem from love, the desire to find out, something many religions want to hold back on, yet those that preach such are only too willing to accept dubious money to enhance their lives. Love is the biggest industry there is, it’s the world over people finding people, even if it’s a pleasure zone for some it’s still that desire to find another human being for empathy regardless of its merit that one can’t get elsewhere. Without love life is nothing, and those that survive on selfishness, greed, hate, arrogance, always suffer in the long term, they usually end up mentally exhausted at their constant battle to get their own way and in the process lose what it is really like to love and live at the same time. Love never leaves us ever, but having authority over our thoughts we can override it and allow negative emotions to take precedence, cultures and societies are aspects that fuel such thoughts and thus those societies are always backward, although in time they do evolve but it’s a slow process.

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TRANSFORMATION OF THE SELF

There are so many books written today about Self Help, written by those on therapy (all about life and failure), Transcendental Meditation, (lazy and lost people), Guru’s rambling on about life and yet haven’t done a day’s work in their lives, about Spiritual Consciousness, (massive hangover), Finding God (he was never lost), Getting in Touch With Your Inner Self, (what have you been doing up until now), acknowledging your “feminine side” or “masculine side” (latent drag queens), and so it goes on. Psychologists and psychiatrists have over the years had a field day of looking up their own rectums and seeing if at the end of it life still exists, and in the process gotten used to the dank environment of negativity that they predominantly dwell in and within themselves have an overwhelming problem concerning the word “why” and resolution to it. There’s a market for it all however, and there are those who for some reason seem to feel that life could be better than what it is if they could just find what it is that they are missing. Such people are either already screwed up or have lost the plot or they are predominantly single and lonely and just can’t seem to make a connection with life or those around them or indeed make any tangible relationship with anything or anyone. Their all too frequent stares and glazed expressions and peculiar responses to what others would just take for granted sets them way out above the - dare I say it - yes I dare, the ‘norm’, whatever the ‘norm’ is, and already there will be those getting hot and flustered as to what the ‘norm’ really is, well, it’s probably doesn’t include them to start with. But for those who have a life, i.e. they are not glued to the media news, they don’t follow the fickle aspects of celebrities and how stupid they can really get, one doesn’t take everything as ‘gospel’ that anyone says about whatever it is they have to speak about, and one doesn’t believe the rhetoric of politicians in their eternal task of trying to convince ‘everyone’ that they are right.

The transformation of the self is almost a ‘coming of age’ in that it’s that sudden understanding and inner peace to do with a feeling of ‘knowing’ even if you really can’t translate it and put it into words. It’s an overall or homogeneous feeling that you can ’see’ for what its all worth the good, the bad and the indifferent and it no longer bothers you even if you intrinsically know deep down that some aspects are totally wrong. Being able to ’see’ life and what bothers so many and why some do what they do, allows you to stand back and feel the real breeze of life, that almost silent freshness that’s all around us that we are apt to ignore preferring to cloud our mind with minutiae of worthless detail and illusions of self importance over and above what is really important. People are making inordinate amounts of money running courses about the “inner self” and “happiness” and all the rest, and of course there are those who are so pathetic they believe it’s all “out there” for them to access when if the idiots only realised it’s already within them, but they are entitled to be stupid and at least going to the courses gets them out of the house even if it does mean mixing with other “oddballs” when they get there. Oddballs always attract oddballs and they tend to do the rounds as if it’s a ritual or “rite of passage” for them to do and very often takes the place of what a real relationship would be. Of course they’ll rarely ever get a relationship of any worth as they just can’t “let go” and give, hence there is this “single” phenomenon of people doing the circuit with other single people, nothing wrong with it, it’s just the way it is, but they often self isolate themselves and rarely know they are doing it, backing it all up with excuses, but everyone else notices why.

