I'M ALL ALONE

There’s no big secret that some people are predominantly all alone just about all the time, however we can all be “all alone” at certain times within the bigger picture, i.e. we have families, partners, and real friends but, it’s just that for whatever reason we feel isolated, and although these are temporal phases they enter our lives and just as quickly leave them too. There is that “alone-ness” that hits predomintly single people of an age of approximately 30+ and is more evident in women than men as women respond more emotionally to such a situation than men do, and it affects their mental stance on life and outlook. Then there are those who are alone because they believe they are not understood, well, that can be true also, it can also mean that you are selfish and self centred and things aren’t going your way. And there are those who feel alone because circumstances for whatever reason have either overtaken them or have not been conducive to incorporate them into a more wholesome environment that’s more akin to who they are and fits their mental temperament such as the old and infirm. Wandering aimlessly are those who are just lonely souls by nature, can’t find a hook upon which to hang their coat, can’t find a mate because deep within that feeling of having someone else in life never just quite catches on, the eternal lonely person. Loneliness can also be something which is selfishly created, there are many who by their own nature are mean, they not only just cannot give (yet they think they are generous for some reason) but don’t see self meanness as a part of whom they are. Meanness is not necessarily monetary in value, it’s giving time, effort, help, knowledge, just listening (which is an art), it’s a quality value that humans give to other deserving humans at times. The more people give of themselves the better they commune with life and the more open minded they are and knowledgeable they are as well as have elevated degrees of compassion and understanding. Lonely people take offence, are usually politically correct, have defined and stilted views, are self reliant, and self centred to a high degree, view life as a necessary option, i.e. I might I might not, whereas the person who is giving will be more decisive yet understanding at what they are acceding to.

Creators, scientists, artists, writers, etc, can be loners, even if in a good partnership, often their dedication is a pathway which cannot be shared with others until completion, and then for them completion is an ongoing event, as there is always a new frontier ahead that needs working upon or seeing to. The road for many in life can be fraught even if success is evident en-route, the inner self and soul are at times poles apart as is the mental satisfaction that many seek but never really grasp, as it for some reason always appears out of reach. Intelligence more than education is a crucial aspect to understand where one is in life, and where education can define intellectual goals and scenarios it can also create rifts of conjecture that like chasms are so deep that crossing them is almost a step too far and thus life always has something missing and is always that degree under-performing and always just missing that feeling of completeness in the pit of your stomach. Loneliness by far is self created, circumstances preclude some from making contact with others, but for the vast majority of people loneliness is either by design or default, either way it’s you who is the instigator of not communing with others, no one will believe the excuses that are self created either. Effort of all kinds has to be put into life, being shy or not very effusive doesn’t preclude one for living a life that’s full on, it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but that’s not important it’s not everyone that has to live your life, nor you theirs. Hiding behind being misunderstood or not mixing with the right people isn’t an option either, the only option other than physical circumstances is that of death itself, everything else has a level of convergence and if that’s rejected and rejected and rejected then the inner self will eventually lose the ability to respond to other humans at any level and then the rot sets in.

Loneliness has it’s dark side, apart from creating instability, it can grossly affect one’s equilibrium and mental health, from there onwards life is a toil, one can become self interested, cranky, set in one’s ways, isolated, self consumed, and even lose the touch to forming any real friendship because one is so used to the me, me, me, effect that there is never any room for anyone else no matter what level, it’s all mental self talk of “why should I” and one is then ostracised from enjoying life, it’s a rush to always get back home, home is the womb of safety and talking to oneself as there is no one else to share life with. Our friendships develop over our lives, some people we hold on to for days or just the holiday season, others months, some years and some a lifetime. Some who we had known for almost an entire lifetime suddenly departs without a trace or the magic just wanes and they become almost strangers all over again. Acquaintances over time can be very dear, and whilst there may not be the greatest camaraderie between the both parties there is a trust and reliability that counts for a great deal and provides that pivotal aspect of humanity which helps everyone in life move forward with a better inner feeling of life and degrees of happiness, even if most is of a past era. The short time we have on planet earth needs to be fuelled with all that’s good, and that has to be shared at whatever level with others, even if the mix of those that only share parts of our lives is far far greater than those which share a lot of our lives. Whatever we choose to share is down to us, but it’s self comforting to share a degree of warmth as that’s reciprocated and inwardly absorbed and pacifies our inner self, which is crucial to feeling content and not on edge or just killing time because there’s nothing better or else to do, which is all too uncommon.

