MAKING IT HAPPEN

Regardless of what we aspire to, or how we would "ideally" like life to be we have to face up to the fact that whatever is in front of us is going to be interspersed with some degree of mayhem, even if it's just a temporary setback. There's our daily life, the life that we live whether we do anything or not, and the life we make some sort of effort in to go where we would like to go and not where life takes us by default. We are all different and many are prepared to settle for what they feel comfortable with, and the pressure level at which they are also comfortable with too. Unfortunately today people often aspire to jobs and salaries outside of their area of capability and then feign stress and all sorts of things which is pathetic and rubbish, when they can't cope.  Making what we want out of life, and reasonably too, is what will give us that feeling of accomplishment, and that's a very personal feeling and thought, not something made up by the lame ducks in the media or anyone else. If what we have enables us to attain at least something towards our goals in life that's an accomplishment, not what coaches, books, TV programmes deem is what has to happen, you live your life not theirs, nor they live yours. What help or assistance you seek is something else, but the bottom line is you have to do what you need to do at your level and not a dramatised yet potted version for television that misses out more that it shows.

We don't have to be gregarious or outgoing to "make it happen" indeed there are many dull nerds walking around who have developed and produced whatever their product is who nobody knows of and who are very wealthy because of that fact. It's not a "celebrity" success market, what you have is what is going to carry you forward, although there are no guarantees that it will ever happen, but with the right frame of mind it is never the less a possibility and one that can be exploited. The bottom line with everything is are you a "mover and a shaker" or are you a "plodder and a follower" because if you are the latter then already your chances of going forward are lessened considerably, degrees of success will be mainly mind thoughts by the self. Society today is unfortunately governed for many by hype and hollow adjuncts pertaining to what some faceless moron deems as success or good or great or whatever, and in reality they have no credentials nor positioning to state such things other than it's of a personal opinion, and whilst it may sound good if that person died overnight the they would not be missed such is the strength of what they have to say.

Whether your aspirations are to run a cottage industry from home, be a tycoon of some sort, writer of your chosen subject, whatever, it's a very personal thing and not the subject of others' comments or thoughts, they can do what they want to do and move forward also. If how you are living is basically pressing all the right buttons already, then don't let the mind allow it to take you away from that thought just for the sake that you feel you need to make a point, you don't, you are fine just the way you are. So many people fail when they "have a go" but haven't the ability to push forward themselves. There are no conditions nor ground rules for life, it is what it is, it's often ourselves that creates "fictitious" rules based upon what others have done that thwarts our way forward or worse still we give credence to people we don't know thinking they know best, when it's often not true. If what you feel deep down is not unduly ruffled by life then don't change for the sake of it, if what you feel needs changing then that's the motive to make a move.

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A DYING ROMANCE

It's come to this, the end is in sight yet you just don't want to let go for fear of the nothingness and the void, and the emotionally charged memories, the trinkets and the shared moments which will all of a sudden have a different meaning. The thought of the other person, their little foibles, their smell, their noises, their habits their funny ways, it's the end of the ride, all change, please take your baggage with you when you leave. The consternation  that it all brings, the feelings of the self being "free" from the responsibility and the morality of sharing a part of someone else's life, and they yours. And unless the romance has some acrimonious aspect to it, it's all rather pitiful and sorry. It's a tax on the emotions and it's a stain on life too, it affects daily life and it's a constant thought forever regurgitating itself and extricating itself from the reality of the deed to happen or just happened for whatever reason. Sometimes relationship just run out of steam especially those that are  or were an affectionate convenience, which tends to happens to youger people at university and the like, rather than the real love aspect, although many don't know the difference. You've just got to see celebrities playing the game of "happy families" run concurrently with "Snakes and Ladders" where snakes are the predominant feature, or is it "spot the braincell".

Relationships are as peculiar as people themselves and it is what makes each other tick that is the most important aspect, what others think and feel is of no concern nor any one's business either. There are too many backseat drivers and armchair critics as well as stupid bored and nosy family members who are the biggest failures themselves. The most important aspect of life is giving your all, for if you don't then failure is an aspect awaiting to happen. If you can't give then you can't win, it's as simple as that. Having said that relationships are of varying qualities it's not the proverbial 50/50 split it can be 70/30 or 60/40 or 90/10, it can be whatever it is that adds up to 100%, and it's all that personal too. What works works, it's when conditions emerge or the word "I" starts to crop up more often or "I need my space" or anything like that, once the "Us" and "We" reverts back to the "I" and "Me" then it's almost time to call it a day or that day is on the cards even if you can't quite see it. How intimate or aloof others see you from outside towards each other is only an outward appearance, it's what it means to both parties that spells success.

Age has a great deal to do with how we perceive life, the younger we are the more important aspects of life are as we anticipate endless years ahead. As we get older a degree of companionship is relatively important and if a relationship does break down it does not necessarily mean that either party are bad people. Companionship is very important to everyone to give the self a feeling of worth, value, mental stability and purpose, the human condition needs to share even the self centred and selfish need to share some aspect of life even if at times it appears it's all a "one way event". Mentally and emotionally bruised, battered, torn, depleted, anxious, weary, tired, listless, just plain 'out of it' are the feelings and emotions that hit home when we come the end of the line and all need to leave and change platform. It is a void that only time will heal, but time is a great healer and for many a regained composure, life, and even relationship on a different level is very possible as we are good at re-inventing ourselves in such circumstances. It's only the "poor old me" attitude that self-buries us in a pit of pity that eventually rots our inner self until it's all too late.

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