If one feels that they are out of sync with life or life is out of sync with them then it’s purely and simply down to your attitude, life won’t change and it’s viewed by billions every day all from their own perspectives and from vastly different circumstances. If the “resonance” or “vibe” isn’t good then it’s you that is not in harmony with life definitely not the other way around. You have to make the effort and not the excuses which is an all too easy cop out. It matters not what effort you make but effort is paramount in breaking through the invisible barrier that makes you feel like you do, mistakes are par for the course and only help to provide roughage with the grist in eventually dismantling that segmented wall that stops one feeling that life is good in all its glory despite the conditions. You can have your own theories on life, you can believe what others ramble on about but at the lest resort it’s you who has to come to terms with who you are and life and no one else nor anyone else’s theories or take on life. A positive mind can change the values, feelings, thoughts, circumstantial effects on the self in an instant, our mind has that ability without any pain or consternation. All the barriers we ’see’ for ourselves are self created even if there are hurdles in front of us, the magnitude and our ability to climb over them or transcend them rests with us, no one else, no matter what we have to do. In short life is all about us and how we engage with it and not about the problems or environment or anything else that we can’t always change. We can always change ourselves, which is often the biggest stumbling point for many as they have this illusion that there are those “out there” that have answers, they may have some, but it’s still YOU that has to effect the change.

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BEING BROKEN HEARTED

It’s not the nicest of things to happen, it blows our mind like a mini atom bomb going off inside of us, triggering all of our feelings and emotions all at one go, our minds almost disconnect from reality and we live in a place of self concocted hurt and indecision and unfathomable thoughts. Reality is not an issue as it hardly exists other than the fact that we are still alive, but only just, and interest in life whatever that is has ceased and anyway we just don’t want to know anymore as it’s immaterial and not worth it anyway. And what’s more no one understands even though others have gone through it too, it’s not the same as your heart ache, your pain is different. Well anyway, that’s an idea of what heartache is all about especially if you haven’t been through it, and it’s not a recommendation to put on your list of “things to do and experience”. Heartache is felt differently by “blokes” as it is by girls, men see things more technically and women see things more emotionally and although each and every feeling is just as real to men and women the thought process can vary somewhat and at times neither side can see where either party is coming from or going to, and the end result is that they don’t care either because if you can’t understand then that’s the whole problem in a nutshell. So there.

It’s usually worse for the person who is let down rather than the person who lets the other down, as the latter has usually a premeditated thought which tends to buffer them from the impact and actually they have had some time to think of other things even if it’s just having time on their own to ‘chill out’ and sort themselves out, unless someone else is on the scene. It’s a complex thing and for some it’s a point where they really think that life will never be the same again, it won’t it never is, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be 100 times better either, so there’s always a flip side to the way we think and the way we stilt our conversations towards a goal that seems always out of reach. It’s not rocket science either that relationships brake down at any age and also for those who are single and 30+,  mind thought is the biggest culprit to having a relationship or staying single as at the same time as compromise is nearly always an issue. Usually the woman feeling she has to compromise more than the man, unless it’s a gay relationship, but it’s usually one partner that acquiesces, and not necessarily for the worse either, that’s something to think of and not the egotistical side of “why should I” which is a ‘kiss of death’ attitude.

It’s rare not to get over a broken heart, even if it takes time. And all this “I’m sceptical about any new relationship I’ve been let down before" or worse, "too often before” etc, is rubbish, it’s self centred and selfish and maybe with that attitude it’s you that was part of the break up cause in the first instance. And remember if you have had a number of broken hearts, failed relationships etc, the common denominator in them all is you, not your partner, so what does it all say about you. There’s nothing wrong in playing the field except that “playing” is the operative word, so expect what you get when play stops, nothing, and thus nothing is what will happen time and time again. You must be honest to both yourself and others that way any let down will be be lightened as it will have a purpose and not just “it was fun whilst it lasted” which is why many “have a go” relationships are just that, shallow and hollow from the outset. One of the main causes of breakdown is not infidelity it's "hidden agendas" coupled with selfishness, and with the "why should I" and all this "I need my space" and whatever else YOU need is all fodder the day of reckoning that's about to happen.

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SORRY & THANK YOU

Two very powerful words that express so much about life, the person we are, our understanding of life and others, the etiquette of getting out and about and communicating proficiently with fellow man, the humility of the self and above all our understanding of ourselves regardless of what others think. It’s important that we know when we are wrong and can admit to it without our ego creeping in or without degrees of arrogance taking over and us making excuses trying to avoid saying sorry. Being sorry and saying thank you can be very liberating indeed, it can free the self up from harbouring deceit and lies and and building a hard and callous interface within that over time will stop us from enjoying life as we should be and it will by default keep others away as they will be able to read the “unfortunate” side of our character and immediately not want to commune with us. Whether being sorry for whatever it is that one is sorry about is not accepted or if so begrudgingly by the other party is not important you can’t tell others what to do or what not to do, their thought patterns are the way they are for a reason. But the fact that one offers sorrow over an action or deed is enough to placate the self even if initially it was of a selfish and divisive nature. Having said all of that saying sorry doesn’t make things alright especially if the deed that one is sorry over was selfish and divisive and it all went wrong, but life is for living and moving on, it’s not from dragging the past with you or harbouring ill thoughts on a permanent basis to try and keep justification for negativity alive and hatred or anger as a live credential for purpose. Such thoughts make the holder of the negative emotions as bad or worse than the one or ones who instigated the wrong doing in the first place.