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THE WILL TO LIVE

It’s not that one has the will not to live but the thought that goes through the mind is literally “The Will To Live” life can at times seem all so daunting, out of reach, where everything is at arms length and the inner impetus to go forward is thwarted by lethargy and ‘what’s the point’. Coupled with gross indecision and a total lack of knowledge as to what to do next and how and where, and all the rest, nothing quite seems to fit into place and all around life appears to be moving on for everyone else and you are stuck right where you are, almost super-glued to the spot. Of course all of this can’t be further from the truth, life is experienced from within your own mind no where else, no one can see life from your perspective and why should they, they have their own. How we all view life is both complex and simple at the same time, it’s simple in that what we all see is exactly the same, how we register it all can be as different as chalk and cheese so it’s vital that we take care of our minds and not let them play tricks on us or allow our sluggish feelings to take us into a state of self pity, which is quite common. Our backgrounds can play a big part in our visualisation of the future, if we come from a somewhat negative background then we are likely to have that stance within us, and similarly if we come from a positive background then we are prone to being more positive in life and don’t let the knocks and setbacks hinder our way in going forward, knowing that all we experience is grist for the mill in making us stronger and more resilient and knowledgeable. Whereas the negative idiots fall back on “why me” all the time as if they have been singled out. What negative people do is to literally selfishly single themselves out and thus make matters worse by churning over and over again their predicament and mixing it with a bit of ego, arrogance, self esteem (or lack of it), and the rest and formulating some kind of monster thoughts which then take on a life of their own, and in reality don’t exist. It’s often this self created world that many live in and then wonder why life doesn’t have the sparkle it should, and often letting themselves down thinking that there is some magic formula to success whereas it most cases it’s purely down to diligence and ongoing pursuits that wins the day.

Life is crammed full of contradictions, truths and untruths and its disseminating which is which and why when even plausible aspects of life can be full of remorseful endings and the seemingly simplest of things can be full of subliminal meanings that fast forward us on to bigger and better things. The press and media don’t help as everything they do and say has been “treated” with ‘lipgloss’ to make it appear either more sexy, more horrifying, more desperate or more gloomy to give it added depth and to enhance what often is humdrum comment, real news speaks for itself without the fanfare of hyped emotion to try and give kudos and meaning to the subject matter. We should elevate ourselves from being passive sponges absorbing everything around us regardless of its content and stick to what is important to us, ourselves. If we can’t take refuge in ourselves and be “at one” with ourselves and be happy, regardless of our circumstances, what can we do, happiness is self generated no one can give it to us, so we are always going to be the product of lacklustre and an inner fatigue feeling that life must be better than this, when in reality it is. There are no quick fixes in life, there are highs and lows, but no quick fixes even winning the lottery despite it sounding grand has on most people a long term detrimental effect as they can’t cope, they think they can until it happens then the story changes over night. Our perceptions can deal a deathly blow to reality and if we don’t take a reality check at times we lure ourselves into a mind set of fantasy and then we really lose the plot big time. If we become stable in our thought process then we are better at looking after others, communing with life and seeing the bigger picture, whereas negative minded people pass by then wonder why nothing ever happens.

Hubble, bubble, toil and struggle, is that you? Do you wax lyrical about how you are dragging yourself along in life, that others are getting this n’ that, and you have been shunted into a siding and left there? Well, you haven’t been left anywhere you didn’t want to be, no-one shunted you into anything, no-one lives your life, no-one has an agenda for you - why should they - they have more important things to do like looking after their lot. It’s nothing to do with God, if you believe then you have free-will, and then you must have faith, but you obviously don’t otherwise you wouldn’t be whinging and moaning you’d be believing, so that puts the ball firmly back into your own court. Mild depression, apathy, lowness of self, little going at the moment, people around you are glum, circumstances not so hot either, and so it goes on, but our feelings are just emotional, and we only have to have one bit of good news and all the negativity falls away, at least for a while such is the power of self thought. Nations thrive on overall positivity that’s why the West always does better than most other countries because there’s an impetus overall that propels them forward, negativity attracts negativity and that’s in some cases ingrained into cultures that are today outmoded and defunct, yet exude parameters and ritualistic and cultural diktat that gives rise to hurt, stress, guilt and the rest and where that four letter-word is overlooked - love - in favour of old selfish protocols. We have but one life so it’s imperative that we enjoy it not dread it, even when things go wrong we don’t have to make a meal out of it otherwise we establish it further as a situation of greater importance then give it gravitas and it then starts to grow into something that we live within even after it has diminished and is no longer. Those that make the grade seek only the future, the past is literally history, an area we can’t enter anyone other than via our own emotions, others can’t join us in that so it’s all pointless and futile to our future happiness. The Will To Live, there’s no other option than to live it as best you can evey day, that way it just gets better.

