BEING BROKEN HEARTED

It’s not the nicest of things to happen, it blows our mind like a mini atom bomb going off inside of us, triggering all of our feelings and emotions all at one go, our minds almost disconnect from reality and we live in a place of self concocted hurt and indecision and unfathomable thoughts. Reality is not an issue as it hardly exists other than the fact that we are still alive, but only just, and interest in life whatever that is has ceased and anyway we just don’t want to know anymore as it’s immaterial and not worth it anyway. And what’s more no one understands even though others have gone through it too, it’s not the same as your heart ache, your pain is different. Well anyway, that’s an idea of what heartache is all about especially if you haven’t been through it, and it’s not a recommendation to put on your list of “things to do and experience”. Heartache is felt differently by “blokes” as it is by girls, men see things more technically and women see things more emotionally and although each and every feeling is just as real to men and women the thought process can vary somewhat and at times neither side can see where either party is coming from or going to, and the end result is that they don’t care either because if you can’t understand then that’s the whole problem in a nutshell. So there.

It’s usually worse for the person who is let down rather than the person who lets the other down, as the latter has usually a premeditated thought which tends to buffer them from the impact and actually they have had some time to think of other things even if it’s just having time on their own to ‘chill out’ and sort themselves out, unless someone else is on the scene. It’s a complex thing and for some it’s a point where they really think that life will never be the same again, it won’t it never is, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be 100 times better either, so there’s always a flip side to the way we think and the way we stilt our conversations towards a goal that seems always out of reach. It’s not rocket science either that relationships brake down at any age and also for those who are single and 30+,  mind thought is the biggest culprit to having a relationship or staying single as at the same time as compromise is nearly always an issue. Usually the woman feeling she has to compromise more than the man, unless it’s a gay relationship, but it’s usually one partner that acquiesces, and not necessarily for the worse either, that’s something to think of and not the egotistical side of “why should I” which is a ‘kiss of death’ attitude.

It’s rare not to get over a broken heart, even if it takes time. And all this “I’m sceptical about any new relationship I’ve been let down before" or worse, "too often before” etc, is rubbish, it’s self centred and selfish and maybe with that attitude it’s you that was part of the break up cause in the first instance. And remember if you have had a number of broken hearts, failed relationships etc, the common denominator in them all is you, not your partner, so what does it all say about you. There’s nothing wrong in playing the field except that “playing” is the operative word, so expect what you get when play stops, nothing, and thus nothing is what will happen time and time again. You must be honest to both yourself and others that way any let down will be be lightened as it will have a purpose and not just “it was fun whilst it lasted” which is why many “have a go” relationships are just that, shallow and hollow from the outset. One of the main causes of breakdown is not infidelity it's "hidden agendas" coupled with selfishness, and with the "why should I" and all this "I need my space" and whatever else YOU need is all fodder the day of reckoning that's about to happen.

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SORRY & THANK YOU

Two very powerful words that express so much about life, the person we are, our understanding of life and others, the etiquette of getting out and about and communicating proficiently with fellow man, the humility of the self and above all our understanding of ourselves regardless of what others think. It’s important that we know when we are wrong and can admit to it without our ego creeping in or without degrees of arrogance taking over and us making excuses trying to avoid saying sorry. Being sorry and saying thank you can be very liberating indeed, it can free the self up from harbouring deceit and lies and and building a hard and callous interface within that over time will stop us from enjoying life as we should be and it will by default keep others away as they will be able to read the “unfortunate” side of our character and immediately not want to commune with us. Whether being sorry for whatever it is that one is sorry about is not accepted or if so begrudgingly by the other party is not important you can’t tell others what to do or what not to do, their thought patterns are the way they are for a reason. But the fact that one offers sorrow over an action or deed is enough to placate the self even if initially it was of a selfish and divisive nature. Having said all of that saying sorry doesn’t make things alright especially if the deed that one is sorry over was selfish and divisive and it all went wrong, but life is for living and moving on, it’s not from dragging the past with you or harbouring ill thoughts on a permanent basis to try and keep justification for negativity alive and hatred or anger as a live credential for purpose. Such thoughts make the holder of the negative emotions as bad or worse than the one or ones who instigated the wrong doing in the first place.

