LONELINESS

Loneliness is becoming almost an epidemic in our Western society, the amount of people who are craving the company of others is ever increasing, yet friendships and relationships failing are at an all time high. The human condition is as such that humans need humans in order to survive, forget the odd recluse here and there, en-mass humans needs humans and they need a deep and significant bond between significant people in order to feel their true worth.  The underlying root of any relationship is love for without love all that remains are two or more people existing and surviving for no apparent cause other than to live.

Love is a white ball of pure energy, it's round and has no strings nor conditions, if you believe in God then this is God in a pure form. No man made religious tripe, this is pure love and as such it's unconditional. Where many people go wrong and some times mega-time, is that they themselves place conditions on others as to how their version of love or friendship should be, and when their expectations are not met they become upset and disillusioned. However it's those people that place conditions on relationships that construct their own unhappiness through the act of pure selfishness. This is where all the man made religions fall down because conditions are placed upon love and thus it never ever words.

Loneliness doesn't have to be being on your own, you can be with people who love you and care for you yet one feels isolated and at times an alien in your own skin. Loneliness can be self induced it's very often a selfish motive even though many would shy away from that explanation but it is true, and one only has to hear and see what others do to see why they are lonely or don't have many friends, the excuses come out faster than ticker tape.

There are different types of loneliness, but the main one is that of a lack of a significant other or indeed others that one can share and inwardly feel close to and have a bond with that transcends the mere acquaintance stance, it's something that resonates deep within and contains that glitter dust called love. Our significant other can be a partner or just a very close friend it matters not, what does matter is that we are loved and can love outside of our family by someone who chooses to love us and be our friend warts n' all, and that's what many don't have. A lot of people kid themselves that they have friends but on the real time swingometer in life they just have acquaintances that fit them in on their terms. And another factor is that relationships are not the proverbial 50/50 split, even in today's world, relationships work on the level they work, and that's it.

The anxiety, mental unrest, life unease, psychosomatic illnesses, absent thoughts, daydreaming, not concentrating, easily distracted, laziness, looking distant, lack of desire, dull thoughts, endless tiredness, cosseting oneself, selfishness, etc, all stems from loneliness and neither tablets nor booze nor anything else will alleviate it as it's an holistic condition of the human form, nothing more. Finding friends is not always that easy, but a negative mind will ensure that it never happens, and the thought that "you are seeking the one" to come along is beyond being pathetic it's cretinous.

Despite what barriers we come up against in life, what troubles befall and beset us, we are still in charge of our lives, and it's still us that has to make the moves and get over whatever it is, unless of course we want to spend a life reciting excuses as to why we are failures, stupid, inept, pathetic, useless, ignorant, etc, etc, and many do just that turning into cranky old individuals who end up being incapable of having any kind of relationship even with themselves.

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