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THE POWER OF HOPE

Hope is an essential aspect of our lives, it’s not some woolly thought that we have that we win the lottery or it stays fine for the bar-b-q at the weekend, it’s something far more fundamental, for real hope can be our guiding light especially in times of turbulence and darkness. Our hope for life and what it represents in life to us all can differ greatly, some people are gregarious, some timid or introverted, some plane greedy and selfish, others egotistical and bombastic, and at the end of the line of endless possibilities there are those who are just lost in time and space and don’t really know what life’s all about, other than the fact that they are living it. Hope gives us a hook upon which to extend our rope and try and get a catch, it’s that eternal feeling that there is something out there pertaining to our thoughts and despite the setbacks and upheavals and disappointments behind all that lies substance, something that’s there for us and that something is both solid and ours. How we live our lives has a direct bearing on our attitude, if we have love in our hearts we see life differently from those that can’t fathom out what love is all about, those people are often jaundiced and somewhat arrogant, and tend to live a lesser satisfied life that than others. Hope for them is a pure selfish thing and is not really shared if at all with anyone else, whereas those that have love within want to share as the camaraderie gives them a feeling of purpose and humanity and a warm feeling within that makes life feel feel good even if current circumstances are not that great. For those that have a belief, at least a Christian based one then hope is part of the doctrine in going forward, for those that don’t believe then it matters not, you are just biding your time until death arrives.


Whether we are entrepreneurial or quite satisfied with out lot as it is now, hope is always there for us to reach out to, it’s an intricate part of our mind complex where our emotions and logic fuse together to give a stance on life and where we are within it all. If we are emotionally lead we tend to fall into a myriad of negative scenarios as we often do foolish things based upon our emotions, if we are the opposite and logically based we can tend to be cold, insincere, selfish and have little regards for anything or anyone who doesn’t serve a purpose in our own grand plan. A combination of both is ideal, it never is an equal split, but provided we look at life in a timely manner we can assess what lies ahead in a more balanced way and that allows hope to be a positive attribute and not a feeling of just endlessly wishing and hoping and getting frustrated and disappointed when nothing happens. Our input in life is paramount for hope to manifest itself in a way that we can utilise and latch on to, those that dwell on problems miss out on seeing the solutions not giving hope a chance, hope is part of our ’seeing’ process so when we see opportunities we can jump for them, unlike the our mail hope will not arrive through our letterbox and wait for us to open the envelope and read the opportunities that are available, diligence is par for the course.

Our private “wish list” in life can grow or diminish as we progress, maturity seeing a side of life that youthfulness lacks, our “hope” for what is to come can also change and what we once hoped for is now just a redundant memory of past thought as new areas comes to the fore and our wants and needs change. Circumstances play a big part in our lives and at times unless they are good circmstances can throw us off course quite substantially. But with hope it carries a flame of possibilities and leaves us open to suggestions no matter how daunting they may be that guide potential for future prosperity or solace or degrees of happiness that at times we think has eluded us. Hope is contagious, it can elevate those around us that also need encouraging or a change in mind shift to see the better things in life and not dwell in a dowdy mode that percolates our thoughts and feelings and outlook. Hope highlights what sheer mind thought can’t do, we are not privy to the myriad of possibilities that are out there, our tiny minds think we know what’s available but in reality we know nothing, and allowing our thoughts to combine with hope brings to the fore this endless stream of options, ideas, perceptions, understandings, jobs, people, and everything that’s out of the box and beyond that also exists if we are receptive to it all We can be the most blinkered people and thwart our own chances based purely on what we deem we know best. On the other hand we can shine brilliantly, but if you think you can’t - you won’t.

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THE GUILT OF SELF DENIAL

Habits can be formed at any level, even daily routines can in some cases become habitual and when circumstances dictate change it throws the whole of the body and mind into a wobbly, not starting out right for some mentally upsets the day, such is the power of our little minds. Our attitude towards life will dictate how we are going to go forward or reside forever in a stasis of mediocrity whilst forever complaining about things not happening or moving forward, but at the end of the day, just cutting to the quick and eradicating the self created sob stories, it’s only us who can change who we are no one else, regardless of circumstances. There is no such thing as being disadvantaged although things can be unfair, but then where in life is there anything written to say that life is fair - there isn’t, we are born into a world just the way it is and reside in it just the way things are. We have, excluding Islamic countries, opportunities to do what we want and go where we please, such is the base of freedom, although freedom has a price to pay also, but less than a society dictated to by endless rules and regulations telling you what you can and can’t do. We are all different as people, some are gregarious and some are just “stick in the mud” type of people, but that’s all down to us, and society, life and opportunity don’t give a dam as to which one we reflect or practise, it’s up to us to go fishing for what’s out there, nothing will jump out of the water on to our table. The complexity of how we live our lives is formed by our character, regardless of our educational aptitudes and abilities, nerds can become billionaires today, and those of old who have the gift of the gab can still be seen doing the rounds residing in their self knowledge that they are the bee knees, whereas they are quite hum drum in reality, even if what they have to say is spot on, they just don’t have it within them to break that ‘glass ceiling’ of self created thought, even if the mind waxes lyrical and has visions of greater things, the outcome doesn’t cut the mustard.