The human nature of man himself is to show gratitude and in showing gratitude it’s an acceptance of what some one else or others have done or are offering for you. The deeds of individuals or groups of people giving of the service or product play an equally important part in how we communicate with others, life is full of reciprocity it’s this reciprocity that makes the world go around and allows many of us the freedom to interact without let or hindrance by others. Religions in society (man made aspects of God) are the kiss of death as they impart evil and control and censorship and ritual and mayhem and guilt and it’s administered by those who should be preaching love, not the hatred as hate is the keynote of devil worship. Saying thank you denotes the acceptance of human exchange, the giving and taking of something no matter how large or small, it’s the deed or service or product that we are giving thanks for and that gives an elevated feeling of purpose, even if many say thank you almost begrudgingly, which denotes a staid and dull mind of a somewhat selfish nature. Happy and positive people are always profuse with exclamations in life of thanking everyone for whatever they have done no matter how small, they are given thanks. For those who have a grudge or a chip on their shoulders or who think they need more than they have or any other mentally defective thought then is there any wonder why those that don’t have or are envious or prideful aren’t as smart or as outgoing as those that do make a difference.

Politeness is a mild lubricant on life, someone with manners is almost automatically accepted even if not liked for some reason or another, the genuineness of manners is something else but the absence of them stands out a mile. Manners don a quality of the human being and a degree of breeding and the people whom one mixes with, and the company that one keeps overall. The absence of manners denote an ignorance that’s inherent and that one does not know the difference between a person of merit and an ignorant slob. Whether we understand the character or style of one over the other is immaterial, the fact that everyone knows the difference and that people who are usually well mannered in their acceptance of who are do so in relation to others and places the type of person who has such credentials on one side of the fence and the rest on the other. Manners are common to man, wealth or any other trappings are ancillary to what others say or do, it’s that point of contact that one can be honest with any deed or service that has not gone well or has been offered and that the other person or persons in question and reciprocating their acceptance of whatever it is. Even if it’s a thank you or a 'sorry' by proxy it never the less excludes a degree of ongoing implication unless there is some legality adhering to what has been transacted.

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ORDER OF CHAOS (Ordo Ab Chao)

From the Chaos Theory we get the “Butterfly Effect”, then we get ‘sensitive dependence’ whereby both describe the changes that take place in any given scenario no matter how small that can affect the long term prognosis or estimate of what will happen or could happen. Small changes which to the casual observer mean relatively nothing or are indeed insignificant can eventually produce devastating or dramatic changes to a concept or theory or projection. Even our washing machines and dishwashers use a type of “fuzzy logic” to predict a random set of events or circumstances to give us a better and cleaner and more efficient wash. Every day pilots flying around the world often have to make small but continuous adjustments to the aircraft speed and direction otherwise they would miss the destination airport particularly on long haul flights. Chaos like anything else changes in appearance depending upon how we look at it, from a snapshot chaos is just that something that is literally chaotic and is all over the place or hasn’t got set parameters or boundaries. But from the “bigger picture” it has a definition and a life of its own that can accommodate relative predictable and quantifiable areas that together can be utilised to provide a solution to many problems. Knowing that a certain degree of predictable unpredictability is to happen allows us to programme such events into an equation and work out something that gives us a tangible grasp of whatever it is we are looking at. In short there is an order in life and sometimes that order has a span greater than we imagine or possibly shorter too so everything has to be looked at in context.