The human nature of man himself is to show gratitude and in showing gratitude it’s an acceptance of what some one else or others have done or are offering for you. The deeds of individuals or groups of people giving of the service or product play an equally important part in how we communicate with others, life is full of reciprocity it’s this reciprocity that makes the world go around and allows many of us the freedom to interact without let or hindrance by others. Religions in society (man made aspects of God) are the kiss of death as they impart evil and control and censorship and ritual and mayhem and guilt and it’s administered by those who should be preaching love, not the hatred as hate is the keynote of devil worship. Saying thank you denotes the acceptance of human exchange, the giving and taking of something no matter how large or small, it’s the deed or service or product that we are giving thanks for and that gives an elevated feeling of purpose, even if many say thank you almost begrudgingly, which denotes a staid and dull mind of a somewhat selfish nature. Happy and positive people are always profuse with exclamations in life of thanking everyone for whatever they have done no matter how small, they are given thanks. For those who have a grudge or a chip on their shoulders or who think they need more than they have or any other mentally defective thought then is there any wonder why those that don’t have or are envious or prideful aren’t as smart or as outgoing as those that do make a difference.

Politeness is a mild lubricant on life, someone with manners is almost automatically accepted even if not liked for some reason or another, the genuineness of manners is something else but the absence of them stands out a mile. Manners don a quality of the human being and a degree of breeding and the people whom one mixes with, and the company that one keeps overall. The absence of manners denote an ignorance that’s inherent and that one does not know the difference between a person of merit and an ignorant slob. Whether we understand the character or style of one over the other is immaterial, the fact that everyone knows the difference and that people who are usually well mannered in their acceptance of who are do so in relation to others and places the type of person who has such credentials on one side of the fence and the rest on the other. Manners are common to man, wealth or any other trappings are ancillary to what others say or do, it’s that point of contact that one can be honest with any deed or service that has not gone well or has been offered and that the other person or persons in question and reciprocating their acceptance of whatever it is. Even if it’s a thank you or a 'sorry' by proxy it never the less excludes a degree of ongoing implication unless there is some legality adhering to what has been transacted.

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ORDER OF CHAOS (Ordo Ab Chao)

From the Chaos Theory we get the “Butterfly Effect”, then we get ‘sensitive dependence’ whereby both describe the changes that take place in any given scenario no matter how small that can affect the long term prognosis or estimate of what will happen or could happen. Small changes which to the casual observer mean relatively nothing or are indeed insignificant can eventually produce devastating or dramatic changes to a concept or theory or projection. Even our washing machines and dishwashers use a type of “fuzzy logic” to predict a random set of events or circumstances to give us a better and cleaner and more efficient wash. Every day pilots flying around the world often have to make small but continuous adjustments to the aircraft speed and direction otherwise they would miss the destination airport particularly on long haul flights. Chaos like anything else changes in appearance depending upon how we look at it, from a snapshot chaos is just that something that is literally chaotic and is all over the place or hasn’t got set parameters or boundaries. But from the “bigger picture” it has a definition and a life of its own that can accommodate relative predictable and quantifiable areas that together can be utilised to provide a solution to many problems. Knowing that a certain degree of predictable unpredictability is to happen allows us to programme such events into an equation and work out something that gives us a tangible grasp of whatever it is we are looking at. In short there is an order in life and sometimes that order has a span greater than we imagine or possibly shorter too so everything has to be looked at in context.