Many get into a state of routine, knowledge, status, contacts, etc, and live within that framework, not often venturing out of it or if they do quickly fall back to where they were before as nothing really takes a hold and progresses to a super level rarely materialises, and if it does it’s only fleeting. Arrogance, degrees of smugness, “old boys” attitudes with regards one’s peers, all have the effect of dampening the way forward even if a good living is made out of what they do, it all somehow resides in an elliptical mode touching a lot of ’sameness’ and moving on like the moon orbiting the earth, the effect it has on earth is substantial, but nothing new, and many people are like that in life seeking elevation out of their devised orbit but never have the ability to pull away from the gravitational force which others seem to do and rise to dizzy heights or just higher elevations. As times ticks by many take refuge in maturity in that they have lost that youthful urge to become whatever it was in life, and time has melded attitudes and just being comfortable in life becomes the new mode of forward thinking. Frustration, lack of drive, self confidence, the endless making up of excuses, the making up of endless obstacles, the making up of anything to thwart the feeling that failure or lack of self is the real cause for not moving forward. Where real entrepreneurs just thrive on the ability within to “Go” not relying on social networks and other such “Tupperware” or “Janet Reager” parties to try and move forward with help from a flock of people who are all in the same boat of mediocraty. Guilt of the self is not uncommon no matter how it is manifested, evading reality or not confronting the real causes and eternally trying often strikes a more cordial and progressive note within, but it boils down to the same thing, status quo, zilch.

There is only one thing holding us back and that’s ourselves, if we died life would carry on without us, so our self built importance wanes in such thoughts, moving forward rambling aimlessly about how it isn’t or should be or hasn’t been or whatever smacks of a sterile thought process where the needle has got stuck on the groove, we can’t move forward with regrets. Guilt, regrets and depression go hand in hand like a gin and tonic and a slice of lemon, it all fits together, but unlike a G and;T the former isn’t a quick refreshing experience it’s a trail of twilight wanderings that make life a toil as opposed to a pleasure. Whatever is out there for us it’s down to us to make it work, and whether our pursuits take days, weeks, months years - like many scientists have had to encounter - success equates to staying power nothing more, if we move forward with doubt then we should give up right now otherwise what is the purpose. But the last thing we should do is deny ourselves any opportunities based upon others thoughts or circumstances, others thoughts are just that and circumstances can change overnight, so we have to be firm in our forward direction to allow ourselves the ability to proceed at all costs, and that momentum eventually breaks the glass ceilings and man made barriers that only reside in our thoughts even if others try to implement them for their purpose, but to no avail. The pathway at times can be lonely but there again it’s better that way than carrying the baggage of unbelievers which is a heavy and wasteful burden in itself.

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HOPELESSNESS

For many today there is a degree of hopelessness surrounding their thoughts, events at large seem almost too much for them to mentally cope with. There are few if any politicians on the planet that have both guts and brains and are not afraid to use both, most seem to be always dithering on a half way ‘one size fits all’ intellectual stance, yet spouting out rhetoric as if what they have done was momentous, in their own minds - maybe. There is a lunatic fringe who seem to dwell in local government and whilst some local governments do some excellent work many fall short because of gross stupidity and ineptitude from the politically correct morons and bureaucratic ambiance which they tend to uphold. Where world terrorism is almost an exclusive domain for mental Islamists yet governments cower down to them as if they are some superior race whereas the truth be told they are the worlds greatest failures, just look where they live and what they achieve, the lowest of everything. Where modern day banking has become a fine art of almost legalised embezzlement and governments have tiptoed through tepid water at really solving the problem in the fear that bankers will move, no one is irreplaceable and where one person goes there are queus just awaiting the demise of the person in front. The problem lies in old staid dull archaic management who can’t, won’t see beyond the past, the future is changing remarkably and even many young people of today are steeped in traditional and outmoded ideology, which doesn’t mean compromising morals or the values in society. Governments are like the media more adept at the easy options of spreading fear and negativity because it requires little creative thought and definitely no back up required as an after service, and it can be changed at will to heighten or tone down previous comments in order to manipulate future intentions.