Where our human thought comes into play it’s often somewhat different in that we rarely see the bigger picture or make allowances for events or situations. Preferring to jump straight into the emotional aspect of what we feel or what we perceive and not put a great deal of thought into considering implications and conditions unless they stand out a mile and then we don’t often do justice to what we have gleaned. Many people go drastically wrong by assumptions and by wanting to move on too quickly and get some degree of closure or resolution based upon the facts as they see them. And facts are relative, if we are wealthy then the price of a small car is not only cheap we wouldn’t even consider buying it, if we are somewhat ‘hard up’ then even the cost of a cheap car could be quite considerable and we may even need a loan, so what is said by whom always needs to be born out by the credentials of who is saying what and for what reason. Most people like order in their lives it gives stability as well as a feeling that they know that they can move in different directions on the understanding that their bearings are always relative to their movement. But where even minor chaos is in evidence one can move forward and from where one came everything has now changed although in itself that position still exists. For example in a revolving restaurant, one gets up from the table to go to the toilet, on returning your table has moved forward further round the building yet the core has remained firmly where it is so you have to look around to get your bearings again and then find your table, simple, but with life itself it can be far more complicated.

How we live our lives depends upon how we view life and accept the changeability of same as well as at times the unpredictability and the consequences of such. There are many variables in our lives and many that we take well within our stride, that a certain road is closed so we go via another route that we know, or the buses or underground has routes that are not running for some technical reason, we with a little thought plan our journey in our mind using what knowledge we have of the transport system, and so it goes on. The future of our lives rests with what we do today even though there are ponder-able areas such as bereavement, winning or being bequeathed some money, or bankruptcy, or illness etc, that can radically alter the structure of our lives and how we respond defines the quality and ability we have in coping with whatever it is that’s made such a difference. Our mind rules who we are, it’s just so personal to us, even if we go around taking advice from anyone who can string a sentence together, it’s a choice we make, and the resultant actions are down to us to follow. There is an order in life and we are both part of that order and part of the larger chaos at the same time. We can make both aspects work towards our own benefit and it can be very advantageous that we consider facts in future about decisions to be made as opposed to blindly jumping in then wondering yet again why things aren’t exactly where they should be and that yet again there is a dead end sign ahead.

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WRESTLING WITH SELF ESTEEM

As a society today one wonders at times if we have progressed mentally or it's just the physical things around us that have gotten more technically advanced and we have stayed put. The number one problem affecting society is mental health, not the kind that we are all going loopy, but the stability of thought based upon who we are and what life is all about. We all go through ups and downs in life no one is immune from that at all, and by and large we overcome or come to terms with whatever it is, the human being is quite a robust piece of biology and can withstand more that it cares to think it can. The advent of shrinks and coaches is an all too easy step for some to try and pour out their heart akin to some failed Hollywood drama scenario and hopefully self pity will come out of it and an answer to the situation at hand. Unfortunately many of the shrinks and coaches aren't that clever and going through text book check lists written by others isn't always that exciting nor productive. It's a sad tale that whom you are speaking to is only as good as the last book they read, or maybe not even as stable as yourself, real intuitive and balanced thought is a prize that most never ever get near to, at least not in this life time.

The press and media churn out a whole load of diatribe every day in the hope that it will like fly paper catch a number of victims that will latch on to their devised copy and manufactured statements. To a large extent it works, especially with women who seem to revel in what others are doing especially other women with regards their shape, size, dress sense, who slept with whom, what he said what they did what she wants and so on, and view shopping as a sport where handbags and shoes are part of the prize trophy, something that leaves most men completely dazed and flummoxed as to this personal fascination with people you never meet nor will ever know. (Over 38 women's magazines as opposed to 3 men's magazines currently available). It's not that men don't have interests in areas like sports, indeed some become obsessed with it or hobbies like fishing which is largely confined to the male sex. Not that men they don't have self esteem issues either, they do but it's all manifested in a totally different way. What is wrong with being just you, you will never ever be like someone else no matter how hard you try because you don't share their brain, so following others actually places you as a second best person always following and lacking.The problem with forever following, which is not the same as being observant as to what's current, big difference, is that you are always a "has been" and your mentality usually reflects this when it comes to knowledge and conversational issues very little ever being original, most of it stolen from others or what you've read about others.

