Monday 20 September 2010


It's important that we take ownership in what we do and not cower down to the trivialities of others thoughts and feelings, or be a part of their outward display of what they are experiencing or going through. There's a big difference between being mindful and being rude, selfish and self centred and understanding the emotions that others often put out to show their displeasure based upon their own feelings of importance or their need for some degree of respect other than that of general courtesy. It's not uncommon for people to display their displeasure of others actions and thus try to force an issue of superiority or lack of respect where none was intended or wished by the so called 'wrongdoer'. It's this small-mindedness and often elevated feeling of self importance, even if whom you are talking to is rude and thoughtless that lets ones emotions rule the roost as opposed to the self seeing the bigger picture. Many people feel the need to explain just about everything they do in order to appease others and get 'acceptance' as if others have a higher authority over you, they don't. There is a degree of courtesy involved in exemplary communicating with others; it's how proficient we are at it that gets us further in life as others see a side of us that instils confidence in them.There is for some a degree of subservience that fuels the inner need to be "accepted" or "given permission" or not, it at times equates to a feeling of guilt or not being worthy. These feelings of being given an "acceptance" or a "nod of approval" is totally fallacious and if it's taken up subliminally by others to offer this it says much about that person too. It's also not uncommon for certain people to take a degree of false ownership of what others do or say even if they are not part of the subject matter, this is a big defect in their character as they get upset or put out when they are not told or informed of something. Whilst it's good to talk, it's also bad to say too much at times and volunteer aspects of life, self, work or anything else and for others to read into it a stage that doesn't exist, or to stimulate thought that runs off into a tangent of no value. Every situation in life has its credentials merits and drawbacks, and our task to do what we need to do must be upheld by ourselves and not take into account the fictitious "they" aspect. The "they" aspect is often referred to as what will "they" think or will "they" like it as if some higher collective is lurking around the corner to castigate ones way forward.

Common courtesy is always very good, but there needs to be a definition as to the line between informing and feeling the need to inform those whom it doesn't concern. We can apportion or share our doings or ways to those we have esteem for such as our partners, very close friends and maybe the odd person that the subject matter means something to or has been instrumental in what we are doing. Outside of all this idle chit chat forms at times a protocol at a level that others may expect continuity on and then foolishly when it isn't forthcoming take offence, it's silly and small minded but it regularly happens. Others assume that they are privy to what you do etc, which is not the case. We need to be mindful who we are and what we say, being secretive and monosyllabic isn't smart either as it renders us an outcast of our own making. Being prudent with conversation allows one to get on in life and keeps busy bodies at bay and stops idle chatter that can turn even the dullest aspects of life into something of an intrigue.
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