But it’s not for nothing that one of the greatest problems affecting modern society is that of mental health, and secondly in western cultures the acquiescing of immigrant cultures that are outmoded and rubbish joining a more developed socity where such immigrants want a better life yet cling on to the cesspool of a defunct and pathetic society and culture from whence they have left and yet start nurturing their past forming an almost replica of what they have just left, then wonder why others ostracize them. It’s all not rocket science, although like everything in life it’s how events are managed that make them work or a protocol or free fall into a self created decay. Hopelessness is a vast problem, as one migrates to the apex of the life pyramid such problems become diluted as personal means put paid to gross distortions that lesser mortals think about. Attitude is everything in life and where many see negativity ahead of them because their personal situation is precariously balanced, others are more stable in that they can weather what’s ahead even if pushed a little, and for some it makes no difference whatsoever. The chat rooms on the many dating sites or social websites are crammed full of lonely people seeking some kind of contact to fulfil that void in their stomachs that they daily experience with regards someone significant in their lives, alas to no avail, constant chat gives rise to heightened brain movements that’s like getting drunk, once you stop the sensation goes, and an overload leads to big downers of nothingness and feelings of ‘now what?’ Humans crave for a whole range of things to get feelings of other human emotions to feel more complete themselves, yet modern politics is full of hollow thoughts because those that practise their art haven’t any ability in social humanity on a scale over and above their own families.

The question raised is “is hopelessness today” a product of our society or a product of society itself opting out of what it sees as problems beyond its comprehension and ability to change itself. thus it feels less able to cope as it did years ago and its own resilience is somewhat floundering to an extent it almost gives in. Where governments need to be strong so that the population needs to feel that at least there is someone on their side and not some smart alec spewing out media friendly prose because some insidious emotionless PR numbskull has written it for them. Companies no longer can guarantee anything, international trade and finance fluctuates as it’s often manipulated by those that gain from such moves and at the end of the day even robbers, rapists, muggers, burglars, are given rights over and above the victims, and the young can be as unruly as they like because they too have rights and so by legal default decay has started all by the subhuman politically correct, who are themselves lost and for them unhappiness is a future of their own creation. Hopelessness for may is a state of ongoing life, interspersed with a few highlights which make everything more tolerable, yet the bottom line speaks of others untold ailments such as blood pressure, sleeplessness, dietary problems, weight problems, mental stability, and at times even a sense of personal security. But there are ways out that bring joy and real inner hope and contentment.

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SOCIAL WANNABIES

There is almost an epidemic of social websites emerging covering just about every aspect of social activity graded by sex, age, social level, intelligence (or lack of it), education, and anything else that one can throw into the arena. It’s interesting to see how many individuals are starting up their own Social Sites too as the technology, Internet blue prints and methodology are all there for just the asking or taking, and can be custom made from the vast array of mix n’ match templates on offer by the respective Internet software houses. With the exception of the notable main entrants into the market and their phenomenal growth, there are dozens of start ups every day trying to emulate the same and reap the rich rewards, sadly or possibly not, most will fail as their greed has precluded the kudos of what simplicity started the whole ball rolling, the ‘me too’s’ wanting to be everything to everyone and that never works as one is reduced to a status of nothingness in someone else’s bigger picture. The bottom line however in all of the social networks are contacts, and contacts for different purposes. People like to commune, the young are now communing with “friends” (read acquaintances) all over the place, sharing information, getting upset, getting rejected, finding new friends, dumping old ones, moving on, growing up, and so it all goes on, talking from behind the fence and in a language that would make them stumble and get flustered and possibly embarrassed in face to face contact situations. In business too there are social network sites, almost akin to desperate people trying to sell their wares or seek information for free because in reality most are small time failures with big time aspirations. Very few successful people are on such sites, why would they need to spend time on such when they are already busy making pots of real money with real people and not having to find Internet marketing gimmick’s to lure the available on-line dross into a scenario where money can hopefully be extracted from them. One only has to read the blog content to see their “overview” mentality, nothing to do with education, just to see the the mind sets that range from pedestrian to insular to aspiring, but most go no further, all still hoping to pick up the free tips from others on the site so that they too can make the grade. It rarely happens, even those pleased at what they have learnt haven’t that entrepreneurial streak to step out and go big time, real entrepreneurs already have that zeal within them.

I joined one site and within 12 hours the top tier members launched upon me like a pack of whores on a street corner, obviously ‘newbie flagging up’ on their profile pages, all trying to sell this, get that, take this, introduce me to this, want me to buy that, all designed to make me rich and wildly successful in next to no time, one wonders why it hasn’t worked for them or is all this just a game for them for something to do in their spare time. There’s something that’s interesting about communicating with those who have time to sit on the net and tout for business, and this works well for some, but for many it’s a habit of potential only and it’s the little bites that keep the excitement going for those larger bites that are desperately hoped for. Networking is good, but there is networking and networking, and many networking events are full of takers and few givers, everyone wanting something or wanting to sell something and few on the giving and receiving end, the word “Free” subliminally percolating in the air, i.e. ‘what can I get for nothing”. Many events are by their nature downbeat even if well attended. We all like to do well, we all deserve to do well, whatever we have in mind, however life dictates that it isn’t going to happen to everyone, never the less second, third or even fourth base can be richly rewarding and satisfying. For many social activity on the Internet can be more akin to an emotional interaction whether it be business or just social, more so for women as they are generally more social creatures than men. Never the less much ’sparring’ goes on like it does with hens asserting their territory. A lot of smart conversations, narrow personal opinions, nuances of intellect, snippets of information, endless quotes from anyone who has said anything as if it’s so profound it will change life on earth in a flash, what all these things lack is originality. What all these things lack is that WOW factor, which is why so many people of like minds huddle around together knowing that the difference between themselves is minimal and thus aren’t going to feel too out of place. The real entrepreneurs are nowhere to be seen.