Forever complaining about weight, looks, lack of money, friends, your job, what others did or didn't do, will in the long term not only make you dull, which you may have arrived at that point already, but it will affect your mental disposition and how you view both yourself and life. You only have one chance at life, so it's imperative that you make it the best way you can. Narrowness of thought about others and being judgmental will forever hold you back and cause great consternation, which again doesn't mean you can't have an opinion. Individuality, self creativeness, presence of your own heart, your own thoughts are star qualities that everyone picks up upon and guarantees an acceptance as to whom you are, not what you want people to think you are, which is somewhat disingenuous. If you crave to be respected then people must know the real you not your potted and watered down version of others who you've taken on board because then you lack personal presence. Life isn't a rocket science expedition, it's been going on far too long and through far too much to be written about succinctly, every book written about life is only a snapshot of that moment for as humans we evolve moving on. If you can't be yourself, who can you be, and would anyone really want to know the fabricated you?

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THE LOVE SWINGOMETER

The basis of all my writings is about the foundation of society and that is “love”, for without love we are but drones or robots just living for the sake of living, a grown up ameoba without cause and feeling and without the ability to commune with life itself. But love comes at a price, it’ a great price to pay, but for many the “evil ones in life” it really is a step too far. For those religions that preach “Love & Tolerance” yet still kill, maim, stone, and everything else it’s the beginning of the end, for with true love there is absolutely no violence whatsoever, why would there be because no one would wish anyone else to be the cause of suffering no matter what the nature. “Evil” religions need control, and the words “unconditional freedom” and ” unconditional love” don’t exist, everything is conditional and oppressive, hence all the religiously controlled countries around the world are backward in every way and breeding grounds for terrorists. The Love Swingometer www.theloveswingometer.com is very simple it outlines various potentials and thoughts as to where you are in life, it gives a visualisation of thoughts and feelings and puts home within yourself where you are. If you believe in God (and God in every religion is pure love) then you are on the left hand side of the swingometer, Light, happiness, goodness, etc, and if you believe in the Devil then you are on the right hand-side, it’s that simple and that accurate. If you religion is oppressive and resorts to killing and maiming then there is no “Almighty compassion” it’s just cheap words, if you are on the right for any reason it’s Darkness and Evil and Devil, death, suffering, fear. etc so you may wish to review who you are worshipping and how your thoughts are constructed.

The more to the left hand side you are of “The Love Swingometer” the better life will be, it will be lighter, happier, more healthy, more fun, not at all neurotic or paranoid, it will not be stressed out or depressing, nor will it be lonely, it will not be vile or jealous nor will it be full of avariciousness and greed and divisive playacting, it will be creative and intuitive. And of course if you are on the right it will be the opposite, repressive, fearsome, psychosomatic, dark, lonely, isolated, conditionally loved, dreary, future-less, negative with hatred, anger, greed, indecision, full of paranoia and neurosis and all the rest, your God will demand retribution and all in all you will by default be a devil worshiper. It matters not what your ego tells you, nor what schematic plans you feel are needed to control or grow a society, but where love is in gross evidence the defaults of life, crime, rape, murder, embezzlement, burglaries, theft, etc, are but almost none existent. You create your life not circumstances, circumstances are what you have to live within, how you react to them or apportion them to your life is purely down to you. So if you throw a “wobbly” then that’s how life will be to you, if you say “sod it, I’m going to be happy anyway” then life will automatically be elevated even before any change has taken place. Such is the power and nature of our mind thoughts. We tend to migrate to those who share a common ideology of life, negative to negative and positive to positive.