Where our human thought comes into play it’s often somewhat different in that we rarely see the bigger picture or make allowances for events or situations. Preferring to jump straight into the emotional aspect of what we feel or what we perceive and not put a great deal of thought into considering implications and conditions unless they stand out a mile and then we don’t often do justice to what we have gleaned. Many people go drastically wrong by assumptions and by wanting to move on too quickly and get some degree of closure or resolution based upon the facts as they see them. And facts are relative, if we are wealthy then the price of a small car is not only cheap we wouldn’t even consider buying it, if we are somewhat ‘hard up’ then even the cost of a cheap car could be quite considerable and we may even need a loan, so what is said by whom always needs to be born out by the credentials of who is saying what and for what reason. Most people like order in their lives it gives stability as well as a feeling that they know that they can move in different directions on the understanding that their bearings are always relative to their movement. But where even minor chaos is in evidence one can move forward and from where one came everything has now changed although in itself that position still exists. For example in a revolving restaurant, one gets up from the table to go to the toilet, on returning your table has moved forward further round the building yet the core has remained firmly where it is so you have to look around to get your bearings again and then find your table, simple, but with life itself it can be far more complicated.

How we live our lives depends upon how we view life and accept the changeability of same as well as at times the unpredictability and the consequences of such. There are many variables in our lives and many that we take well within our stride, that a certain road is closed so we go via another route that we know, or the buses or underground has routes that are not running for some technical reason, we with a little thought plan our journey in our mind using what knowledge we have of the transport system, and so it goes on. The future of our lives rests with what we do today even though there are ponder-able areas such as bereavement, winning or being bequeathed some money, or bankruptcy, or illness etc, that can radically alter the structure of our lives and how we respond defines the quality and ability we have in coping with whatever it is that’s made such a difference. Our mind rules who we are, it’s just so personal to us, even if we go around taking advice from anyone who can string a sentence together, it’s a choice we make, and the resultant actions are down to us to follow. There is an order in life and we are both part of that order and part of the larger chaos at the same time. We can make both aspects work towards our own benefit and it can be very advantageous that we consider facts in future about decisions to be made as opposed to blindly jumping in then wondering yet again why things aren’t exactly where they should be and that yet again there is a dead end sign ahead.

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WRESTLING WITH SELF ESTEEM

As a society today one wonders at times if we have progressed mentally or it's just the physical things around us that have gotten more technically advanced and we have stayed put. The number one problem affecting society is mental health, not the kind that we are all going loopy, but the stability of thought based upon who we are and what life is all about. We all go through ups and downs in life no one is immune from that at all, and by and large we overcome or come to terms with whatever it is, the human being is quite a robust piece of biology and can withstand more that it cares to think it can. The advent of shrinks and coaches is an all too easy step for some to try and pour out their heart akin to some failed Hollywood drama scenario and hopefully self pity will come out of it and an answer to the situation at hand. Unfortunately many of the shrinks and coaches aren't that clever and going through text book check lists written by others isn't always that exciting nor productive. It's a sad tale that whom you are speaking to is only as good as the last book they read, or maybe not even as stable as yourself, real intuitive and balanced thought is a prize that most never ever get near to, at least not in this life time.

The press and media churn out a whole load of diatribe every day in the hope that it will like fly paper catch a number of victims that will latch on to their devised copy and manufactured statements. To a large extent it works, especially with women who seem to revel in what others are doing especially other women with regards their shape, size, dress sense, who slept with whom, what he said what they did what she wants and so on, and view shopping as a sport where handbags and shoes are part of the prize trophy, something that leaves most men completely dazed and flummoxed as to this personal fascination with people you never meet nor will ever know. (Over 38 women's magazines as opposed to 3 men's magazines currently available). It's not that men don't have interests in areas like sports, indeed some become obsessed with it or hobbies like fishing which is largely confined to the male sex. Not that men they don't have self esteem issues either, they do but it's all manifested in a totally different way. What is wrong with being just you, you will never ever be like someone else no matter how hard you try because you don't share their brain, so following others actually places you as a second best person always following and lacking.The problem with forever following, which is not the same as being observant as to what's current, big difference, is that you are always a "has been" and your mentality usually reflects this when it comes to knowledge and conversational issues very little ever being original, most of it stolen from others or what you've read about others.