It’s not wrong to want to do well nor get ahead, it’s not wrong to aspire and it’s not wrong to have a yearning to do something for yourself either, the route to all these aspirations becoming a possibility or even an eventuality is wide, where many get lost is that they have a modicum of entrepreneurialism within themselves but not quite enough to break free as a true entrepreneur would do, as much of an entrepreneur’s ability is inherent, it’s a feel within, it fuels their ability to see beyond the humdrum and the masses of exchanged information, they have a vision that’s already loaded with positive insights and abilities. Further down the food chain are those who feel the need to commune and exchange notes, facts and figures and there’s no doubt that this does help many people, usually more by default than design. Born leaders are just that, those that are good at leading often need top ups to enhance or expand what they already have knowledge in, and those one step further down, well like many people are forever going on courses for this n’ that n’ something else, and whilst they may take it all on board like many is the psycho… whatever / coaching business are only as good as the last book they have read. Many people on the social networking sites are evolving in an elliptical manner as opposed to something more straight and vertical, there is a degree of social separation and few seem to get it, making contacts is admirable it’s the banter en-route that is just so telling of what backs up their abilities, business intentions and personalities, or lack of such as is often the case. People are people, they get used to repetitive scenarios where potential exists on paper but in reality no one lets go, meanness is a streak that often jealousy, greed, envy, (the negative emotions) fuels up. However if one has the “bigger picture” in sight, not just one’s idea of “what I’d like life to be like” and there is a massive difference there, then potential not only exists it offers itself to you.

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THE ELASTIC EFFECT

Control, control, control, control, governments like control, local councils like to control, companies like to control, lawyers love control, accountants need control, families fall out over it, and at the end of the line is us. Who and what do we control, do we in fact control ourselves or are we a product of our environment, surroundings, the media, our friends and family or worse still a legacy product of an old defunct and outmoded cultural past that has no place in today's society, especially if you are the second, third or fourth generation from an immigrant family where historical traditions in your new land of birth have no truck whatsoever other than for cosmetic and sentimental reasons. There's more falling out over "my culture" issues where it's all fabricated than anything else. The trouble with control is that it leads to selfishness, despot control, fanaticism, regression, idolatry, stunted growth, failure, repression, segregation, self isolation and a general demise in humanity, which has the effect of an an unhappy breed of person where terrorism and fraction groups thrive because they see no alternative to living under a regime, which after all is only controlled by fellow human beings, nothing more superior.

Religions can be evil players too, trying to "hold on" to their flock one way or another even though what you believe is very personal and at the end of the day it's still between you and God and not some organisation or self appointed spiritual leader. Ironically, both agnostics and atheists can be quite violent in their views on not believing and even have psychological problems in coming to terms with a nothingness in life, especially the words 'love' which they tend to mock, even though they know the meaning of it, it's the 'feel' they often can't own or access it proficiently. The "Elastic Effect" is very real, it breeds in families who become over protective and even neurotic in their thoughts and outlook towards life and all the hidden dangers that are there, concentrating so heavily on such that they miss all the positive aspects and opportunities then wonder why life isn't that fair or good, yet it's they who have caused their own downfall. We are as free as we want to be, having travelled around the world endless times visiting entire continents freedom is something that one notices and sees from afar. Having slept in jungles, deserts, private yachts, aircraft, igloos, being shot at, ambushed, stranded, arrested, and all points in between and observed those around it's often people themselves that keep themselves held back rather than societies in general. Notably in staunch Islamic societies that are forever backward because they are more interested in controlling the masses than allowing them to evolve.

Our own inhibitions strengthen our ties with abstract elements of life, "what will they say" (whoever they are), "What will people think",  "if I do this they will get upset", or the stance today of why don't things go my way, which is really an adjunct to laziness, lack of ability, stunted foresight, and an illusion that you are better than you are. Staying power is a prime cause of success for many as is a positive mind, not falling foul of what others think and say so allowing yourself the freedom of your own strength and ability to flourish. Taking advice from positive minded people is the only way forward, one should never ask advise from anyone who has aspirations less than your own, otherwise you will only get a response full of their inhibitions, fears, negativity and failure. Why we do or don't certain things in life is down to us, however self created strings or elastic threads that are forever holding us from that point of success are manifested within our minds, nowhere else, cut the chords and set yourself free.