TheLoveSwingometer is an indication of what life is all about for you, it’s how you react to life how you feel how you manage your emotion or perhaps why you don’t, it’s how you interact with life and how you see yourself in relation to others as well as they to you. Peer pressures, media hype, friends attitudes, plus other’s lifestyles at times have an influence, they shouldn’t' but they do, what is inherent in just about all is the camaraderie of humanity and life itself. It’s only edged apart by politics, ignorance, and cultures, many of which are not compatible with life today, the stupidity of the gross failures in life such as the ”politically correct” morons, who have nothing to offer except early death of themselves, and those that are greedy and avaricious. For the average person being loving and kind is the best credential they can hold to going forward in life and attracting the “right” sort of people around them to make life as comfortable and as secure as they can. TheLoveSwingometer is but an indication of where the good and the bad in life lies, the real litmus test is within and that is where you experience life for all it is. Life is what you make it, you can’t control outside forces but you can control yourself and how you feel. The rest is now up to you, follow your heart not the diatribe of nasty religions and worthless people.

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BURNING THE ILLUSION

Much of our life is played out by what we know and how we live with that knowledge, how we enjoy our lives is something down to us and our attitude and mentality, it has to be as no one else can think or feel for us no matter how close they are or well meaning. Within our environment there are people, authorities, governments, religions, organisations, societies, charities, and the like all of whom have a doctrine of their own and that doctrine dictates what they do and how they do it. Most religions have staid, outmoded and defunct doctrines that should carry a sign saying ”This Religion Carries A Health Warning” in that its participants expect or receive from God is absolutely nothing at all, mainly because the religious leaders are impotent, shallow and fearful themselves. They are no better off than atheists or agnostics who have none of the baggage, guilt and oppression, other than the fact that agnostics and atheists will die without further cause. What we build up in our minds is so often empty and hollow in that we frequently react or act in accordance to what we think others will think, which is silly. Whose life are you living your own or that of others?

There are two main types of people in life leaders and followers, it’s the followers who tend to suffer the greatest by making aspects of life more topical than they are and commenting on what’s being bounced around with regards the press and media as if its all final, cut and dried. However, where life really takes a hold is within one’s mind, and it’s there where we either accept or reject aspects of life pertinent to us. It’s there where we come to terms with ourselves and others and it’s there where we physically live our lives, not outside of our minds, for the environment in which we live is but a prop or setting for us to play out what we do. We have within our minds the makings of us or the downfall of whom we are, it’s all there slotted into our micro-circuits and fused together by bio-chemical and electro-chemical links that fire off at each other to form our ongoing life patterns. What others have or don’t have is none of our business, what others may or may not do has little if any bearing upon the credentials of what we do, we are in effect a product of ourselves and as such are unique even if others are similar, they are never the same.

A lot of what we do, either culturally, historically, family driven or orientated, handed down rituals or ways of doing things, folklore, etc, is but a fallacy of the mind, and we are not to be snared into such things to appease other people or situations or circumstances at the detriment of ourselves such as “honour killings” and “forced marriages” etc, which still goes on today. The illusion of what life is all about can differ enormously as there is no defined blue print that incorporates history and tomorrows technology, hence it’s all new ground and it’s where religions have to make up what they think yesterday’s teachings equate to tomorrows developments, and the short answer is that the theologians and especially the religious leaders aren’t that bright, and their followers are even less bright and there lies a problem of its own making. Living our own lives, whatever that may be involves a great deal of love from both sides of the fence. Parents allowing children to live the way “they” want and not how their parents want, and the understanding that children of whatever age understand that their parents are in reality often selfishly inclined probably though their own upbringing too to want what they want for their children. There is a big difference between governance for the right reasons and an openness to allow evolution and creation to take place.  The illusion continues.
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WHAT'S NORMAL