Forever complaining about weight, looks, lack of money, friends, your job, what others did or didn't do, will in the long term not only make you dull, which you may have arrived at that point already, but it will affect your mental disposition and how you view both yourself and life. You only have one chance at life, so it's imperative that you make it the best way you can. Narrowness of thought about others and being judgmental will forever hold you back and cause great consternation, which again doesn't mean you can't have an opinion. Individuality, self creativeness, presence of your own heart, your own thoughts are star qualities that everyone picks up upon and guarantees an acceptance as to whom you are, not what you want people to think you are, which is somewhat disingenuous. If you crave to be respected then people must know the real you not your potted and watered down version of others who you've taken on board because then you lack personal presence. Life isn't a rocket science expedition, it's been going on far too long and through far too much to be written about succinctly, every book written about life is only a snapshot of that moment for as humans we evolve moving on. If you can't be yourself, who can you be, and would anyone really want to know the fabricated you?

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©John Rushton / The Life Alchemist 2010

THE LOVE SWINGOMETER

The basis of all my writings is about the foundation of society and that is “love”, for without love we are but drones or robots just living for the sake of living, a grown up ameoba without cause and feeling and without the ability to commune with life itself. But love comes at a price, it’ a great price to pay, but for many the “evil ones in life” it really is a step too far. For those religions that preach “Love & Tolerance” yet still kill, maim, stone, and everything else it’s the beginning of the end, for with true love there is absolutely no violence whatsoever, why would there be because no one would wish anyone else to be the cause of suffering no matter what the nature. “Evil” religions need control, and the words “unconditional freedom” and ” unconditional love” don’t exist, everything is conditional and oppressive, hence all the religiously controlled countries around the world are backward in every way and breeding grounds for terrorists. The Love Swingometer www.theloveswingometer.com is very simple it outlines various potentials and thoughts as to where you are in life, it gives a visualisation of thoughts and feelings and puts home within yourself where you are. If you believe in God (and God in every religion is pure love) then you are on the left hand side of the swingometer, Light, happiness, goodness, etc, and if you believe in the Devil then you are on the right hand-side, it’s that simple and that accurate. If you religion is oppressive and resorts to killing and maiming then there is no “Almighty compassion” it’s just cheap words, if you are on the right for any reason it’s Darkness and Evil and Devil, death, suffering, fear. etc so you may wish to review who you are worshipping and how your thoughts are constructed.

The more to the left hand side you are of “The Love Swingometer” the better life will be, it will be lighter, happier, more healthy, more fun, not at all neurotic or paranoid, it will not be stressed out or depressing, nor will it be lonely, it will not be vile or jealous nor will it be full of avariciousness and greed and divisive playacting, it will be creative and intuitive. And of course if you are on the right it will be the opposite, repressive, fearsome, psychosomatic, dark, lonely, isolated, conditionally loved, dreary, future-less, negative with hatred, anger, greed, indecision, full of paranoia and neurosis and all the rest, your God will demand retribution and all in all you will by default be a devil worshiper. It matters not what your ego tells you, nor what schematic plans you feel are needed to control or grow a society, but where love is in gross evidence the defaults of life, crime, rape, murder, embezzlement, burglaries, theft, etc, are but almost none existent. You create your life not circumstances, circumstances are what you have to live within, how you react to them or apportion them to your life is purely down to you. So if you throw a “wobbly” then that’s how life will be to you, if you say “sod it, I’m going to be happy anyway” then life will automatically be elevated even before any change has taken place. Such is the power and nature of our mind thoughts. We tend to migrate to those who share a common ideology of life, negative to negative and positive to positive.

TheLoveSwingometer is an indication of what life is all about for you, it’s how you react to life how you feel how you manage your emotion or perhaps why you don’t, it’s how you interact with life and how you see yourself in relation to others as well as they to you. Peer pressures, media hype, friends attitudes, plus other’s lifestyles at times have an influence, they shouldn’t' but they do, what is inherent in just about all is the camaraderie of humanity and life itself. It’s only edged apart by politics, ignorance, and cultures, many of which are not compatible with life today, the stupidity of the gross failures in life such as the ”politically correct” morons, who have nothing to offer except early death of themselves, and those that are greedy and avaricious. For the average person being loving and kind is the best credential they can hold to going forward in life and attracting the “right” sort of people around them to make life as comfortable and as secure as they can. TheLoveSwingometer is but an indication of where the good and the bad in life lies, the real litmus test is within and that is where you experience life for all it is. Life is what you make it, you can’t control outside forces but you can control yourself and how you feel. The rest is now up to you, follow your heart not the diatribe of nasty religions and worthless people.

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©John Rushton / The Life Alchemist 2010