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PARASITIC MINDS

It's become almost blase today to broadcast the negative side of life, like most religions fear breeds an almost destined and clandestine following of those eternally seeking truth, and freedom from what they feel is an oppression out of their own hands. Of course that's far from the truth, designer fabrication is de regeur brought about by narrowness of ability more than the prowess of real unbiased truth which most broadcasters talk about but in reality when it's passed through the 'system' comes out candy wrapped. And with journalists salivating at the thought of the next catastrophe to lick the grime and blood up for their next fix. There's a new " trendy" tide of conjecture throwing 'ideas' about the pre-big bang into the public gaze, but it's only theory and no matter how convincing it sounds, nobody knows, and as we know all too well, today's science is tomorrows garbage paper. The likes of Stephen Hawkins and Richard Dawkins waxing lyrical about evolution and hugging the limelight as if they are experts on how it all started whereas in reality they haven't a bloody clue, it's all at this time coconjecture.and are peddling theories which for those on a similar ilk is pure mental masturbation, some of which is becoming habitual. The idea that we are all mistakes really throws the whole of society into a melting pot of a lack of hope and purpose, as it's for them an "enjoy it while you can" scenario because when your number is up, that's it, which it will certainly be for them.

But for the young and those yet still to be born there must be something more than death to look forward to in this world, where hope plays a vital part as does optimism and where does love fit into all this. For without love humans are just robots or drones living for the sake of living, and that has no kudos nor degree of camaraderie either. As advanced as science is, in the grand order of life it still knows nothing, the manipulation of molecular structures is still beyond our grasp despite what we know or even possibly believe. And even the power of the mind, whilst some areas are producing astounding results leave many baffled how certain individuals can do what they do just by sheer thought and at times at a distance. The trouble with intellectuals is that they lose touch of life and love, they see only what they see and though that in itself can make a good read they overlook so many aspects of life some of which they can't even fathom out as they are aloof to the deeper aspects of why? Intellectuals like scientists need a formula and a reason, and if either can't be found they move on, which often eliminates the formula and reason until it has been found or discovered in the meantime leaving a massive gap in the plausibility stakes. Humanity needs a reason, mistakes aren't enough to live by, especially when we all try our best not to make any or rectify what has gone wrong, intellectuals see no wrong in prostituting their ideas of life with the mix n' match approach of what I don't know I'll replace by some scientific explanation in it to give it some degree of credibility. Wrong, it's all soppy Barbra Cartland science, with too may unanswered questions and 'perhaps's', and 'if's' and 'it could be's' thrown in en-rout to the conclusion, which is still, "we don't know"!

Most people on planet earth are struggling, there are those who will always probably struggle in relation to the rest of the world such as the corrupt and badly educated third world and the Islamic countries, who will always find it hard to move forward because their religion is oppressive. Then there are those who live within a tight latitudinal financial bracket that is susceptible to market conditions and governmental diktat, and this is predominantly within the western markets. Without hope and God - whatever God is to many, life has no purpose whatsoever, and whether real or imagined it does get many through the turmoil of life, something which many scientists are grossly unaware of so cocooned are they seeking enlightenment from their own rectum. Stability of the human mind is important, and the biggest negative stance in the West is that of "Mental Health", where science on one hand is trying to help in this respect, and on the other is creating a void for which those who seek purpose lose it completely, and for which both aspects of science miss out totally the human needs and essentially TLC in order to live proficiently, just like one's pet dog or cat that's content because its owner treats it well. Humans needs treating well and that is not science it's humans doing what humans do best, love each other, respect each other and this applies to corporations as it makes for happy workers, not pseudo-courses at exorbitant prices run on psychometric bases to try and induce what isn't inherently there and as such has always a short shelf life of workability.