We all have views about what is normal and what isn’t and by and large we share many views concurrently on the same subject , we have ideas and feelings as to what is acceptable, and if anything veers from the norm then we trawl in an instant in our minds as to why and apportion it down to whatever it is that such a person did such a thing, sometimes we are at a loss as to finding that answer. But through time what was once a shameful thing is no longer, illegitimate children are no longer seen as anything other than young children without a father, divorce which was once scandalous too is all part of the ‘norm’ today which it shouldn’t really be even if it’s an inevitable step for some. Normalising many aspects of life takes the stigma out of the deed or situation which is in many cases good as there is usually an innocent party that is a circumstance rather than the perpetrator of their circumstance, such as in illegitimacy. Marriage should be for life, but that especially in the media is “fair game” when it comes to everything that can go wrong does, and celebrities bring it on themselves. Even Islamic terrorism from the people that should practise “Love And Tolerance” is almost acceptable in that “Islamophobia has crept into the language which wasn’t there once and there wasn’t such a word, and as terrorism is 98% Islamic one doesn’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand why.

The way people get on with each other and the degree of tollerance we have enables us to meet with a whole range of people and muster through, taking people as they are the good, the bad and the indifferent, we know what we have to do for what reason, so for the grater part in life we just get on with it. Passing comment we may do but again for the major part we just accept that some of our meetings weren’t as we would have liked, but it’s all history and we have moved forward. Years ago the commonality of courtesy was far better than it is today, even if other aspects of life weren’t as acceptable as there has become an integration of many cultures and ethnicities etc, the status has changed, some cultures are outgoing others still backward thinking and culturally crippling in some circumstances. What was normal pre such times has by default changed and life has changed too. The advent of new failures was never as evident as we now have “politically correct” people who are by their own hand are sub-humans and a burden on everyone.

What’s normal for one person or society is often far from normal for another, it’s our understanding that gets us through. Protocols in one country can differ substantially also from country to country but by and large if you are a “foreigner” in that country you are usually exempt from the nuances and sometimes potentially insulting gestures as humanity accepts variances from those who are not expected to know. The most stringent and two faced societies predominantly Islamic countries where life always lags behind except for arms deals and nuclear advancement and are prone to a stringency often covering up their own gross indecencies never reported or allowed to become public because they censor everything. But fortunately for the many that don’t have to rely on state diktat, to behave ’normality’ is often ones own individuality whatever that is, and it encompasses a whole range of moods, styles, shapes, formats, ideologies and the like, subliminally helping create a growth and desire to move forward , whereas as closed societies are always beggars relying on others for advancement which they procure or emulate or steal. Art, design, development, progress, discovery comes out of ‘breaking with the norm’ it has to by its own definition and as such the levels or ‘normality’ take on a meaning and life all of their own.

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EMPATHY STRUCTURES

In order to get along in life we need to have an empathy with it otherwise we either just play “lip service” to what we are doing or go through the motions almost robotically to get done what we have to do because we know it has some meaning for us. Either way our heart isn’t in it and because of that, what we do rarely has any degree of “wow factor” which accounts for many people’s lives. Then everyone steps back almost shocked and in awe and says “I don’t know why my life is as dull as it is” or “I don’t know things don’t seem to go my way” and so on. Even the best meal in the world your super, super favourite can be spoilt just by a surly waiter serving you with a disgruntled and impassionate outlook, the little things in life can make a difference and just having the ‘edge’ taken off of something can reduce it from fabulous to “it was nice” in one fell swoop. (It only takes a small pin to burst a big balloon). Attitude is the telling aspect of ourselves and if it’s tinged with negativity it will almost always be under par, if it’s positive then even the dullest of things will have a tinge of excitement, it’s that simple. You can make excuses until the cows come home, but fooling yourself with pathetic conjecture to try and make you think you are better than you are is futile, facile and pointless, anyway it’s only you who is letting yourself down. Our lives, our partners, our food, our clothes, our friends, our job, our thoughts all must strike a note with something that empathises within us for if it doesn’t then we are either already dead or teetering on the verge of it. We are only as good or as interesting and fabulous as we make out, it rests with us, no one else, we can’t blame others or the lack of others for who we are as we control who and what we are, and as soon as we realise that then from that moment life does get significantly better. Frustration, lack of this n’ that, can’t do this n’ that are all incidentals, and putting weight on to external factors to make us come alive is the biggest opt out that many have, it not only reduces ones self esteem but acts as a ”scape goat” in translation within our mind, absolving ourselves from getting our act together.

