SMILING

One of the most pleasing aspects of human interchange in the human condition is the smile, it needs no rehearsing, no prompting, no translation, it has no hidden agendas and it costs nothing too, in short it's the best way to communicate with someone else in an instant. The smile transcends barriers of religion, status, situation, language, and whatever else, it's the perfect way to express who you are and transmit or relay it to another, without having to carry on further and without the need for reciprocation. Having a pleasant disposition is one of the best assets you can have, it not only has a warming effect upon life around you it elevates who you are and provides a platform of heightened response and attitude towards life in general, especially when things go wrong. A smile means you are approachable, it means people can engage with you should they want to and it means that you are approachable even if deep down you aren't too keen on talking or conversing with certain individuals.

Our disposition in life or our attitude plays a vital role in how we both enjoy life as well as how we think of ourselves and others.  It may be "cool" to look mean by media standards but such ideology is fantasy land and covers up their own neurosis of life, failings and gross apprehension about how they fit into the grand order of things. For the every day pedestrian a smile lifts life beyond the "poor old me" approach to something that's good and gracious and likeable, it even by default elevates those around as they can sense and feel goodness radiating from within. For those who can smile easily even when on the phone it brings a new dimension to conversations, something that advertisers who get their audio clients to smile when talking can't do as it's all contrived, but the inferior beings will one day learn otherwise. Building up warmth from within is like a degree of maturity that just gets better and better and better, it's the grand fine wine that's aged and brings out the very best of what's on offer.

Those that smile get better help than those that don't, they are more readily liked, they tend to get better more quickly than the dull and dowdy, they are less selfish, more active in life and see beyond the horizon whereas the melancholic can't see anything but downhearted aspects of life. Smiles convey love, the base of our very existencee, smilest convey trust, and it brings a degree of unity too which melds people together and how they feel into an overall commonality, which is also essential to make us feel a part of life today. Smiling is definitely an asset and if you don't subscribe to smiling regardless of what others do or whether they reciprocate or not, you will lose out big time in life,  just be you and smile.

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©John Rushton / The Life Alchemist 2010

WHEN IT ALL HITS THE FAN

There are some aspects of life that we enjoy, some we get along with and others that we either dread or try to put off, usually doing something about it at the last minute. Some people are good at paying bills others hold off until the final reminder then it takes them all their energy to pay, it's a mind set more than an ability. However the more we put off the bigger the mind burden we carry around. Think if we paid off all our bills straight away, bought the presents and cards way ahead of time for birthdays, Christmas and anniversaries, we would free up our thoughts and time for more enjoyable events. If we booked those journeys months in advance that we knew we were going to take we would probably be paying half the price even for premium seats, and so it goes on. The more we become dilatory towards ourselves the bigger the load we carry.

Our lives like our homes or cars need constant attention, they need at times renovating, our old ideas and thoughts need updating in light of new structures, ways of living and environment constraints. We need to keep ourselves clean, our clothes clean and maintain a relatively healthy lifestyle if we don't want to bring on illnesses that we know we can reduce the chances of getting just by sensible diet and lifestyle. We need to keep mental equilibrium in check too because if we let our minds go then everything around us collapses into a heap and the older you get the less likely it is to be able to put it all back together again.

Overlooking aspects of life, or ignoring it only leads to a day of eventuality, when like many things in life "it all happens at once", where the point of no return hits us hard and remedial action is not only expedient some aspects are forever irreversible and we have to make sacrifices in order to continue. Living stress free a much abused word, where many call being busy as being stressed out, what they mean is they are lazy and selfish, but that's another issue, is essential in maintaining our view of life and clarity in all we do, if we muddle though we will forever suffer.

It is a pain at times to do things especially when we have in our minds stuff which is far more interesting and emotionally fulfilling, but if we get into a habit of doing many of the tasks straight away we will feel far more on top of life and not be threatened when it all goes awry and suddenly hits the fan in one fell swoop. However, it's your life and only you can make it better or allow it to become worse, it's all down to choices and self respect.

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