THE VULNERABILITY GAME

Do you feel that you are in charge of your life or that you are a pawn within it, and that it's basically a hopeless mess or you have that feelings of  "what can I do to change it" attitude that has an enormity that's so grand it's almost daunting. Our feelings can change daily, some days we can be fine and others well, it's just too much to bear, but all that rests upon how we really are within more than circumstances. Circumstances are what they are and how we react to them is just that, it's very personal even if we share a commonality with others views. It's very easy to say "don't worry" or "don't get stressed out" but unanswered questions play hard within especially with minds that are not creative or are not able to be self orientated or entrepreneurial. There's no right nor wrong with much in our thought processes as they are all linked to different base matter and knowledge platforms, and what some get stressed out about others don't even consider it a problem, such is our outlook on life and how we deem we are going to be. But being vulnerable by our own hand is quite a dangerous thing, it can loosen all our nuts and bolts and stop us literally from moving forward and make life a drudgery rather than a point of time in which to live.

Self esteem and keeping our own counsel is one of the most valuable things we can do as it stops dead the thoughts and feelings of those around us who haven't a clue how we think or feel, even if they know us well. It's those people who are in themselves at sixes and sevens in life and feel the need to share their point of view yet would not accept any responsibility if you took it and it all went wrong. Surrounding or listening to those who see life differently especially those more lowly than yourself is sheer folly, by all means pass the time of day, but that's it move on. Dwelling on the problem aborts the will for a solution and it's solutions that are needed not the constant regurgitation of the problems.

Vulnerability has the dreadful effect of people forever wanting to share or talk about their downfalls or plight as if by magic in doing so it will suddenly lift, it wont, in fact it makes everything worse by giving it gravitas and an ongoing episode effect. Solutions as to what next may take time, solutions as to the ultimate aim may be in the light of today far fetched but tomorrow achievable need to be nurtured for if we don't or can't nurture such ideas then all is lost. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, but for some that's too easy and they manufacture scenarios that once the exit has been reached how long will it last, this perpetual negativity that really does thwart life and the self existence that some breed within and even transfer to others. Doing what's best for the self in life matters is the best policy which doesn't mean negating others nor responsibilities for life is a compromise, every day is a compromise and it's all linked to how we think and feel, so if that's rocky what do you think life's going to be like - rocky.

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THE BITTER PILL

We all at times in our life have to take stock of who we are, where we are and what we are, and to our dismay our perceptions of all those three may not meet up with our own thoughts of what we should be. Our perceptions of where we should  be often bear no resemblance to the life we lead nor to the life we should be leading either, it is after all a perception and that can be a million miles away from the truth let alone reality.  There's nothing wrong with having views of where we would like to be or end up or ideally could be, it gives us a pathway in our mind to aim for and even if we don't attain it, the route to those thoughts often moulds who we are anyway. Time is a great leveller and a great "forcer" of events, time has no friends nor enemies, it is a universal aspect that encompasses us all. What time does do is allows us to distill who we are and where we are in relation to what time we anticipate we have left, and we don't know that either.

Where we are at any one time gives rise to our thoughts and feelings and those again put into perspective what we feel about ourselves and our life and those around us and assess how relevant everything is. Sometimes we need to face the facts that our dreams unless we win the Lottery will never come to pass, and in reality most people's dreams are just that for if any appreciable part of  their dreams did come true they in all likelihood would not be able to cope nor stand the pressures that come with them with regards friends and family and everything else. Having said that, life for some starts at a later stage than it does for others, and for those whose life starts early with a modicum of success mid life often is relatively cruel, and it's only later on that it tends to go full circle to be more harmonious and enjoyable too.

When we become ill we are told when young that the more nasty the taste of medicine the more good it will do us, and that analogy is often quite true when it comes to life. Sailing on aimlessly not taking stock of life and what's in it eventually denigrates us to a default life whereby little ever happens and one falls into a state of self devised ruin as an easy option. The mind closes ranks, the self becomes a nothingness of humanity, the will to live becomes robotic and the mind disregards anything that it sees doesn't not fit into a devised harmony that needs no thinking and shuns out disappointment. For some this happens later in life for others it can happen at an early age, it matters not, when that realisation takes place if we don't address it proficiently it can be the demise of what is left of the life we have.

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