We have an empathy of some sort with most aspects of our lives even if it’s to do with our cars or food or hobbies or interests, it’s something that drives our enthusiasm and gives us the impetus to shine or attain knowledge without a great deal of effort, it provides a degree of enjoyment and purpose and an ongoing feel of wanting to continue. Of course our circumstances can play a part in how our empathy resonates within us and even the common flu can knock us for six for a while where we tend to lose interest in everything including eating. Fortunately we don’t have year long flu and even disabilities that we develop, for many do not preclude us enjoying what we like even at a different level. As we progress in life age has a bearing as does our ability to proficiently do what we could do more easily years earlier, we also gain more knowledge of life, have experienced a few more knocks, set backs, ups and downs, disappointments, losses, and whatever else has come our way, yet within us we still have the ability to empathise with aspects of life that still give us pleasure, that’s assuming we allow it to happen. All too often the self effacing aspects of man literally does “cut off his nose to spite his face” thinking that some kind of self afflicted remorse, sacrifice or unhappiness will give us a higher degree of inner credibility, well it won’t it just makes you more ‘bloody unhappy’ and a pain in the neck to those around you. Life as such doesn’t give a dam whether you enjoy life or not, it have a thing all of its own called “life” and it’s greater than all of us, so it you can’t radiate a degree of empathy towards others then certainly don’t expect it to be reciprocated, because the “others” will go to where they are appreciated, they have a soul and feelings too, and they like to be liked, they love to be loved and not listen to morose diatribe as if it’s an endless soap series on all about my pathetic life and what’s gone wrong with it. Granted such conversations are better than sleeping tablets as they have no side effects and work quicker, but that’s not the point.

We tend to migrate to those we empathise with, so the good and great and humorous and positive tend to join forces and those negative beings with all their faults and traits do likewise and migrate to the negative and so on, there is a big rift in between and often those who are not quite sure which camp to be in are the procrastinators, and they can be a pain too, as they can never quite give a definitive answer to anything, which is different from those who are naturally easy going and tend to go with the flow. More and more today the issue of mental health is coming to the fore, it’s nothing new, it’s just that many in society feel that there is always an option for someone else to take over or make a decision or worse still have a tablet after which the course has run all will be well, no you’ll be worse. Coaches and psychologists can”t make up your mind for you even if to present you with an array of options, you have to take the first step, and ironically many of these “professionals” have problems of the self themselves, even self confessed ones. Making a wrong move is making a move, we all make mistakes and sometimes it’s these that jar us out of where we are and allow us to see the ‘bigger picture’ and break free from our microcosm of “all about me” which festers and rots with time placating who we are and making us look like an old cabbage and exude as much interest too. If we lose the life passion it’s because of our inner self for no one can give it to us, dwelling on the self is absolutely the worst thing you can do as it cuts you off from mankind and humanity to the extent you always seem to commune at arms length and thus in time lose the plot. As difficult as it may be at times to put on a brave face, smile when inside you need to cry, it’s what you have to do, it’s what everyone has to do, there are no short cuts and no easy answers, but by making an effort the tumblers do start to turn, even if slowly at first. It’s only the selfish that get caught up in the pity game and then get ostracised by everyone else, and still believe that they are badly done to, well if you treat yourself like a lump of ‘detritus’ then what you sow so shall you reap.