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THE GOD THREAT

It’s all coming to the boil, religions are clambering for credibility, what does each and every God do for their followers, the answer is nothing, maybe give false hope but physically nothing. The religious intellectuals will wax lyrical about why and what for but have no connection with their God whatsoever, if indeed their God exists. If God is pure love, and God in any religion / language is pure unconditional love (repeat unconditional) then why are so many followers suffering on the planet, especially Muslims who seem to encounter more disasters, more troubles, more upheavals, as well as in many cases creating them than anyone else. Even atheists and agnostics have a better life than the vast majority that follow Islam who are racked with internal fear and restrictions. All followers no matter what they believe fall into the category of when something goes well or is good it’s “God’s will”, and when it all falls apart it’s God wanting to punish them, but that’s all stupid narrow talk, and shows a complete lack of faith and knowledge about God, which ever one you subscribe to. The preachers are all raising their game as life becomes more turbulent, but the bottom line is that all preachers are in themselves losing the plot, especially the devout and intellectual as well as the fanatical ones, as they are in themselves fearing the change that is taking place. That fear is killing them inwardly and their ability to believe, despite what they say or “tentatively believe”, tentatively because they don’t honestly know!!! Another great truth is that God who bestows unconditional love, which means if you are a drug offender, prostitute or mass murderer, gay, banker, lawyer, etc, He still loves you, because that’s what “unconditional” means, (Muslim families nearly all fail here as love to them is conditional), God may not be happy but never the less He still loves you, no discussion, He does. This aspect of unconditional love is something that priests, imams, rabbis, etc, can’t get to grips with, they know it but they need to feel they have some credential in order to tell everyone not to sin, and give advice and quote spiritual context, but it has lost its impact as they are themselves dying of a religious cancer of their own creation. The big truth is that ALL priests, imams rabbis sin, and there is NOTHING written, spoken or anything else that says that despite how they live they will not go to Hell, as the vast majority probably will. All the priests, rabbis, imams etc, are “self appointed” i.e. God didn’t appoint them, and whilst they may know their own and other religions in fifty different languages backwards that guarantees them nothing when the day or reckoning comes along.

God is a very personal thing, it’s between you and Him, and that’s it, and you don’t need to go to church for absolution or confessions nor anything else, the litmus test is always the same, if you are on a dessert island - then what? Well, the ‘then what’ is exactly the same, it’s all between you and God, not some poncy divisive religious cretin who is full of evil bias and divisive sinfulness, (and most religious sin is given in preaching ill created doctrine - and that’s a “go to hell directly” sin) you have enough of that yourself. Any religion that has excuses within it, saying you must do this n’ that except if you are here or have that is man made stuff, God is far greater than excuses. He is - that’s it, don’t create a job for yourself discussing it. Similarly if you do believe in God then you must believe that God created the Universe and knows all about molecular structures, bio-chemistry, singularity, quantum physics, quasars, atomic and molecular transformations,etc, so do you think eating pork or being frightened of a dog or cat is going to throw God off into a wobbly, because if you do it just shows how narrow, thick, stupid and pathetic your mind really is. Man has created religion and all these narrow ways, no one created God, so all this hyped up doctrine and bias against women and sin and everything else has been written, produced and created by MAN, not God. The restrictions that many religions bring is not that of a loving God, God should help you excel, and not just one or two, but everyone, free from those zealots and despots that control countries and call themselves righteous - that’s almost beyond comprehension. It’s very easy to say God is good if you are healthy and wealthy, but the vast majority of people are not, especially Muslims. The publication Management Issues survey of workforces around the globe found that Muslims have an astounding 80% chance of being less happy than anyone else, even if they are wrong by 50% it’s a staggering figure. The Catholic Church is just as bad pampering themselves around man made doctrine and decisions that have no Godly bearing especially within the “bigger picture” and are the biggest employers of pedophiles on the planet, and it all seems much of a surprise to them even though everyone else knew about it for years and the terrible things that many nuns got up to in children's homes. However Catholics are not isolated in these atrocities, but what it does open up is that “religions” are divisive and kept as “jobs for the boys” even though they may do a lot of good in ancillary areas. If you deal with God and not hide behind Him - and there is a big difference, transparency is a key note, NO religiouss organisation is transparent.

There are about 35,000 registered religions around the world all practising what someone or other has made up and their respective followers believe. Islam accounts for 96% of global terrorism, and the various bodies can’t keep on saying “they don’t represent the average Muslim” when in fact unrest and dissent is almost endemic in some areas, there isn’t a stable Islamic country on the planet, and this can’t be all under a “Loving Compassionate, Understanding, God”, God loves the Devil kills, so if you kill what is the Devil supposed to do, sit back with a glass of champagne and say “I love these Muslim people they are doing my work in making everyone unhappy and killing - great”, love doesn’t kill or mane or hurt or cut off hands or stone people, the Devil does that. Even the government of Saudi Arabia recently was looking for a doctor to literally cripple someone as part of a court vendetta, what kind of people and God does this, and what kind of people are these, what kind of society is this? The mind power of the human being is amazing but if you give it up to others then you have lost out forever in life, you can’t have fear and God together it’s like matter and anti-matter, - zero. If you believe in God then miraculous things can happen, and do for many, but the majority believe in an idolatry and that absolves them from anything good happening other by accident. God gives you “free will” on planet earth so it you do nothing then nothing will happen. The conduit to God is love, so if you don’t have “real” love not just a love facade then you haven’t a hope of even communing with and God whatsoever. Fear and gross selfishness is not love, so many people whilst think they are believers will never ever have any connection with their God, ever, ever, ever, which goes full cycle to show why Islam has the poorest of everything in life, and why many young Muslim students have to leave their own countries to go to the “West” to further their studies free from the tyrants and mentally insane who hold everything back.

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