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MORE QUESTIONS THAN ANSWERS

Do you go around with that slightly vacant expression, not quite squinting but that slightly glazed look as if in deep thought, because if you do you could be one of the many that are forever pondering and evaluating life. Those people that see and assess yet do nothing themselves, they observe and take mental notes then apportion what’s good, not so good, valued or not, and how it equates to them, although it rarely ever does. How can one equate the life of others who actually make a difference to those that plod along and just observe from afar then hypothesise as to why they did what they did and why they can’t and relate to ‘their’ situation and so on and so forth, it’s all dull stuff. Life is full of unanswered questions and even the academics and intellectuals fall short of their own queries as life contains more than they even know and that’s another level of questions laced with extrapolations and conundrums and aesthetic qualitative and quantitative evaluations which has no relevance whatsoever to living a life that’s full and meaning. It’s good to be in possession of knowledge, yet a little learning in the wrong context can be almost lethal, like having a serum for good health, too little and it won’t work, too much and it could cause complications or worse - death. Human ability to go forward on potential, hope and discovery is legendary, well it is on planet earth anyway, what aliens do maybe something else, and it’s not every race, culture, religion that has made dramatic changes for the better, there are still some cultures and religions that are hell bent on killing for the sake of it and holding on to the past, such is the hollow and Devil related nature of their God, hiding behind peace and love yet smiling with jagged teeth and breath of poison fumes. The uncertainty of aspects of life at times gives rise to confusion and cause for why things are the way they are, and why people do what they do when the only outcome is mayhem, corruption and suffering, but avariciousness, greed, power, ego, and all the other negative emotions are the root cause why such goings-on still exists. Where love is a root ingredient nothing grossly untoward would ever happen as there would be no reason as to why it should.

We have to live every day without many answers being answered, sometimes a whole lifetime goes by and aspects of it remain a mystery and racking our brain is a futile exercise as it gets us even more confused, perplexed and at times destabalised than when we started out. Knowing that life has no credentials other than that which humanity bestows upon itself should be enough for us to comprehend at times the incomprehensible and allow a question mark to signify the end of the sentence and move on or we will forever be dragging ourselves and others down searching for eternal clues, none of which will enhance our future abilities or peace of mind. Besides forever dwelling on the past and posing imponderable questions doing so takes our mind off the here and now which is far more important, as the here and now is a prelude to tomorrow and tomorrow is where life is at and where we are going to live our lives. In life people do weird things for the most pathetic reasons and it really doesn’t pay us to dwell on those reasons when at times nothing is ever changed. But there are some who are lacking in intelligence and are one of those useless souls that forever goes around wanting “closure” and “resolution” on every single thing that happens in life and never rests until it happens, then when it happens realise they have wasted so much time for that moment to happen that life has moved on and they have stagnated. Habitual question asking can be a problem, whilst asking questions and being inquisitive can be grossly beneficial, it can also hinder one’s ability to reason, comprehend and formulate a stance that gives the mind a presence of greater understanding from the self and not perpetually seeking an answer that has little or no bearing on enhancing life, priorities are essential for ‘greasing’ the way forward in a proficient manner.

Ignorance can be bliss, knowing too much or more likely a lot but not enough (and equal amounts of intelligence) can make us veer into a state of panic and consternation because we know the what, why and how of many things but as to any degree of how it could pan out we are at a loss, unless we turn to mental conjecture and then that throws us unto a bigger state of flux as we are grappling with unknowns and hypothetical states which could be totally erroneous. There’s nothing worse in any aspect of life basing situations or aspects of thought or literally on what we think as opposed to what we know, the differences can be staggeringly miles apart. We live our lives which no one else can ever do so, if we forever search for the “happiness” trail, then we lose out totally as we hope that in doing so we will find a degree of satisfaction, closure, meaning, purpose, love, harmony, understanding, and the rest, only to find that others are in a similar boat. Although within that stance many may have priorities outside of themselves and that gives a greater purpose all on its own. For many their belief gives real and true stability especially when all else seems to be at odds with ones thoughts, and for those that don’t believe then it’s usually something based upon their own theories in life which in the long term always flounders because they don’t know enough of their subject to gain any real base knowledge and its completely stilted, biased and full of pathetic subliminal hope covering up gross insecurity and it often creates more mental unrest.

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